i know not all feminists are like this

anonymous asked:

Do you know of any other woman exclusive bi ladies on here? No radfems/TERFs please ♡

Hello sweetheart! Firstly you don’t need to worry about radical feminists because I don’t follow any or interact with any. Secondly I just want to make it clear that I no longer identify as WE because even though I am WE for all intents and purposes, my women exclusivity has sometimes been used against me to isolate me from other bi women (like people have said horrible things about bi women to me and then said “oh it doesn’t apply to you because you’re WE) and tbh I overwhelmingly prefer women but I’m like, Done putting caveats in front of my bisexuality. It’s like, I’m a bi woman, take it or leave it, you know? 

THAT BEING SAID, I’m aware that what you’re really asking for bi women who aren’t liberals or separatists like some of the dumbasses on here. I follow amazing and intelligent and phenomenal bi women and people with fantastic politics. 

I’m going to rec you bi women’s blogs and bi nb people’s blogs because all of them have great politics, but do keep in mind that these are their personal blogs. 

@roseylippedangel, @clara-the-slytherin-graduate (who runs @les-bi-unity), @grehy, @shayemitchell, @irenesnovia, @kellymarietran, @dreamy-bisexual, @hekahte, @blueskysapphic, @lamalterre, @jewishmagicalgirl and @yugiohno (who co-run @violetdanger), @maiaroberts, @lukegarrowayisamaincharacter, @lexaclarke, @soulsoaker, @mutantcassian, @hintele, @dhupas, @nuevayor, and @cuntqueen

This week I had a lovely conversation with an older dyke who reminded me how much a lot of people have always hated TERFs and SWERFs. 

She was talking about the time in the 1970s and 1980s when she was a young radical dyke and how many of the awesome dykes in the radical scene were trans women. So I asked her if there was ever any problem with TERFs and SWERFs. She didn’t know those words so I described them. Her reply was (paraphrasing a longer conversation):

“Oh, you mean the political lesbians? That’s what we called them at the time, no one really considered them radical. They hated everyone. They hated bisexual women who dated men. They hated us leather dykes and kinky dykes because they thought we were ‘copying the patriarchy’, they hated trans women. None of us in the radical scene liked them. A lot of them later left and admitted that they were straight but were presured to identify as lesbians in that group because being a feminist to them meant cutting all ties with men. They were like a cult. They often lived together and if you didn’t walk the political line you were dead to them. Intense stuff. ”

And like, I know her memories don’t have global relevance and there have also been places where TERFs had a much more prominent impact on the local radical women’s community, but still, to hear how despised these TERFs have always been by these truly radical dykes cheered me up a lot. 

i know as a feminist im supposed to always say that feminism is there to help men too. that the toxic masculinity they’re taught at birth is a burden for us all and that they go through things too. and i get that. i really do and i really do feel for men who have to live their lives feeling like they can’t fully express themselves or their emotions. i am heart broken by the way society raises our boys to suppress suppress suppress. but you know what? at the end of the day, it’s the women who are at the receiving end of their shortcomings. the violence and emotional abuse rooted in hypermasculnity are projected on us and we bear the brunt of it. so excuse me if it’s not really on the top of my list to help men feel like they can cry. 

People keep misinterpreting what I’m saying when I talk about the concept of a “woman-centered life”. 

Any woman can lead a woman-centered life. Romantic relationships are not immediately indicative of what your political priorities are, so if you’re a woman currently dating or are married to a man it doesn’t like, Disqualify you from being a woman-centered woman. 

There are plenty of women of color I know who’ve centered their lives around women but may not even be romantically or sexually attracted to them. bell hooks once said that there are women who practice feminism without actually calling themselves feminists. Similarly, leading a woman-centered life is not about Never Ever talking to men ever again (although you can definitely choose to cut off all ties with men too) but rather it’s about prioritizing your relationships with women. So that means looking out for other women, trying to support and advise younger women, and wholeheartedly loving and being there for women. It means building coalitions between all women. 

You are a woman-centered woman if your most meaningful relationships tend to be with women, you’re a woman-centered woman when you politically and personally prioritize the women in your live above men, you’re woman-centered if you do not let men or heterosexual socialization impede your friendships with women. You’re woman-centered when you go out there and you advocate and rally for women in whatever way you can. 

