i know nobody is going to reblog this ; ;

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If people never see the art nobody will know that it exists. But if would just take a second to go into a tag, search for “Most Recent” and REBLOG what you find there with a nice comment, you will make the artist’s day, you will make them feel PROUD of what they created and help them want to make MORE terrific art.

If any of you out there want to send me a link to your art, you wouldn’t be a bother and I’d love to see what you are all creating out there!

anonymous asked:

No story on here is as scary as the abuse I face everyday from my partner and I have nobody to talk to its eating me up inside:"""(I'm sorry for venting I just love yiur blog it's an escape from the horrible times:""(

I know it’s hard and I’m so sorry for the pain you are going through. Me, my blog, and my followers are always here for you. 

Please message me on my personal blog, @sixpenceeeblog for support. I’ll reblog any helpful comments or resources from my followers. Be safe. Love is with you.

You’re not alone.

Because I’m loving the positivity going around Tumblr right now, I want my friends and followers to know that I’m always here for you. If you’re not where you want to be in life right now, stay strong. You can do it. I know you can. Be the reason someone feels loved today. We live in a time where people are so focused on themselves, we forget that there are others around us that need help, too. It’s important to look out for yourself, but also keep in mind that an act of kindness, even a small one, can go a long way. If nobody has told you today, please know that you are loved.

u know that feeling u get when u see all ur friends n their friends having fun w/o u and u can’t join in even if they asked so ur just being left out and nobody will even try to include u? and u just get this pang in ur chest that won’t go away no matter how much time they spend with you because you’re always gonna be left out eventually? how do u uninstall it

