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7 reasons why solarpunk is the most important speculative fiction movement in the last 20 years
  1. It’s hopeful. Solarpunk doesn’t require an apocalypse. It’s a world in which humans haven’t destroyed ourselves and our environment, where we’ve pulled back just in time to stop the slow destruction of our planet. We’ve learned to use science wisely, for the betterment of ourselves and our planet. We’re no longer overlords. We’re caretakers. We’re gardeners.
  2. Scientists are heroes again. And not just physicists and astronomers. Knowledge of biology and earth sciences matter, they’re the building blocks for a future on Earth. Scientific literacy isn’t just for academics – it’s part of daily life. People know how the things they use work, and if they don’t, they can access that information. 
  3. It’s diverse. Solarpunk is rooted in using the environment, so it looks different in different places. Alternative energy is best when specific to place (I imagine geothermal, wind, tidal, and hydroelectric energy sources are still used in certain places) so no overarching government system is needed. Communities can organize themselves, taking their own location and needs and history into account. Brazilian, Inuit, Egyptian, Pacific Northwest, and New Zealand solarpunk can all look very different, but be unified in resourceful, intentional, low impact living.
  4. Individuality still matters. In a post-scarcity society, ingenuity and self-expression are not sacrificed on the altar of survival. With solar power there’s no reason not to go off grid, if that’s what you want to do. Communities can self-organize. You can find a community that suits you, or go live by yourself if that floats your boat.
  5. There’s room for spirituality and science to coexist. Solarpunk is rooted in a deep understanding and reverence for natural processes. There’s room for spirituality there, be it pagan, Buddhist, Sufi, Transcendentalism – anything. There’s so much to explore, from nature worship to organized monotheistic religions, and how they interact with solarpunk.
  6. It’s beautiful. The most common solarpunk aesthetic is art nouveau, but again there’s room for diversity, incorporating art styles from multiple cultures in respectful, non-appropriative ways. The most important aspect of solarpunk aesthetic is the melding of art and utility. The idea of intentional living is strong in art nouveau, but it’s not the only art movement with that philosophy.
  7. We can make it happen. Now. Earthships. Permaculture. Aquaponics. Algae lighting. Compostable products that turn into fields of flowers. Buy Nothing organizations. Tiny, beautiful, efficient homes. Solar power cells you can see through. That’s all happening now. Solarpunk is within our grasp, at least on a personal level. I’m not saying there aren’t still big, ugly infrastructures devoted to unethical consumption, but we can start to tear them down. We can build a solarpunk world with stories and small changes. And small changes lead to big changes. That’s the real beauty of solarpunk. It’s not a post-apocalyptic power fantasy. It’s not a wistful daydream, or an elite future only for physicists. It’s something we can work towards right now. It’s tangible.
Networking: You’re Doing It Wrong

I see a lot of people saying, “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know” - and in part, that’s true. But I have yet to see a successful explanation of how to know the “right people.” So I’m going to try.

First, do good work, and be a good person. Like, this always holds true - anyone with a modicum of sense knows that.  

So I’m just going to cover how to get your good work seen.

The most common advice I see is “put yourself out there.” That means:

  • Make a website.
  • Get on social media.
  • Go to conventions.
  • Basically, stick your work in front of everyone possible, every place possible.

Right. That’s all important. But that’s only step one.

I’ve got a huge network, and I generally don’t have a problem finding opportunities. … but get this, I’m actually an introvert. It’s not that I hate people, it just that maintaining relationships requires energy (and about once a month, I hole up in my room for a weekend to recharge).

There are generally two approaches to all problem-solving, “go wide” and “go deep.” The common advice is to go wide - people will remember your work after seeing it 100,000 times.  If you’re lucky, someone will remember. If you’re not, you’ll sink into that cloud of online noise and people who draw just like you and like the same things as you.  

My advice is “go deep.” That’s where my energy goes.

The core of networking is getting people to remember you, so they think of you when a good opportunity comes up. Since people are generally empathetic, the easiest way to do that is to remember them back.  Give time and energy to your newly-formed relationships - or else your image will fade like a 30-second commercial on Hulu. Here are my tips:

Most importantly, take the time to remember faces, remember names, and remember what they need.  Just the core of getting to know someone, really, knowing them as a person.  If you’re not good at remembering things, practice with celebrity faces, do some memory games. Remember, people are people, not just job gatekeepers!  

  • Go out of the way to remember seemingly irrelevant things they’d told you (don’t pressure them) like where they are from, what they like to eat, if they have pets, and what their favorite shows are. Try to find common ground that’s not work.  Be humorous, be intelligent. If you have a conversation about something other than “get me a job,” you will be more likely to remember each other.
  • If you can, truly dedicate a chunk of your brain to the new person.  Don’t be afraid to make the first move to show you want to invest time in this relationship, especially if they’re new in town.  Take them to your favorite restaurant.  Invite them to your next house party.  Suggest seeing a new movie. Or simply say, “i really like how you did [such-and-such] and would love to be a part of it. if you need more help, e-mail me.” (Caveat: small group gatherings in public places are wiser, otherwise things can be misconstrued and go into weird and possible squicky romantic territory.)
  • Go ahead and follow fan pages, blogs, and public sites, but don’t cold-add people on personal social media (ie, a private Facebook) if you haven’t had a conversation with them. Relationships, even networking ones, are largely about privacy and trust. That “follow for follow” thing is bullshit, don’t even try.
  • If your name is super common, hard to spell, or otherwise hard to remember, you might want to make it easier for the other party to remember by coming up with an easily searchable handle.  Things such as puns and common words work well (people remember my friend “ProdigyBombay” years after she stopped posting).
  • Even if it’s been years, don’t forget people. It shows people you give a damn.  Social media is great for this.
  • Finally, remember the setting and space you’re in. And respect peoples’ privacy. Don’t assume someone exists simply so you can get something from them. Showing your portfolio is what’s expected during a review, but not a bar unless they ask to see it.  And if someone doesn’t want to give you information, don’t pry. You wouldn’t make your friends owe you anything, so why should you do that to someone you just met?

Great, so you kinda know a bunch of people, now what?

There are two economic theories I’d like to introduce to you: “Giver, Taker, Matcher” Theory and “Tit for Two Tats” Paradigm. Read these two links before continuing because I’m going to talk as if you know what they are.

