i love you they cannot take it

anonymous asked:

What are some simblrs you recommend?

Aaahhhh!!! Thank you for this ask, I love shouting out some of the simblrs I adore!

@sassyllamas - Sara has an AMAZING I’m a lover challenge with the Yates family and she’s a wonderful storyteller!
@storylegacysims - Molly is one of my favourite human beings and I adore everything she does. Her CC, her legacies, her posts - everything is top quality content!
@pixeloasis - Jess is a talented builder, amazing storyteller, and she makes cc? She’s a triple threat and I love everything she does!
@riverstonesims - Kiwiw is my storytelling inspiration and I aspire to be as committed to my stories as she is with hers. Her writing is beautiful and I look forward to her posting! 
@simalienn - Leisha is one of the blogs that I have followed for like…forever. Her legacies are so addicting and she makes relatable, adorable characters. Everything she does it amazing!
@ohthesefaces/@ohthesebuilds - Jamie’s a master builder, a Sims 4 challenge master and has such memorable sims! If you’re looking for a great cc free blog, she is definitely one to check out!
@calisimgirl - Sara is one of my favourite streamers and I am so proud to see her twitch channel grow! Her blog is so colourful and a great read too!
@sims-creations - I’ve followed Helena’s Sinclair legacy for forever and she is one of my biggest writing inspirations! I will follow her legacy until the end! <3
@its-lunnarise - Elizabeth creates amazing cc, gorgeous edits and her art is stunning! If you want inspiration, she’s definitely a blog to take a look at!
@pixelionary - Walter is one of the sweetest simmers around! His legacy is so cute and I love his simself dream life gameplay!
@josiesimblr - Josie’s a storytelling guru, and everything she does is awesome. A very, very talented writer and storyteller. I want to be like her one day!
@0sims - Jenn has one of the best aesthetics I have ever seen on her blog. Her screenshots are captivating and her storytelling is SO good. I cannot recommend her enough!

A few other blogs I have to shout out because I am running out of room on this post ~ @108sims, @nezucorni, @simplicityplays, @monets-pixels, @samtastic-sims, @craftywritelovessimblr, @stepawayfromthecarrot, @ghostbouquet, @vividlore, @vanillabeansims, @twistedsimblr, @pixelddump, @captainsilversims, @pooofy, @simsoflove, @lacoded, @tigerellasims, @nutmegspicelatte, @littlemicrocosims, @thesimsofnoalyn, @pixelated-plumbobs, @acesakurauniverse, @pinkcotton, @plumbob-waffles, @nikasimming, @auroraplumbob, @lovelyyysims, @meeplemeeple, @simmeronnie, @tacha75, @simsplyirresistible, @prunusfruit, @awkward–simmer

anonymous asked:

Hi. I know this would probably sound dumb, but I really need theories about Marco’s nightmare in the Red Belt episode. I know, this may seem late, but I am currently rewatching the series after the mid-season finale. Bec I really cannot do a day without Star. At least, right now. I’m too hung up. Anyway, I’m asking you, bc you are awesome with theories, and I really need opinions/interpretations regarding that. I’d love to hear your take on it. Also, could you lead me to other theories abt it?

Why dumb, the fandom speculated about it for months! I’ll be honest with you, a season and a half after the dream, I think that it mostly had two levels: the more obvious one, the one that applied to the episode Red Belt and that continues to apply to Marco’s character, was about the red balloon, the red belt: Marco is worried about not being able to find his place in life, what he wants to do. Star found her own now that she went back to Mewni, and Marco did the same, but still isn’t quite done with it, and can still be seen being unsure about what he’s doing and what he’s going to do.

The second one, the one that made all of us so confused… well, after all this time it looks like there was no super deep meaning! The dream had a lot of symbols and elements that referenced future episodes in the season, but that didn’t look like real foreshadowing, and that didn’t seem to have any super deep meaning. Pink/purple and green, Marco wearing the same suit as in Bon Bon The Birthday Clown,

This might be seen as a reference to Running With Scissors, but it should also be considered how not being able to remember a number, a password, is a super common trope for dreams.