  • Newsies Boyband AU!
  • Now first of all I would call them the Newsboys but like…that’s a real band that exists so idk what their name would be
  • But anyway! Boybands! Fun and cute and lots of wiggle room!
  • Crutchie
    • lead singer
    • beloved by his bandmates and by most fans but every once in awhile there’s that one fan
      • Idk I just think Charlie is overrated….he can’t sing that well, Jack has a nicer voice, and I think he only gets to sing lead because of his leg :/ I’m not ableist or anything, I just don’t like him
    • Mostly Crutchie ignores things like that but once in awhile he wonders if they’re true
  • Jack
    • lead guitar/harmonies
    • very much the Hot Onetm but people tend to overlook his talents
    • designed the logo and does all of the shirts and album covers but doesn’t make that public knowledge
    • the Crutchie Bashers usually use Jack as an excuse and Jack is having none of it he’s a master vague tweeter
      • I love all my bandmates and everyone is perfectly suited to what they do, from lights to vocals!
      • I feel like people forget Crutch and I have been best friends since fifth grade and I have videos like this cause if they didn’t they’d ask for more [video of Crutchie singing The Wizard and I at a middle school talent show]
    • he loves singing harmony, and only sings lead if somebody makes him. two songs in their repertoire include him on melody
  • Race
    • the drummer
    • (haha guess who still likes EYDW with all his heart?)
    • he’s the Wild Onetm but everyone adores him because he’s cute and funny
    • Racetrack Higgins Highlights:
      • “So I was like, fuck it-wait shit I can’t swear in interviews-fuck! Dammit, sorry, I-” “Race just stop talking”
      • he broke a snare during a concert once and put it on his head like a hat
      • pictures of him kissing everyone in the band, on crew, and even fans on the cheek but it’s because that’s what he does. In Italy. That’s how you greet people. and it just carried over
      • always wears a necklace with a shark tooth. gazes into the distance when asked where it was from and responds with, “I’ll never forget her.” Actually bought it Wings on a day off in North Carolina
      • changes hair colors every other week. fans go to two concerts in two days. first one he has bright red hair. next day it’s bright blue.
      • slowly acquiring more piercing until one day they’re all gone.
        • “Lmao you though those were real? I cried when I got a single ear piercing.”
      • then people think his tattoo is fake and it isn’t but it’s ridiculous. like literally the word “THOT” on the back of his neck. Spot dared him to.
    • so people love him even though he’s wild
  • Spot
    • designs sound for recordings and live shows
    • most fans only know him as the one goading Race on
    • but once in a while somebody recognizes him in the sound booth and is like “ahh, that’s who he is”
    • also secretly write lyrics sometimes but asks to be credited as “Sam Carlson” so his poetic writing doesn’t ruin his tough guy image
    • which makes people think of all these crazy theories as to who Sam Carlson is and why he writes songs randomly for the band
    • is the only reason Race hasn’t gotten lost on tour in a gas station
    • is the one who set up the Walkie Talkie system that keeps everyone organized
    • the star of Jack’s snapchat story half the time but never caught doing anything strange? people just know he’s awesome and says funny things
    • is the one who adopted the cat and resulted in him being named Asshole but it was an accident
  • Katherine and Sarah
    • managers and lighting designers
    • really cool and really gay
    • every time they’re doing a show around a Pride parade time or during Pride month there are rainbows and other flags everywhere
    • Sarah is also in charge of PR after the Incident of Race accidentally DMing a fan who’s username included Jack’s name something along the lines of “sup fuckface where are you everyone else is here and you’re the one who said he was bringing the good stuff”
      • by good stuff he’d simply meant the Purple Doritos but the fan didn’t know that and it took a while for people to let that go
    • People think Jack and Kat are dating for a long time because they’re always together
    • it literally took like fifty pictures of Kat and Saz kissing before people stopped denying how gay she was
  • Davey
    • plays bass but also violin and other related string instruments
    • sometimes sings a third part but not usually
    • people don’t give him much credit until there’s a new song
    • which starts out really slow and is only Jack singing and Davey playing cello but mid song it picks up and Dave changes instruments really fast like in the space of one beat to violin and goes really hard and the song tops the charts for weeks because it’s like crazy good
      • “yeah I’m a classically trained violinist, I just usually have more fun on bass” “…” “but i like that song a lot, most times I’m on violin it’s slow and boring”
    • that song is also when most of the Crutchie Bashing started because it was the first really popular one that featured Jack on melody since only Jack sang
  • Their shows are legendary for being good like the vocals the instrumentals everything is always good
  • they got their start in college where Crutchie got them into one of the theatres and it was just for fun
  • but Race, the wild one even in the very beginning, realized that they were actually really good and signed them up for some show like America’s Got Talent or something like that
  • and while they didn’t win overall, they did get enough attention to get a record deal
  • and then they just EXPLODED and became the new big thing
  • which kind of freaked all of them out a little bit because what has started as fun music with friends was suddenly paparazzi and crazy fans and people wanting to know “when is it what is it where is it how are you will you” about their songs
  • but they mostly acclimated pretty fast
    • Crutchie had the hardest time because while he’s friendly he’s also a but of an introvert and needs his privacy which was suddenly a lot harder to find
  • like most boybands, instantly there were Those Fans who shipped people
    • the most common one became Jack and Race because they seemed like the ones most likely to like each other
    • really though it was Spot and Race, who balanced each other out, and Jack and Crutchie, who’d been in love for years and only figure it out when people started trying to ship Jack and Race which made Crutchie really jealous, and the people who nobody knew as well like Specs and Romeo, Kat and Saz (at first they became better known later), etc
  • they get a really good rep with people because they’re always willing to take a selfie or like fanart as long as it isn’t creepy, or answer questions
  • Jack hosts monthly Q&A sessions on his snapchat and each time it’s somebody new
    • so like the first one is Crutchie, then Davey, then Race, then Katherine, then Sarah, the Romeo, etc
  • They don’t come out for a long time but one day they’re performing in a town where there’s this big news story about a gay kid getting harassed at school and they know the kid is there because it was the only positive thing they found on his twitter, so they all come out together like the entire band and crew
    • “So we’ve heard about some of the stuff that’s been going on here, and we want everyone to know that we don’t agree with it, at all. In fact, things like that effect us, too. I’m not the most eloquent speaker, but if you’re hurting today because of who you are, of how you’re born, know that you’ll always have support with us.”
    • And Jack kisses Crutchie in public for the first time which leads to Race stealing Crutchie’s mic and yelling something about “get up here asshat we can’t let him show us up!” and then suddenly every single couple involved in the band is on stage being proud of who they are
    • the kid who was getting bullied cried and then they invited him backstage and he cried more and it was really sweet and they stayed in touch
  • After that the Discoursetm is horrible around them for like, months
    • “reminder that Jack is dating Crutchie and shipping him with Race is not cool”
    • “reminder that we can ship whoever we want with whoever we want and it doesn’t cause harm”
    • “stop calling Jack bi when he’s gay, don’t erase his identity” (jack retweets it with the added caption “I’m bi as heck actually everyone is pretty and it’s not fair :)”
    • “they’re just faking it for attention!!!1!!1″
  • after a few years they announce it’s their last tour and people are like “oh no, what happened, did people start fighting?”
  • and their answer is “no but we’re like twenty eight now and honestly just want to get married and settle down”
    • except for Spot and Race who plan on going around the world in eighty days and then getting a dog and doing it again with the dog
    • or at least, that Race’s plan, Spot just honestly wants to stop moving around and settle down a bit, but maybe not get married yet
  • So the band breaks up and people are kinda sad but every time they’re all in one place, which is pretty often since they’re all best friends, somebody snapchat/instagram/twitter/youtube gets a new video of them messing around
  • Jack and Davey out out a solo album and it’s really good
  • Crutchie gets coerced into releasing a Christmas album and it’s funny
  • and Davey makes a Hanukkah album that’s him playing and singing traditional songs that he sang growing up and it’s gorgeous
  • Bonus: Red Carpet Tidbits
    • because I have a lot of feelings about Crutchie’s style
      • Crutchie gets known for never wearing a normal tux like it’s always custom done and never just black or navy
      • also his makeup is always On Point like crazy good and people are like “tell us your secrets” and he’s like “lol cvs and years of practice and makeup tutorials from YouTube”
  • Jack wears normal suites but there’s always a twist
    • the first was the time he actually just spilled paint on himself in the suit bc he’s an idiot but there wasn’t time for a new one so they ended up just going with it and it looked pretty okay
    • and after that he get’s suites from like Macy’s modified to look better on him and to add cool things
    • also his hat game is pretty terrific
    • he’s also a total hipster and people know it
  • Davey wears totally normal red carpet men’s attire but lets Crutchie do his makeup and look absolutely gorgeous
  • Race wears crazy stuff
    • like you know the Great Comet ensemble costume design? probably things like that. formal wear turned into punk style things and he pulls it off and lets Crutchie do his makeup too
  • the best picture of the band is from like, the Grammys or some award show like that where Crutchie is in a purple suit, Jack is wearing a beanie and a jackson pollock styled color splashed suit, dave is looking fine in a perfectly normal suit and SUPER Extra but good makeup, and Race is like barely clothed but still obviously supposed to be wearing a suit like thing and like a foot shorter than everyone

▪️Shoutout to people who have lost a loved one
▪️To kids who are told their grief “isn’t as bad” because they didn’t lose a parent
▪️To older people who are expected to not grieve as much/“have it together”
▪️To people who receive comments like “(person who passed away) is in a better place now” and “man I’m glad I don’t have to go through that”
▪️To people who are pitied/treated differently after others hearing about the loss
▪️To people who can’t remember much about their loved one
▪️To people who are told “I know how it feels,” when it’s different for everybody and nobody can truly understand
▪️To people who still grieve long after the loss

I love you all and I want you to know that it’s ok to grieve. It’s ok to be sad, angry, or anything that you feel. You deserve the best.

