I usually don’t make non-fandom posts but I keep seeing white people all over my facebook saying things like “at the end of the day what am I suppose to do to stop it?” in response to Charlottesville.
Well, fellow white people, how about we at least speak up to our racist family members? That might be a good place to start.
I live in a small town in Kentucky, you can find a confederate flag on almost every street, either on someone’s window or their truck or even hanging from their house. At a yearly festival (Court Day) in our town, every other stand has blankets, dresses, bikinis, and jewelry with the confederate flag on every piece.
I grew up surrounded by racist ‘jokes’ about hangings, lynchings, and every stereotype there is. I grew up thinking that was normal. Family members used the N word without a thought. Gay people? That was the worst thing in the world (you can imagine their reaction to my not being straight). They were likened to pedophiles. Middle-eastern? According to some family, they were terrorists. Mexicans? My uncle despised them as much as he did 'the gays’ and 'the blacks’.
When I was in 5th grade, I had my very first crush (on a black boy in my class), I was told that I had to 'stay in with my own kind’. I was a child when I was told this.
I don’t even know how I didn’t become like that.
I’ve argued for hours with family over their racist views, and they get tired of my rants still, and yeah, some of them haven’t changed a bit. But, some of them have come a long way. Now, the 'N’ word is banned from the house and the Confederate flag is never allowed. No offensive joke is tolerated and stereotypes are argued. I’ve heard my mom actively call someone on their bullshit and my grandmother even has progressed.
We really have to talk to our family’s when they are like this. It might seem useless, but sometimes it can do a world of good. Sometimes, you really can change someone’s mind.
I cannot understand when people see white supremacy/racism right there in the open and choose to be silent. If someone doesn’t have the common decency to at least denounce this kind of thing when they see it.. then they are just as complicit as the Nazi/KKK. We white people created this problem of white supremacy and we must be the ones to teach our sons and daughters different, we must stop it.
Your silence is complicity.