  • Giver, Taker, Matcher suggests there are three kinds of people in the world: those who give, those who take, and those who match. Be a smart giver.  If you only take opportunities, no one will want to help you because you’ll be seen as a selfish ass.  Givers try to give opportunities to everyone. Most people are matchers who will “do unto others” - so they’ll take if you’re a taker but they’ll give if you’re a giver.  So if you are a giver surrounded by matchers and other givers, things will be given to you. Those so-called “impenetrable industry circles” are really groups of givers and matches who trust each other and therefore give to each other (you know, like groups of friends).
  • Tit for Two Tats is an iterated prisoner’s dilemma scenario which helps protect you as a giver. If you’re surrounded by takers, you’ll be well, taken advantage of. Be a giver in your first impression, because matchers and other givers will immediately give to you. But if you’re taken from, give once again - because hey, sometimes people are down on their luck and they simply can’t help you out. And a friend who only helps when you can help them back isn’t reliable.  However, if the pattern of taking repeats a lot, cut off your giving before that person hurts you.
  • So I’m saying, yes, sometimes you might actually want to work for exposure or for cheap. The world is full of takers who will leave you high and dry, but if you know someone is a matcher or a giver, it might just be worth it to do that discount job.  Good examples would be for a high-profile Kickstarter or charity, although most reliable for-profit businesses should offer to pay.  When doing small personal stuff for friends, I charge a nominal fee of about $10/hr. This works out pretty well by giving me motivation, and friends help keep friends fed. (Note, corporations who use your work for profit are not the same as your friends and for professional jobs the rate is the rate is the rate.)
  • Since we are all limited by physical and temporal resources, give your help when it’s needed most. Go out of you want to see the friend who’s in town for a only day.  Pick up that sad soul stranded at LAX (thank you, i love you, rollaine).  You don’t need to hang out every day to maintain a meaningful friendship, but a real friend is there when it counts.

Finally, once you’re comfortable with that person and have a reliable relationship, don’t be afraid to ask for work, especially when an opportunity really interests you and doubly especially if someone straight-up asks you to apply (this includes open calls for art).  Not everyone knows who needs work at what point in time, so making note of your status is totally allowable.  Your friends can’t help you if they don’t know you want help.  But if they do know already, don’t be bothersome.  You’re letting someone know your availability, not demanding they give you a job.

So yeah, that’s essentially the “going deep” part to networking - dedicate the same mental energy to whom you’ve met as you’d want dedicated to you!  And that includes not being a shitty, take-y person.

tl;dr - To network properly, don’t approach people like you want them to get your a job.  Approach them like you want to make a new friend. And don’t be a shitty friend.

Here’s a thing: If you suspect your vet is ripping you off, they just might be ripping you off

You know the thing where people either don’t have health insurance or do but mistakenly get sent an itemized medical bill and they see hospitals charging like $80 for an aspirin and $150 for a blanket and $5000 for a paper gown*? That shit goes on in veterinary medicine both with procedures and drugs prices. Only difference is, almost nobody on the planet has pet insurance so almost all vet bills come out of pocket. And there’s an added layer of mystery because much of the time your animal can’t (or doesn’t) indicate if something is wrong. Even more so than with with human medicine, people are entirely at the mercy of what their veterinarian tells them is necessary.

I won’t go so far as to say vets deliberately mislead people to make money. I will say that I’ve seen prices for pretty standard procedures cost as much as 100% more depending on which clinic you go to. And I don’t mean ‘normal vet office in suburban neighborhood vs mobile vet bus in downtrodden area’. I mean like, down the street. Sometimes things cost what they cost though. That’s why I say the biggest problem I see with vets ripping people off is in their policy on expensive, invasive procedures. In my time I have seen vet’s offices recommend annual full dental cleanings (anesthesia, x-ray, and all, every single year), and whole hip replacements for 12 year old dogs with like the normal joint/skeletal degeneration you’d expect from a 12 year old dog–while not telling owners that said replacement will mean the animal may also need to be on blood thinners, pain killers, and anti inflammatory meds for the rest of its life. 

And I know this shit is bad practice because I’ve seen good, responsible, pragmatic veterinarians who sit down with owners and explain that having a tumor removed from their 4 year old guinea pig is probably a waste of money, and there’s a higher-than-normal chance that such a small animal could die under anesthesia. I’ve known good vets who will tell you their whole office policy is to try to not do invasive surgery on dogs over 10, because it’s super stressful and carries higher risk. I’ve known responsible vets who just straight up say yes your dog has epilepsy, but the meds to help that are expensive and will damage its kidneys, so unless it’s having a seizure a month I don’t recommend it. I’ve known pragmatic vets who straight up tell people, “Your pet is old. It’s going to slowly degenerate. When it gets to be too much you can have it put down, but burning money to make it act like it did when it was young is fighting a losing battle that will ultimately decrease its quality of life and bankrupt you.”

Those are the sorts of vets you look for, because those people know that animals are animals, and people have budgets. PLEASE don’t internalize messages that the amount of money you’re willing to spend is evidence of how much you love your pet. Sometimes shit is extremely expensive, and it’s just not responsible to spend thousands of dollars on a pet. IME I’ve noticed a difference in the kind of clientele certain offices get? Like, ‘upper-middle class people who can afford dog chemo and will shell out a mortgage payment so Fluffy can live 1 more year’ vs ‘everyone else’. You can tell quickly which kind of client your vet is used to servicing based on what kind of shit they recommend. It’s tough to draw a firm line on that, because young animals need rounds of vaccinations like young humans, and some animals do have health problems, or special concerns. But if you have a healthy 5 year old cat and they have you coming in every 6 months for blood work, and they’re trying to sell you on pet insurance**, I’d say that’s a red flag. Some vets are pretty down to earth, and will work with you, or offer alternatives to expensive procedures. Some live in a beverley hills bubble and look down on owners who won’t sell all their possessions to have their dog’s brain transplanted into a rocket-powered cyborg body.

So if you have doubts about either the cost of a procedure or a diagnosis, shop around/get a second opinion. I just had to do that for my dog. She needs her teeth cleaned and her regular vet was charging $600 for it before the x-ray. I called around one afternoon and found a great place who will do it for $240, x-ray included! So we now we have a new vet!

*for those not familiar with the widespread phenomenon of outrageous hospital markups and soaring drug prices:

**Lots of people have good things to say about pet insurance. I’m not one of them. I think it’s a scam. It maybe comes in handy in the first year of your pet’s life when they need all their shots, and to get spayed/neutered. And maybe at the end of its life, depending on how much money you’re willing to spend to delay the inevitable. But most of the time, your average mongrel dog or cat won’t need any serious medical intervention, ever (barring getting in a fight with a porcupine or car).

My ClexaCon 2017 Experience

(Before you read: I got pretty personal in this post. I could have beaten around the issue, but I have had a lot of people in the past message me that my story is a lot like theirs and if my honesty can help others that are struggling, it will be worth it.)

First off, I would like to extend my thanks and gratitude towards the people that made the convention happen. My experience is just one of hundreds of LGBTQ+ individuals that attended this convention, that is changed their life of for the better. As we all know there is a TON of stuff that has to happen bts, that we don’t know the full extent of, to make conventions happen. Like, I don’t even want to think about all the work it takes. I just want all of the people that had a part in making this convention happen, whether you were a staff member, panelist, guest, volunteer, etc. that your time, effort, and possibly sacrificing parts of your own con experience to make sure people like myself were able to enjoy it is so greatly appreciated. 

