PSA for Transmen
I’ve been thinking- and I’m sure this has been said before, but it’s worth saying again. There’s a difference between feminine and female. It might sound obvious to some of us but to people like me it’s something I really had to meditate on.
As trans individuals, we each have different triggers for our dysphoria- most commonly we all share a strong aversion to things or situation that might discredit our identity to those around us. Men don’t like flowers and women don’t fix lightbulbs kind of gendered shit. This kind of hyper-awareness to the social gender binary and gender roles.
As a man I struggled with this. I like flowers and the color pink. I like cute frilly things- maybe not to put on my own body, but I do like them. I like feminine things… but that doesn’t make me a woman. Just like how a little boy who wears makeup isn’t actually a girl, a trans man who wears makeup is no less a man than his cisgender, make-up loving brothers.
To those of us who still like feminine things, it’s no reflection on your identity. Like what you like, love who you love, and live how you live.