Hey! Since you know a lot about how BDSM really works, I'd LOVE to know some of your fave fics that portray BDSM correctly? Got any good 1D recs that you agree with?
Switch Out the Batteries by loadedgunn and Istajmaal has EXCELLENT and well negotiated kink, discussion, and aftercare. It also has (consensual) group sex in it, opt out of the later chapters if that’s not your thing! I personally think all of Loadedgunn’s fic, even the ones with problematic age gaps and power differentials, have well negotiated and well written, realistic kink when the sex actually comes into play.
I also think NO Sweeter Innocence than Our Gentle Sin by Teumessian has excellent kink negotiation and discussion, but its a threesome negotiation with Zayn and Larry. Very well done though.
Eleadore’s amazing fertility kink fic we can take the log way home has really sweet and well done discussion of kinks and communication, but it’s not necessarily BDSM. It’s one of my favorite fics ever though and I love it! It’s a good example of communication surrounding kink being something difficult but ultimately rewarding if executed properly.
This author left the fandom in 2012, but her fic is AMAZING and has really well discussed kink. In lots of the stories, it starts out good and working with very little communication because they’re young an inexperienced, and later puzzle through their mistakes and communication when it STOPS working. There are heartbreaking moments and moments with bad kink practice, but they always get discussed and remedied. Really well done.