As someone who has been known in the fandom to analyzed things and can ramble on and on for days, it might be a surprise to you that I am left at a loss for words to write about the convention. I can’t find the words to encapsulate what it meant to me and the feelings I was experiencing –not to mention the complexity of those feelings. I have tried to write this so many times, but then draw a complete blank on how to describe it. 

If I had to describe what Clexacon was to me in one word it would be a sanctuary. It was a place where I felt safe and content. I felt hope and peacefulness spreading throughout my body each day I was there. The more I hung out with people, went to panels, or just observed everyone around me walking around the convention, the more and more I felt the weight of all the years of self-hate, repression, etc. lift from my body and a sense of clarity wash over me. I was legit feeling like Alex Danvers as each wave of repressed memory came to the surface and critically looking at my life. Going to the panels was also a big part of that process. I began to look more in-depth at the underlying reason of the severe self-hatred I felt for so many years, years of struggling with anxiety and depression, the eating disorders that almost cost me my life, the purposeful secluding myself from others, and the loneliness I felt even though I was in a room full of people came to the surface. I was trying to process all of these emotions at once and it was very scary. But, it was like a peaceful liberating panic? If that makes sense? It was finally confessing to myself everything that I knew for years, like completely confessing to myself…but then panicking about it. Because, it’s me and I’m a chronic overthinker. Lol. Each day I would get more and more courage to be myself, to push past all the years of internalized homophobia that made me feel worthless and ‘wrong’. 

Being surrounded by openly gay people that were authentically happy and full of pride for being part of the LGBTQ+ community was palpable in the air and you couldn’t help but feed off the energy. As someone who unfortunately doesn’t have this is my everyday life, I was trying to soak all of it in and store it in my memories to access it when I went back to my world of homophobic close-minded remarks. Clexacon was a place where I could be my true authentic self, or at least try to be. My authentic self with it came out to nerding about fictional characters, stories, etc. that I can’t talk to people about in my normal life. Also, my authentic self when it came to being part of this community.  

Now, onto the convention itself. I was fortunate enough to make it to the Badge Pick Up party due to my flight getting in an hour early, and the wonderful appalachiansprung  for picking me up from the Las Vegas airport. I want to take a moment and sincerely thank her for offering to pick me up from the airport and making sure I felt safe. She knew I had massive anxiety about traveling and her compassion and willingness to help me really meant the world to me. She really helped start off my trip to Vegas on a positive note, and without her, I wouldn’t have made it to the Badge Pick Up party, which I actually really enjoyed. I was able to meet my friends I had been talking to online, been mutuals of, knew of, and meet new people. It was just so surreal actually being face-to-face with these people. These people that you are friends with, but society telling you they “aren’t friends” because you don’t physically hang out with each other and it is only online.  But these people actually know you better than people in your “everyday life”. For instance, the first person I met was my friend PJ. The weird thing was is that I was in the process of messaging her that I was at the party, and just as I was about to send it, I look to my right and she was standing there next to me, not aware that it was me next to her. I stopped typing and then said “hi” and it was the first of many “omg! You ARE real” feelings I had meeting people throughout the convention. I really REALLY enjoyed talking with the people who came up to me and said they were followers of my blog. Seriously, knowing that there are actual people behind URLS and seeing your faces and hearing your voices was incredible. When I asked the people I met to show me what their URL and icon was, I was able to recognize most of you and your support and kind words meant more to me than I can say.

The convention itself was better than I had expected. It was actually my first ever convention so I don’t really have anything to compare it too, but it was just so wonderful. The turnout was wayyyyy better than I expected. Seeing everyone in the main hall during the larger panels was just incredible, as well as seeing the floods of people roaming around the convention floor. We all know there were people trying to cast doubt on this convention and basically said it was “toxic” and were basically trying to get it canceled. Well, I’m so glad that this past weekend proved them SO SO wrong. It was so cool going up and down the vendor rows and seeing the spectacular artwork. I did only get one piece of artwork from the convention and it was Pappurrcat’s newest Lexa vs. Pauna drawing and she signed it for me (picture at bottom of post). I was not expecting to see @immochiball there! It was such a pleasant surprise to see her there! I really love her Lexacoon/Lionclarke artwork and it was great to show my appreciation for all her hardwork and it was funny that she knew exactly what piece of Lexacoon/LionClarke artwork I was fangirling about. It was so great to meet other talented people in our fandom I’m a fan or and friends of, or became friends of. People like @critter-of-habit , @foomatic , @commanderlexaofthegrounders , @decalexas , @lingeringlilies@shes-special , @rin-says , @damnlexa, @molliemashstash , @oh-i-got-dibs , and i’m forgetting so many people so I’m sorry if i forgot you! I met sooooo many new people that I just clicked with and they made the convention an even better experience. Many of them in this photo below (but many are missing):

I will never forget the people I was fortunate enough to meet, talk to, and/or hang out with. I loved walking around Vegas with people and exploring places. So, by the end of this convention I have come to realize so many things. Realize so many things about LGBTQ+ issues, the dire need for representation, and about myself. I realized that I’m not alone. Leaving Clexacon was so hard. I already posted that I had a breakdown on the last day after I headed back to my hotel room and had to say goodbye to the people i met. The people I wanted to spend more time, as they were helping me more and more each day with feelings that I do deserve happiness, that I’m not alone, that there is nothing wrong with me, that I have value. This weekend was life changing for me. Even though this post is now close to 1,500 words…I still have not been able to fully express the importance this convention had on me in this post. I’m just so grateful for the experience and the wonderful people I was so fortunate to meet and now call friends. 

I do have a few regrets…and one of them is not taking enough pictures. I was kinda mentally preoccupied (if you couldn’t tell reading this post. lol) and forgot. 

anonymous asked:

Tbh I don't think he even said 'she', it's just people assuming like always. That's just how it is with printed articles, good that we know him beter than that :)

The journalist is bad, the article is disgusting and everything apart from some good parts and quotes about music etc. was very yikes, but again, his team approved this and maybe it’s for the limitations they have, the contracts they have, the image they have to keep up with, i don’t know, but this is an article that is supposed to present the ‘new’ harry styles with ‘new authentic music’. on a ‘writing process’ point of view and for some things he said it’s interesting, but the majority of it its Harry Styles™ material and people need to realise that there is no ‘new’ here at the moment. it’s the same story but this time with more ‘artistic freedom’ than he had in one direction, and i think this is just because he’s working with sony and sony saw their ultimate dream come true with this solo deal. Again, we don’t know what’s the deal is but harry is in the closet just like louis and if louis has to walk with nasty at festivals and shoe places, harry has to ‘talk’ like this in the press (and yes, Louis has a fake baby too so it’s even worse than a rolling stone interview about taylor swift but still, yikes). that’s the game, unfortunately. FOR BOTH of them. what’s frustrates me its people that refuse to accept this and think he’s free and rebranded and far away from louis and the old years in the band. they are not there yet so we have to deal with these things. for both. B O T H. 

amoralamusement  asked:

Hello, I always enjoy the work on this Tumblr. It's informative, interesting, and satisfying. Anyway, being an Ne dom like yourself, do you have any tips to not be overwhelmed by Ne a.k.a. How to Train Your Ne? I admit there are times when the ideas are buzzing and I yearn for stimulation then I become drained to the point of being physically tired.