Even the Blood Moon looming over the dream, with a modified version of the waltz playing, was probably more “thematic” than anything else. It’s an important presence in the show (even if we’re not yet properly aware about its role), and it’s red, just like the red belt of the episode. A way to cast a familiar and mysterious light, that might have effects later in Marco’s life, on a scene that wanted to be a metaphor for the struggles of growing up.

And Star going feral and running away? We’ve seen that the corruption of magic was Toffee’s doing, and it didn’t affect Star personally, it didn’t change her personality or turn her evil, so it’s possible that it was just a weird, dream like scene. Something familiar to Marco twisted in a confused and unintelligible way.

These are just my opinion obviously, and I might be wrong, but after 35 episodes you’d think we’d have understood more about the dream, if it was meant to have a “show encompassing” meaning, while it looks like the focal point was just this

Marco always had a hard time taking decisions in his life, and at the end of the season Star, one of his pillars, “disappeared”. In Sophomore Slump Marco ultimately refuses to sink and to be “left alone” while everyone moves on, thanks to Jackie’s words, and takes the huge and scary decision to move to Mewni. This didn’t bring him great rewards so far, but that’s hopefully going to change soon, helping him make his own balloon as well.

As for leading you to other theories about it, I couldn’t find any link, sorry, since it’s such an old episode! But I can tell you that there was a lot of speculation going about Marco “dying”, or potentially being hurt by Star - since he was buried under mewberty petals; or, on the other hand, that Star would have been the only one who’d have never left his side, “bonded” by the Blood Moon, since she’s the one who wakes him at the end of the dream.

Reality doesn’t need to exist

A handful of tablets helped me see, a universe where it’s you and me, hand in hand, this is how it’s meant to be

A handful more, I go deeper into a world where I see you making love to me, lust in our eyes, love in our hearts

A handful more, because I cannot let go of this place where I got you first,so I will take another handful


anonymous asked:

i literally don't know how i lost it but i was reading a fic along the lines of "my hearts on fire (how bout yours)" but i cannot find it anywhere. it was about a romeo and juliet (James) thing help pls

This is a pbb fic. You can find it on the phandombigbang blog :]

My Heart’s On Fire (how about yours?) - The entire team that works on “Romeo and James”, a retold version of Shakespeare’s masterpiece “Romeo and Juliet” is full of lovely, funny and kind people that Dan actually enjoys spending time with.But evil takes human form in Philip Michael Lester, the only person on planet earth that Dan would very gladly gift a one-way ticket to Mars, so that he shall never return. (Phil, and Donald Trump perhaps.)

- Tori

I’m laughing so hard because my mind is incredibly (stupid) amusing sometimes, I can’t even xD XDD

It’s about my Lunyx Dirty Dancing fan fiction. I tried to use some elements from the 1987 movie and now I should start writing the final scene, the one where Johnny (Nyx) sneaks into the show theater (treaty ceremony) and takes Baby (Luna) for one last epic and super romantic dance. You know, when they prove themselves being amazing dancers, super in love, and where EVERYONE in the room knows the moves too like in some crazy disney movie. I mean this scene: 

Look at the squad being so smooth. Amazing. Perfection. 

And now look at what the scene looks like in my imagination: 


This is said a lot but not enough

From tumblr we get a lot of body and image loving posts, but we never realise that there are people that will never be satisfied with their bodies. It has come to my attention that Jimin is one of these people. I never knew how bad it was, but it was to the point that he starved himself for bs&t. This was ignored because he’s a man and people take it as a phase. This will most likely follow Jimin for the rest of his life as he is used to exposing his body for the fans. Such as his abs in N.O era.

Using Jimin as an example, I would like to say, you are more than your body. You may not think so, but your body is just the holder to your brain. Of course, without or bodies we cannot do much, but the way it looks should not matter because it is not you.

