i love a good label

hello I love wlw so much? lesbians and bi girls and pan girls & wlw who don’t want a label and wlw who want one but don’t know what label they are right now, just that they definitely like girls - it’s okay, that’s fine, you’ll get there eventually, I promise, and I love you. whatever label you decide is good & you’re just as much of a wlw. we are all strong and valuable and united in our love for other girls and we’re all brave and unique. we are all worthwhile & we should all have each other’s backs. other people will try to divide us so we need to be there for each other. our different orientations all bring valuable experiences & insights to the community & that should be respected & treasured. no orientation is ‘more’ wlw than any other. we all like girls & we are all important.

anonymous asked:

taking advantage of anon being on.... youre a cool guy and very confident. Im not. At all. Confident that is. Ive gained a lot of weight and due to meds i cant seem to lose anything despite rigorous exercise and eating well (it just made me into a bitch) so in turn ive been cutting back since ive seen no progress. in turn, how can i accept my body and ME for ME?? I accept that Im 5'2 and 160lbs girl. but its like i need outside validation always so i hunker down in oversized clothes all the time

I know this breaks the rules, but please read the tags…

And another thing! of an acquaintance of mine (who used to be in choir with me)
She’s an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) (proudly, too), talks about it a lot and even showed me a book on the matter. Which you know, is really cool. Till a while ago that stuff was mainly considered humbug or unimportant. Anyway, good for her. I feel her. I love me some labels that explain my identity.
However we talked and she ended up saying “you’re totally also an HSP!” because we talked about being introverted and not being able to handle people or loud noises. Like. Yay. A person to relate to! I kind of admired how she told me she isn’t embarassed about covering her ears or anything like that when things are too loud. I’m kind of jealous that she is so casual about it, for some reason these things are very difficult for me?
Anyway the thing that kind of irritated me was she completely dismissing me when I said “you know, I also show a lot of autistic traits, so I might not necessarily be an HSP, but autistic” by replying “you know, autistic people aren’t really aware of it like that, so it’s probably unlikely.”

Aannd fast forward a few months and also a year. We don’t see very often because she’s quit choir but every time I still see her she keeps asking me stuff and referring to me as highly sensitive

You know as I re-read this, I sound really unnecessarily butthurt, but something about the way she treated me still really irritates me

anonymous asked:

So, as a long-time lurker in fandom, but not super-involved, I know the common courtesy in fandom is to ask before you remix another author's fics or write in their universe. However, there has been some drama around that in one of my fandoms and it got me thinking about how that came to be and when it became accepted practice. As someone who has been around fandom for a long time, I figured you would be a good person to ask. Thanks in advance for letting me use you as a sort of fandom historian

I feel like it’s probably a very old unwritten rule. I never encountered it in X-Files fandom in the 90s but on the other hand, remixing wasn’t really even a done thing at that point, at least in that fandom. The concept of “remix” wasn’t something I encountered until Musesfool on LJ began having remix festivals every year in the early 2000s. That may actually be where the whole concept comes from, though perhaps there were zines or boards dedicated to it earlier. In the remix fest, you took a fanfic and rewrote it in a different style or from another POV, but you were assigned a specific person to remix and they were a participant too. So the only fics that were remixed were ones that people had given consent to have remixed. There was a very clear line around people who hadn’t consented to having their work messed with. 

In a broader sense, “remixing” has happened for centuries; Shakespeare did a lot of it, and he’s generally the go-to example, but the ancient Romans were quite fond of remixing Greek narratives and arts even before Christianity came on the scene. The idea of remixing probably began with religious syncretism (where a dominant invading culture takes the local faith and renames the gods, or builds their own temples over earlier temples of the locals), but that was also usually the product of invasion/appropriation. It wasn’t permitted, it was just that the appropriated culture had no power to stop their invaders from doing it – and, since it often meant they got to keep their holy days and sacred spaces under new names, they weren’t always inclined to try to stop it. 

Even in Shakespeare’s case, though, he wouldn’t have taken, say, another living playwright’s play, rewritten the dialogue, and presented it as his own. Or if he did, he’d be censured by his colleagues. He took old, old stories. Lines from obscure epics, tales from Suetonius, the histories of local royalty, the ancient tropes of commedia and farce that mainland Europe inherited from the Romans who nicked it off the Greeks. Shakespeare stole from all over, but he was a grave-robber, not a highwayman, and that’s generally been the case with famous writers who took from other sources. 

(At least so far as I know. Shakespeare nerds, feel free to tell me stories of plagiarism scandals I may not have heard about, I love a good dead scandal. The point will remain – if you steal from the living, you get in hot water for it.) 

The question of who owns an idea is a deep one, which is why this discussion gets tricky fast. But remixing the work of someone who is living, without their permission to do so, is generally frowned upon because we believe this infringes on their right to earn off their work, be that money (as in the workplace) or social capital (as in fandom and to some extent in academia). An exception is if you’re making a specific statement about their work, in which case you’re usually saying “Come at me, bro” and it’s understood you’re still not taking credit for someone else’s idea. Sometimes it’s a glorification thing, like with Warhol’s obsession with commercial graphic design and popular imagery. In both cases, the original work being remixed is generally so recognizable that everyone knows it’s a remix and it’s therefore a statement rather than a theft. Usually the remixing of a popular property in a critical way is confined to aggressive protest where you can generally look at the original property and say “Yeah, they had that coming.”   