Good timing, since I was just reading about Si-grips last night and realizing I basically live in one six months out of the year. :P

I’m not sure exactly what you mean, so I’ll cover all the bases I can think of.

There’s pretty much four stages in my life:

Ne-dom Extraordinaire: this is when you are the unbeatable monarch in your field, when you are on such a roll that not only do you finish your project ahead of the damn deadline, you went ahead and did sixteen other magnificent things that day too, just because your brain was on such a rush of SO MANY IDEAS. For example: you felt good about finishing your essay, so you wrote six movie reviews, four e-mails, 26 blog posts, and worked on your book to boot. And then you went to bed with a smile on your face because damn, I’m so fine.

Ne-dom Uninspired: this is when you feel “meh.” Not awesomesauce, not the lowest of the low, just plain MEH. Meh for a Ne-dom equals: semi-bored, semi-uninspired, semi-annoyed about it. Now, a sane person on this day goes and watches 24 episodes of ALIAS in a row to chill. Me, I FORCE myself to be ‘creative.’ And because I’m generally good at what I do, it comes out fine. Not knock your socks off stupendous, not awful, not even average, just fine. But it feels like dragging my brain through a cheese grater and I go to bed mad that my Ne-brain was lazy as hell today. Like, it’s supposed to be AMAZING all the time!!! What’s up with this?!

Ne-dom Bored-as-Hell: generally, this happens when your life is stagnant, or you are stuck on the same god-awful project for weeks, or your friends have not spoken to you in days, and you are so bored you can hardly stand it, but NOTHING appeals to you. You crave something, but don’t know what it is. You drag yourself through the work / school day like a fish on dry land, you scope the depths of depression, you maybe force yourself to do stuff, but it’s a clear indication that your Ne is STARVING TO DEATH. You must feed it. How? That’s up to you. Get in the car and drive. Go hang out with someone. Start learning something new. Read a book that you know you’ll hate, and blow your own mind by loving it. Try something totally, radically different.

Don’t be like me, and dye your hair purple and cut into a punk rock style. Although, God knows I looked adorable.

Ne-dom Work-a-Holic: also known as tunnel vision, also known as inferior Si grip, also known as the perfect way to make yourself exhausted at the end of the day. Picture a nice normal Ne being a freight train barreling through a tunnel at 976 miles per hour. Now picture a peasant maiden (or peasant lad, if that’s you’re thing) running out onto the tracks, and holding it in place for about 15 hours. It grinds to a halt, its wheels start to smoke, and the peasant maiden/lad is inching forward at, oh, about 6 miles per hour. Fast by her standards, slow by yours. Now imagine that’s what happens to your Ne, when you develop tunnel vision. All that power, going nowhere fast. Imagine the tremendous energy that just ground to a halt. The creeping subconscious despair of the engineer. You are both the peasant maiden/lad and the freight train. See the problem? You are ripping yourself apart. How’s that peasant maiden/lad going to feel at the end of the day?

Yup. Exhausted.

Now, what if that peasant maiden does this day after day for about a week?

Exhausted. Mental exhaustion, from holding back the train, forcing Ne to stay on one topic, or focus on “boring” things for days on end. Where’s the fun? Where’s the zany? Where’s the sarcasm and jokes and random connections? Hello, inferior Si. Obsessive compulsive, aren’t you? Fixated. BAD.

How to Train Your Ne:

1) Give yourself permission to stick to one idea for awhile.

I get it. You will have thousands of great ideas in a single lifetime, or maybe even a week. If you follow all of them right now, you will never finish anything. Do what I do: think about them, ponder them, don’t let them get too developed, and write down the ones you want to hold onto, put them in a jar, and… walk away with the biggest, shiniest, most exciting idea you just had. The others will keep. Let them stew in their juices. Focus on THIS IDEA.

2) Reward yourself for finishing things.

If you want to accomplish something, give your Ne what it wants – a challenge, and a reward. I used to motivate myself through “boring” tasks by setting time deadlines and writing like a bat out of hell, or dividing the task up into separate shorter parts that I can cross off after I do them. That shows me I am making progress. Right now, I’m sitting next to a half-crossed-off list of chapters in my book, which I am proof-reading / editing. Each time a pink line goes through someone’s name, I know I’m THIS MUCH CLOSER to finishing. THIS MUCH CLOSER to starting a NEW project. THIS MUCH CLOSER TO THAT PIECE OF CHOCOLATE I PROMISED MYSELF.


3) Accept that you cannot be at 110% all the time.

This may be hard for you to hear, but you’re a normal human being. You need sleep. You need rest. You need food. You need days off, and dates, and to go places, and be with people, and do things other than your job or your school or writing or whatever it is that occupies 90% of your time. Those normal things that a sensor can do without much fuss, wear you out. Tedious details wear you out. Planning wears you out. Keeping track of things wears you out. The temptation when this happens is to under-estimate what you, as a low Si, needs – which is a break. You tend to way overestimate what you can do in a single week, and sometimes you get way too much on your plate… so, if you know about things in advance that are going to “drain” your Ne, because it requires other, lower functions to be heavily used in your stack, plan to limit your interaction with those functions in excess of your responsibilities.

In other words, if you (me) have to do a bunch of tedious line-editing at work, it is not a good idea for me to come home and do… a bunch of tedious line-editing on my novel at the same time. That’s all Te/Si stuff.

Ne-stuff is… new ideas, new people, new philosophies, reading things that excite your mind and imagination and help you see things in a different way, or watching something new, or going somewhere where you can just be yourself. Your Ne cannot run on full power all the time, especially when you’re trying to hold back the freight train – so give yourself permission to take time off.

4) Pace yourself.

This piggybacks on the above, but as a Ne-dom, you way over-estimate how much you can do physically. Things like going places, driving for hours, being in crowds, walking long distances, etc., are tiring to someone with minimal sensing. Ne-doms need down time, to process their experiences. You are an introverted extrovert. Remember that, and give yourself down time. Try not to be out and about 24/7. But don’t stay home all the time either. That’s a cesspool of Ne-draining boredom waiting to happen.

5) Either do it right now or write it down.

My usual pattern is: get a good thought about 10pm. Then springboard into another idea. Then zip over that way for more ideas. I lay there, staring at the ceiling, telling myself to go to sleep, while thinking about everything I should talk about, investigate, or do in the morning. By morning, of course, either the ideas are all gone or I have lost any motivation to do them. Some of my best work is from dropping everything and doing it RIGHT NOW. Strike while the iron is hot, my dander is up, whatever. Some of my best short stories or articles came from getting up at 5am and pounding the keyboard. So, do it NOW… or write it down. If you write it down, you won’t have to try and remember it (also a chore for Ne).

