i need like validity and shit

lieutenantroux  asked:

Could I request headcannons for phichit and yuuri katsuki with a trans S/O? (Im transmasc but if you want to make it neutral so everyone can enjoy that'd be good too!!)


  • very supportive of his s/o. he knows that they might get a lot of shit, and he’s always ready to stand up for them
  • if they don’t feel confident about being passing, he’ll reassure them that they don’t need to pass to be valid. will also try and help them if they would like to, though


  • will always use the correct pronouns, unless his s/o isn’t out to everyone (sometimes it’s an issue with people who aren’t accepting; proper pronouns may not always be used in their presence)~ calls out those who are aware but don’t care (ง'̀-‘́)ง
  • always lets them know that he loves them for them. their identity is v important to him, but he wants to make it known that he loves them regardless

anonymous asked:

I've gotten to the point where I could care less who the guys date. And Arzaylea has made me never even wanna think about ever dating Luke because that relationship seems like horse shit. She's almost turned me off from Luke as a person. I just hope Luke one days realizes he deserves to be happy and with a nice girl and realizes he's better than a these losers that feel the need to surround him. No offense but he's so much better than his company

ya thats how i feel 2 !!! and its completely valid to still care abt the boys but i think we’ve also realized that our bitching won’t change anything (unfortunately) so its actually beneficial to stop caring and to let them make their mistakes and learn from them :-)

man i found my livejournal from high school (b4 tumblr was a thing lol) and it wasn’t the deepest reservoir of teen angst but it was a prescient reminder of how hard being a teenager is. 

Not like I’m old, I’m 24 and I know 19 year olds who are significantly more self-possessed than I am, but I do feel significantly emotionally removed from most parts of my inner life as a teenage girl. 

and Holy Shit we need to value, honor, validate, and PAY ATTENTION to how teens feel/interact with their world, others, and themselves. So much of my trauma can be traced from like, 12-15 (at least the “acute” stage of it early on) and working with these kiddos in therapeutic relationships….y’all. 

Their pain and their trauma is so real. and not even Trauma, but the way that every day life grinds you down, having parents with untreated mental illness, living in poverty, deprivation (or even economic instability tbh!!!!) and as much as I hate to say this…social media in general, it’s amazing that these teenagers who are in a public charter school, get up and come to school and keep trying and keep caring and keep relating. 

I am in awe.

anonymous asked:

Hi, anon from earlier, I read your Corey list, and you should probably update it, as a lot do what you hated has changed!! Also, idk if you're queer or no, but as someone who is, it's just really nice to see a queer person on screen, cuz as a child I didn't have those :)

I’m bisexual, born and raised lmao. The last person I dated was a girl (not that I need to express that to make my sexuality valid, but if you wanted a reference point.) 

But I feel like this message is implying that you aren’t allowed to dislike a character just because he or she identifies as queer, which is inherently ridiculous. It’s like saying I can’t dislike Snape because he’s got a big nose and I do too. Yeah… I’m Jewish, but that doesn’t mean I have to be okay with the way Snape constantly bullied Neville, treated Harry like shit because of stuff his dad did, and joined a racist, murderous, N*tzi-esque organization because he got friendzoned. 

But if you want to like Corey, I am by no means stopping you, I just personally don’t and I most likely never will. 

I just adore this concept 5sos are exploring it’s this beautiful median between ‘fuck it’ and ‘I want to change my entire life for the better’. I love that they are encouraging facing your problems head on and validating all kinds of hopeless dreamers and troubled teens but at the same time they’re saying it’s okay to feel like you just want to ignore all of your problems. It’s so important to have this ‘paradise’ where you can have a ‘permanent vacation’ for as long as you need before you are ready to confront all of your fears and problems. Support the shit out of this band and you’ll be doing yourself a favour!  

My life now is just a string of surreal situations strung together by me telling people about surreal situations, but you know what? The thing that really inspires me is the fact that kids like our ideas and that’s bleeding into humanity. You see kids at our shows…you can see when we play their song. And it’s that moment that I care about. That’s what really, really gets to me. We didn’t need any kind of statistical validation to be more proud of our record, because that shit’s been out there since day one. - Matty Healy

For the 5sos fam
  • Message to new fans: Well first of all; Welcome. I wish you patience and a strong heart because these guys will probably ruin you. Second we do not send hate. I don't care how old or young you are or if your opinion is valid or not. WE. DO. NOT. SEND. HATE. This is a family we don't need that shit. Just don't do it. it's a big no no.
  • Message to fans who've been here since the beginning: You are not better than everyone else. you're a fan, and so are we. Don't act like you're the shit because honestly you're not. We're all on this together. I mean brag about it if you want but don't tell people you're a better fan because you've been there from the start. Its not true. No One is better than anyone. We are all one.
  • Message to fans with a lot of followers: You are NOT the queens of the the 5sos fam. We are all equal so treat other people equally because in the end we're here for the music and four Aussie turds. Don't look down on people it's not cool and it just makes them feel like shit.
  • Message to fans who don't have that many followers or asks: Who cares! You are apart of this family and you don't need a bunch of messages and pointless numbers to tell you that. We are all one.
  • Message to All 5sos fam: You are beautiful and I love every single one if you. I don't care if you follow me or not, I love you!!!!! We are a family and your burdens automatically become mine so feel free to talk to me about anything. I'm here for you! Also enough with spreading rumors. that's just not cool