And, frankly, it’s unrealistic to ask working-class women of color with husbands and sons and male family members to take care of to cut off all their ties with women because we already know that many women of color have important ties to men in their community precisely because they are all victims of abject racial discrimination and marginalization. But those same women of color still prioritize women above all. 

The women who do legal work for undocumented women, the women who run domestic violence shelters, the women who are medical professionals for women’s health, the women who work at places such as Planned Parenthood, the women who rehabilitate female survivors, the women who have built careers around helping other women - all of them, too, are clearly examples of women who lead women-centered lives, regardless of individual relationships. 

Midwives, nurses, teachers, mentors, your local friendly woman who looks out for the girls and women in her neighborhood. All of them are women-centered. 

I am woman-centered not just because I’m bisexual. I would be too even if I was heterosexual, because the majority of my friendships are with women, I am closest to the women in my family, and most of the important people in my life are women. I would never ruin a friendship with another woman over a man, I would never choose to spend time with men over women, and I relate to and empathize with women far more than I do with men. 

Obviously lesbians and other gay women are the women who lead women-centered lives just by virtue of who they love, and because their identities are politicized because of homophobia/lesbophobia. But gay women aren’t just women-centered because they date women; they are women-centered because they prioritize all types of relationships (platonic and familial and political, not just sexual or romantic) with other women. 

So anyway, what I’m trying to say is that all of you who think it’s “unhealthy” to lead a woman-centered life really don’t get what the concept entails. You can lead a woman-centered life in a myriad of ways but the core ideal here is protecting and prioritizing women and not glorifying or centering men. 

  • Women: Why do men spit in public?
  • Men: Where ELSE should we spit? On you??? Do you want us to spit on YOU!?! Alright, FINE.
  • Women: A teenage girls bra strap shouldn't be a reason to send her home.
  • Men: Okay. Okay, alright. Alright, okay, okay. Well why don't I just PULL MY DICK OUT IN CLASS THEN!?!?
  • Women: A person should have the right to an abortion.
  • Men: Ohhhhh women want abortions! Well men should be able to rape them, that seems like the logical equivalent of this situation.
  • Women: Women need to defend themselves from violent men.
  • Men: Oh, what, you can hit me but I can't hit you!? why CAN'T I hit you? WHEN can I hit you??? Tell me when I can hit you, please. I want to know. I need to know.
  • Women: Men overreact a lot.
  • Men: WHOA. Why would you go there? Why do you generalize all men like that? I feel so attacked. This is so hurtful.
  • Men: This is why no one likes feminists.
Dear Liberal Feminists: The Hijab is Not Empowering

I am in Baghdad right now and I have my back to the wall as I type. I am slowly moving my laptop closer to my chest and looking around to make sure nobody else sees what I am writing. I am Iraqi. I am a woman. I am Christian. And I am not a hijabi.

Iraq, much like Iran, used to be a more secular place. The Saddam regime was brutal, but he kept Islamism in the country under control until the end when he sensed his loss of power and began turning to Islam. That is what regimes here usually do.

Liberal feminists will tell you the hijab was a response to the West. It is a defiant act against imperialism! It’s not. I am here and I promise you, the hijab is not empowering.

First, not all Iraqis are Muslim. If Islam is what unites us against imperialism, then where does that leave me? Subjugated. As a Christian and as a woman.

Second, and more importantly, women cannot reclaim our bodies by falling beneath another form of hegemony. “We do not want to submit to the Western men, and therefore we submit to the Arab men” is hardly a step forward.

Let me clarify: I do not want the Western armies in Iraq. They rape, torture, and kill Iraqi women and attempt to steal our limited resources for themselves. I do not, however, think abuse by Arab men is somehow a step in the right direction.

When Saddam fell, Iraqi men quickly searched for power. Those who did not find it are doing what emasculated men always do. They are practicing power over the women in their families.

I find it disgusting but expected that women’s clothing is always inspected. Whatever we wear, it is always the wrong thing for some people. I am not here to tell women what to wear. I am trying to dissect the idea that the hijab is empowering especially here in the Middle East.