The best things you can do for your Ne are the following:

  • Accept that this is who I am, and it’s okay.
  • Realize that mundane or tedious tasks drain your Ne
  • Let your mind wander
  • Give yourself permission to fantasize
  • Reward periods of the mundane with fun activities
  • Never let a week go by without planning something ‘fun’
  • Stimulate yourself with constant NEW things (books, movies, music)
  • Read a wide variety of things on a continual basis
  • Give yourself challenges and deadlines to beat
  • Make sure they are SHORT-TERM (you cannot stay too long)
  • Always have something in the immediate future to look forward to

Hope that helps.

(This week on tumblr has been DULL. Is it just me or is it dead?! Thank God for a new Doctor Who tomorrow! I need me some NEW Capaldi + Bill Potts. I totally want to be her best friend and hang out in space and eat blue cubes together.)

- ENFP Mod

so! since mr. keneti james apa is becoming increasingly popular in celeb & bandom communities due to riverdales instantly popularity i’ve figured it’d be fun to put together a little resource of new zealand slang and other terms under the cut that you need to know when playing a new zealander. so often people are assuming he’s australian (stop this. do not do this. as funny as it is just don’t. it’s like assuming ireland & scotland are the same place). here you will find as much new zealand slang and tid bits of information that i can think of in order to help you understand our special little country and it’s quirks! also please remember kj is raised in a part samoan family and that’s a very important aspect of his life. i may add to this list if i think of more things !! 

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Pairing: Steve x reader

Summary: Steve and reader are the only ones left in Stark Tower this holiday season. It’s cold, cuddling happens, confessions happen. 

Words: 1.5k+

A/N: Tell me to stop being so dramatic pls. All these love declarations I keep writing are probably getting old by now. Anyway, I hope you enjoy regardless! For @crazychick010, my darling. Happy fifteenth! 

Warnings: Teensy bit of angst, but really just fluff and sugar cookies. 

Originally posted by esgaroths

Steve and you were the only ones left in Stark tower this holiday season. The others had either gone home to their families or away to tropical islands with their significant others to escape the cold. It wasn’t just that you didn’t have family to go visit, but you’d also never spent Christmas time in the city. It was something you’d always dreamed about. You’d seen it in countless Christmas films as a child. The real thing though? Absolutely breathtaking. The blankets of snow covering the streets, people all bundled up in their warmest winter clothes. The lights. There were lights everywhere

You were sat in the common room wrapped up in a thick blanket. You were completely enraptured by the light snowfall visible through the glass walls surrounding you. And then Steve entered the room. You didn’t have to see or hear him to know he was here. Awareness prickles at the back of your neck and you know he’s watching you. You didn’t really know when you’d first become so in tune with him, but everything felt a little different when he was around. Like something in the air changes with his presence.

“Is the emptiness of the tower finally getting to you?” you ask, gaze still fixed on the outside world.

“You know, I should be worried about how detectable I am to you. I’m trained to be light on my feet.”

You turn around and lock eyes with him before smiling softly. “You are light on your feet. It’s just… different with us.”

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gentledreaming  asked:

Do you have any writing prompts containing the theme of 'change'? Love your blog btw! :)

  • Character A has just moved to a new place, and they’re feeling overwhelmed. Calling up an old friend, Character B, they ask for help with getting everything into Character A’s new place. 
  • After a bad breakup resulting in the loss of their friend group, Character A needs to find some new friends. Downloading an app, Character A gets set up on platonic “friend dates” with people in their area in order to meet new people. 
  • “Change is scary, but if you don’t shake things up then how are you supposed to move forward with your life?” AU 
  • Character A is a very spontaneous person, and they’ve decided to road trip across the US while picking up odd jobs and crashing on people’s couches. Character B offers up their couch to Character A, and after Character B hears about Character A’s adventures, Character B debates on joining Character A on their road trip. 
  • “Yeah, after my roommate moved out I needed a new place to stay and I heard that you were looking for somebody to split rent with, so, could I possibly move in with you?” AU 
  • Character A has just learned that their parents are divorcing and they’re not sure how to deal with this news. Character B offers to be Character A’s shoulder to cry on – or just an open ear – while Character A processes this information. 

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Had some grown women online from a “supportive group” try to attack me today simply because I disagreed with them after I made a joke (that wasn’t problematic in the tumblr sense at all). Even after I apologized several times! Crazy right? Obviously more to that but just, wow. People try to make drama out of anything and have a deep need to exert control. Well anyway I’m back in New York. Yesterday @debrisoftitan did a live show for WBRC - Brooklyn College Radio’s “Taken Over Everything Good”. It was a load of fun/terrifying. And tomorrow I have a photoshoot in Manhattan that I’m nervous but excited for! As well as more upcoming projects.

Lots of things have been…all over the place these days. I don’t know what road life will take next. But it does make you feel alive I have to say. Putting yourself out there is hard. And yes, you indeed DO sign yourself for criticism that way. That’s not validating negative behavior at all. But I’ve accepted I can’t police other’s opinions of me & what I do. It would make me a sad person for sure. I’ve carved out my space of the internet to be a happy, diverse, cute place and plan to keep all the drama-lovers out of it. As well as a  handful of people who just only support you when things are going good. 

“control your inner circle, control the mode of your life.“

So yeah, I’m gonna wash off the negativity and take a dip in the pool with my amazing friends :)

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Three popular and gorgeous females construct a fail proof plan to transform Bay Valley High’s social loner into playboy Grayson Dolan’s demise.

Originally posted by thedolangifs

^cred to thedolangifs


The library was always deathly quiet and empty, rows of books left untouched and chairs never sat in. I preferred it that way, quiet I mean, no one there to disturb my reading or train of thought. The librarian, Ms. Stansberry, wasn’t very fond of many people, but she always offered a smile to me. Every other student enraptured with sports, or each other, I only wanted to gain more knowledge and be left alone. The first day of school was always the worst, everyone loud and diving into class president campaigns and tryouts for our state champion sports teams. My first period was free and I was taking my last final moments of peace to read over some of the Calculus material, the scooting of chairs interrupting me not far from my usual table. 

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locker room blues | archie andrews x reader

Originally posted by fuckyeahselenita


written by: maddy

edited by: rosie

anonymous said: okay 2 things. 1,my names rOSIE AS WELL. also can I request an archie fic where the reader is like veronica but she just moved from london and archie,betty,ronnie ,and kevin catch her singing in the locker room and are like amazed (preferably the song hate u love u by Olivia O'Brien it’s a great song) and they kiss or something. thanks!!

chapter song: ‘Your Song’ by Rita Ora!

I let out a deep breath, opening my E/C eyes. I rake my eyes up the tall and intimidating building. I straighten my back, lean my shoulders back and tilt my head up. I take a step towards the school building, knowing that after today this would be where I was to finish my schooling. Taking one step after another until I’m inside the building.