We have normalised loving your body for too long, of course it’s a positive thing we should keep, but we now have to delve deeper because people are changing their bodies to love it and as results are ending up unhappy and unsatisfied with their bodies. There is not a human being in this world that is untalented. There is no one - absolutely no one - that cannot do something different than others. A pretty face is nothing without a brain.

To armys reading this, Jimin cannot get better without wanting to get better and as his fans, we cannot pressure him into eating/resting. We should not say anything about his appearance unless it is positive. No “I want mochi cheeks back” or “I want muscles” and never say you want him to take his shirt off.

This should not just stop at Jimin or the other members either. This should be spread to everyone. Love people for their present self, not saying you “liked it better before” or they would “look better if” because that’s bullshit. Love people for their minds. Appreciate people’s bodies and don’t tell them to change it.

acastleintheair  asked:

StarkQuill Soulmate: I shipped it before, but now I ship it even more. I swear, it's like I ship something then I read your writing and then I ship it more because you are just THAT GOOD. Anyways, Tony and Peter are adorable in this fic. I love Tony being his small, angry self and taking no shit, even if Peter is his soulmate, but also Peter winning Tony over? My heart. MELTED. Fave line: "I do love me a Spaceman." (it's so memorable??? I literally cannot forget it.)


StarkQuill is such a pure ship and I love Tony being swept off his feet by someone like Peter Quill!

Things Jimin is horrible at:

1. Accepting Hobi’s love. 

Exhibit A

Exhibit B

Exhibit C

Exhibit D

2. Letting someone else love Hobi.

Exhibit A

Exhibit B

Exhibit C

Exhibit D

anonymous asked:

Dear Bex, If you could please kindly never scream "No!" like you did in S4 of Voltron again, it would be greatly appreciated. It broke our hearts hearing you in that much anguish. Our hearts cannot take anymore pain. Thank you.

I love this and I love you anonymous sender this made my night

Sun signs according to people I’ve met


Usually very motivated and energetic, they have a really strong aura around them. I admire them a lot, they seem like cool people and may seem intimidating but are super nice in person! Protective of their loved ones. Goals in terms of swag and athleticism they got. Teach me how to carry myself like you please.


The cutest, most amazing (even if a bit stubborn) friends. Best partners for getting food or watching a movie together. Taurus boys are my cryptonite, Taurus girls are the loves of my life. They are very much real in a sense of being human. Sensual, chill and true, really “earthy”. Fake isn’t in their vocabulary. Seriously I know quite a few Tauruses and I love them all to death. Only problem is when we disagree on something major, neither will back down from the argument.


I always lowkey hate on them, but they aren’t all that bad; Conversations with them are the most fun, and when I am with them I never get bored; I know a lot of male Gemini’s and no female ones sadly; in general they are nice people but usually fuckboys. Probably wouldn’t date one (but flirting with them is a lot of fun). Good sense of humour.


Being a Cancer myself I tend to be drawn to a specific type of Cancer females on social media. Those are the The Moms, their entire vibe is really soft and warm and motherly but also protective and strong. We will cook you dinner because we love you. We are good cooks in general. Foul mouths and will fight you any time. Pretend to be edgy, but we usually aren’t. Crying over our partner (or lack of) all the damn time but usually in private.


Ughh. Leo females are okay but Leo males? They annoy me to no end and I always bicker with them, but at the same time they are usually really charming so :/. Lowkey hate them and their inflated ego but they are good friends which I appreciate. Loud and sooo in your face but loyal and can take you to the most bizarre and amazing places. Overall infuriating 0/10 do not recommend. (Jk)


Okay, so I am biased, but Virgos are literally perfect human beings. They are smart, logical, neat and polished and just ugh. Especially females are really classic beauties with killer fashion sense. Overall all genders seem to have a feminine vibe? It’s sooo hard to get them even remotely interested in you but it’s worth it in the end. Can push you to be the best version of yourself. They can literally step on me. Heart eyes motherfucker.


Oookay, so. Libras are weird, man. It’s hard to dislike them, because they can be so nice but you never know if they are real nice or fake nice. Seems like usually fake tho. They are super gorgeous, in a very luxurious way and their lives are the true aesthetics. First impression is that they are pretty shallow, but I wouldn’t assume that about people without knowing them.


