Destiel, sensuality and sexuality
Okay, I am writing my ask it this way, because I would like to ask everyone out there what they think about this. After reading this meta about reasons why Cas and Dean have not yet started bumping uglies (other than the narrative, I mean), I started thinking about the corporal part of their relationship (no, not in THAT way).
I mean, no one can deny their obvious emotional connection, “a profound bond”, but yeah, that is not the only aspect of a love relationship there is, right? If anyone knows that, it’s people here on Tumblr.
And as much as I don’t care about sex scenes between the two of them (okay, maybe ONE. One cute, passionate sex scene should be there), I want them to have a sweet, sensual relationship because I believe sensuality is a big part of feeling happy and safe with your loved ones - hugs, kisses, cuddles, and yes, orgasms too.
We know Dean is very sensual, we saw him talk about it enough, and as much of a macho man as he wants to be seen, he is a big softie, who would do anything for his lover. So no problems there.
But how does it translate to Cas, an Angel of the Lord, a walking pillar of marble - even if he loses his grace at some point? I still can’t figure out where he stands on the sexual spectrum, if he is attracted to Dean in a sexual way (since I remember somebody said that he doesn’t even see him as a body, just a spirit?)(but then why was he sassy that he looked like a lumberjack?), and if he enjoys (or even feels) touch? Is it something that he can learn as well, like emotions? Do you think it’s true that his body reacts to women (like the porn he watched) because Jimmy had a set sexual orientation? I know he hugs people a lot, but is it something he enjoys sensually, or just a symbolic gesture of love that he learned?
I personally thought that it was very good that Cas experienced sex since it is such a big part of the human experience (plus he learns human experience from Dean, so sex is a big part of that), but I don’t know how much of a sexual being he actually is while being human. As to endverse!Cas, I think he just, once again, inherited Dean’s default coping mechanisms, i.e. booze, drugs and women, so it’s hard to judge from his behavior there.
Can sex and sensuality be something he would do for Dean, even though he has no interest in it, or maybe he will start having an interest in it once he will see how important it is for Dean? Would he be a demisexual, where his sexual drive comes from the emiotional connection? Would Dean somehow teach him about this part of humanity as well?