i know you hate when people do this in movies

(this is in response to the anons but is ok to reblog) 

the idea that butch women spend their lives preying on women is so fucking fresh to me when so many butch women I know live in fear. so many butch women I know are traumatized. and have not only been harassed and assaulted, physically or emotionally, by men, but also have been scapegoated, demonized, and hated openly by straight women. 

we are portrayed in tv shows and movies as grotesque and twisted and predatory, and that shit stays in the subconscious of straight people who then panic when they see us when we’re just trying to live our damn lives. it’s exhausting to have that much vitriol thrown at you just for trying to breathe. not wearing makeup, wearing androgynous clothes, that’s shit I do just to breathe because of how male violence and misogyny have left scars on my concept of myself. 

there was a period of time when I couldn’t change out in the open in the locker room in middle school, when I wasn’t even visibly gnc yet, because straight girls, who had grown up seeing twisted portrayals of lesbians in the media, decided to try and get me thrown out of school for “sexual harassment” that I never committed. I’d barely even talked to these girls. afterwards I literally had a panic attack every time I formed a new friendship with a girl because I was worried about coming off as creepy just for wanting friends. 

you can’t come lecture that butches as creepy dudebros isn’t a stereotype when I can only count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen a butch women on screen who wasn’t a creep, and yet I’ve never met any butch like that irl, and as I’ve said I’ve met more of us who are afraid of receiving violence than who would ever dare to try and commit it. there’s far, far more documentation of butch women being targeted, assaulted, killed even, throughout history, than there is documentation of butch women perpetuating violence. the strongest paper trail I’ve seen in favor of butches being “creeps” is books/tv shows written by straight men who have an irrational rage / fetishizing anger against lesbian women. so I guess if you wanna trust straight men to write our narratives go ahead.

you’ve had a butch or gender nonconforming woman be rude to you or harass you IRL? I’m genuinely sorry, that person can choke. of course individuals can act like creeps, so there are butch women who are creeps. but don’t act like it’s a systemic deal, or that all of us fit your charicature of us, because if you’re gonna play that game, trust me, I can counter thoroughly with accounts of feminine women, mostly straight women, being predatory and abusive and creepy towards me for being gnc / a dyke. I have metaphorical file folders outpouring with incidents of them sexualizing me (even as a child), scapegoating me, making up lies and slander to get me in trouble, sexually harassing me and then telling me they know I secretly liked it, invading my boundaries, etc. 

I learned from feminine women, again mostly straight women, that my face wasn’t acceptable without makeup. that if I didn’t wanna be called an ugly dyke I could never ever talk about wanting to have sex with a woman, and I would have to be perfectly feminine. I was taunted about how gross gay sex was by women far older than me before I’d ever had sex. THAT was predatory. and even after all that, you still don’t see me coming out here with these universal statements of “feminine women are predators and shouldn’t be trusted”. so don’t bother going down that road with me about butches. 

anonymous asked:

What do you do when you get to the point where you hate everything you write?

Honestly? Stop writing. 

Take a break from writing. Look at things that you love, that make you excited about life. I know that, for me, reading Tolkien’s works and watching movies with great stories like Midnight in Paris and Moulin Rouge always get me excited about writing. 

Then look at yourself. Are you writing to be famous? To make other people happy? Do you feel like you should have made more progress than you have? What has changed from when you loved writing to know? Have you made your story too difficult or complicated that it feels like homework instead of fun? 

I recommend reading over the old stuff that you wrote when you loved writing. Don’t allow yourself to judge what you’ve written, because we all learn as we write. For me, my middle school writing is awful, but I can see what I loved about writing in it. 

Just take some time to yourself and let yourself feel that excitement that you used to feel about writing. If you have something more specific that you are struggling with about it, then feel free to message us again and we can give more specific advice. I’m sorry that you’re going through them. I’ve been there and it’s awful. But you CAN GET THROUGH IT FRIEND. 

Hope this helps. Let us know if you have more questions.