CONFESSION:

i’ve made art for the mass effect fandom for some time and am now finding it really difficult to get into the dragon age fandom. i’ve noticed that here on tumblr, dragon age fans are a lot less likely to share smaller blog’s fanart, which leaves so much amazing art with only 1 or 2 notes, whereas the mass effect fandom generally is more supportive and shows more love, even to smaller blogs. i know firsthand how upsetting and discouraging it can be as an artist to spent several hours on a piece to have nobody care about it. to counteract this, i’ve started going through the dragon age tags are liking/reblogging (reblogging is especially important) the original content i see as a way to encourage the creators who may be feeling like their work isn’t good enough or appreciated. if anyone reading this feels this way: please keep making your art!

Let’s make this happen.

Hey everyone!

I have been making some major decisions for this meetup so those of you who really want to help now is the time to spread this around more than anything.

If you’re out of the loop right now, click here for the original post when Ethan reblogged me and that I wanted an idea for us to hold a meetup on here in celebration of 300k subscribers.

Alright so first off, I want to announce the official tag that we are going to use!

I posted the idea and it got a good response, so this is it! Without further chitchat the tag is… *drumroll* 

#wearethecrankycrew! :)

I thought it gave this more of a theme because not only is this a celebration for Ethan but for all of us here together. To show that we are a youtube community of amazing people spreading kindness and just having fun being a part of it all no matter how much you think that you don’t matter. Whether you’re been around for a few years or only a few weeks.

So if this meetup can be a way to do just that then all of this will be worth the effort.

But it’s only going to become a possibility with your help. I know that nobody knows my blog at all, yet alone follow me. That is why I need this very post to be spread around.

It may not get as many notes but as long as I know enough people are on board with this then that will be all I need so this can soon be underway.

Also, I hate to be harsh here but likes will not help. If you are interested in this event and want to stay tuned for what I got planned, hit reblog. 

Tell a friend who is part of the community. Think of posts you want to create as this milestone comes closer. Make fan art. Whatever you want.

This is not only a recap of things but also will potentially be the last post I make before the “okay” for when this meetup starts.

It will very likely be on Friday through Sunday starting at 1 pm EST, which is an hour after he uploads a video.

So, now that I got this out of the way, let’s really make this happen. I know it might feel like there is limited time for this but we got the entire weekend to celebrate.

A NOTE ON THIS THOUGH: If Ethan does not hit the milestone during any time through Sunday, the final day, then we will still celebrate nonetheless. It could go on for an extra day in that case though. I’ll keep a note one that but I won’t worry too much about this outcome.


–>TL;DR: -Crankgameplays 300k community meetup is underway.

-Official tag is #wearethecrankycrew (do NOT use this tag until I say so.)

-Starts from Friday the 10th until Sunday on the 12th at 1 pm EST or 10am PST, and so on. (this MIGHT be subject to change.)

-REBLOG this post to spread the word so people know and can prepare.

-Events will be announced once it starts. Keep an eye out for when I put things like this out in advance for the next few days.

Aaaand finally that’s about it! Questions are open just in case as well but hopefully you guys are now all good on info.
So let’s join together and have some fun, it’s going to be great.

okay

The queue is empty, there’s nothing else in the works, nobody besides me has made anything for the blog in months, I know for a fact at least one of the other mods hates Steven Universe now, and honestly? Steven Universe and making Steven Universe content isn’t fun for me anymore either, and it hasn’t been for a while, especially after stuff like the Concrete fiasco. There’s no point in me maintaining something I don’t enjoy, so I’m going to be deactivating. Enough people reblog the posts that if you really wanted to you should be able to find them somewhere else, but there’ll be no updates from me past this point and anything submitted to be put in the queue will be deleted. There are plenty of other silly paletteswap blogs you can send them to.

It was nice knowing y’all. Thanks for the submissions ‘n fanart and stuff. Honestly I still have all of the pictures of sodalite saved, plus that recent uncomfortable Steven face, and that really cool one of Stretchy Peripearlsteven.

💥 Status: Shawn Mendes💥

I stand a hundred feet, but I fall when I’m around ya.💥(Eu estou cem pés, mas eu caio quando estou perto de você.)

I can’t take anymore.❌(Eu não aguento mais)

Even though you don’t mean to hurt me, you keep tearing me apart.💔(Mesmo que você não pretenda me machucar, você continua me despedaçando.)

Tell me that I’m not crazy,I’m not asking for a lot.👽 (Diga-me que eu não sou louco, não estou pedindo muito.)

Take it easy on my heart, even though you don’t mean to hurt me, you keep tearing me apart.🛰 (Pegue leve com meu coração, mesmo não sendo sua intenção me machucar, você está sempre acabando comigo)

And even though you got good intention, i need you to set me free. 😞 (E mesmo que você tenha boas intenções, eu preciso que você me liberte)

Take my hand, we’ll be fine.👫 (Pegue minha mão, nós vamos ficar bem)

Your words cut deeper than a knife.🔪(Suas palavras cortam mais do que faca)

Got a feeling that I’m going under, but I know that I’ll make it out alive, if I quit calling you my lover, move on.🌔 (Sinto que estou afundando, mas eu sei que conseguirei sair vivo, se eu parar de te chamar de meu amor, e seguir em frente)

Gonna wind up dead.😣 (Vou acabar morto)

I promise that one day, e’ll be around.☝️ (Eu prometo que um dia, eu estarei do seu lado)

You’ll never be alone.🙆 (Você nunca estará só)

I may be far but never gone, when you fall asleep tonight, just remember that we lay under the same stars.☄️ (Posso estar longe, mas nunca fui embora, quando você cair no sono à noite, só lembre que nós deitamos sob as mesmas estrelas) 

Won’t wait I need to tell you, how I feel when, i see us together forever.✍️(Não vou esperar, eu preciso te dizer, oque sinto quero nos ver juntos para sempre)

In my dreams, you’re with me.💓(Em meus sonhos você está comigo)

Do I ever cross your mind?😪 (Eu pelo menos passo pela sua cabeça, amor?)

