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imperviusnowdanceintherain  asked:

Hi :) so I have just finished Palo Alto which was amazing and a really different dynamic to Remus/Sirius which I loved! In one of the authors notes it said that you are ace? And I was just wondering if it isn't to personal how you knew? Cause I related to Sirius a bit in your story and have been trying to work it out for a while so just wondered if you had any advice at all? Ta x

Hi there! Thanks for the ask, and thank you so much for the kind words about Palo Alto! I’m happy to hear that you enjoyed the story and were able to relate to Sirius and his journey.

Yes, I identify as asexual, and I’m always down to chat about ace stuff. I feel your struggle! There’s not a ton of great information out there since it’s something that no one talks about. There’s also a lot of false information out there, equating libido, sexual activity, and attraction rather than allowing them to exist separately.

As for how I knew… in some ways I always knew, and in some ways I was clueless. I definitely knew I didn’t find people attractive in the same ways that my friends and people the media seemed to, but honestly, I just thought everyone else was exaggerating about how sprung they got whenever they saw someone hot. Whoops.

My main advice would be to read, read, read! Asexuality Archive and the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) are good places to start. They’re not perfect, but they have clear-cut definitions and well thought out articles.

Don’t stress about finding the perfect label. Asexuality is a spectrum, not a strict code of behavior. If a more specific label is helpful to you, then that’s great! But if you find it too overwhelming or nitpicky to quantify your sexual and romantic attraction, then don’t worry about it.

Don’t worry about changing your mind later. Maybe in a year, five years, ten years, thirty years, or tomorrow, you decide that asexual isn’t the right term for you. That’s cool. You can change your mind. At the end of the day, the only person you’ve got to answer to is yourself.

Ignore the negative discourse. Don’t engage, don’t give it any attention. Just block that shit and move on to positive, supportive content.

Don’t be afraid to start chatting with other ace-spec folks! I’ve had very positive experiences here on Tumblr. Personally, I’m always happy to answer questions or have a friendly discussion.

Other ace-spec folks, feel free to add on with advice or resources!

ATTENTION ALL WRITERS

i have an important question:

what is an old fic that was like one of your “original”, first ones you wrote?

basically i am asking anyone and everyone to add the storyline of an old embarrassing fic they wrote and loved, i will start (put any funny commentary in bold):

- the reader went out one night to get niall extra food (because this was the time of sickening tropes like niall’s only characteristic being hunger/hungriness) and then BAM she gets into a really bad car accident

- she broke like 4 ribs, her collarbone and a leg, and was in a coma for 7 days (why? idk, i thought she needed to be hella injured for ~emphasis~)

- then there was the obligatory “i love you and i thought i lost you, so now i’m admitting it” scene

- oh also the reader was harry’s little sister, my best friend at the time was also in it as louis’ little sister, yanno because at the time it was a big thing for people to write wattpad stories and put their friends in them as OCs

- i made a lot of food jokes about niall, hair jokes about zayn, bad puns between harry and louis, liam being the resident dad

- the reader and louis hid their forbidden love from her brother, harry because she was like 5 years younger or something

- harry found out and stormed into the room screaming and beat up louis

- so RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT the reader like collapsed in pain and had to go to the hospital (i’m a regular shonda rhimes i know)

- then the boys really easily settle their feud, as the reader recovers… THE ENTIRE BAND GOES ON HIATUS——–PAUSING THEIR TOUR (i had a whole band stop a worldwide tour so one girl could cuddle with louis and they were all prisoners in this hotel forced to watch whatever she wanted because she was injured)

- and then basically i entered my angsty pre-teen phase mid story and decided she needed to have depression and body positivity issues and of course louis saved her from her bad thoughts about herself (NO ONE CAN SAVE YOU BUT YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF FIRST)

- then i got lazy and basically said “and then they were in love and it ended”

bonus:

at one point the reader goes on social media, she was a youtube star (but i only ever acknowledge this during this one part) and sees that people are giving a mixed opinion of her and louis and some were saying like “good that she got in an accident” (so extreme i know, why was i so intense) and she starts to get sad then sees in her feed that harry got a tattoo of a monkey with her name under it and says he got it for his “little monkey” when she was in the 7-day coma

anyway please add ur own so i can get a laugh and not feel lonely

Miss Jackson Pt. 3

Part Two

Word Count: 936

A/N: Okay, so, hopefully I can start giving this story more time, and attention, now that Club Confusion is over, enjoy, feedback is always welcomed.

