i might make a part 3 but i'm not sure

anonymous asked:

(part 1/3) Hi! I've just found your blog and I'm very glad I did! I've been questioning for a while now if I might be asexual. I don't want to have sex (I'm not repulsed by it though) and I don't know if I experience sexual attraction as I'm not sure what sexual attraction is/feels like. I can see someone and think that they're hot/beautiful/pretty/etc. and just kind of want to keep looking at them, if that makes sense?

(part 2/3) I’ve also thought about sex with certain people but it was more of wondering “what would that be like?” rather than “that would be good/enjoyable.” Recently I read a post by a Christian who said God doesn’t make people asexual and that if you’re married you should be having sex with your spouse because that’s what God wants. It made me wonder if I’m going against God by not being interested in sex and possibly being asexual. 

(part 3/3) I’ve been praying about it every day but I’m still confused and scared. I’m not sure if there’s a specific question in this, I guess I’m just looking for some guidance and assurance. Thank you for creating this blog and for any help you can provide me with.


Hey there! From what you described, it sounds like you don’t experience sexual attraction. Sexual attraction is so hard to explain, especially when you don’t experience it. Thinking someone is beautiful, pretty, or good looking is aesthetic attraction. It’s completely normal for an asexual to feel aesthetic attraction, but not sexual attraction. 

Asexuals can and some do have sex. So wondering what it would be like or even trying it out doesn’t invalidate your asexuality. As for the Christian take on asexuality, most Christians just don’t understand what they don’t experience and I’ve noticed a lot of them ignore the verses in the Bible that reference asexuality. 1 Corinthians 7 is a good place to look for about relationships. Paul speaks about sex in this chapter. He says that to remain from sexual immorality, those who are married should only have sex with the one they are married to. He does say in verses 5-6  “Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command.” But, if you look at the context around this scripture, Paul is talking about sexual immorality. He is speaking to married couples who are sexually active and telling them what HE thinks is best to refrain from sexual immorality. The important part is what’s in verse 6. This is not a command, but Paul’s own thinking.

Paul goes on to say in verse 8 “Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” He’s saying it’s better to remain single, but if a couple “burns with passion” it’s good for them to marry.

In verses 25-28 Paul says “Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for a man to remain as he is. Are you pledged to a woman? Do not seek to be released. Are you free from such a commitment? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” Paul is once again giving his own judgement in this situation and tells us that this is not a command from God. He says it’s good to remain single, but there’s nothing wrong with marrying. He warns that marriage can lead to troubles. 

Finally, in verses 32-35, he tells us “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” In other words, those who are married (and it’s implied also, those who have sex) have divided interests. They want to please their partner while those who are unmarried can live with undivided devotion to the Lord.

That was just 1 Corinthians 7. In Matthew 19:12, Jesus says “For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” The different kinds of eunuchs that Jesus refers to could very well include asexuals. There are asexuals born without the desire for sex, those who became asexual for different reasons, and those who simply choose not to have sex. 

The Bible is very much for asexuals. There is nowhere in the Bible that God commands everyone to get married and have sex. If anything, He recognizes that everyone is made different and He has different plans for each of us. For some of us, that means not getting married. 

I know that was long winded, but I hope it helped. God will give you the answers you search for. He loves you for who you are. If you feel that the word “asexual” fits you, then feel free to use it. There’s nothing wrong with being asexual and Christian.


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I think it might already be part of the headcanon that Daichi is actually a coward + a softie, especially when it comes to Suga (¬‿¬)

Soooo, I was wondering if you’d like to see the rest of my short comic idea? It’s really sweet and embarrassing (▰˘◡˘▰) Would you like to?

anonymous asked:

Hi! I really liked your tutorial and how you drew the guys. Especially Mark's big goofy "amused" and Jack's "amazed" smile! Will you be drawing more? I like your style. :) (ps was that done on purpose?)

I’m assuming “that” was the ‘amused’ and ‘amazed’ part so, yes. It was. :)

As for drawing them all again, I’m not sure. I would love to but this month’s particularly busy so I might not have the opportunity. You can have these guys to make up for it though. :>

Also here’s that tutorial thing anon is talking about. :]