ever since posting my selfies for trans day of visibility, I’ve gotten multiple messages shitting on me for identifying as agender & still wearing ~girl~ clothes in the selfies. here is my response

nonbinary people do not need to look androgynous in order for their identity to be valid. nonbinary people do not need to have short hair & dress in masculine clothing 100% of the time in order to be taken seriously. i spent almost 20 years of my life dressing like a *girl*, & having long hair, & that is the outward appearance i have grown accustomed to having & presenting to other people. me continuing to dress & look the way i always have does not mean that my identity as an agender person is invalid. you are not only an asshole for attempting to invalidate my gender for dressing the way i do but you are also a transphobe & can fuck right off

afab, feminine presenting, nonbinary people exist & we’re just as queer as androgynous nonbinary people.


Screw writing strong women. Write interesting women. Write well-rounded women. Write complicated women. Write a woman who kicks ass, write a woman who cowers in a corner. Write a woman who’s desperate for a husband. Write a woman who doesn’t need a man. Write women who cry, women who rant, women who are shy, women who don’t take no shit, women who need validation and women who don’t care what anybody thinks. THEY ARE ALL OKAY, and all those things could exist in THE SAME WOMAN. Women shouldn’t be valued because we are strong, or kick-ass, but because we are people. So don’t focus on writing characters who are strong. Write characters who are people.

We need to talk more about allosexual aromantics who aren’t heterosexual
At this point, almost all the discourse is focused on them, or aroaces, and there are still people asking “can I be gay and aromantic”, “how can I be pansexual and aromantic” etc
We need to talk about how sexual and romantic orientations exist separately, and any combination can be had. We need to stop acting like all aros are ace, and we need to stop acting like non-het aros don’t exist. You can’t talk about queer erasure and then act like we’re not here

27 INFPs Explain Exactly How To Win Over Their Type

1. “It’s all about the conversation. Hands down, the most important thing to us is connecting, so being able to talk about anything and everything with you is absolutely crucial (and super attractive).”

2. “Be kind. Be honest. Be patient. Pay attention. If you are grounded and nurturing, but also sarcastic and rebellious then I probably already like you. All that’s left is for you to show me that you will stick it out.”

3. “Show interest, ask specific questions to unleash our thoughts, be open, non judgmental and present (we need quality time!). Know that it will take a while for us to open up and be completely comfortable.”

4. “Try to get past boring platitudes and talk about something we both find really interesting. Say something that will make me think.”

5. “Listen to me, validate my feelings, do silly shit with me and laugh over lame things. Use touch to show that you want to be more than friends. Show that you will be there for me when I need you.”

6. “The small acts of consideration go a long way. Don’t just tell me that you care – show me in the little everyday things you do.”

7. “Be real. No small talk. Be vulnerable with me because I only know how to be vulnerable, so the only way I can be in a relationship is if our emotions are raw and real.”

8. “When you first meet me, you’ll probably always have to make the first move, and need to have a desire to keep the conversation going. Small talk isn’t really a thing though, I seem to fall more for the hilarious, nonsensical conversations!”

9. “The little things are more important than the grand gestures. Hold the door open. Listen with attention. Ask about things that matter to me. Take responsibility for yourself. Be generous.”

10. “Ask me about my thoughts. I want you to know me, but sometimes I’m afraid of scaring you off with the number of odd things going on in my head.”

11. “Be a person of complete integrity. Your core values are who you are and good character will always shine from the inside out. Bonus points if you have a witty sense of humour!”

12. “Be non-judgmental and validate my feelings because I might not always have the word to know why I am feeling the way I do. But trust I have good intentions.”

13. “Be genuine and honest, I’ll figure out the rest myself.”

14. “Ask me questions. There’s a lot I want to share with you but one, I don’t know how to get started and two, I don’t want to seem annoying. So if you’re interested, act interested!”

15. “Be genuine. Don’t play the immature game of feigning disinterest; the minute you do so, I truly lose any interest. Don’t dwell on small talk. I don’t want to hear about how drunk you got at that party last weekend. My goal is to understand your core, true self and all that comes with it: fears, desires, ambitions, insecurities and passions.”

16. “Don’t be afraid to unleash your intelligence. “Talk nerdy to me” is a real thing. Intellectually stimulating conversations are my catnip.”

17. “Show me that you’re curious, creative, and as open-minded as humanly possible. Inspire me. Show me that you’re positive and believe in humanity’s potential for good. Show me that you’re excited to be alive and experience what the world has to offer. Be respectful of all life.”

18. “Show me that you’re someone who likes to take action and the initiative, and won’t mind giving me a nudge (I often lack the motivation to get out of my head or my house, but if you inspire me to get out and experience what life has to offer, I’ll love you forever).”