So when it gets hard, don’t be afraid. 🛤(Então, quando ficar difícil, não tenha medo)

We don’t care what them people say📌 (Não nos importamos com o que dizem)

Make your best mistakes, cause we don’t have the time to be sorry. ✋(Cometa os seus melhores erros por que não temos tempo para lamentar)

Hearts are gonna break.💔(Corações vão ser partidos)

Baby, please no promises 🐼. (Querida, por favor sem promessas)

I’ve never been a fan of heartbreak.👋(Eu nunca fui fã de corações partidos)

No more lies, I’ll be fine.👣(Sem mais mentiras, eu vou ficar bem)

I’m permanent, you can’t erase me. 😇 (Eu sou permanente, você não pode me apagar)

Try to forget me, but I’m everywhere.😁 (Tenta me esquecer, mas eu estou em todo lugar)

Yeah, bet it hurts it gets worse, you know nobody, said it would be fair. 🐾(Sim, aposto que fere e fica pior, você sabe ninguém disse que seria justo.)

And I’m trying to ignore you📌. (E eu estou tentando te ignorar)

Hands down I’ve lost this fight.👊(Mãos para baixo, eu perdi essa luta)

So I guess I’m going down.😔(Então acho que esse é meu fim)

I wanna make you mine.❣️ (Eu quero ter você para mim)

Originally posted by mxndesstrong



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PSA to everyone

My Hogwarts Houses as Literary Quotes and The Houses as Studyblrs graphics and has been reposted and spreaded both on tumblr and twitter respectively as of late.

These are the original posts:

And these are the reposted ones:

I have contacted one of the reposters on tumblr and ask them to take down what they’ve reposted from me and they cooperated. They confessed that they found my creations on twitter. 

The other reposter @fadsarchiblog, though, wasn’t as polite. Despite taking down what they’ve reposted without permission, they blocked me.

Last week, the same thing happened and I dealt with it privately but seeing as it happened again, I would just like to highlight this issue because it is simply unethical to repost someone else’s work completely without permission although you’ve credited and/or tagged them in your post. It is one thing to share a picture, but a whole other thing to save the creator’s work and upload them again on your own social media account. Graphic makers spend a lot of time and effort in creating their work, so please respect them.

If you’re going to credit the original creator, you should probably share the original post by permalink and link it back to the actual post rather than only mentioning their URL (e.g. [cruvcio]). Otherwise, nobody would know who and where it was from.

It is NOT OKAY to repost someone’s creations regardless of whether you credit the author or not. There is just no excuse, unless if the original creator permits you to.

If you have reblogged these graphics from a source that is other than me, I kindly ask that you please delete them and reblog the original source instead if you want to.

Thank you! ♥

anonymous asked:

I'm really sad about something I don't understand and was hoping you could explain. Why do people block without giving a reason to? I don't why it first seems like it's all going so well then the next you're blocked and you don't know why or what you did or said wrong? It's happened twice now and to say it hurts is an understatement.

Oh, my precious Kabby babies.  Circle up, it’s time for some firm but gentle life advice from Mom. 

First of all, unless I personally am the person who blocked you (which I’m obviously not since we’re having this conversation!), in a very real sense the short answer to this question is that you know I can’t actually answer this question.  You’re asking me to tell you why a person I don’t know did a thing for which I have no context, and for which there could be a thousand reasons. So in a concrete, specific sense, my answer is: I do not know.

However.

(You knew there was going to be a however.)

Social media is a deeply personal avenue for self-expression and it’s also a world where many of us spend a great deal of our time, which means that we have the full and free right to customize it into exactly what we want it to be.  The things that you post are personal reflections of you, which is  why it bums you out when someone mutes or blocks or doesn’t follow back; it feels on some level like a personal rejection.  But the space you curate is also a personal reflection of you.  You have the right to post anything you want and other people have the right to choose not to see it.  Both of those rights are equal, even though you’re only on one side so naturally the other one feels like it’s in some way “wrong.”  

I’m speaking with zero context for what your preexisting relationship with these people was beforehand (like obviously if it was a close friend and they blocked you out of nowhere, you’re going to have to sort that out with them directly, I can’t advise you there), but it’s important to remember that there may be no “right” and wrong” in this scenario.  It’s fully possible for both of these things to peacefully coexist at the same time:

1) your absolute right to feel a little bit rejected and hurt that a stranger on the internet made the choice that they didn’t want your social media sphere to overlap with their social media sphere,

and

2) that other person’s absolute right to say “if something or someone makes me feel even the tiniest bit ‘nope’ I am purging it out of this space so it is exactly what I want and need it to be.” 

They don’t need to have a reason.  That sucks, when you’re on the receiving end of it, which all of us have been - it truly and genuinely sucks - but it’s also reality.  One of the hard truths that incidents like this make us sometimes have to face - and we don’t want to face these things, because they can feel really icky and vulnerable and ping all the little gremlins in our brain  - is this:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention for anything you do or say.

This sounds mean and brutal, and I don’t mean it to be, because you know mom loves you, but it’s incredibly important, so I’m going to say it again to make sure that if nothing else, this gets through:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention for anything you do or say.