Fandom straddles a line, however, because we often remix the original canon out of love for it, or out of a frustrated sense of “I love this story but THIS ONE PART MAKES ME CRAZY CAN WE FIX IT”. We remix to queer canon, to racebend and genderbend, to save the life of a character, to fix a perceived injustice, to put our heroes into lives more like ours, or just to see “what would happen if we changed this one thing?" 

So if we can do it to canon, why can’t we do it to each other? Well, mainly because our remixing of canon is a Warhol glorification – everyone knows the foundation idea isn’t ours, and that we’re playing in the sandbox, not charging admission to it. If you remix a fanfic, people won’t necessarily know the idea wasn’t yours – and if you link to what you remixed without asking, you may come off less "I love your fic like Warhol loves soup labels” and more “I think your fanfic wasn’t good enough and I don’t care enough about you as an individual to ask first before I fix it." 

Which is why you ask. More communication is better than less, and if you ask, the writer knows that you love their idea, rather than hating their execution. And it means if they say no, and you respect that, you’re not humiliating them in public by implying you think their work was inadequate. 

Asking permission to Do A Thing in fandom is a way of making sure people don’t get hurt. The creators of our canon have power we don’t; their message is disseminated to a much vaster audience and they’re paid for it. The creator of a fanwork that someone wants to remix doesn’t have that power, and they’re an equal, so if you remix without asking you’re taking a shot across the bow with a cannon, not throwing pebbles at a window. 

Pantomime by Laura Lam

[Goodreads]

R. H. Ragona’s Circus of Magic is the greatest circus of Ellada. Nestled among the glowing blue Penglass—remnants of a mysterious civilization long gone—are wonders beyond the wildest imagination. It’s a place where anything seems possible, where if you close your eyes you can believe that the magic and knowledge of the vanished Chimaera is still there. It’s a place where anyone can hide.

Iphigenia Laurus, or Gene, the daughter of a noble family, is uncomfortable in corsets and crinoline, and prefers climbing trees to debutante balls. Micah Grey, a runaway living on the streets, joins the circus as an aerialist’s apprentice and soon becomes the circus’s rising star.

But Gene and Micah have balancing acts of their own to perform, and a secret in their blood that could unlock the mysteries of Ellada.

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Just a quick reminder that this process isn’t for us.

It’s not supposed to be interesting to us or fun for us. This process isn’t for the fans - this process is for the public, and also through that, for Louis as well.

Everything is a blip in the public. People who read tabloids know not everything is accurate. But what won’t be a blip is that the name Louis Tomlinson is actually a name they can associate with a face.

I know this is boring and sometimes yucky, but no matter how the rest of the break goes, we will have Louis and the other boys back in June, and Louis will have his name known likely in both the U.S. and UK, and perhaps throughout most parts of the world.

i know that all will be revealed from the band members’ own mouths in due time but like………… can they tell us which ones are on #teamcap and which ones are on #teamironman in the meantime

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I realised today that sometimes in this fandom, and perhaps more particularly, the Harry&Louis part, we lose sight of what it is we’re even doing here. We get distracted (and rightly so) by tours, interviews, tweets, instagrams, and videos of the boys – as well as fighting, drama, anon hate, and dragging each other within the fandom to the point where many lose sight of what brought us together in the first place. For a lot of people, that’s the music, and for others, it’s Harry&Louis – and others, it’s a combination of the two. We look at every new event or interview with microscopic tunnel vision, looking at Harry or Louis for some sign of interaction to the point where we need to watch the video back two, three, four times just to be content there was/wasn’t something there, as well as to even register what it is the band is doing. We take out fine tooth combs to scour the internet and sources and articles, looking for links and missing puzzle pieces and things that management or journalists were too sloppy (or too cocky) to leave out. The supporters of Harry&Louis are so caught up in reinforcing that we’ve forgotten how to remember – to remind ourselves why we’re here and what we’re doing all of this for. And to me, it’s love. The fact that it’s happening between two men or within the world’s biggest band is of course extremely significant, as LGTBQ+ representation in today’s society is something you hardly see, and when you do, you have to hold onto it and fight for it. But beneath it all, at the very base level, it’s love that we’re advocating for and fighting with. Personally, I’d rather people think I had wasted months or years of my life believing that two people were in love than to have dedicated the same amount of time to harassing, bullying, and abusing strangers on the internet for their beliefs. I think the supporters within this fandom need to be reminded that we’re here because we believe in love, and that’s always more powerful than hate, even if it’s hard to remember that with a full inbox of anons or shitty tags or comments on an otherwise harmless post.

So this video, to me, is the perfect way to remind everyone who supports Harry&Louis of why we’re here and what we’re doing blogging our lives away – it’s for love. Their love, yes, but when you think about it, we’re held together by it, proving that it’s a force to be reckoned with. Take a moment of your day to remind yourself of love and watch the video, then go back to your regularly scheduled examination of that stranger whose girlfriend is the second cousin of that one person who stood next to Louis in April, then was spotted with Harry in July, because your thorough examination and powers of deduction are scarily brilliant. And everyone else in the fandom, don’t let the anti’s get you down - because I know where I’d rather be standing when it all comes out in the wash.

[Rainbow Direction | Video]

It pisses me off that people will say a male character is transgender or cis!Male if they look or act a bit feminine
There’s nothing wrong with it
But why can’t a male character just be a guy who wants to look pretty, or they’re into girly things?
There are people like that out there.
If that’s what the character was meant to be then let them be.