19. “Whatever you do, DO NOT display jealousy, possessiveness, or neediness. I require my space and alone time, and sometimes I’ll want to be with my friends (without you), and I need you to be ok with that. Ideally, you’d encourage it, because you know it’s what’s best for my mental and emotional health.”

20. “Please don’t believe that I complete you; I want us to be two complete humans that enhance each others’ lives and bring out the best in each other. And please, don’t be someone who holds grudges, or is quick to anger. Life’s too short, and the only person you hurt with your anger is yourself. Finally, I want you to think that I’m amazing, and that you’re lucky to have me in your life. Because I want to feel the same way about you.”

21. “Be genuinely interested in who I am when I’m being authentic. Create space for that to happen by being trustworthy and accepting. Also, holding a belief that the norms of society are optional doesn’t hurt.”

22. “Your love needs to be unconditional and big enough to contain my dreams and my imperfections. Give me lots of space – lets be in each others orbit. Also show me lots of affection. And have a killer sense of humor.”

23. “Please don’t be corny. I can sense tackiness and inauthenticity from a mile away and it’s a huge turn off. Be yourself, I love someone who is confident but humble. Don’t force yourself upon me, give me the space to test your vibe and the ‘waters’ around you. Be patient with me, my comfort levels, and openness. That stuff takes time.”

24. “Show me that you have depth and accept me exactly as I am – mood swings and all.”

25. “If your soul is pure it doesn’t matter how dirty your hands are.”

26. “Just listen to me, please! I often let people talk for five hours and some still interrupt me after that. Be kind and non judgmental to those around us – empathy is the best sign of emotional intelligence. And if you love me, show it! Don’t try to play mysterious, I like social/accessible people.”

27. “Just be yourself. Nothing good gets away.” (source)


“Screw writing “strong” women. Write interesting women. Write well-rounded women. Write complicated women. Write a woman who kicks ass, write a woman who cowers in a corner. Write a woman who’s desperate for a husband. Write a woman who doesn’t need a man. Write women who cry, women who rant, women who are shy, women who don’t take no shit, women who need validation and women who don’t care what anybody thinks. They are all okay, and all those things could exist in the same woman. Women shouldn’t be valued because we are strong, or kick-ass, but because we are people. So don’t focus on writing characters who are strong. Write characters who are people.”

Requested by anonymous

writing tip: when it starts to feel like a chore, then don’t fucking write. remember that you’re writing for yourself before you’re writing for others

and i wanna leave you satisfied

here it is!! the first chapter of my summer fling wayhaught au is here! 4k, 1st chapter of several.

read here on ao3 (or below)

Chapter One: Oh, I Miss the Comfort (of This House)

Waverly had barely even remembered that they still owned The Homestead. They had used to go every single summer, making the long trek down to Purgatory in a car stuffed to the brim with sundresses and plastic shovels to spend long, sticky days at the beach or sprawled on the slatted floors of the house, heads perched on elbows in front of open books. To her, the house meant sand in between her toes and ground into her scalp for days on end. In her memory, everything was large there. The stairs were dark and steep and the beds had to be clambered into, sometimes with the helping hand of  a big sister. The living room was dominated by her father’s big chair, where he had sat laughing his big laugh and drinking a beer. Her mother’s lap was the centerpiece of the couch.

Of course, where there had once been 5 Earps there were now two. After her mother left, they had stopped going every summer. After her father and Willa had died, they had stopped going at all. The Homestead had lay vacant for over ten years.

Ironically, it was death that brought them back.

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I fucking hate having BPD I can’t barely stand myself. I hate having fp’s and splitting on people constantly. I hate feeling like I need to be validated, but then feeling like shit for feeling that way. I hate the extreme love and idolization of someone and how in a second I’ll split on them and hate them. The abuse I’ve taken from FP’s and the fear of being abandoned. The daily battle with self harm and how fucking hard it is to say no. The constant feelings of inadequacy and how I’m hated. How everything is a lie. How I dissociate and how memories of mine are made to feel not real. How my entire day and fucking mood can depend on one fucking person! I hate this so much why can’t I be fucking normal!

I want to watch you tear me open
I need to feel you peel my flesh from my muscles and rip apart my bones from my body so I can hear them crack with every attempt to set my soul free
because I haven’t been able to feel anything but my heart beating in my throat since the second you told me you were done and I can’t tell if I’m choking or if my defenses for your lies are caught inside me
because there’s so many things I have to explain since your only validation in life is making me look like shit
but more than anything I need to feel my blood running down my body covering me in that warm and forgiving red because I’ve been clean for one year and I can’t do it myself
and now I can’t tell if this is real or if I’m just fucked up because I wish you had slammed my head into the wall so hard I could hear my skull shatter before you left because I don’t want to think about how this is all my fault
and all I know is that I can’t tell if I find it sad or reassuring that I find more comfort in the thought of jumping in front of a train than I ever did in your arms
—  You Never Said Goodbye, S.D.