//heavy sigh this is the last I will say about this because it’s just causing me so much more stress than anything right now and I don’t need the extra anxiety fuel and these are people who aren’t even friends of mine or all that much involved in my life. I don’t even like Felix’s content. I just want to get back to doing my own thing without my dash being clogged with irrational spouts of anger. So here is my take on the issue, particularly pertaining to Mark’s video, Respect.
There is a difference between recognizing respect for someone as a human being who has the potential to grow and change (a very important distinction here)
and respecting someone for their choices and actions. Respect for choices and actions can be lost. Respecting someone’s potential and ability to change those beliefs should not be lost.
Yes, please debate (civilly) and logically present your arguments. A civil debate (even with those who hold views that cause others great harm) can change people for the better if done right. People change, and it’s a conscious choice to forgo old beliefs. Respect does not mean agreement, nor does it mean passivity. But be warned: most people will have a counterargument. If it is logical and has a solid foundation, then it is your duty as a human with the ability and potential to change as well to listen before responding. The word “debate” includes both sides of the argument being taken seriously.
On a side note: throwing words around without actively thinking critically and piecing them together to make a statement does nothing. If one means to critique with the intention to initiate change within the other, then one needs to piece together the argument logically and not entirely out of the passion of the initial emotional response. Emotion tells you when something is wrong. It is the spark to push for change, but is not the best foundation for an argument, especially with someone you wholeheartedly disagree with. Passion has its place, but it is not here.
Remember, people (no matter how bad they may be) are still people whether you put them down or raise them up, and they will act one way or another. Whether someone deserves punishment is a different argument. That isn’t what I’m talking about here.
There is a duality of meaning of the word “respect” here. I think that’s what Mark was trying to get at.
Please hold yourself to the same exact standards you hold others to. If you say that no one can change and is inherently bad simply because of an action or choice they have made, then you yourself are saying that you are unable to change. You have lost respect for both the other and yourself in that way.
I say this as someone who has taken a step back to view this issue from all sides. I say this as a mature adult who can stand back, observe, and learn.
I am not in a position to say if Mark’s words were the “right way” to react to this, and neither are many of you. I am in no position to say if Jack’s response was the “right way” to react. I am not asking you to be passive on this issue as a whole. I am only asking for you to take a step back and acknowledge the other party’s potential to change and to work towards that change together in a manner that works.
This world is fallen, but it is up to YOU how you interact with it and its people.