Hi there! The hardest episodes of arrow man. Not like the season has been treating us well :(. Anyways for my qns why ask your ex-fiance to fix your shit between him and his gross thing i dont even want to mention? Your take?
Because he’s a total dink?
That still blows my mind that he did that. I was eating a late dinner while watching and when that came on, my jaw dropped, food falling everywhere. It was a very ‘is this really happening… holy shit it is.’
What. The. Hell. Man?!
I am angry as hell on Felicity’s behalf, because that should never have happened… but after sleeping on it, I can see it fits with where he’s at mentally.
I think this is a painfully clear sign of just how in the dark he is keeping himself to everything around him in his pursuit of being the man he so desperately wants to be. For so long his main goal was focused outward, and this season it’s finally inward. For so long he was all about being the vigilante/The Hood/The Arrow/ The Green Arrow, but this season he’s all about Oliver Queen. It’s like a ramped up version of Season 3.5 except this time he knows he has a team in place who can take care of the crime fighting part. So he can be Oliver Queen without the Green Arrow. He can be. He can. (He says this in the mirror to his reflection every morning - the denial is strong in this one.)
He’s wrong. As usual. He’s still learning that he needs both halves to be whole. This is a lesson he’s been trying to learn since forever. He’s gotten close only to fall flat on the ground and have to start over. He’s an idiot, he’s gonna stumble. (But each time he’s getting closer and closer to that realization - the evolution is there, under all his Oliverness.)
Part of that stumbling is what he did last night.
Oliver is hellbent on becoming this person he sees in his mind. He’s got an idealized version of himself in his head and that’s what he’s working towards. Oliver is very good at having blinders on when he has a goal in mind, and he usually doesn’t see the consequences of his actions until it’s too late.
This was one of those moments.
Oliver wasn’t thinking. He was looking at the logical solution to a problem - a hack ruined Susan’s career, a hack would put it back together. And who’s the best hacker he knows? Felicity.
It absolutely was insensitive and stupid as hell. If he’d stopped to think, he would have realized that asking his ex-fiancée to fix his current girlfriend’s life was dumb as hell, especially with the weird air between them and especially with the whole Billy thing.
But Oliver had simplified it in his mind, which is a thing that he does - it’s a coping mechanism, something to make a decision easier because otherwise you’ll drown in anxiety and emotions and things you can’t readily deal with:
“Felicity moved on. I’m moving on. We’re friends and partners now, so what’s the problem?”
Try everything, Oliver.
He’s a jackass, anon. He’s blinded by his desire for a life he had with another woman, a life he threw away, and he’s hurt and angry and tired and instead of dealing with these things, he’s plunging face-first into Bad Decision Land. As much as Oliver is someone who has to know every course to make a strategic choice in battle, he’s also the complete opposite when it comes to emotional choices (story of his life, literally, with his two identities). He can physically kick all the ass in the world, but when it comes to relationships - especially romantic ones - he is naive and broken and floundering and choosing whatever pops up into his head. He’s doing this by staying with Susan, by choosing to look past her motives, by denouncing his Green Arrow self, by going to Felicity to ask her to save his girlfriend’s career.
(God, that still makes me want to slap him upside the head.)
It’s a symptom of a larger problem, one he’s still in the midst of learning about before he can stop to fix it. It’s also one that’s intricately tied to Felicity’s in that his desire to keep forging ahead with his Mayor Oliver Queen path has blinded him to what’s happening to her and it’s going to be too late to pull her back as a result. She’s going to fall and he’s going to have to watch it happen (and the full realization of himself will come through because instead of running and hiding under his guilt, he’ll rise up and be the light Felicity so starved for right now, thus completing the next step in his journey). They are two sides of the same coin. This is the season where they’re finding their personal balance before they can find each other again.
We just have to go through a lot of boneheaded bullshit while they do it.
(And Felicity knew what a stupid thing this was…
… but because she loves him and is always there for him, she did what he asked. This also served as a sharp contrast to Susan ignoring Oliver’s call from the hospital when she knew he’d been hurt. Felicity would have been there in 2.5 seconds l, regardless of what was happening between them. The scene did serve a purpose, on many fronts, as enraging as it was.)
I’m not trying to justify Oliver’s actions (you just can’t, you really can’t, this was d u m b), but I can see why he did it, why he thought it was okay (besides being a j a c k a s s).