In Iraq and in every other Middle Eastern country where the hijab is not required by law, (it is required in Iran and more extremely in Saudi Arabia), there are two specific demographics I have noticed wearing it:
1. Poor, uneducated women
2. The family members of Islamic leaders

I will focus on the first of these before moving on to the second. It is my experience that in almost every country in the world, poor and uneducated people are the most performative in their religion. When I lived in Spain, this was the case. The poor old women who walked along the beach were more devoted to their Christianity than I, a Christian from a place where my family was persecuted for it, ever was.

But both my parents are professors in biology and studied when Baghdad was the best place in the Middle East to study. None of my friends here, who are mostly Muslim, cover their hair. They come from educated families. They do not need to lean on religion.

For poor women, this is different. They are not likely to receive an education and understand from a young age they will need to depend on a husband or be a burden to the family. They often do not have jobs so if there is abuse in the household they are trapped. They have to follow the rules of men to survive, more than I do.

If these woman do not cover from a young age, they will not find a good husband. Men are close-minded and possessive and they cannot deal with a possibility other men saw such “intimate” parts of THEIR wife.

Their families pressure them to follow these rules. An uncovered woman will bring shame to the family first by revealing herself and then by not finding a good husband to provide for her. They are pressured to cover as young as eight and nine years old. Can any person that young devote themselves to an outfit for life?

Street harassment is very common in Baghdad. The few times I have been harassed when outside with hijabi women, they have blamed me for not covering. “I am Christian” I will say. “The men know that” is usually their response. The culture is so toxic that women with the hijab believe they are superior to those without it.

But materially they are inferior and they know that. In almost every case, women who do not cover are wealthier, more educated, better-employed, less-dependent on men, and live materially better lives. So what do poor, uneducated women have? Religion. I really can’t blame them.

Religion is also used as a tool by the second group I mentioned, the Islamic leaders, to unite and control the masses. Sure, your family is starving and your babies are dying from preventable diseases. But what do I offer you? Eternal life in heaven as long as you do everything I tell you in the name of God.

This makes people feel included and gives them purpose. It also creates a hierarchy in society. When men are permitted and even encouraged to oppress the women in their lives, they are more likely to follow the leaders that allow this. It makes them feel powerful. Men, especially poor men, want to feel power over something or someone.

In this way, the hijab is empowering… but only for men. It strips power away from women. It represents a society moving backwards in many ways.

Many women will tell you they choose to wear the hijab or they wear it for Allah. Once you ask questions, you will find this is less true. In almost all cases, they began wearing it at a young age (and always under eighteen) and were pressured by family.

I am hypocritical because I too perform “feminine” things because of family or society pressure. I wear my hair long even though it bothers me and I wish I could shave it off because I do not want to face society’s judgment for doing that. But at least I realize the source of this contradiction.

Western liberal feminists who praise the hijab are forgetting about the rest of us. I am terrified of a day I live in a place where covering is the law. Iraq is my home and I don’t want to leave, but sometimes I think maybe I don’t belong here especially if something like my hair can get me killed.

In every country, we need to have a larger conversation about what women say we want and what we really want. We also need to realize the broken logic of “wanting” to do something because it pleases men.

Liberal feminists: I know it is scary for you to criticize the hijab because then you have to admit some of your personal choices are actually part of your effort to serve the patriarchy. We all need to face this fact because if we don’t, we cannot get any closer to liberating ourselves.