–Dianne

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an infinite list of amazing movies 

love actually (2003)

“Often, it’s not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it’s always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge; they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I’ve got a sneaky feeling you’ll find that love, actually, is all around. “

So I stole a set of nesting tables from my grandmother’s house - they were filthy and ugly, but I spent all afternoon and evening scrubbing, sanding and painting them, and they are going to be lovely when I’m finished with them. As I was doing this, I watched all three of the Grudge movies, since I’ve been on a weird early-2000s horror kick recently. Anyway I think the Grudges are actually pretty interesting, you know, from a spirit-worker kind of perspective, talking about things that live on as fragments and how these fragments affect people (but in a super overblown Hollywood way, of course). And I just found myself wishing over and over that all of this Bad Evil Hate Energy in the movies was, like, counteracted by incidents of genuine, unprompted kindness. Not because I think every movie should have a Message, just because I think that would make such a fun story. Like, if in the first movie Kayako’s spirit had come to murder Clea Duvall and instead of being like o no! a horrifying ghost! Clea Duvall had greeted her with real sympathy, oh my god, you poor thing, what happened to your mouth, that looks - pretty sore - I think we have some antiseptic around here somewhere, sit down, I’ll make you tea, maybe with some brandy in it? You’re so pale, have you had a shock? Do you want a bobbin to keep your hair out of your face? Here, have mine, let me get you a hot water bottle, you’re freezing.

Anyway obviously this turned into me wishing for a movie series about an old lady ghost hunter who just goes into haunted houses and grandmothers the fuck out of wicked, vengeful spirits. Yes, yes, the walls are bleeding again, I see it. You’re very clever. Now come here to me, would you, I’ve made you some hot chocolate to drink while the apple pie bakes. Of course there are marshmallows in it. Oh, no, pet, you’re just covered in muck, you’re trailing it all over the kitchen. Stand here while I get the mop. Yes, you can have your hot chocolate. You were murdered by your jealous lover, you said? Oh dear, isn’t that dreadful. Here, you just shake out your dress into the bin, get rid of those spiders for me, love. Now. Let’s have ourselves a nice sit-down and you can tell me all about it.

Why I loved Split and hate people who are easily triggered

Look, I know I’m gonna get a whole bunch of hate for this..but quite frankly, I don’t give a shit. I LOVED the movie Split. I am a person who aspires to become a psychiatrist when I get older..and this movie, while I do know that it does not represent ALL who are diagnosed with the disorder DID, it made me even MORE interested in the topic. Things like DID are what MADE ME become interested in psychology. It made me become interested in how the human mind works and what a mystery it truly can be at times.
I want to HELP people like this, I want to help them get through their tough times. I want to understand them, get to know them.
***This post has spoilers to Split..so for those of you who DO want to see it and care about spoilers..do not proceed past this point.***
Now, to me, this was barely a horror film. If anything it was a thriller. I found my heart pounding during scenes where one of the girls would attempt to escape. The ONLY time I felt horrified was when Casey’s uncle started with that ‘come be an animal with me’ bullshit. It was disgusting. It made me physically sick to my stomach and it disturbed me on so many levels. As a matter of fact, it haunts me to this day, that one scene had more of a horrific impact on me than ANY OTHER part of the movie.
Then it briefly delves into Kevin’s backstory, and it explains so much that the descriptions and trailers that you boycotters have been reading and watching doesn’t. When he was younger, his mother would punish him in awful, mentally scarring ways when he stepped out of line, hence the 'Dennis’ personality. His other personalities weren’t evil..they were normal people. Like Barry, for example, he loved fashion, designing clothes is his passion. Another one seems to be a scholar. Jade is a woman, very sassy, but seems to be that person you would always want as a friend. It made me sympathize with him. Made me love his character even more. I was not scared of him, I did not view him as the bad guy. Neither did my friend who went with us to see this movie. And before you claim that I did not see him this way due to my love of psychology, my friend who also did not see him this way isn’t interested in the human mind. She isn’t interested in becoming a psychiatrist like I am. We both viewed the uncle as the most villainous character, believe it or not. We felt awful for Casey having to go through that at such a young age. NO ONE should have to suffer such a trauma. What’s worse is that she was stuck with him after her dad died..and I have the sneaking suspicion that he found out what his brother had been doing and THAT had caused him to have the heart attack.
Kevin’s disorder did NOT give him superpowers. He was born with them. This movie takes place in the same realm of 'Unbreakable.’ A superhero movie. Kevin merely buried these powers deep down.
In the end, we (my family and I) loved Kevin. We loved his character and we felt bad for him. We were upset about what he had went through. We felt bad for Casey as well. This was an emotional roller coater for me..and I loved every bit of the ride.
People who have not seen the movie, please stop. There is more to Kevin’s character than the two evil personalities, he is an amazing character whom I love dearly.
Thank you for reading! Xoxo
-Harleen

i hate/love when marvel or dc movies come out bc all the pseudo misogynistic gate keeping Guy Nerds are like “ugh watch every girl claim to like harley quinn all of a sudden” or “did you even read the young avengers or super boy???”