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anonymous asked:

i want to start a studyblr but i don’t really have nice handwriting and i can’t afford any nice school supplies :( any advice?

you don’t need nice writing and expensive supplies to run a studyblr! trust me, i didn’t even have a laptop until i was 18 and i’m in no position to be spending £20+ on a set of fancy pens. if you want to join the community, start one anyway!

some great posts that i read when i started were:

if you do end up making one, be sure to tag me in your intro post so i can check your blog out! 💛

psycho-b1tch  asked:

Pass the happy along! 💛 when you get this, reply with 5 things that make you happy and then send this to the last 10 people in your notifications!

1. Really squishy good comfort food. Like poutine or sloppy joes or irish stew

2. New shoes

3. That Pinterest aesthetic with the fairy lights and candles and squishy duvets and vintage furniture

4. Cat ears holy shit 

5. The feeling you get when you start a book or a movie or TV show that you know you’re gonna love

Sorry my good dude I’m not gonna pass it along but if anybody wants to do it, go ahead n tag me so we can share in the happy things!

Originally posted by yourreactiongifs

So far:

  • made coffee
  • got dressed (several times 😒🙄)
  • made bed
  • cleaned up open tabs (put them in the new holding place for when I actually use the content instead of just hoarding the possibility of using the content)
  • saw some funny / cool stuff on my dash – much needed
  • wrote a message that I couldn’t divert focus for last night (hopefully not unwelcome even though unsolicited, and hopefully making sense)
  • watered plants (the ones that needed it)
  • cleaned toilet
  • put pothos and philodendron in the bathtub for a soak
  • washed some old jars (still need to get label residue off)
  • initial setup / care of sprouting seeds (they are at various stages)
  • first round of vinegar through the coffee pot (staying in the pot for a while, while the next round soaks the reservoir)
  • washed Moroccan silver teapot (will try baking soda + hot water soak for tarnish later)

More to come, and attempting more EF-demanding tasks, but so far with the simple stuff: 👍🏻

the content literally no one asked for

Hey to all those people telling people “ it’s not so bad, just power through the cramps” when they're on their period because it’s not an excuse to miss school/work etc.!

I had bad cramps today, but I tried to “power through it” and went to class anyways, even though my grandmother had to drive me because I couldn’t walk to the bus.

I tried to “power through it” when I started to feel like I was going to throw up in the middle of my lecture, leaving to take a walk outside in the cold to try and clear my head, even though walking made my right side feel as though it was being ripped in two.

I tried to “power through it” when I started getting cold sweat all over my body, taking off my sweater and then putting it back on two seconds later because my body couldn’t decide if it was hot or cold.

 I tried to “power through it” when spots started to appear in my vision, and just kept walking towards the exit.

I tried to “power through it” when I started to dry heave, and started walking faster.

I tried to “power through it” when my ears started ringing and the spots took over my vision and I was so so hot but shivering and my side felt on fire and twisted into knots and stabbed all at once.

I tried to power through it to the point where I collapsed in the middle of my college hallway. A stranger brought me to Outreach Services, where I lay on the floor, vomiting, for an hour until somebody could pick me up and take me home.

The school paramedics told me that I had passed out because I put too much stress on my already taxed body. My body was taxed because of hormonal fluctuations and blood loss aka my period.

Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. In the past when I’ve had cramps like this, I’ve stayed in bed and eaten strawberries and watched MASH all day.

So don’t you DARE tell me that you should “power through the cramps and do it anyways”. Powering through made me pass out. Powering through made me have to be wheeled out of the school in a wheelchair because I couldn’t keep my balance to walk. Powering through made my grandmother with osteoporosis and a tendency to panic have to come pick me up from school and help me up the stairs and almost break her hip when I started to collapse backwards on the front steps. Powering through made my 13 year old brother have to supervise me while I took a bath because I was afraid I would pass out and drown (he was super sweet about it actually; we closed the curtain and he read me Voyage of the Dawn Treader). Powering through made my mother who works to support our family pretty much on her own have to take time off work to come home and make sure I was okay.

In conclusion; If someone feels crappy because of their period cramps, leave them alone. Don’t make them do things anyways, because you might make it worse. And definitely don’t make them feel bad for not wanting to do things because of cramps; that’s the reason I even got out of bed this morning. Be nice to people on their period. Possibly buy them chocolate or painkillers. Nut don’t make them do things when they have cramps, and definitely don’t tell them “it’s nothing, power through” because cramps? Cramps can be one of the worst things you could possibly imagine.

Seriously. Fuck you all.

humans more like ew-mans am i right