Hey. So... I want to start this by saying this message does not come from a place of hate. Only genuine upset (and certainly not at you.) I saw a post you made about loving and supporting wives as much as the actor - but here's my thing... I love Gen. Absolutely adore her. Same for Sarah Sheppard. But... I don't love Danneel. Not because I'm jealous of what she has, but because I am angry that she doesn't seem to treat Jensen with the love he deserves. I to this moment have never seen
(2/4)a single photo of the two of them where Jensen seems to be as goofy, happy, and /himself/ as he usually is in photos with his close friends and other family. The only exception being at their wedding. And my thing is… I just feel like each of these men and women on the show deserve so much love and warmth and joy. But I’ve never gotten the vibe from Danneel that she is as in love with Jensen as Gen is with Jared or as Sarah is with Mark, etc. I’m not saying this with hatred; honestly, I’m not,
(¾)but I just have to ask; do you genuinely feel like we should blindly love Danneel simply because we love Jensen…? I think she is an individual person, too, and I just don’t like the overwhelming feeling I get that she just doesn’t treat him with the outpouring of love and respect and happiness that she should. I know every relationship is different; but theirs is just on another level. All it takes is one look at pics of Gen and Jared, then at Jensen and Danneel to see how empty they seem..
(4/4)Anyway. I just want to reemphasize that I have a lot of love for all the wives/husbands/SOs, I really do, because they all show in some small ways (and for some, big ways too) how much they love & care for their loved ones, even in times of hardship (relationships aren’t easy, especially long distance ones.) But I don’t see that with Danneel. it genuinely upsets me, for her family, for Jensen. I hope I’m wrong, I do, because those kids deserve happy parents; but it just doesn’t feel that way. :/
This is… a lot. Like, a lot hot damn. Okay.
I think every single person expresses their love differently. It doesn’t need to be on social media. Maybe Danneel doesn’t do the whole PDA thing - saying that because I’m the same way - and she’d rather keep her love for Jensen private. We have no idea what goes on behind the scenes of their relationship. They’ve both been in the spotlight for so long, and maybe she would just rather keep their intimacy out of that spotlight.
They have a home, they have three beautiful children, they have a life outside of acting. What happens within the walls of that home, with one another and with those kids? That’s none of our business as fans, no matter how much the actors mean to us, and I think that’s something that a lot of people forget.
Jensen has specifically said that he prefers being private about his home life. We didn’t see pictures of any of the kids until a little while after they all were born, and we just heard JJ’s voice for the first time when Jensen posted the video of the playing the elevator game. She’s going to be four years old, and we just heard her voice.
They’re a private family, and that’s fine. We have absolutely no right to be that deep in their lives, and we’re damn lucky they share as much with us as they do.
As far as thinking that we should blindly love Danneel just because we love Jensen? I don’t think we should blindly love anyone, but if you claim to love Jensen, I think you also need to appreciate his wife. If you “love” Jensen, you should have enough respect for him to realize that he does have a wife and family, he does have a life outside of Supernatural, and he does not have to let us into that life. But he does. And that’s incredible.
*clears throat* END RANT.