i love you present tense lydia

anonymous asked:

it says in your bio stiles/derek why u hatin.........

I like Stiles/Derek a lot
But yeah, I have a lot of feelings about how the Sterek Fandom at large is misguided.  

Like they claim to care so much about queer representation, and I think a lot of people really do care, but they’ve hitched all their dreams to this queerbaiting garbage pipedream to the exclusion of pushing for attainable and healthy queer representation, and often actively fight AGAINST and erase queer representation that isn’t Sterek.  

I’m just over the tunnel vision on Sterek.
Canon Sterek would be an extremely fraught, stressful, awkward, and unhealthy relationship for the characters as they are in canon.  
People have called me homophobic and hypocritical for this opinion.  People have also said that ANY Sterek would be good Sterek, and they would prefer that Sterek go canon, even if it was done poorly, because it’s so important for Sterek to be canon. 

But why??? 
Why Sterek?
Stiles and Derek are only considered the gold standard of representation because of their overwhelming popularity, which, sorry to say, is based on 20 K of woobified, abuse-romanticizing, wildly OOC, Scott-erasing, bisexual-erasing, canon-divergent fanworks that turn Stiles into a nurturing, jabbering pack mom and Derek into a grunting Edward Cullen wolfman while stomping all over the feminist-ally, sensitive male POC lead we have been gifted in Scott McCall. 

People don’t see the difference between the need for diversity and positive queer representation and their own panting over a slash ship.
They see it as just as urgent for their favorite ship to be clumsily and forcefully ham-fisted into canon as it is for the show to include queer characters and characters of color as fully-integrated leads.

What this does is belittle queer PEOPLE as fully-realized human beings, and reduce us to popular slash couples between straight white cis dudes.

Also, loud voices in the Sterek fan camp conflate their favorite ship going canon with the absoulte end-all, be-all of social justice and queer representation, and liken criticism or even dislike of Sterek with homophobia. 

They also have a really gross and oppressive tendency to bash and belittle women, and to deny the importance of positive representation for women, people of color, and other queer characters, instead screeching about the all-encompassing importance of STEREK AS QUEER REPRESENTATION.

Danny should get so much more support and love from the Teen Wolf Slash fanbase, and there should be much more pressure on Jeff to cut it out with tokenism, heterosexism, cowardice, and queerbaiting, especially in regards to dangling Ambiguously Bisexual!Stiles and Isaac in front of our noses, and bringing Caitlin back to (it looks like) be a LI for Stiles rather than, say, a healthy love interest for Lydia, which would queer a main character in a really interesting and enriching way.

It’s fine to ship Sterek as your main or only ship, but as far as healthy representation goes it is about the LAST thing I’d want to see realized on Teen Wolf at this point.  Slow-build? Maybe. 
But there’s SO MUCH MORE potential for any number of other pairings, and even just to have queer characters who are single, or not defined by their sexual and romantic relationships.  Simply for Stiles and/or Lydia to be openly bisexual, even if they never dated again in-show, would be HUGE and would present fully-fleshed-out, non-stereotypical, well-loved queer characters.
 
But you want a queer romance based on chemistry and slow-build between main characters?
Of course you do!!
Scisaac, Scallisaac, Stanny, Isaac/Danny, Allydia, are all vastly superior in how they would work in canon and represent a normal, healthy queer relationship on a show about teenagers.

So yeah, I like Stiles and Derek- that kind of tense frenemy ship does it for me.  I like them doing the nasty, but the fact is Sterek is a fandom behemouth which focuses attention on queerbaiting cute white cismen rather than talking about real issues TW should be working on.

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