Hey! So my bf had enough of me not showing enough affection. He hates that I don't like kissing that much, holding hands, cuddling and other things. I need a lot of space, I feel suffocated when he tries so hard and I feel bad about it but I can't help it. I really do love him but idk what's wrong with me. What placements can be the reason I'm like that?
you could show affection in another way
air moon/venus (shows affection in a more communicative way, with flirting/verbal teasing and generally physical affection can seem more unappealing to these placements)
earth moon/venus (shows affection in a more practical way, with helpful opinions or just doing whatever their partner needs instead of physical closeness all the time with maybe the exception of taurus)
moon or venus aspecting saturn (it can either indicates being in a way afraid of getting close or that the individual is too used to being alone so the physical closeness can be too much)
moon or venus aspecting uranus (similar to saturn but with the exception of more fluctuation and differences in how they express affection depending on how they’re feeling or other placements)
you could have a synastry chart filled with saturn or moon.
maybe his moon makes contact to a lot of your outer planets which can be more rigid and he tries to soften you up with affection like the moon would
maybe you have a lot of planets especially personal planets in his 3rd, 11th, maybe 7th and that could make you more drawn to the platonic or mundane parts of the relationship