“Hello Miss,” An older voice calls out, I look around searching for the source of the voice. My eyes find a lady who appears to be in her late sixties, smiling at me, her red lipstick slightly smudged along her chin. She sits behind a large dark wood desk, complete with a telephone, a small computer and some books.

I smile back softly, “Hello, you wouldn’t happen to know where I’m supposed to go for my tour do you?” I ask.

The lady nods her head softly, “That’ll be Betty Cooper that you’re looking for, if you just wait here she should be here soon.” I nod my head softly, the smile falling from my lips. I run my hands down my front smoothing down the nonexistent wrinkles from my black dress that fell halfway up my thigh.

A few moments later, my thoughts are interrupted by a bouncy blonde pony tail. “Hi,” The girl, Betty, says cheerfully, “I’m here to guide you around for today.” She smiles widely gracing me with her perfect teeth.

“I’m Y/N,” I say holding my hand out for her to shake, her eyes dart down to my hand, then quickly back up to my face. I raise one eyebrow, encouraging her to shake my hand.

“Betty Cooper,” She smiles tossing her head to the side as we shake hands. She spins on her heel, throws her arms open in front of her and gestures outwards towards a doorway that I hadn’t noticed before. My eyes watch as students pass and enter rooms. “Welcome to Riverdale High School. Land of the unknown.” She giggles softly.

“Do you know where I get my schedule?” I ask ringing my fingers together. Betty’s jaw drops and her eyebrows raise. I furrow my brows together in confusion. “Did I do something wrong?” I ask quizzically.

“Wait! You’re English?” She says excitedly, clasping her hands together excitedly. 

I laugh a little, “Yeah, I am. I’m guessing my accent is a dead give away.” She laughs and continues the tour. 


The next day roles around, and I’m back in school. This time instead of having Betty show me around, I’m all on my own. I open my locker with ease and throw my bag inside it and pull out the books for my next subject.

“Hello there,” a sweet voice says from behind me. I spin around to meet a pair of gorgeous brown eyes. I move my eyes over the gorgeous person stood in front of me, his ginger hair, strong and masculine features, soft lips, down to his lean and muscular frame. I trail my eyes back up to his face, a soft smirk graces his lips. I smile cheekily at him. “Like what you see?” He asks chuckling softly.

“Possibly,” I say winking at him. I watch as his eyes widen. “Before you even ask, yes I am English.” I roll my eyes.

“I wasn’t going to ask,” He says winking back at me, “What classes do you have today?”

“I honestly don’t know,” I reply laughing a little. I pick up my schedule out of my locker and hand it to him.

“We have second, third and fourth period together,” He says after examining the piece of paper. “Your first class is English in the next hall over.”

“Great,” I say a smile on my face, “You can take care of me in those classes then,” I say softly leaning in a bit closer towards him.

He laughs, “I’m Archie Andrews.”

“Y/N Y/L/N,” I say smiling. 

A deep and loud ringing can be heard echoing through the halls. “I guess that means it’s time for class.”

“Yeah, it is,” Archie replies a soft smile on his face. I close my locker and turn on my heel and begin walking in the direction I new my first class would be. I feel a hand touch my back, I turn my head to my left and see Archie falling into step beside me.

“What are you doing?” I ask laughing a little, “You’re not in this class.”

“No, but you are,” He says smiling softly eyes locked with mine. I smile back at him a light blush fanning across my cheeks. His fingers brush mine softly, i tilt my head down as I feel my cheeks heat up.

“This is your stop,” He says, I raise my gaze up to his face a soft smile on my lips.

“Thanks for walking me to class Jock,” I step onto my tip toes a press my lips to his cheek softly, before quickly pulling them away.

“It’s no problem,” He breathes out. I smile and walk inside the classroom.


A few weeks pass and I’m finally starting to get to know all of my teachers and my way around the school. I had met many new people thanks to Betty and Archie, who has made it their mission to make me feel welcomed at Riverdale. I throw my gym bag over my shoulder and take a few steps out of the gymnasium and into the locker rooms. I enter after everyone else had left, as I had stayed behind to fix some things up with the teacher. The empty locker room sent chills down my spine. I walk over to my new locker and open it placing my bag inside, I pull out the clothes I need to change into. I lift the sweaty shirt over my head.

“Feeling used, but I’m still missing you,” I sing softly, “And I can see the end of this.”

I pull my gym shorts down my legs, “Just wanna feel your kiss against my lips, and now all this time is passing by, but I still can’t seem to tell you why.”

I pull a pink crop top over my head, and short blue denim jean shorts over my hips, “it hurts me every time I see you, realize how much I need you. I hate you, I love you, I hate that I love you, don’t want to but I can’t put nobody else above you.” I allow my voice to project through the empty locker room.

“I hate you I love you, I hate that I want you, You want her you need her, and I will never be her,” I sing louder, running my fingers through my H/C hair. I hum the melody as I pick my belongings back up and make my way out of the locker room.

Soft applause can be heard as I push open the door. I jump slightly at the sound, my eyes move around and see Betty, Archie, a girl I learned to be Veronica and a boy named Jughead all stood outside the girls’ locker room door.
I smack my hand to my chest, “You guys scared me.”

“Girl you can sing!” Veronica exclaims excitedly. I laugh softly covering my face with my hands.

“You’re amazing,” Betty adds, each of their heads nodding in agreement. 

“Thank you guys,” I say blushing, I remove my hands from my face and wring them together in front of myself.

“Why is this the first time we’ve heard you sing?” Veronica asks tilting the head to one side confusedly. “I’ve only be here a week,” I say shrugging, i trail my eyes over to Archie a soft smile on my face. I let out a soft laugh at his dazed expression.

“Let’s go, guys,” Betty says encouraging Veronica and Jughead to leave with her. Archie stays where he was a sweet smile on his face as he looks at me. 

“What?” I ask tucking a piece of my H/C hair behind my ear, a small smile on my lips. He sakes his head, no, but continues to watch me.  A moment later, I take a step towards him and link my fingers with his, a sudden surge of confidence overcoming my body. His warm hand takes ahold of mine, our fingers link together. 

His eyes dart down to our now joined hands and back up to my face. His smile widens slightly as he brings our joined hands up to his face. He presses a soft tender kiss on the back of my hand, before dropping them back down to his side.

“Do you want to go out with me?” Archie asks, eyes locked with mine.

“Are you asking me out on a date Arch?” I ask teasingly.

“I sure hope so,” He says, letting out a cheerful chuckle.I nod my head softly,

“Yeah, i’ll go on a date with you.” I smile.

He smiles and pulls me to his side tucking me safely under his arm. He leans down and presses his lips to my forehead for a second.

“It feels like I’ve known you forever,” He says softly as we walk to class together. I wrap my arm around his torso.

“Yeah, it seems to be much longer than a week,” I say a laugh erupting from my chest.

“A week?” He says as if it’s a long time, making me giggle in response.

“Mhm a whole week,” I say teasingly, “I’m already so comfortable here with you, and your friends.”