hi guys so my girlfriend’s name is blue sargent and this is why i love her

  • she accidentally became a vegetarian she just isn’t fond of meat so she eats so much yogurt and salads and totally packs fruit kebobs for lunch,,, what a nerd
  • she has an emergency sewing kit
    • henrietta high school legend says if you say “blue sargent” and spin around three times in the girls bathroom she’ll walk out of the stall and have the exact right button to replace the one that got ripped off your sweater
  • literal embodiment of “aesthetic or die”, she’d choose overheating in the middle of a virginia summer over ruining her look
    • “blue you look like you’re gonna pass out”
    • "i’m sorry, i misheard, i think you meant i look fucking great”
  • her guilty pleasure is 90′s boy bands she loves *nsync and backstreet boys and totally knows all the bad dance moves from the music videos
  • she’s tone deaf though can’t carry a tune to save her life but sings loud and proud anyway
  • she has a gap in her teeth just big enough to be noticeable, it whistles when she’s trying not to laugh
  • she’s a mug hoarder that brings tea up to her room but has like twelve mugs on her window sill from forgetting to bring them back down
  • her dad’s a fuckin woodland nymph so she’s ridiculously good with plants and her vegetable garden is the envy of the neighborhood
  • she’s a dog person she walks dogs as a job because she gets paid!!! to spend time with dogs!!! she loves it so much
  • once whipped out her switch on a boy twice her size for catcalling and scared the living daylights out of him,, attitude makes up for height and this girl’s got plenty of it
  • she’s not a bad student but she does get asked to leave class for sassing her teacher’s or telling them theyre wrong
    • “[insert historical figure] was gay”
    • “ms. sargent please don’t”
    • “history is so fucking gay you don’t understand-”
    • “please sit outside for the remainder of class” 
    • *cue deep dramatic sigh from blue*
    • the teacher called maura, who laughed her ass off and hung up the phone
  • she was riding her bike home one day and was late because she got distracted talking to a homeless guy while waiting at an intersection and she bought him some mcdonalds and played cards with him
  • LOVES stargazing so much, persephone taught her the constellations when she was little
    • when she misses her she goes and sits under the stars with smelly tea, wearing a pair of persephone’s socks. she feels closer to her that way and it hurts a little less.
  • the gray man didn’t teach her how to fight, calla did.
    • by the time calla is done with her blue can flip ronan on his back
  • speaking of ronan him and blue are best friends i don’t make the rules these are just facts
    • she has dream hair clips that change color
    • she sewed pockets into all his jackets for chainsaw
    • theyre combat boot buddies
    • she is Tiny and rides on ronan’s back or shoulders
    • she has literally taken a running leap and jumped on his back while he was in the middle of a conversation and he didn’t falter in the slightest
    • he rips up clothes for her so she can get that Punk Aesthetic
  • she gives the best hugs on the planet she is a tiny lady but will pull you in so tight and you can rest your head on her soft hair,,, wow
  • her nail polish is always chipped it lasts like an hour tops
  • there’s always kids running around the house and she is so good with them, playing tag, teaching them crafts and cool friendship bracelet patterns and she wears all the ones they make for her
  • you think ronan cusses up a storm? blue could give him a run for his money the girl’s got a mouth like a sailor
  • loves yoga but only knows like 6 poses that she does over and over, calla judges her
    • “blue why are you laying on the ground”
    • “im doing yoga. its called corpse pose. leave me alone youre fucking up my zen.”
    • corpse pose is a lie it’s literally laying on the ground 
  • that’s about it
  • my girl is a dorky feminist hippy and i love her
  • she deserved better
  • :))))
Trump Signs Bill Making it Legal to Kill Hibernating Bears: Even Hitler Liked Animals

If you’re reading this, you already know it should have been President Obama’s nominee Merrick Garland filling the ninth SCOTUS seat. And you’re up to speed on how the GOP changed Senate rules to get DJT’s nominee Neil Gorsuch confirmed after Democrats filibustered. 

Gorsuch was sworn in today, rendering one ninth of the U.S. Supreme Court illegitimate. 

What got overlooked in today’s news cycle: DJT signed into law a bill that now makes it legal to shoot hibernating bears and bear cubs and wolves in dens. The same bill makes it legal to shoot all three from helicopters, too. 

You know, even Hitler liked animals. 

I can’t tonight. 

I used to be one of those women who spent an hour or more doing my makeup every single day of my life. Like I wouldn’t leave my house to go get a cup of coffee or do grocery shopping without caking on a full face. And I lied to myself every single day about it. I told myself, as I penciled on my eyebrows, and lined my eyes with white eyeliner to make them look big and doll-like, and used thick oily foundations and concealers to hide every visible inch of my actual skin, that I loved doing this. That I was feeling more and more empowered with every inch of my face I covered up. That somehow, if I wore a bold lipstick shade or a unique eyeliner shape, I was making a feminist statement. By making my own flawed face flawless and therefore more marketable to men, I was taking charge of my own body and my own femininity. That’s how powerful advertising and media and social conditioning and all those other forces are. I thought spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars on makeup products and putting on a mask to cover my face just to leave my bedroom every single day was somehow empowering me. 