The celebs you stan don’t owe you a response to your tweet, just because you want one.  The people you tag in meta don’t owe you reblogging it to continue having that conversation with you forever, just because you want to prove you’re right.  The fans of the fic you write for your most popular ship don’t owe you crossing over to give you hits on your rare-pair fic if they don’t feel like it.  Nobody owes you a certain number of followers, nobody owes you a response to every anon you send them, nobody owes you finishing that fic you like in time for them to read it when they feel like reading it.  We owe each other one thing and one thing only: basic human decency.  That’s it.  Everything else is freely offered to the world, and freely taken by the people who want it.  It’s not a transactional exchange.  If you make art or write fic and you put it out there into the world, you’ve done a cool thing, and whether it gets ten hits or thousands it was still worth doing.  There will be people who aren’t interested, but if you get hung up on feeling rejected by that, it will paralyze you.

Social media is personal. That’s unavoidable.  It’s an extension of ourselves.  When someone is cruel to you or to one of your friends on the internet, even if it’s an anonymous stranger, it feels shitty.  When you express an opinion about something and a ton of people reblog it and the tags are full of “OMG YES THISSSSS”, it feels great.  We all experience that in different ways.  Society has always selected arbitrary measures for young girls and women to live up to in order to feel like they’re popular or they’re approved by the cool kids, and right now it’s things like “how many followers do you have” and “did you get an RT from a celebrity” and “how many likes on your posts”.  So on a primal level, maybe having someone you thought was a friend block you on Twitter or Tumblr hits you in the same deep core place as having the cool kids not come to your birthday party.  That feeling is super real!  It brings up alllllll that deep stuff we try to hide and pretend that we’re above experiencing, but we all have those squishy vulnerable inner selves that just need the cool kids to like us and we feel bad when they don’t.  

I had this exact conversation with my therapist a few weeks ago when she was giving me a hard time because my book has 60 reviews on Amazon, of which like the majority are 5 stars with two negative ones, and I have both the negative ones like memorized.  And she was like “CLAIRE.  WHAT THE HELL.  WHY DO YOU DO THIS?  58 POSITIVE AND YOU CANNOT QUOTE A SINGLE ONE.  TWO SHITTY ONES AND YOU KNOW THEM VERBATIM.  THAT IS NOT HEALTHY BEHAVIOR.”  And I was like “… . okay fine when you put it that way, yes I do sound like a crazy person.”  So like my advice to you – advice which I have just proven I am absolute garbage at taking myself, so like I may have just eroded my own credibility in my efforts to help – is to remember that you probably have a lot more than two followers so honestly this is probably not a bad collective ratio, and there may be lots of people who are very interested in what you have to say but you’ve focused a lot of your energy on these two people and it’s worth giving some thought as to why that is.

My question for you is this: what is the net negative impact of having these two people block you on social media? Like in an actual, concrete way, separate from those sort of core gut “I feel unloved in this moment” feelings, what is the effect on your life?  You might be surprised.  It might be zero.  In which case, let yourself feel those feelings, experience them as valid, and then breathe through them and move on and keep on doin’ you. 

I’m pushing back on you a little bit here very gently because it feels, reading this anon, like you’ve made a determination of hurtful intent on the part of the person who blocked you, or at the very least a certainty that this choice that made was about you and not about them.  That the fact that things seemed to be going fine and then they blocked you means you were somehow intentionally misled or mistreated.  Be really, really, really careful about deciding the cool girl didn’t come to your birthday party because she’s a bitch who wanted to make you feel terrible and is sitting somewhere cackling at the thought of your sad lil’ face waiting by the front door; maybe she didn’t come to your birthday party because she has depression and it’s hard for her to leave the house sometimes and she knew your party would be loud and wild and crazy and too much for her brain to handle right now. Be careful about presuming negative intent with no proof it exists.  The internet makes this so easy, the internet conditions us for this, and it conditions us to respond in kind. The worst thing you could do here is to, like, make a callout post or subtweet in the hopes that it will get back to them and they’ll feel bad, or to sic your other followers onto them, because that turns this into a situation that really does have a right and wrong; and since you don’t know if they were trying to make you feel shitty, or just went on a big block/mute purge to whittle their list down for mental health reasons that are totally their own, once things escalate you can’t put the horse back in the barn. It’s too late.  Now it’s A Thing, when maybe it never really needed to be A Thing.  And in almost all situations for almost all people in almost all ways, Kabby Mom’s advice is going to be, “please think carefully before you make this A Thing.”

This got long, I’ve been having a lot of thoughts lately about the conversations I’m always having with fandom folks the way we let social media permeate and shape our sense of self, in good ways and bad, so I apologize for my verbosity but also not really because that’s how things roll over in Kabby Mom’s Advice Corner.  But I will sum up in bullet points for those of you who have been skimming, to bring you up to speed:

  1. Everyone has the right to curate their own social media space however they see fit, and they don’t have to explain their reasons.
  2. They aren’t obligated to include you in that space even if you want them to.
  3. None of that is an objective measure of your worth as a person or a sign that you should stop being you on the internet.
  4. Your feelings of rejection come from a real place and you get to feel them, as long as
  5. You are striving to move through them without permitting them to paralyze you, and finally
  6. You never use someone else’s choice to curate their social media sphere as a justification for treating them like crap.

Focus on your positive interactions instead of negative ones – your friends, creating stuff and putting it out into the universe – whether it be art, fic, opinions, a podcast, gifsets, crackposts, whatever – and your social media world will be a better place.

In the immortal words of the great Michael J. Fox, “What other people think of me is none of my business.”

