There was something in here a few days back pertaining to being mad at people who don't think Yona deserves to be with Hak. We never said that Yona was obligated to love Hak romantically. We just don't think she was ever that great of a friend to him, that she has been selfish and insensitive. We know love doesn't work that way in this series though. Hak will continue to love Yona so, certainly, that part is on him. Still, that doesn't change the fact that we don't think she deserves him.
First of all anon, I want to clarify to you (and anyone else really) that if I ever say I don’t like a theory or certain way of thinking etc., I am not trying to say anything against anyone personally. I am merely disagreeing with the idea, not anyone as an individual. If you ever read an opinion of mine here, unless I specifically state otherwise, I am never trying to have a go at anyone or say that my opinion is better. My personal viewpoint holds no more power than anyone else’s here - I’m merely using my blog to post thoughts and reflect on my own, subjective interpretation of the AnY series.
Second, I’m sorry if you thought I was misinterpreting your personal opinion. I got an asker that never specified a source of the opinion they were discussing, so I created hypothetical arguments from others to explore a variety of viewpoints someone could have about Hak and Yona’s relationships. I did not base what I said on any existing viewpoint I had read about, rather viewpoints I assumed people could have that would explain their thinking. Perhaps I never made that clear enough, and if you thought I was misinterpreting an opinion you have, I’m sorry about that.
Third, and addressing the opinion you have stated here, I find myself still a little lost to the whole “deserving” thing. I guess one could argue that there have been times when Yona is selfish or insensitive, but I myself would argue that Hak has also been selfish and insensitive at times, and I don’t think their relationship is some sort of scale where Yona’s perhaps been more selfish and therefore has to make up for it to even things out. Both of them have things they’ve sacrificed for the other and things they’ve done that probably weren’t the best for the other, but the bottom line for me is that they continue to try and better themselves in this area. They listen, they work out issues, and they’re getting better at discussing their feelings openly. They’re both growing as people and learning, and I don’t think they’ve ever done anything truly awful to one another, so any trip ups they have had are, for me, well in the past and not in need of making up for. They help each other grow and become better and that’s what matters to me. Again, this whole “deserving” goes over my head a bit because I never understand where we draw the line. Just my two cents though.