And the point of this post is not to criticize women who wear makeup, I totally understand the pressure. In fact, I still do wear a little bit of makeup most days. And I still fucking lie to myself about it. I tell myself “Oh, it’s just a little concealer to hide my zits, and it’s just a little brow pencil- I’m no longer wearing makeup to make myself look like an unrealistic caricature of a woman, it’s just to enhance my natural beauty.” Which is just another lie that the beauty industry has sold women for years, that’s taking a long time for me to unlearn. 

But overall as I become more and more comfortable without my makeup mask on, the more I realize that there’s nothing empowering, nothing glamorous, nothing healthy, nothing feminist about makeup and makeup culture. It really hurt me in my early teens, all the way up until now, and I want every woman who feels like she has to wear makeup, and every woman who knows she doesn’t to know that I totally support you. I’ll never be supportive of makeup culture ever again but to all those women who are still stuck in it, just know that your face doesn’t need to be fixed. Covering it up won’t ever make you feel better about it. 

Can we talk about how Skam has ruined Noora as character? She was supposed to feminist, but she dropped out of school for a guy and let his friends fetishize her Muslim friend. She was supposed to have goals to be a journalist, but all we ever hear her talk about are her boy problems. She was supposed to be a good friend, but she dated her friends crush behind her friends back and now kisses her friends crush for revenge over her fuckboy ex. Noora is literally ruined by Julie forcing her story into every season, also not a good story just stupid boy drama shit every season. Now, Noora is canceled because that was just too shitty. For those saying she didnt know, if you saw a guy chase behind your friend to walk her home and then she invited him out with you guys I think it’s fair to assume something is going on. Not to mention, this is the only guy Sana ever made clear was not for Noora. However, what Noora wants Noora gets. This is annoying. A season about a beautiful, smart, feminist, Muslim, and brown girl is being made into a love triangle with a blonde white girl who everyone won’t stop saying is beautiful. Like can all the girls get a compliment? Because I’m so tired of the Noora is prettier, skinnier, and more mature than others as a fucking thing. Why has that been pointed out so much? Can we have one show where girls don’t fight over boys and their beauty isn’t constantly measured and worn as a badge of honor or something? Everyone is beautiful in their own way and I’m disappointed that Skam is doing the girl squad and Noora this way. 

Let's Talk About Sharia

So, one word that right-wing propaganda pushers like to throw around is “sharia.” They’ve pretty much painted this horrible idea in people’s heads that sharia law is all about killing and evil. To put it simply, it’s NOT. Sharia law says that we must follow the law of the land in which we live. So, for me, sharia law is the Constitution of the United States. If I drive 1 mph over the speed limit, I’ve sinned according to sharia law because I broke the law of the land in which I live. Sharia law also says that I must love and protect my Christian and Jewish neighbors and treat them as if they were my family. Sharia law says it’s a sin for me to go to sleep with a full stomach if my neighbor is hungry. Sharia law requires me to give charity. Sharia law says if I were to kill one person, it would be as if I have killed all of humanity. Sharia law forbids people from even so much as cutting down a tree in a time of war. How on Earth people throw around the words “sharia law” like it’s the scariest thing they’ve ever heard is beyond me. Hell, Sharia law protects non-Muslims and gives them more rights than it gives us.

On Feyre, Tamlin, Rhys, and the Question of Agency and Children

So, I haven’t really seen anyone talking about this, but can we take a moment to appreciate the differences between Tamlin’s and Rhys’s reactions when it comes to Feyre and her choice in having potential future offspring? On one hand, we have Tamlin, who just assumes that of course Feyre will want to have children, and of course they will keep having children until a male and potential heir is born.

