Would you mind my asking... what made you want to be an anti, and then not be one?
I was anti because I was told to be. I felt like I had no choice
anyways. At the time it felt like everyone was an anti, or at least all
the klance shippers were and that for me that would be my only option to
see all this cool stuff. I don’t think there was a time I ever wanted
to be an anti, it kind of just felt expected of me. I was a klance
shipper, a minor, LGBT+, etc, I basically checked every box for anti so I
sort of slotted myself in like everyone was telling me to.
I was never comfortable in that role. I was never comfortable when i
was online because I was on edge all the time. I had to be on the
lookout for all these different things and if I wasn’t then I was a
horrible person. It got exhausting, being so angry and bitter all the
time. My mental health, which was already piss poor at the time,
basically shattered. I was anxious and upset all the time and the fandom
wasn’t even fun anymore, especially not when I began to see a lot of
the harassment shaladins were getting.
It made me so upset
that this group that was supposed to protect people like me was really
just tearing them down if they didn’t fit into this cookie cutter
community, and I am not just talking about ships. People who don’t fit
into a mold of a pastel minimalist aesthetic are sort of… ignored. I
read on the results of the discourse survey that one anti wouldn’t make
an icon edit for someone just because they had a ‘cringy’ url. It just
felt so cliqueish and shady and as somebody who was bullied a lot
growing up for not fitting it, I hated it.
At this time too I
had also discovered a Shklance fic and had fallen in love with it. I
hadn’t seen the Shiro tag on it, and thought it was just klance and by
the time I realized my mistake it was too late, I was in way too deep.
But I was angry about it either. The relationship shown wasn’t
pedophilic, it was mutual, respectful, and mature much more so than I
had seen demonstrated in most klance fics.
So, I went
neutral. I figured if I was neutral I could reblog klance content (which
was all I ever wanted to do) and stay out of the discourse.
Unfortunately that’s not enough around here. I was literally called a
rapist by an anon not long after dropping my new stance of neutrality,
and that got me boiling. I started reading up on things and actually
seeking out opinions from both sides of the fandom instead of being
spoon fed what people wanted me to believe and I was horrified more by
how the antis were supposedly eradicating these issues in the fandom. If
you think that telling somebody to kill themselves is anyway beneficial
to literally anyone you’re a damn hateful fool.
I would love
to say that not all antis are like that, but over the past month or so I
can count on one hand the number of antis who I consider to be kind
people. Not all of them are going out there and telling others to kill
themselves over shipping, but every time you like/reblog a post of
someone telling another person to go choke, even just in the tags,
you’re encouraging harassment. By sitting there and saying ‘not all
antis!!’ yet refusing to block or even just unfollow antis who do that
kind of shit, you’re just idly supporting it. People are harassing
others around here because it gets them followers. By continuing to
support them you are supporting their behavior. Cut off their validation
and just unfollow them.
Maybe you think that there are
cases when people serve to be harassed, not even for shipping just for
being a quirky person and not liking all the Pure Babies uwu on tumblr,
and if you do go fuck yourself. I was a kid who was bullied to
the point of tears daily and do you know what my school counselor told
my mother? That because I was weird, and a little shy, and a little
behind on social cues, that I deserved to be excluded, made fun of, and
(more recently) sexually harassed by my peers.
You want to
protect minors? Stop fucking hiding behind a crusade on tumblr and take
the goddamn initiative. Don’t follow people who promote harassment.
Don’t let your friends make fun of people because they have weird
habits. Drop cringe culture.
If you are upset by shaladin
content, then just unfollow/block the creators. Better yet, download
xKit and prevent yourself from seeing that shit in the first place
(washboard is the mobile version). You can be an anti without supporting
harassment, but if you are one of those antis who think it’s funny when
one you guys gets fucking arrested for harassing a woman on twitter,
telling her to burn because she wouldn’t give them the twitter handle
klance, please realize that you are not a kind person and don’t call
TLDR: I was anti because I was told to be, I become pro because I was absolutely disgusted by antis.