Myth: We must always be positive
“So when my cancer showed up, I really could not understand how that could happen when I had always been such a positive person! I believed that my thoughts must have created the cancer, and so I would fear my thoughts.
Prior to getting cancer, I’d spent a lifetime trying to be positive, always putting on a smiling face because I wanted to be liked. Whenever I felt a negative thought, I would quash it, never allowing people to see me as fearful.
Every time a fearful thought about cancer or death would come into my mind, I became even more fearful, believing that each of these thoughts would directly contribute to the progression of my illness. So I tried to force myself not to think them! Why am I still having negative thoughts? I would ask myself angrily. I’m working so hard at controlling them and at being positive and creating a positive reality. Why is it still not working? Why is the cancer still progressing?
The fear and frustration I felt during that time was palpable, and speaking with well-meaning people often only made me feel worse. I truly believed that the cancer was progressing because I was “not getting it.” I was convinced that my beliefs weren’t strong enough or that my thoughts weren’t positive enough—or both.
And then I also feared the fear of my thoughts. I was drowning in a never-ending whirlpool of fear! But in the near-death experience, I realized that the key wasn’t being positive, it was being myself! I didn’t need to eradicate all negative thoughts, I needed only to love myself for who I am, not for who others wanted me to be!”
- Anita Moorjani