Tamlin during the Tithe scene: “‘Because that’s the way it is. That’s the way my father did it, and his father, and the way my son shall do it.’ He offered a smile, and reached for my hand. ‘Someday.’”

We find out shortly after this that the subject of children has never been broached (according to Feyre), but Tamlin doesn’t even seem to consider that Feyre might not want to have children, let alone multiple children until they have a male.  (We later find out in the scene below that Feyre doesn’t want to have children, at least not right away. She wants to get used to being immortal first, and experience adventures of her own – she wants to feel ready before she has children of her own.) Tamlin only acknowledges her agency in this matter to the extent that she might not want to have children right away–just “someday.”

Rhys, on the other hand, doesn’t assume any such thing. As he has done throughout ACOMAF, he continuously affirms Feyre’s right to agency over her life, her body, her sexual choices, and now her right to want or not want children. 

This is so important because this topic about female agency when it comes to pregnancy/children isn’t discussed very often in YA lit.

Feyre and Rhys’s discussion about children and pregnancy comes up right after they mate.

Feyre: “If I am a High Lord’s mate, I’m expected to bear you offspring, aren’t I? So perhaps I shouldn’t [take the birth control tonic].”

Rhys: ‘You are not expected to bear me anything,’ he snarled. ‘Children are rare, yes.  So rare, and so precious. But I don’t want you to have them unless you want to–unless we both want to. […] I would be happy beyond reason, though, if you one day did honor me with children.  To share that with you.’” <–unitalicized/underlined words indicate stressed words in the original text. If it isn’t showing up (Tumblr is being dumb), the words he stresses are “anything” and “both”.

Feyre: “‘I want to live first,’ I said. ‘With you.  I want to see things and have adventures.  I want to learn what it is to be immortal, to be your mate, to be part of your family. I want to be…ready for them. And I selfishly want to have you all to myself for a while.’”

Rhys: “His smile was gentle, sweet. ‘You take all the time you need. And if I get you all to myself for the rest of eternity, then I won’t mind that at all.’”

Feyre starts off the conversation burdened with the expectation that she must have Rhys’s children, because that is what tradition would demand out of a High Lord’s wife.  That’s what Tamlin expected, and she never had much of a voice in the matter except perhaps when that would happen. She believes this so much that she believes it’s selfish of her to not want children, to want to just be with her mate.

But Rhys is vehement in that she doesn’t owe him–or anyone–anything. Just as he has throughout ACOMAF, he reminds her that this is her choice, and always will be.  He doesn’t expect her to bear him children, especially if she doesn’t want to.  If they have children, he wants it to be because they both want it. Together.  And while he lets her know that he welcomes the idea of children–that he would be “happy beyond reason”–he honestly doesn’t mind if they don’t.  He is more than happy to just have Feyre with him, his mate, and he will be content with whatever decision she makes, no matter what it is or when she makes it.  She can take all the time she needs, and if she decides that she wants children with him, he’ll consider it an “honor”–him, a High Lord.  

I just…I find this so beautiful and respectful. He doesn’t push his own agenda but lets her know how he feels about it and gives her plenty of space to decide for herself. I just feel like there is always this expectation that women should want children, and I love that Sarah puts it out there that you don’t have to want children right away, or even later.  Feyre is enough, and she will always be enough for Rhys–and I think Feyre really needed to hear that, because so often she hasn’t been enough. Not to her family, and not to Tamlin. She has had so many expectations forced on her, and she’s buckled beneath them before, and Rhys just…lets her know that she has a choice. That just like with her life and her sexual choices and her body, children are also her choice.  He will support her no matter what, and love her no matter what.

Feyre is her own agent, and I love that so much.  I want to see more Rhys characters in YA because this is such a great, powerful message that all women should know: You are in control of your own body, always.

