I’m 1000% serious though? It’s not cute what the team did when Bitty told them. I’m not out to anyone I know irl but if I decided to and they started talking about bets that they made on me I would have been mortified. A bit happy too that they didn’t outright see a problem with me, yeah, but I would have been absolutely mortified and in tears that no one felt the need to speak up about anything. Being in the closet isn’t fun. It hurts a lot. There’s no one to talk to or validate you or comfort you when shit goes south and that’s obvious to how it affected Bitty when he had to hide.
Don’t pull shit like the smh team did and make private things about it. It’ll hurt a billion times worse than if you just confront the person and ask them and offer to help them if you wait until they want to come out publicly and you just brush it off with “yeah we knew (but we did nothing to help you or act on you pain ‘cause we had a bet going)”