Damn I love Scorpios! Deep af, people I can talk to about my deepest thoughts, discussing occult stuff, cry on their shoulders or just hug it all out m8. I feel super comfortable with them. Best partners for planning an assassination on your ex (or Trump) tbh. Aesthetics on point as well. I am living for that mysterious grunge shit vibe. You go my bros.


Don’t hate me for this, but the only sign I usually cannot stand to keep close are Sags. They are amazing conversationalists with the sharpest minds out there and interesting points of view. Talking to them about basically any topic can take hours and not get boring, and you could take them for an adventure for a week and it would be the best choice. But longterm relationship or friendship? Nah. I do not trust.


I have a lot of Capricorn women in my life and I admire them so much. They are so hardworking, punctual and they sacrifice themselves for their loved ones everyday, in every way. Also their love is so good and true, damn. The Cap stereotype is that they are bad with feelings but I strongly disagree. One of the most amazing signs out there. Protect them and treasure them.


Aw my favourite aliens. Just kidding. They are often misunderstood I think, but they are actually super cool. They are not afraid of being different and that’s a really admirable trait imo. Also the best partners for sharing your conspiracy theories with. If you feel like they just walked all over you, they probably didn’t mean it, they just don’t realize it sometimes? The most interesting people to keep around, if you can tolerate their cold exterior.


Damn you Pisces. Why you all gotta be so unpredictable. I know a great deal of Pisces people and each of them is so different, it is simply impossible to categorize them in any way lol. My brother is a confident social butterfly. One of my friends is an aesthetics grunge queen with a lot of sadness inside. My other friend is pretty shy and introverted with a lot of super weird quirks (probably the only one fitting the usual Pisces category). Another one is a typical nerd who is however pretty choleric and fake on the inside. And another one was the spawn of satan and literally the ugliest and most selfish person I know. What even are Pisces lmao.

This is the last time I write for or about you. This is the last time my pen will bleed thoughts of you onto paper. It’s been six months since the last time we spoke and since then nothing has been easy, every breath, every tear screams of you. My body aches at the thought of you and I cannot take it anymore. You were my brightest light; my shining star and you left me in the darkness that not even I can begin to comprehend. So it is time for me to let go, I have to let go of you, the memories, the laughs and tears we shared together. I am not saying I won’t think of you with every small thing that happens, every cute coffee shop I pass, but I am saying I am no longer going to let it hurt me. I love you, but this, this is my final goodbye.

If you dance with your heart, your body will follow.


ʜᴀᴘᴘʏ ʙɪʀᴛʜᴅᴀʏ ᴋɪᴍ ɴᴀᴍᴊᴏᴏɴ — 19940912
A man who is Nurturing, Appreciative, Mature, Joyous, Observant, Openminded & Noble deserves only the best. Happy birthday our leader ♡ Thank you for being the catalyst and the beginning of the world’s best team. Thank you for being a person who thinks deeply, who reminds us of the world’s beauty amongst its hideousness. Thank you for showing us what’s worth and for guiding us in the direction of your heart. Thank you for being a sturdy leader, an unwavering soul and an emotional companion who inspires the people around him to do better. We respect you a lot and have a million ‘thank yous’ to say that cannot be put into words :’) Happy birthday our leader. We love you ♡.

Don’t you dream impossible things? ✨✨✨

@taylorswift thank you for everything you’ve done for me. Thank you for wanting me there. I still cannot believe it! Thank you for holding my hands because I was shaking and sharing how your music helps me. Thank you for listening to my rambles. Thank you for caring so much about us fans. Thank you for knowing who I am. (!)

Thank you for your magical music. Thank you for reminding me to dream big and be kind to myself. Thank you for bringing so many wonderful people into my life. Thank you for being YOU! I will be ETERNALLY GRATEFUL for you wanting me there and that I finally got meet you and take part in the most magical night ever.🌟
I cannot wait to listen to reputation on repeat and I cannot wait for tour! 💞


Your friend,

let’s just talk for a moment here. 