I was a broken person a few years ago. And people are making fun. I was always alone at the end of the day. One day I was in front of a café. I heard you belong with me. I was wondering who the girl was. But I have not researched for a while. But I  hearded the song everywhere. I finally found the hero of my life.   Taylor changed my life .People started to make fun of it this time and they are still going on. I have been the same person since that day. And nobody can change it. Do you know what happened at the end? I am a happy and strong girl. And 7 years with Taylor but she still smiles the same. I love her and I will love her♡
@taylorswift @taylornation @bmlg Please this post reblog!! I want taylor to see me.

Niall's and Louis' raffles

All right, I’ll try to keep this short because I realize I’ve made dozens of posts like this one and I must be getting annoying, BUT.

There are only three days left for the raffles and I’m a little bit worried about Louis’, so, all I’m going to say is: you can find here all the informations about Louis’ raffle, and here about Niall’s raffle.
Please, please, please let me know if you’re going to participate (especially to Louis’ raffle), if you need more time or anything else, so that I can adjust accordingly – I will probably keep Louis’ raffle going for a bit longer if nobody else decides to participate, cause I feel like the bee could do better than this. 🙈

Please, let me know! (And look at these cuties!)

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Meanwhile Dinah and Ally are actually dancing, Lauren is starting to get tired of Normila’s shit. [x]

valuable news. || 12th of July, 2017.

( p e r s o n a l )

After receiving an unconditional offer for a master’s degree at one of the best European universities a few months ago (and accepting immediately), two days ago something just as exciting happened.

To pay more than half of my tuition fees, my future university department has granted me a bursary. That is money I’m receiving because they found me deserving, and money I never have to pay back. 

And of course, I accepted immediately. It’s not the full amount, but it takes worries off my shoulders and off those who support me leaving my home country for one of the largest cities on the continent. 

So in early September, I will board a plane with two suitcases that are honestly more expensive to pay for than the flight itself, hopefully adequate language skills, notebooks and pen to keep me sane in the chaos of moving, and a long playlist to somehow settle me down (I’m taking song suggestions, inbox is always open).

I don’t know what to say. It will be very different. New. Maybe a little terrifying. Who knows what could happen at that university (nobody), and who knows what I’ll find for and of myself in that city (not even the universe could know that and it’s been around for longer than any of us, so that’s exciting)?

Ah, damn, I just can’t wait. I can’t wait to lose myself to another place on earth and perfectly strange people and the words that’ll break down the door to my skull to be written down. 

The deep end can’t go down far enough for me. 

the ackerbond and eren

So I know nobody is here for this, but it’s something I’m interested in discussing if anybody cares to reblog/reply/send messages/death threats about. I’m not a meta writer, have only read through “Clash of the Titans” once (and hastily) and I’m just overall lazy. So please let me know if I have in accuracies.

So I’m going to start this off with the fact that Mikasa is my least favorite character in the whole series. And it really bothers me that she is, because she has a lot of parallels with Levi, who is my favorite character. I realize there’s a lot of differences that can justify this for me, but one of my favorite things about Levi is his Ackerbond with Erwin… So why do I hate it so much with Mikasa?

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zekefreek  asked:

You keep going on about Kaito's "misogyny" when I really doubt that was the intention. I think that was just meant to show Kaito isn't the brightest bulb in the box and sometimes says dumb things even when his heart's in the right place. When he's trying to say something like "Nobody should kill people for a living", it comes out as "uhhh women shouldn't use weapons, ya know?". Probably to show despite his trust in her, Maki still intimidates him on some level.

I’m afraid that misogyny is still misogyny, even when it’s well-intended. I’ve played through the entire game and I understand Japanese, so trust me when I say I know what I’m talking about. Momota doesn’t say “nobody should kill people for a living,” he says “girls shouldn’t kill people for a living.” There is really no way to get around the fact that, unfortunately enough, Momota has many, many comments about how girls shouldn’t fight, girls shouldn’t wield weapons, girls are more suited to childcare–etc., etc.

That’s not even touching on his actions towards other guys, which are still rooted in toxic masculinity. The reason he wants Saihara to become a stronger person is partly so that he can carry on Kaede’s will, yes–but it’s also because he considers Saihara weak and “emotionally fragile,” and thinks that that “isn’t how a man should act.” The whole idea of “manning up,” of “stop being such a sissy,” is rooted in the idea that showing emotional vulnerability is something only women should do, and therefore “bad.”

These sorts of actions aren’t limited to Saihara either. Much of Momota’s disdain for Hoshi is because Hoshi’s depression and suicidal comments didn’t match up with his idealized vision of “the famous Hoshi Ryouma” from middle school. When Hoshi says he doesn’t have a reason to live, Momota directly calls him a sissy (”女々しい,” which has a direct connotation with being both “effeminate” and “cowardly”).

Hoshi presents no threats to the group, and even says point-blank that he has no intentions of getting in anyone else’s way–but Momota still has a major problem with him because he considers his depression to be “shameful.” Again, emotional vulnerability is associated with “being a girl,” and that’s supposed to be a “bad thing.”

Momota’s treatment of Gonta isn’t always the best, either. As much as he believes in him and sticks up for him in Chapter 4, the fact doesn’t change that whenever Gonta begins crying or apologizing, Momota tells him to stop crying not because “you didn’t do anything wrong and it’s not your fault,” but because “men shouldn’t apologize so much.” Crying, apologizing, or otherwise putting one’s emotions on display are “un-manly”–again, implying that “only girls do these things,” that a “real man” would never display such “weakness.”

Even his comment towards Korekiyo in Chapter 2, where he calls him an “オカマ,” is rooted half-parts in homophobia, and half-parts in misogyny. The word is often deliberately used as a Japanese slur, the rough equivalent of calling someone a “homo” in English (or worse, the f-slur). It’s a word addressed particularly towards “effeminate-looking” Japanese gay men, or trans men for that matter. The implication in that scene was that Korekiyo creeped him out because he was looking and talking effeminately (not because Korekiyo is an actual creep, which he is).

