When I come out as trans, I’m going to lose my family. Maybe my immediate family will learn to accept me over time but I will lose my extended family. Knowing that I’ll lose my grandma, who has been more of a mother to me than my mom ever has, is devastating but I left this home as their daughter and I’m only coming back one of two ways, as their son or in a coffin.
Coming out as trans, for me, is harder than coming out as bi was. I could hide my attractions if I wanted to, they never had to know, but I can’t hide being trans because I need to transition. I need to go on T and I need top surgery. I can’t hide that unless I simply decide to never see my family again afterwords.
Homophobia and transphobia are very much alive. I live with it, it surrounds me, suffocates me. We still have a long way to go. Don’t forget that, support trans kids with everything you have.
All I have right now is my name and pronouns. Please please respect them.