[cont] She uses her feminism to call out the media of her portrayal of her but nothing else. And that’s pretty hypocrite to me cause she created this image herself. On her first self-titled album booklet there’s the message on her thanks that says “to all the boys who thought it would be cool to break my heart here are 14 songs about you HA”. On her Fearless tour she said “I wrote this song about a guy who made the decision to cheat on me and he shouldn’t have cause I write songs” and had this projection of her being this serial dater for music material. You know, the one she had Tim McGraw do a cameo and she says to the cameras that the new guys name is great cause it rhymes with many things. Then her SNL monologue where she says “I like to write songs about douchebags who cheat on me” I know this were supposed to be funny but she played herself. No one said anything about her being a serial dater then, it actually started right after she started portraying herself like that. Then she grew up, matured and decided/realized how poor that was and that she didn’t like it so she started blaming it on the media and labeled it as “sexist”, which is not. Is not about a gender thing, is a Taylor thing. No other artist, male or female gets dragged like her and that’s because of how much of a circus she’s made about her love life with the name game she claims to hate but encourages with the secret messages and “symbolism” in her music videos, like using an airplane necklace on OOTW that she throws away, or the ship tattoo on IKYWT for Harry, and the stupid British accent thing… and, again: that SNL monologue song where she actually dragged Joe Jonas.When she got asked on an interview about what her squad talked about she said “we address feminist issues, we say things like «why is it that when a man has a lots of lovers he’s cool and empowering but if a woman does it she’s a slut?»” you know who gets dragged in her squad for this? The only person in her squad to whom this is applicable is HERSELF! Of all the “feminist” issues they “talk about” she chose the one who applies herself to bring up. It seems like she uses every opportunity to remind people how misjudged she is by the media with feminism as her back-up. Like, yeah, I support you there: you’re given more shit than you deserve but please, stop playing the victim and own to your faults.I think she’s conceited and tries too hard to keep her image “clean” and rarely talks about things that don’t have to do with her regarding feminism. I wished she stopped calling herself that because she’s not. Or if she plans on continuing this she should at least educate herself on it more so she can actually be an advocate.

Emma’s Wedding Dress & Feminism

I’ve been observing the ongoing debate regarding Emma’s wedding dress, while processing my own feelings in order to form legitimate written words. Yes, with Emma’s dress I do have my own personal opinions and aesthetic sense but they aren’t germane to the argument I’m presenting.

This week I’ve witnessed Emma’s wedding dress being derogatorily referenced as a throwback to a 1950′s housewife and a form of prison garb– shackles, if you will. That, Emma Swan, as we knew her in S1 would never, ever don such a traditional gown and to make her do so is transforming this event from a wedding into a funeral. The ultimate death of a once badass character. I’m not going to extensively discuss how Emma’s wedding dress is supposed to be symbolic of Emma’s emotional journey. Jennifer Morrison herself did that on instagram when she said: “ It is a dress that represents the elegance and simplicity of classic timeless strength mixed with the delicacy of feminity and vulnerability. It is the ultimate balance that Emma has been fighting for throughout the 6 seasons. A wholeness. A balance. Not all one thing or another - But rather, a moment that is genuinely, truly, authentically her without barriers and walls.”  And if you think you know Emma better than Jennifer Morrison who’s been playing her for SIX YEARS, you’re high af.

What I am here to say is that by denying Emma her choice of wedding dress and branding it with anti-feminist labels; by repeatedly demeaning, diminishing and calling women who DO like the dress as similarly anti-feminist— YOU are weaponizing feminism. YOU are being anti-feminist. 

I know there are certain people in the fandom who consider themselves bastions and gatekeepers of feminism. Well, I graduated from one of the foremost women’s colleges in the country. I KNOW my feminist theory. And feminism is about giving women OPTIONS. About broadening horizons. It isn’t an either/or proposition. It’s not black and white. It isn’t leather or lace, housewife or working mother, single or married, jeans or a dress. It’s about empowering women and providing them with choices.  And above all, it’s about supporting women when they make those choices.

If Emma WANTS to wear a traditional bridal gown, then that’s okay. It’s her choice. You don’t have to like it. But you don’t get to call her and/or it anti-feminist. You don’t get to police her clothing decisions. Because if Emma CHOSE to wear it–if she wanted to wear this dress because SHE liked it, because it made HER feel good about HERSELF–that’s the opposite of anti-feminist. Emma, and by extension Jennifer Morrison and the fandom, should be free to wear whatever she/they chooses and enjoy reveling in it without fear of shame or ridicule. Feminism is liberation, not constraint. 