Look, I like Momota as a character. I translated all his FTEs, I’m translating through the entire game, and I’ve written multiple pieces of meta expressing what I think his strong points are and what I do like about him. But he has flaws. His misogyny is present throughout the game, and the main problem isn’t even his misogyny per se–the problem is that the narrative itself doesn’t treat it like a flaw. My fault is much more with Kodaka as a writer than Momota as a character, but that doesn’t change the fact that misogyny is present and that it goes almost entirely overlooked.

Regardless of whether there are good intentions behind it or not, these sorts of sentiments are still harmful. It’s important to address these sorts of flaws, not only in ndrv3 but in any work of fiction, because otherwise they get brushed under the rug or shut down in conversations by arguments like this. I think it’s much more important to simply acknowledge when misogyny is flat-out misogyny, rather than making excuses for it or trying to turn a blind eye to it.

It’s still perfectly fine to like Momota as a character. I like him myself, and I think he’s hugely important to the plot of ndrv3. But discussing a character’s flaws isn’t the same as condemning them. If anything, because the narrative itself dismisses many of Momota’s flaws, I think it’s all the more important to remember them in fandom discussions.

Momota is a good person, and a good friend–but he also thinks women are inherently weaker than men and spends about half the game making comments about how other guys in the group need to “man up” or “stop being such sissies.” That’s just… plain old misogyny, really. No getting around it. Misogyny is a flawed mindset that can be addressed within any stories, and that characters can grow out of, which is what I hoped would happen with Momota but ultimately never did. Therefore, it’s not bad to discuss Momota’s more misogynistic comments with a sort of, “hey, I sure wish this had been handled better” mindset.

I hope I’ve explained myself well. Every character in every series has flaws (or they should, theoretically), so when I point out those flaws it’s not because I’m trying to come down hard on them, but because those things are part of what make them a character in the first place. So that’s why I discuss these things about Momota, especially when talking about what could’ve been done better with his character arc in-game.

&&..•* MASTERLIST !! THE 1975 INSPIRED SHIP TAGS

Under the cut is one-hundred and twenty-one ship tags inspired by lyrics from the band The 1975. Anyone that knows me knows that I am in love with this band and I think all their songs are just gorgeous and eloquent! There are plenty of tags that fit otps, brotps and notps all alikeMy favourites have been italicized !!

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So . . . I need to say some stuff

As anyone who knows me or has held certain kinds of conversations with me could tell you that I am the absolute worst at confrontation. Even if it’s in regards to something more positive. However, as this post is about something rather negative, it will be harder for me to express exactly what I mean without feeling like I’m coming off as an ungrateful or bitchy. However, as this is an apparent concern for many content creators on this site, I don’t think it’s fair to assume I am.

Please allow me to word-vomit an explanation:

Communication aka I’m a Talking Human Being:

Before I started this blog, I had a tendency to send headcanons and AUs to other blogs through anon. In fact, I still do this quite often, and usually to great effect both on the blog-runner’s part and their followers. One day, I got brave enough to submit a soulmate AU drabble set to a Tumblr user who is no longer on this site and a few people asked for more so, after speaking with said Tumblr user, I was encouraged to start Regrettablewritings. Now in my bio, I refer to this place as a “dumping ground” for my pieces. That isn’t just there out of self-deprecation: This was literally just meant to be a place where I put my stuff. All the ideas I had, the headcanons, the one-shots, etc. I never once indicated that this was a place that took requests.

But I should’ve known it’d happen and for that I will take responsibility for not suggesting otherwise. I was never truly set on the idea of doing requests at all because I’ve seen the stuff that people send in by the droves and there was no way I would be able to keep up or provide what was desired and at top quality. However, I feared that completely avoiding or turning down the ones that inevitably came in would result in issues. Blame my paranoia.

I’m still not entirely sure as to what to do with the requests I get. Some, I will admit, I do fulfill. But for the most part, I don’t always feel up to it. Especially considering that I have, by no exaggeration, nearly 20 ideas already stockpiled. Of these pieces, some have been in the works since I started this blog and I’m always trying to figure out which ones to focus on the most so I go, “Hey, I got this, this, and that. Which ones do you wanna see?” And you know what I always get? Nothing. Nobody says what they want from the list. So I sigh, delete the post after having it up for a week, and do whatever I can when the motivation hits me.

Not long after, however, I start getting entirely different requests. Always. I know it’s not intended, but the idea I can’t help but get is that my original content isn’t exactly what anyone is looking for no matter how much work I’m determined to put into it.

I reblog ask memes because maybe if I prove that I’m human behind the screen or showcase that “witty personality” my real life friends keep talking about, maybe it’ll prove that I’m approachable. If I’m lucky one person will message me and I have to stop myself from begging them to please ask more, lest I look desperate.

So then I figured if I reached out to the nearly 400 followers I currently have and tried to connect with them, then maybe there’d be more luck in the realm of communication. But when I tried Sleepover Saturday, only two people “showed up.” And they weren’t even the people who liked the post where I asked if anyone would do it, or the people who told me to go on ahead and do it. So that was the end of that.

For months, I’ve debating bringing up this issue. I didn’t want to look like a snooty bitch, but I also wanted to express how I felt about the situation. I may write to express myself, but I also write and in the way I do to entertain. In real life, I am very cynical and bitter and a bit of a crybaby with a bottled up temper. But the truth of the matter is, I love making people laugh and feel better. The world is already so full of shit; I just want to put a little goodness into somebody else’s day, even if it’s a weirdass fic about everyone’s favorite Cuban lawyer having a past as an adult dancer or whatever. So when it feels like I’m only needed when you want something, and then shelved until then, it doesn’t make me feel good. It makes me feel like the ideas I want to give you aren’t good enough. I know the notes may suggest otherwise, but we’re gonna put a pin in that for a quick second.