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  W H A T   ?

with the help of some fun challenges and the ocassional seasonal event, i hope to be able to bring together a bunch of awkward misfits who otherwise might have always just been a little too anxious to actually get to know each other. you’ll learn about the other members through these challenges, and other asks games and small interactive ideas, without having to actually talk to anyone directly.

there will of course also be a tag to share your things, and i will be checking the tag regularly and reblogging onto the network blog. there will be a group chat, but with zero pressure to participate in it. i’m going to try to encourage it as less of a spam chat and more of a place to ask people questions, to show off your new edits, to rant about something that’s getting to you - a ‘no small talk’ chat.

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applying is really simple, and the best part is - the applications never close! all you need to do at any time is go onto the apply page and follow the instructions there.

you do not need to reblog this post however you should be following the network blog although this is not required.

please, however, remember that not every application will be successful. i don’t want the network to get overcrowded, so i’m going to only pick people who i think will be committed to this and who will potentially benefit from it.

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if you couldn’t already tell, this network is targeted at awkward or anxious folks who aren’t great at social things and struggle to develop any real / good friendships online without a lot of help or just magically finding the right person. i’ve met so many people on here who i think i’d be great friends with, but with both of us being so terrible at communicating, it just hasn’t happened.

this network aims to help people like that. it aims to provide people with a way of building friendships that doesn’t rely on being able to chat to new people, or being able to small talk, or being confident enough to just say whatever’s on your mind. it’s a way to gradually get to know other people who are similar minded and probably have similar interests to yourself.

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i launched this network on the 25th july 2017. there will be no “loads” of members released. as every application comes in, i will review it and i will respond within a month in one of three ways:
    a) acceptance - your application is accepted and you become a member
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Saved by an Angel

gif is not mine

Title: Saved by an Angel

Pairing: Castiel x Reader

Word count: 1,911

Warnings: Angst & Fluff

A/N: Oh look, a Castiel fic that I have all ready for all of you! I hope you like this! Feedback is welcomed and appreciated! I love you all so much!! <3

The wind blew through your hair as you sat on a bench in the park.  It was delightfully breezy and not too cold.  You had your earbuds in, listening to music as the wind tousled your hair softly.  You dipped your head as a single tear escaped your eye.  As the tear fell you felt a small rush of wind behind you.  You figured it was just the wind so you had ignored it.

You almost fell of the bench startled at the sudden figure that sat down beside you.  You had not seen him before.  You almost got the knife that you had always carried in your pocket out, but you were suddenly wrapped in this man’s arms.  You almost fought the strange man off, but you oddly felt safe.  You wrapped your arms around him, resting your head on his chest.  He had on a trench coat and a suit, but his tie wasn’t on right.  You thought that it was odd, but you liked it oddly enough.

“Who are you,” you whispered thinking he wouldn’t hear you.

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ISFJ User Manual

This manual is part of a series of guides originated by @intpboard!  

Congratulations! You have come under the care of your very own ISFJ unit, probably because you needed help with a task and they needed an excuse to procrastinate.  They have offered you this manual in a simple attempt to assist you.  You should be pleased that they have chosen you to benefit from their helpful nature!

Your ISFJ unit will come equipped with the following accessories:

One (1) large cup of coffee (refillable)

Four (4) extra jackets to give you if you are cold

Two (2) semi-fancy outfits

Three (3) casual outfits, one of which they strongly prefer

One (1) calendar to keep track of important dates

One (1) coffeepot, for refilling coffee cup

Three (3) grandiose, altruistic life paths

One (1) large dog

Infinite (∞) support, patience, work ethic, and enthusiasm


Your ISFJ will come preprogrammed with the following traits:

Si: Your ISFJ will often be preoccupied with thoughts about the world and people around them, and may zone out during these times.  Don’t be alarmed – this is normal.  They are just gathering information about their surroundings, processing their impressions, and filing everything away in the proper place. Disturbing them during this process will often result in blank stares and confusion.

Fe: This trait is activated only when necessary, following the processing phase. After your ISFJ has updated with the gathered information, you will find them very interactive, friendly, and helpful! They contain a special chip which makes them particularly intuitive and responsive to all your feelings and needs, as well as overly willing to assist you in anything you may need.

Ti: Occasionally, instead of Fe following the processing phase, your ISFJ will need to withdraw and spend time deeply analyzing the information gained.  This trait allows them to balance their people pleasing side with their analytical side.

Ne: The weakest trait of the ISFJ, Ne works with Fe to prod the ISFJ into trying new things.  It is also responsible for their occasional bursts of creative ideas and plans! However, it is only able to activated for fleeting periods of time; pushing an ISFJ too far out of their comfort zone for too long will cause them to revert to the withdrawn, silent behavior that characterizes their original information-gathering mode.

Getting Started:

When you first start up your ISFJ, do not be alarmed by their silence! The first stage of ISFJ programming requires distant observation, which allows them to gather information about their surroundings!

1. Place included cup of coffee in your ISFJ’s hand.

2. Set them on a bench in a busy location.

3. Allow your ISFJ to charge by observing details about the situation.

4. If step 3 does not work, place included dog on leash and hand leash to ISFJ; Fe mode should trigger when ISFJ is approached about dog.

5. If your ISFJ still doesn’t start, announce a task with which you need assistance.


Selfless Giver (default) – In this mode, ISFJs will jump at any opportunity to help others, regardless of their own schedule or plans.  They will never complain about this type of service.  Even if they do not want to help you, they will – regardless of any inconvenience it may cause them.  Taking advantage of this mode too often will result in an unhealthy ISFJ that will shut down in response to future requests.

Nature Lover - Activated when outside in nature settings.  ISFJs love nature, particularly the solitude and silence they can find there.  This allows them to process information without the interference of additional information.  They are likely to bring you outside with them, in an effort to help you silence your mind as well – even if this is not your idea of fun, please be patient. They are just trying to help you.

Humble - Activated in response to any type of praise.  ISFJs prefer to downplay their own accomplishments, as they are uncomfortable with overwhelming praise.  This often results in their successes being claimed by others, which upsets the balance of the ISFJ and often triggers Clowning mode to hide anger and disappointment.

Observer - Activated in busy situations/places. Your ISFJ will be content to sit back and watch the action around them.  Although they will be lightly conversational, attempting to engage them more deeply will not be successful – they are too busy processing their surroundings.

Clowning - ISFJs are prone to self-deprecating jokes. They use this as a defense mechanism to hide their emotions. A shield of laughter is the best defense of all! To this end, they also find joy in puns, wordplay, and any unique jokes. Their sense of humor never ceases to surprise, so try not to be taken aback!  Activated most often around NF units.

Relationships with other units:

NFs: ISFJs have very close relationships with NFs, because they are both concerned with the care and well-being of the other.  The ISFJ also often balances the NF, who prefers an “outside the box” way of thinking to the more traditional views of the ISFJ.  NFs can also be too demanding of the ISFJ – they need to know when to let up or they will burnout their ISFJ unit.