By policing and judging Emma’s wedding dress, you’re communicating to society that it’s okay to tell a Muslim woman that she isn’t a feminist because she prefers to wear a hijab. You’re permitting slut-shaming based on clothing choices. You’re again placing women into this narrow, tiny box–a box in which YOU feel comfortable with what Emma wears. And that makes you no better than the patriarchal box we’ve been trying so desperately to escape from. 


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anonymous asked:

you know what's annoying me? white feminists not caring or talking about the ACA being repealed until it came out that other things like post-partum, rape, assault, c-section, pregnancy came out that those would be considered as pre existing conditions. like lol is the lives of the rest of us chronically ill and/or disabled not enough for y'all to care, only when it affects you too? (not saying those conditions aren't bad because they are but that's not my point)

Trust me it’s annoying the shit out of me too. I keep trying to steer the conversation to disability and am constantly blown off as always. People go on and on about minorities and at risk groups but completely leave out disabled and sick people who are hugely at risk. I’m worried the gop will pull out the pregnancy, sexual assault, etc parts of the bill so it’ll shut up the white feminists and protests but still completely screw over anyone with traditional preexisting conditions. I hope I’m wrong.

segashark  asked:

Here's my problem with feminism: it doesn't want equality anymore, it wants female superiority. Now I know you're going to immediately pull up the dictionary definition of feminism but actions speak louder than words. When an opposing argument like milo yiannopolus instead of listening to him they scream sexist, racist, homophobic! Then there was the feminist who were happy to pull a fire alarm on the men's rights activists meeting.

First of all, I’ve answered this question before

Secondly, here’s a post describing a couple different types of feminists. 

See, TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists) or SWERFs (sex-worker exclusionary radical feminists) are technically feminists. They do what they do in the name of feminism, they want women to be treated as human beings, they fight for women’s rights, etc. 

Man-hating feminists are technically feminists. They do what they do in the name of feminism, they want women to be treated as human beings, they fight for women’s rights, etc. 

THE THING IS, as a feminist, I reject those types of feminism. If you’ve spent any time on our blog at all, you know that we don’t tolerate TERF or SWERF ideology. You would know that we talk about toxic masculinity and how damaging it is to men. 

Re: Milo Yiannopolus - He was permanently banned from Twitter for racist tweets. Here’s a sexist article he published in 2015 (article is on breitbart but I freezepage-ed it to avoid sending them traffic). Here’s another article detailing several awful things about him. Why should I listen to him? 

I’ll listen to an opposing argument when it’s actually not sexist, racist, or homophobic. I’m not obligated to listen to people spewing hateful ideas. 

I’m not sure I like the event at which the fire alarm was pulled, but I agree that it was unacceptable for someone to pull the fire alarm during that event. 

I have little respect for men’s rights activists, as the movement is highly misogynistic. I can agree on a few premises, though. Abuse and rape of male victims exists, it’s horrible, and the victims are rarely believed because of the fact that they’re men. My feminism wants to change that. In child custody cases, I do not believe that women should be favored simply because they are women. My feminism wants to remove gender from the equation in these cases. Toxic masculinity exists and it’s damaging to men. My feminism fights toxic masculinity. Only men are required to register for the selective service system at age 18. While personally I would rather not have to register, my feminism insists on equality, and I would vote for this system to change. 

Come at me. 

Mod Marie-Rose

anonymous asked:

what is your opinion on Virginia Woolf's feminism?

I don’t know enough about it to be able to speak about it in depth. 

What I know is this: her depiction of women in fiction, in her letters and in her unashamedly “feminine” writing style was and is still groundbreaking, and she has paved the way for numerous Western female writers after her. Most importantly, she seemed to be deeply invested in the idea of depicting a diversity of women, accepting of differences, valuing an array of female experiences, which can’t be said of all “feminist” writers. I might be mistaken —I haven’t read everything of hers; but I feel like she is seldom dismissive when it comes to women, and celebrates differences instead of pitting them against each other or hierarchising one behaviour over another. It’s particularly true in The Waves, where female archetypes meet, blend, melt into each other—grow from loving each other.