The feeling of discouragement often effects my willingness to write. I’ll still do it because, in truth, writing is one of the only things I can do reasonably well. But what’s the point in doing something well if you feel like you’re being taken for granted for it?

I ask you guys for your opinions and feelings on things because I genuinely need to know. I function by playing around with options. Any friend of mine, in real life or online, will tell you that if I’m working on a project (be it painting, fanfiction, or essay), I will throw my ideas out there or ask you for your thoughts on the matter. For fuck’s sake, I’ve heckled @xemopeachx and @ohbelieveyoume about cologne suggestions for one sentence in a piece I’ve been working on! That is how thorough I tend to be about the weirdest shit. But I also do it because I feel you guys deserve that kind of effort. I need a lot of things explained to me in depth to know how they work, so I make it an effort to use that as a means to help others see exactly what I do. I’m already hard to comprehend in real life. Please don’t let me think this effort is for nothing.

Summary: I work hard to give content but never hear anything back in terms of what you would like to see next. But when this happens, it’s like I’m posting from the void and nobody can see it. However, suddenly people are willing to fall into the void if only to make a request. I try to reach out and be more friendly, but even those are disregarded. I don’t know what to do.

Notes: Regarding Likes, Reblogs, and Messaging:

This is something that a lot of content creators talk about. If you’ve seen a post about always reblogging art, chances are you’ve seen a comment saying something like, “Same goes for fanfic writers.” This isn’t riding on coattails or anything, this is some real mess. And, on top of that, there’s an extended difference between art feedback and writing feedback. Because with artists, exposure for them can lead to commissions. Writers? We do this for free. However, this doesn’t make feedback any less deserving.

I’m not trying to complain here, but nobody writes 7-21 pages worth of content to get 100+ notes where only about 12 of them are reblogs. Now I, as well as many others, will give leeway: There is a definite stigma against people who read fanfiction and they may not want it on their blog. I get that. A lot of writers do. But when the reblog to total note ratio is 12/115, 14/192, and 13/207, things get … disheartening.

Because guys? Writing is HARD. I know you may see this statement all the time, but that’s only because it’s true: You have to remember all these words so you don’t sound repetitive, you have to paint a clear enough picture without sound prose-y, you have to somehow translate exactly what the image in your head is and pray you don’t lose people along the way, you have to SOMEHOW get from Point A to Point C when Point B is either exceedingly blurry or even nonexistent. And, perhaps the hardest of all, YOU HAVE TO BE MOTIVATED! It takes so much energy and focus just to write one page, especially if you have a hectic life going on beyond the screen. And guess what? A lot of, if not, all writers do!

For example: For the first two and a half months of running this blog, I wrote on my phone for most of the time because I didn’t have a laptop and the only times I could use the computer lab in my dorm was when others were done with their work. (To gain a better idea of how vexing this can be, please note that A Practice in Happy Memories was written on my phone and that bitch is 6 pages in Word. Try doing that and see how tired of it you get.) And I’m one of the lucky ones: You’ve got people going through some rough stuff in their lives, people raising families while holding down a job, coming on this hell site to write and share their thoughts and ideas. I’m just some 22 year-old black chick with seasonal depression and increasingly crippling social anxiety and an aggressively negative view of the world!

Forgive me for sounding cocky, but I would like to think I deserve better than, like, 8 reblogs on a 60-noted something I literally tapped to life in-between homework and depression naps. Really, though, every writer who’s had to do this deserves better. The amount of talented writers who bust out quality content in spite of broken technology or, you know, having a life outside of the computer yet don’t get treated with utmost appreciation is unreal.

I’m not trying to shame people here, but if you can’t reblog, then reply. Or send a message. Even if it’s on anonymous. Trust me: You message a writer saying you love their crap, you will make their day and they will treasure that thing and look back on it when they feel like crap. For those of you that do reblog, please tag it. It literally only takes a few seconds. As @locke-writes put it in his own post about similar issues, writers really want/need to know what you thought. A like is equivalent to a quick nod and distant pat on the back. A reblog without a tag is a bit better, but still doesn’t get across exactly how you felt, what we did right, etc. A reblog with comments, even in the tags? Makes our fucking day!

Likes? They’re literally just the person who walks by your free sample booth, takes the sample, and doesn’t even acknowledge your existence.

I know I should feel grateful that I have as many notes as I do at all. However, a ridiculous amount tend to come from people who 1) don’t even follow me, and 2) they’re just likes. I have nearly 400 followers already and the same small handful only ever add into the notes. And even fewer actually comment or anything.

This is a common issue for a lot of writers: We just want to be seen as more than just story-making machines. We desire validation for the time and acknowledgement for the effort we put into something we feel we’re skilled at. But a lot of people may feel uncomfortable talking about it in fear of seeming ungrateful or anything but this feeling just drives them closer to wanting to quit writing altogether.

I’m not quitting Tumblr. At least, not anytime soon. But I still need you guys to know this because it’s been boiling up inside me and it’s driving me nuts. Anyway, I’m sorry if I came off as bitchy here as that wasn’t my intention. My intention was to give you a look into some part of the mind that a lot of writers have. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

Summary: Reblogs > Likes. Reblogs with comments and tags ∞ > Likes. And if you can’t reblog, reply or send a message. Your content creator worked to make that piece come to fruition and they deserve to know how they did. They’re not being paid for it despite the amount of time and energy they gave for it, so payment in the form of feedback is the least that they could be given.

In short: Appreciate your fanfic writers. Let them know what you think because every little compliment sticks with them.