1) it pisses me off bc as a marvel fan of over 14 years you need to shut up and let people enjoy THINGS. like leonard i personally do not care if that girl does or does not know who puddin is or knows what Yggdrasil is, she’s gonna watch that movie and have a good time so take several seats.

2) it gives me the opportunity to act like i know nothing about comic books just to annoy these day old bowl of cereal excuses for men.
i.e.,
him: im sure you you haven’t read ____?me: oh no go ahead tell me about (even tho i sure as hell did)
him: *goes on a lengthy explanation using simple words and dumbing it down for me*
me: uh huh. yeah sounds dumb. so anyway
him: *screams*

God I hate the angry macho military men trope

Like he’s some anti nature prick who likes shooting people or animals.

And the worst thing, though, is when it’s glorified.

Like…this is really an American thing.

We glorify violence and combat.

So military guys, you know, we celebrate them as our ultimate heroes and then you see them in movies.

They’re like “brothers” right?

They die for each other and…you think that that’s fine, you think they’re protecting one another…

But do you see how that’s why soldiers are capable of committing murder…?

Most of us are taught that killing other people is wrong.

But the military and the police and other suitable professors desensitize you to that.

Especially in the military.

It’s scary actually, I had to read theories about military cults.

They make you see yourself and your unit as the most important thing in the world.

They make “us vs them.”

And you say but they protect us! They protect America!

No.

They protect one another. You really think a human faced by bullets and bombs is thinking about his country?

No.

He’s thinking about his own skin…and the skin of his brothers, those he trained with, or who passed through the same ritual of initiation as him.

So I’m not…dehumanizing soldiers here.

If you have relatives or friends in the military, don’t misunderstand.

All I mean is that this angry military guy warmonger trope terrifies me.

Because in real life, they do sap your sense of individuality.

You’re a part of a unit.

You’re trained to follow orders.

Any orders.

And just imagine one day, or perhaps today.

Where the men given orders, the men who are meant to protect us…

Well. Just look at our government, the people giving the orders.

Do you trust the government? With your life? With your freedom?

Think about that.

Because maybe I’m too much of a pessimist, but I don’t believe those military guys would ever disobey orders because they are immoral or because they stand opposed to the values of democracy and freedom that they think they’re defending.

It’s not a matter of being a good person.

They strip you of personhood before they mold you into their soldier.

And I…

Find that terrifying.

What Will It Be?

A/N: This is my entry for @sdavid09 Halloween Movie challenge. I had so many brain farts with his one so it might not be the best but I like it. I don’t know anything about “IT” or scary movies in general because I hate them, but this was fun haha. I hope you guys like it. ALSO, to the people who wanted to be tagged in Crowley fluff, this wasn’t the original one I was talking about, so anyone tagged in this one will be tagged in the other.

Movie: IT

Prompt: “Do you want to hold my hand?”

Pairing: Dad!Crowley x Reader

Warnings: Tiny children, cutesy fluffers, UNBETAED so this about to be a mess lhh thats about it

Word Count: 2650

Summary: Another date, another waste of Crowley’s time. When will he find what he’s looking for? Has he already found it in his daughter’s babysitter? (I suck at summaries SnS)

Originally posted by spnfans


“Okay, there are two first aid kits; one in the drawer right next to the fridge and one in the bathroom. She’s not a reckless kid per se, I just like to make sure I’m prepared just in case she decides she’s Superman one day,” Crowley explains.

“Okay-”

“She’ll stay in her room and play for the most, you’re welcome to join her, she won’t mind. She may be quiet, but she’s friendly. If you do end up playing with her, remember, she liked Disney movies a lot, so be prepared to be a damsel in distress. If she gets bored with playing just pop in a movie - her favorite is Pocahontas. Do not put on a scary movie.”

