i think the main reason people think malec is too rushed is because most of the audience is pretty young so a lot of people don't have a full idea of a steady long term relationship versus starting/rekindling one
i think this is partly true, yeah, some of the reactions i see to malec in general seems like it comes from a place of…ppl who either haven’t ever been in a relationship before or don’t understand how healthy adult relationships work. it’s an odd mentality where couples never fight dirty, where separations are the end of love as we know it, that a relationship has to be overwhelmingly intense right off the bat instead of a careful series of steps that build up.
like, listen, i know alec said he couldn’t live without magnus but that’s bc alec is goddamn Extra; this is the same guy who declared “jace is dead to me” and then made up with him with an eyeroll the next day. the truth is, magnus and alec are perfectly capable of functioning without each other. we’ve seen it, actually. but the point is they don’t want to because it sucks and they miss each other and they’re always thinking about the other person bc they’re so used to each other’s company. they’re not together because they have to be; they’re together because they want to be bc they don’t like being apart.
anyway, magnus and alec are definitely in love and they have a very strong relationship, but like they’ve said before, this is new. and it’s still new and they’re still working on it. it feels like ppl view them as if they’re already sending out wedding invites and adopting kids right now instead of tentatively making a commitment to work on continuing to be with each other.