I’m gonna say itLena Luthor loves Kara Danvers. loves her. and there are soooo many reasons why. 

first, let’s just list the reasons off the bat, then I’ll explain my reasonings. 

  • donuts
  • lip bites/glances/looks
  • the thirst factor
  • food dates
  • meeting Alex
  • gala
  • flowers
  • her heroics
  • “I’ve never stood behind a man” 
  • “I’m here for you, if you still want that”
  • “I miss you”
  • “I didn’t see your name on the by line”/ “unquit”
  • “I trust you”/Catco
  • heart emoji

ok let’s get started:

first, the doughnuts.

 lena is known for eating healthy. she drinks kombucha. she gets kara to probably eat vegetables. y’know the regular. probably is on a no carb diet. we never see her eating anything bad, because she’s probably been preened all her life to be picture perfect and eat only what’s good for you. but here comes her bff, her gal pal kara danvers, traipsing in with a bag of doughnuts. this happened a couple times, actually. lena indulged in a doughnut for kara. 

the lip bites, holy fuck. I’m going to tie this in with the glances too. because holy mother of god. 

lena is always checking kara out, biting her lip (most likely surprising moans bc hot damn she’s in love with this woman) and the looks. the looks of. pure. unadulterated. love. 

I mean you cannot tell me the look on lena’s face is anything but love? come on. even a blind man could tell. 

next, lena’s thirst factor. 

girl, she is always, always, (almost) always seen with a drink when around kara! 

exhibit A: their first meeting, lena has to pause and get herself a damn glass of water

exhibit B: granted, yes they’re at a restaurant, but lena’s got an almost empty glass, bc hot damnvers kara is something. (lets take in account that kara’s glass is empty)

exhibit C: in the most recent episode 3.01, lena is yet again, shown pouring herself some water bc girl is thirsty af 

exhibit D: oh looky here, Lena’s getting a drink. I am pretty sure Kara just makes her speechless and she needs water to talk

exhibit E: y’all see where I’m going with this, right?

their brunch/lunch/dinner/kombucha dates

lena always seems to have a food date with kara. always. I mean it’s one thing to have one on occasion but they’re known to have these? and I know damn well that kara isn’t always the one to initiate them. lena is probably the one to invite her because she’s rich and offers to feed kara’s immense appetite. 

what about the first time lena was introduced to Alex properly?

this. this is the face of jealousy. she shows up unannounced at kara’s apartment (where’d she even get kara’s address?) and sees this beautiful woman in kara’s apartment and she’s jealous af, and Alex doesn’t let on anything. doesn’t, for a split second, let on that she’s kara’s sister, because I’m pretty sure she knew what Lena’s thoughts were. she knew for a flash of a second, lena was actually jealous, but ew gross, kara is her sister, and that’s when kara finally speaks up, and Lena’s face softens, and she remembers what she actually came over for… 

the gala

she invites, not only kara and supergirl to the gala, but kara’s man friend, mike of the interns, because she doesn’t care. if kara’s friends with this person, she figures she can trust this person too, who tf cares if you met them five seconds ago and could’ve easily told him “It’s an elite party, and I’m inviting kara as my plus one, sorry” but no, she extends an invitation to mike of the interns…

the flowers: plumerias

these are plumerias, for anyone who hasn’t seen them before. they come in all different colors, ranging from blues, pinks, purples, melon, peach, yellow and white. they are an exotic flower, and a bit hard to come by. they have to be imported, usually from Hawaii. they have a few different meanings, but in Chinese, they symbolize love. they mean “I love you” and “you are special” 

and kara’s office, just so happens to be overflown with flowers, most likely plumerias because she mentioned they remind her of her mother, and lena would totally import those flowers and fill her office as a thank you to saving her just because she loves kara. and you know damn well she knows what those flowers mean. she’s smart, we’ll touch on this fact later.

lena being a hero

she is.. its a fact. whether it’s supergirl or kara danvers’s hero, national city’s hero, or anyone’s hero, lena is a hero. 