“Alright, I-”

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anonymous asked:

Anxiety, do you have any advice for get through a panic attack or mental breakdown?

Oh, a serious question?

Well, I usually just do whatever I feel is calming - watching a movie by myself? It helps slow my breathing to have a background noise, or a simple distraction. Good movies are great to watch, because you’re so caught up in them that you don’t even realize you’ve stopped panicking. Bad movies also help, I suppose - you can point out everything bad about them.

It might also help to have a friend there - I know people hate having people around when this happens, but some don’t, so… yeah. A friend - a good friend - will help you through the panic attack.

There are a lot of other ways, so please feel free to message us and ask, okay? - Anxiety 😈

I don’t understand why…my friends who know I love the new beauty and the beast movie…keep coming to me to tell me how much they hate it…when they know I love it…
Like it’s fine if you don’t like it or think it’s mediocre, or downright hate it, that’s fine, but stop talking to me about how much it sucks when YOU KNOW I LOVE IT.
I mean hell I don’t like some of the movies and shows y'all like but I don’t be nasty to y'all about it ffs

PSA: I’m so fed up!

I hate it when people already bitch about Gifted without even having seen it. Not because they’re shitting all over my boy Chris Evans. And not because they do it for as dumb a reason as his (ex-)girlfriend being in it. 

No, they’re also writing off a movie that was directed by Marc Webb.

Do you know who Marc Webb is?

No?

Well, let me help you out there.

He’s the guy who directed the music videos for half a dozen emo bands that you were probably fapping to during your emo phase (shut up, we all had one!) including The All-American Rejects…

Originally posted by the-devil--in-my-bloodstream

…AFI…

Originally posted by tomsothermole-blog

…and My Chemical Romance

Originally posted by societyrejectedme

And I know what you’re thinking. “But this isn’t a music video, this is an indie movie!”

Well, huh, does (500) Days of Summer tell you anything? 

No?

The movie that single-handedly made all of us fall in love with Zooey Deschanel…

Originally posted by sensualquotes

…and Joseph Gordon-Levitt?

Originally posted by moan-s

Seriously, you guys have no idea what you’re talking about and I’d prefer you take your miserable little jealousy drama somewhere else. 

kthxbai

  • Aileen Wuornos Quotes


I’d just like to say I’m sailing with the rock, and I’ll be back like Independence Day, with Jesus June 6. Like the movie, big mother ship and all, I’ll be back.


I robbed them, and I killed them as cold as ice, and I would do it again, and I know I would kill another person because I’ve hated humans for a long time.


To me, this world is nothing but evil, and my own evil just happened to come out cause of the circumstances of what I was doing.


People always look down their noses at hookers. Never give you a chance because they think you took the easy way out, when no one would imagine the willpower it took to do what we do, walking the streets night after night, taking the hits and still getting back up.


My main concern is if this composer has been made aware of the fact that I’ve come clean in all of my cases. I killed in pure hate, robbing along the way. So if this person hasn’t, then I’d sure appreciate it if someone would inform him or her of it.

I wanted to clear all the lies and let the truth come out. I have hate crawling through my system.

They say it’s the number of people I killed, I say it’s the principle.

So, I got tagged by @weeabootrash2k16. Thanks, fam.

Rules: Answer these questions and tag nine people you want to get to know better.

Relationship status: I’m single and dying inside. 

Favourite colour: Always been blue. Any kind of blue.

Lipstick or chapstick: neither

Last song I listened to: Call If You Need Me by Galantis. Lol it was in an amv.

Last movie I watched: The last movie I actually finished was Star Wars: The Force Awakens. I spammed after it XD The last movie I started was Snow White and the Huntsman. It was on tv while i was eating. 

Top three TV shows: Oh man… Hmm… Well, If I were to choose from my recent obsessions, it would be Voltron, Yuri on Ice and Black Mirror, I guess. Although if it was just in general, Gilmore Girls, Degrassi and Boy meets World have always been my all time favourites.

Top three ships: Oh man… Depends on the fandom. I can’t just choose three right off the bat.

I’m going to let these nine lovely people @catsdoughnuts@teamscrashplanes, @sincerely-jin, @gravitationalconflict , @tobio11,  @aquaburst07 , @chicken-fetus, @shivermint-blue and @chibibuu97 do this!