NTs: NTs have a very strong drive and work ethic that the ISFJ greatly admires; in return, the NT admires the way ISFJs care so deeply for others.  This is a relationship that can produce a lot of mutual respect.  However, NTs are far more logical than ISFJs, who are more focused on emotions, and this can cause friction.

SJs: ISFJs get along very well with other SJs.  They are both responsible and trustworthy, as well as equally willing to take care of one another.  This creates a nurturing environment for the ISFJ that is very important for their health and security.

SPs: SPs are fun loving and carefree, capable of assisting an ISFJ with big plans, ideas, or experiences triggered by the Fe trait. However, the SP must recognize that the ISFJ has a limit and be respectful of that – if not, their wild, impetuous nature can quickly wear down an ISFJ.


When busy, an ISFJ will often forget that food is necessary. This is especially true when engrossed in a project that will help others or while bringing one of their ideas/adventures to life.  To properly care for an ISFJ, you must feed them at least once a day.  If they are resistant to stopping long enough to eat, tell them you are feeling hungry and allow them the option of preparing (or paying for) the meal – their overly kind nature will override their natural enthusiasm for work and in making sure you are fed, they will feed themselves as well.


Your ISFJ will groom on a regular basis, as it never knows when it will be called away to help someone else.  They will always keep themselves clean and their appearance tidy – they never want to call too much attention to themselves, so they groom and dress in a way that allows them to blend in.  You will not need to monitor this function for your unit, and you should leave it to the ISFJ to take care of at all times; insinuating that your ISFJ is untidy in any way will cause them to feel offended and could result in total shut down until you apologize.


Your ISFJ unit will sleep regularly, as being well rested is necessary to support the enthusiasm with which they approach their day (whether their day is at school, at work, or being with others).  Despite this, they often need naps or a large amount of caffeine to keep running in Selfless Giver mode – this mode drains their energy very quickly.

Frequently Asked Questions:

How do I get my ISFJ to relax and take a break?

You don’t!  ISFJ’s are not capable of “relaxing” in the traditional sense.  During their dormant periods, their brains are still rapidly processing and filing information.  The word “relax” is foreign to them and will confuse them if mentioned too often.

Help! I lost my ISFJ!

Don’t worry!  ISFJs often need a break to recharge by going into one of the aforementioned dormant periods. They will reappear shortly!  If it has been more than three hours, brew a pot of coffee and wait.  The smell of coffee should bring your ISFJ out of dormancy.

My ISFJ does not like to try new things?  What do I do?

ISFJ units come with a preinstalled love of habit and familiarity. Attempting to change too much at once can lead to a complete crash if you are not careful!  To deal with this, introduce your ISFJ to new situations, places, and people very gently.  Be patient and they will adjust in time.  Their Fe and Ne traits will also occasionally activate and push them into trying something new – make sure you take their lead and do not over stimulate them. This will cause them to withdraw into dormancy and will require additional coffee to fix.

Again, congratulations on your newly acquired ISFJ helper unit!

(Thank you to @effervescience for all of her help in researching and writing this guide!  


bts member : jungkook x reader

Genre: angst /smut

rated mature :  but not in all the chapters

summary : if you want to and if you don’t want to, things are bound to happen and you broke the rules and run away only to find your self in a lion’s Den , jungkook a man who has every thing; power wealth and fame all together to burn your heart and existence if you moved away, in a land full of horses what could happen between both of you ,two young persons who meant to share the same dream  !

one | two | three | four |five | six | seven | eight | nine 

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the weather was cold outside when you stepped out , jungkook was wearing his cloves as he walked next to you  both took your suit case and headed to the car 

he didn’t said that much not even told you where he was heading and you weren’t going to ask any way it felt awkward how cold his gazes were as like as last night was a dream and as you recognized the road you started to feel it was 

a dream !

Your body was still aching and you were still feeling awkward but you couldn’t tell if it was really true! all you thought about this morning when he told you to get ready that he was planning to go somewhere with you well isn’t this what all newly weds do !! but the car was rolling the road heading back to the ranch and you didn’t dare to say any thing You couldn’t ask him why how and what was going on you were just resting on your seat inhaling his scent mixed with the air until the car stopped 

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anonymous asked:

Where I work closes one day a year. All other holidays where open. On those days we usely close an hour to 2 hours early. The number of people who complain we're closing early and 'didnt tell them' is ridiculous. It's post on the door, website, plus it's a National Holiday and most places are closed!! Had one lady come in 10 minutes before we close on new years day throw a fit and complain how awful we where cause she couldn't shop due to us closing 'early'

I love working the door on early days.

Me: sorry the store is closed

C: there are still people in there so let me in.

Me: sorry the store is closed

C: come on man just let me in I only need a few things.


C: my baby’s hungry. I need to get milk.

Me: 7-11 is three blocks that way. *points to store*

C: *tries pushing past me

Me: sorry stores closed.

On and on till the last customer is out and I lock the door.

I should mention I am kind of a big dude. So no one but the rock is pushing past me.


anonymous asked:

people should be evaluated by their ethnicity and nation AND their needs and traits and character

No. My evaluations of people will be on the basis of their abilities, needs, traits, and character and that is it. I think one of the greatest (partial) achievements of modern society is the existence of places where you can be evaluated only by what you do and not by accidents of birth or ethnic origin. I am sincerely grateful to have inherited such communities, and I am absolutely committed to defending them. 

Something that I think has somehow gotten lost in all the modern Discourse and edgy alt-right trolling and ‘sarcastic’ racism and so on is that racism is horrifying and awful and pointlessly destructive of innocent lives and a massive affront to the democratic project of building a society where everyone has the same rights both by law and in practice. 

‘Evaluating’ people off their ethnicity or their accent or their circumstances instead of their traits is the way everyone, everywhere, does everything, unless we make a concerted effort to say ‘no, I will not decide things by looking at the color of your skin or the place where you were born. I will look at you.’ 

I reject, as vehemently as I possibly can, everything about your mindset. You are wrong, and wrong the way almost everyone has always been wrong for all of history to the extraordinary cost of their societies and their people. You are not clever, you are not inventing something new, you are just sliding back into the horrible default of bigotry.

Do. Not. Evaluate people by their ethnicity or nation. Their traits and character are the whole sum of what you need to evaluate them. Once you know those things, where they were born and what they look like should not matter to you. 

You’re not clever. You’re not funny. You just suck.

someone: hey how are you

me: fine thanks

the voice in my head: why did they have to do a live action remake of beauty and the beast? what is the point? what was wrong with the original? why are people paying money to see this thing? if disney needs money so badly why don’t they make some new content instead? why do the costumes and set look so shit? why can’t emma watson act or sing? who hired her? why have they literally copied scenes from the original, frame by frame? why have they used the same songs as the original and autotuned them horribly? whose idea was it to remake this in the first place? did they get fired? why are they remaking the lion king? is nothing sacred? is this even legal? when will i finally die?