lena chooses kara and being the hero and will always choose kara and being the hero. when it came to saving jack or saving supergirl, she chose kara over her ex-lover. and we can probably assume that because a) lena is young and b) lena is a luthor, jack was probably her only real relationship. she did love him, you could tell with the emotion from the kiss and even the relaxed-ness of her date with him, they were friends. and she did miss is company, though she wouldn’t date him again. yet then it comes to kara, as supergirl, and she has to choose whether to save jack or end his life to save national city’s hero. she chooses to let jack go, therefore ultimately killing him so she can save kara. she also saves kara’s man child boyfriend from the evil daxamite guard. by shooting him with an alien gun. and she and Winn made whatever that thing was under the table at the gala and it stopped those evildoers from attacking supergirl, and the kicker, my favorite, saving the whole population of national city, not once, but fucking twice.

in s2e8 lena, after finding out her mother is the ringleader of CADMUS, and kara ultimately yells at her and accuses her of knowing what her mother did, etc, still saves national city. she undermines her mother, weasels her way onto her mother’s good side, double-crosses her and makes the medusa virus inert, therefore saving national city’s population of aliens when the only friend she had hated her for the moment. she could’ve easily just given in and killed all the aliens, but she didn’t. she chose to save them because she loves kara and her pro-alien bleeding heart views, even when they sometimes disagree and fight. 

and then again in s2e22, lena, and with the help of Lillian, build a device to rid the planet of the daxamites invading earth. a device that sends out lead into the atmosphere. and she knows what it’ll do. she knows that it’s going to send Mon-el away, and you know she was lowkey happy about that, but she knows it’ll put kara through hell, yet she let’s kara make the ultimate decision to choose whether to go on with it, and kara does. supergirl tells them to use the device. and lena yet again, saves everyone, all because she loves kara and kara is her hero.

and let’s not forget the best time lena was a hero and shot Corbin, therefore saving none other than Special Agent Alex Danvers with the DEO… hot damn, she’s my hero.

lena’s never stood behind a man

*eh hem* I’ll just leave these here. two examples of lena never standing behind a man, because she’s independent and fierce, but Kara is always protecting her and she lets kara/supergirl. we know damn well lena can hold her own, she is a Luthor after all, but she lets kara take the forefront and she stands behind her with grace and poise and love and admiration. 

“I’m here for you, if you still want that”

Lena knows the hell kara is going through. she knows that kara lost her man child thing of a boyfriend she liked for five days. and kara is going through hell. and yet, she’s still cautious. I think this is one of the most significant things ever and we’re going to dissect for a second here. in the second image: kara tells lena “I’m right here” letting lena know she can talk to her and she wants her to, she’s almost willing her to. 

yet in the top image, lena adds the “if you still want that”. she is letting kara know a few things here. a) that she feels guilty over the lead being released in the atmosphere b) she doesn’t want to use kara, because she’s not a talker herself. her walls are always built up so sturdy until kara breaks them down with her super strength and c) she doesn’t want to lose kara. she’s letting her know she’s there if kara wants her because its kara’s choice. she’s not going to force kara into being her friend just because kara is the only friend she has in national city and she will be ready to help kara any way she needs when the time comes. 

“I miss you” 

this also follows with the “if you still want that” because she’s telling kara that she’s being ignored, but she’s not pushing. she knows that kara is distancing herself. but she still lets kara know in a subtle way that she’s still here, she still loves her and that she truly misses her best friend. she just misses her. she misses Kara Danvers, the girl she’s falling in love with more and more as each day passes.