You know, at first I didn’t want to write this because I was scared some people would come at me but I’m so fucking tired of seeing all this hate towards Tony and my love for him is too big for me not to defend him, so here it goes: *it contains some Civil War spoilers*

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Wolverine and Storm overrated because.........

I hate when everyone, is like storm and wolverine, are the best. People, only like wolverine, because he is, a savage, badass type, that doesn’t take junk. People only like Storm, because she is black, and I am tired of it. If storm was white, she wouldn’t be nearly as popular. The comics and  the movies, should be based, more on the leader, of the x-men, Cyclops, and the other originals. Wolverine and Storm, wasn’t even apart of the original team, so I don’t know how, this could of happened. what do you X-men, fans think ?

The problem with "you deserve better"

I know, I know. I hate 50 Shades of Grey. And Twilight. But one of the criticisms I keep reading against the upcoming movie is that “you deserve better.”

And I’m not about that. I’m not about book shaming. Or movie shaming. Or shaming of any kind, including slut shaming. You should be able to do and read and see what you want, without people giving you shit about it.

Just like when a friend has a fun fling, you don’t say “WTF were you thinking?!?” You say “Were you safe and did you have fun?” When a friend says they’re reading 50 Shades I don’t say “Why are you reading that trash?” I instead say, “Interesting, what do you like about it?” And also “I’m concerned with how it incorrectly portrays BDSM and how Christian Grey’s actions are both abusive and stalkerish, but I understand that it’s fun and exciting to read.”

Saying something like that might actually lead to a conversation. They might ask for recommendations of something to read next. But if you book shame your friend they might never want to talk to you about books again.

I am not perfect. I read some poorly written books that are fun and exciting. I play candy crush. My musical tastes are neither innovative nor exciting. And that’s fine. But I don’t want people telling me that it’s wrong for me to enjoy something. There’s so little joy in the day to day grind. Let people be happy.

anonymous asked:

Why are you so excited about some german actor? Seems a bit over the top

I assume you mean Max Riemelt aka Wolfgang Bogdanow from sense8?
Oh man…. it’s literally about representation, I guess? 

When I grew up German people were always only the evil Nazis in Bond movies and nothing else, so I resigned myself to the fact we would only ever get to play bad guys and over the top villains.

There’s a lot of self hate in Germany, you know, for obvious reasons, and when I grew up we would never ever be allowed to be proud of who we are and we were lived, we were always taught to be ashamed.
This whole singing your national anthem in front of your flag thing that American schools do…  I can’t honestly even imagine something like that. XD 

But you know, times change and now we’ve got Wolfgang and he’s complicated and interesting and messed up and yes, violent and a criminal, but he’s not a nazi, he’s someone you can sympathize with and whenever I see him on my dashboard it makes me really, really happy.
I just never thought I’d see that day. Ever. 
So yeah… that’s about it, I guess. 

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Why do you think people love bad guys in movies when they hate them in real life?

“Watching someone genuinely say I’m going to change the world to better suit my needs as opposed to change myself to fit in with society, is something that’s quite compelling that ultimately, I think all of us would kind of like to walk in those shoes for a day when they say, ‘You know what I’m just going to say no to any request made of me and do exactly what I want. Regardless of the consequences.’ That place is safe in a theatre, it’s safe in a book, it’s safe in fantasy, and safe in the symbolic playing field of the mind and in conversation and discussion. As soon as it becomes a real thing and the consequences are genuine, then it no longer has the same compulsion no matter how charismatic that world is, or these players are, or these key figures.

The consequences are genuinely of a real nature and are immediately very abhorrent, and not something that we want. I think that’s why people like to watch characters who are rebellious or will do what they want to do, or are anarchic or nihilistic or crazy or off the wall. It’s something I’d like to do in real life but I wouldn’t do it because I feel responsible to participate and be a member of society. And I care about too many people and love too many people to want to hurt anyone, or harm anyone, I think it’s impossible not to hurt people. But to harm, you know?

I think it’s healthy to have that conversation in a safe place than to not, and to be aware that it’s part of the human condition as well. I think people who change things are fascinating. Passion can either create or destroy. If that passion is in a certain agenda connected in a person then that destruction is going to go in a specific way. I’m just glad I’m not that person doing that and have to live with those consequences. But you know, watching it feeds the fantasy as opposed to the reality.