“I didn’t see your name on the by line”/”unquit”

now, first off, kara does anything lena suggests. Lena suggests, she become a reporter and guess who becomes one? Kara. lena tells her in such an unprofessional manner to “unquit” her job. and according to my laptop, unquit isn’t even a word, yet it came out of poised, perfect, prestined Lena Luthor’s mouth. “unquit” 

so kara unquits, and lena sends a heart emoji

a red heart emoji. man, do I have some words about this. Lena, you little lesbian in love with your bestie, damn. lena could’ve easily replied back with a “okay” or “sounds great” or even a “see you tomorrow!” or if we’re going the emoji route: a smiley face, a thumbs up, or fuck idk, a yellow heart? because lena is very, very, very smart. and we all know she knows the meanings that colors represent. like how yellow means happiness, friendship, sunshine, and energy, yet miss luthor sent kara a red heart. red meaning love, passion, heat. you can’t tell me she doesn’t know what they meant. she could’ve replied with so many different ways, yet she chooses a red heart.

and lets not forget the last points: lena buys fricken catco–– “I trust you”

lena “I bought your job for you and I have no fucking idea how to run catco” luthor bought a multimillion dollar corporation so a sexist bottle of cheap cologne couldn’t and she has literally no idea how to run the company, yet she’s enlisting and trusting her best friend and the woman she likes to run it with her. she bought kara a company. because kara asked and she 

lena just dropped everything, and potentially could ruin her career for this woman, and she did it all out of love. 

she even admits to not even knowing how to run the place! yet, just because kara asked, she did it. kara says “jump” and lena asks “how high”. the girl will do anything for the woman she loves. 

anyway, so those are my thoughts and reasonings as to why I believe lena is in love with kara. you can agree or disagree, leave your opinions if you like, but if you’re anti-supercorp please do not leave your opinion. 

*please note: gifs and pictures are NOT mine and I will not take credit for them, I simply borrowed them from the internet. also I stg if the gifs don’t load I will cry, I don’t know if they actually will, let’s hope.

edit: none of the gifs loaded I hate everything… oh fucking well, you get my point and y’all probably know what each gif is a scene of anyway… fml

Signs According To People I’ve Met


Usually very motivated and energetic, they have a really strong aura around them. I admire them a lot, they seem like cool people and may seem intimidating but are super nice in person! Protective of their loved ones. Goals in terms of swag and athleticism they got. Teach me how to carry myself like you please.


The cutest, most amazing (even if a bit stubborn) friends. Best partners for getting food or watching a movie together. Taurus boys are my cryptonite, Taurus girls are the loves of my life. They are very much real in a sense of being human. Sensual, chill and true, really “earthy”. Fake isn’t in their vocabulary. Seriously I know quite a few Tauruses and I love them all to death. Only problem is when we disagree on something major, neither will back down from the argument.

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anonymous asked:

If you were to advise young girls on what to look out for in guys, what would some of the things be?

typically my advice is to stay away from men for as long as possible. Odds are that the majority you run into, will hinder your growth. So my advice is to look out for men, rather than look for anything in them.

Cultivate your self-esteem, your passions, become financially independent.

Cultivating self-esteem: i can’t stress this enough, it must be there before you go near men. Most men will damage your self-esteem. It doesn’t even have to be deliberate on their part. It can be something like them not responding to your communication needs and you will turn that inwards, and see that as reflecting your self-worth.

My advice to brown girls is typically the same as well. To build those things first. But then i guess, reluctantly, I do advise them to date. Because they will often be discouraged from dating. And in my experience, no woman from our cultures has managed to get away with not being paired to a man without breaking ties, no matter her initial reluctance. And your parents pickings will definitely be far worse, in that the aim of parents choosing for you (whether anyone admits it or not) is to continue patriarchal control over you.

So coming to what to look for in men:

1) look for how he reacts when you disagree with him. This is the biggest thing imo. Does he get irritated. Does he budge. If he does budge is it reluctant “I guess you’re right”. Do things seem to always be followed by a but. What you want is someone who is impressed and admires you. Not someone who is annoyed that you know better or more, because that would mean he wants to maintain himself above you. Also, men can admire you for being intelligent or opinionated but still manage to reduce you for it: either objectify you or infantilize you. E.g., aw its so cute she knows a lot. OR it’s hot that she knows a lot. Avoid  both. 

2) is the conversation conducive: it’s more than if he is just listening to you and can regurgitate what you’ve told him about yourself. Does the convo have a flow. Do you get to say what you want. Does he hear you out, ask questions, show interest.. or is he just waiting for an entry point in the convo where he can insert himself in order to relate to you. Because the first one feels wholesome whereas the latter, while okay, will make you feel empty in the long run. 
(and i personally like it when i have said what I want, and the guy still stays quiet on the topic until I ask him so ‘what about you’. I like it when they are quiet and don’t speak unless instructed.. this applies for any men in my life not just dating  lmao but anyway)

3) look for how he talks about other women.. what it is that he talks about when he talks about women. Look at how he looks at other women. Ask him about the women he has been attracted to and how he became attracted to them/what about them he liked. Ask this for real women. Ask this about fictional women. Always be mindful of whether he is objectifying women or not. If he is objectifying women, he’s not capable of real love so forget it. How to know whether he is objectifying women or not? Ask yourself if you or any women you have known would become attracted to a man in the same way/same scenario that he is describing to you.

4) Porn, dominance & attraction: this one is by far the hardest for me to describe. It does go in with #3, about how they talk about women. You can ask the guy about his current porn use, age at first exposure. What he thinks about and gets off to lol. But I have found that they give it away in their verbal language and body language. Like the example of the guy I talked about who I had asked who he was attracted to/ if he ever found someone sexually attractive that he did not find emotionally attractive. And he mentioned his boss and then told me how he did fantasize about her, then goes “you know when you wanna put someone in their place….. oh you don’t know??” If a guy “falls for you” real fast, to me that is an indication of him having objectified you. Love takes getting to know. If he seems to have a “type”, i am personally weary of those men. Any type at all. A body type, even a personality type. Because they still manage to reduce women into categories. You cannot and should not fall in love with a category!

5) how he makes you feel about yourself: related to the above. It’s his responsibility to make you feel good about yourself. I have stated elsewhere that I believe, that unless a woman has clinical type self-esteem issues, the average woman’s self-esteem issues in a relationship actually stem from their male partner’s failures. Their male partner is either objectifying other women which comes across subtly in conversations or the way they behave. So if you are not feeling good about yourself while you are with him, you’re not crazy. He is shit. 

6) age old how he treats others: how does he treat people in the service industry. Does he get annoyed when his food at the restaurant takes longer. Life is a game of patience, and he won’t live if he doesn’t have any.

7) sense of responsibility: does he pick up after others. Not just himself. But others. This is observed. But also you can tell from the stories he tells you. What does he do for others? It’s the kind of thing where eg., the house phone rings, who has to go for it or else it goes unanswered? Would he put the dishes in the sink or leave them around for someone else to pick up?

8) what is he telling you about himself: related to above.. When we tell stories, we all want something taken away from them about ourselves. What is he trying to get across? Most men’s stories are about a display of power and dominance, rather than having been helpful. Take notice!

9) How he relates to other men and things deemed feminine: does he have a lot of guy friends (these men are a lost cause lmao). If he tries to distance himself from anything that is related to women, stay away from that man. E.g., he doesn’t watch click flicks… or  watches them cos they are good to watch when you don’t want to think so much. Also relating to #3, you can also check that from how he views female characters in movies, TV shows and books. If he sees their perspective or not. I remember one guy told me that robot girl from ex-machina was crazy, and that’s all he had to say, and i wanted to bash his head in cos of how dumb his thoughts on the movie were….. If he can’t see from the female perspective in shows and books where it is literally spelled out, he lacks emotional depth and empathy. 

I can’t think of more. Over the years I have mentioned quite a few as I came across! But I haven’t interacted much with men as of late so it’s not so fresh anymore. Just look for any display of dominance and dehumanization, both in words and in actions. I do have an advice tag

Say What?

Summary/Request: Why must he be like this?

Pairing: Taron Egerton x reader

Warnings: nothing but pure floof

Word Count: 570 [sorry its so short, yikes]

A/N: I’m so in love with this man; hope y’all enjoy! || main masterlist

Originally posted by glad-dylan-and-taron-came

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