i just needed this on my tumblr okay

This goes out to all of YOU!!!

Okay so I know no one really cares but honestly you guys are like my second family on here. You all make me feel so welcomed and happy that half the time, I feel like we don’t just “know each other on Tumblr”. We click and because of that, there’s no other people I’d rather spend my birthday with than u guys. Thank you so much for everything. Love ya😘😘😘

Originally posted by asdarknessfell

I wanna follow some more people, my dash feels pretty slow and quiet most of the time and it makes me sad :(

can anyone recommend any blogs? you can recommend yourself!
fandoms/things I’m into include harry potter, voltron, dragon age, mass effect, guild wars 2, the adventure zone/mcelroy stuff in general, friends, b99, video games in general, dnd… uhh, I like art and ocs a lot ?

I don’t need for blogs I follow to have everything in common with me obviously, but I tend to get stressed out when my dash is just full of things I have no interest in so if you’re gonna recommend something it’d be neat if they mostly post some of the stuff I mentioned :D I also need people I follow to have some sort of tagging system and I won’t tolerate any aphobia at all (or any other bigoted bullshit honestly but being an exclusionist asshole seems to be “okay” in some parts of tumblr these days so it seemed worth mentioning)

but yeah let me know! just tell me if you think I should follow you/your friends/any neat blogs you know about <3

I never see anyone talking about how kids can abuse adults though. 

Growing up I saw a lot of adult teachers get bullied by students and it sucked. They would purposely push them to their breaking point until they exploded, yelled, cursed, threw desks, and the ones who didn’t have that kind of reaction would just quit or end up fired because the kids would start rumors. One was because our new math teacher was effeminate so the guys thought “obviously this guy is gay and he’s after our dicks” and if he was ever nice to a male student (which… he was nice and friendly with EVERYONE and was the best teacher we’d had that year) they would start whispering behind me, “yo, look at that, did you see that? He’s flirting with his male students, that’s nasty” and so they made trouble for him. 

My mother worked at a Discovery Zone type place when I was little and she would come home and break down crying because groups of little boys would call her names, call her stupid her whole shift.

I had friends in childhood who absolutely abused their parents. They were relentless and mean and hacked them into submission and it made for a lot of awkward moments when I would hang with them, because I couldn’t do anything since… they were my abuser too.

Just because you’re a minor doesn’t mean knives you throw are not sharp and won’t hit someone. The fact that so many kids on this site use their age as a weapon, as a way to say “but nothing I do has any impact because I have no social power” is SCARY and we need to try to make people aware of this kind of stuff from a young age because most people who are like that don’t really realize it and they need guidance and rehabilitation so the cycle can stop. Because those people grow up and have kids and do it to their kids and they don’t learn that it’s not normal or okay, that they cannot deny reality by controlling the people around them. 

But sometimes it isn’t always that way, some of those parents were so nice and kind and I considered like family, and they just had absolute evil villains for kids. 

Check in with yourselves, guys. Especially right now. There’s a lot of upsetting stuff being shoved in our faces all the time and it makes it hard not to get tunnel vision when our emotions get out of control, especially with the pressure to perform by a lot of social circles on tumblr. And if you’re young and a lot of this is new, pace yourself, you’re learning, and you need to be open to the idea of learning more and know that us being adults doesn’t mean we’re just out of touch boring old farts who don’t know anything. We’ve lived things and we have experience and when we say to you that it’s not okay to tell people who like things you do not like to kill themselves, we’re not “apologists”… we’re the survivors too. 

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My beautiful wife and my edgy son


UPDATE: DO NOT REPOST IM HAVING A LOT OF REPOSTING TROUBLE WITH THESE IN PARTICULAR

how to stick your plans

by a horrible procrastinator

scheduling:

  • keep things realistic. you may think you can read 200 pages of jane eyre in one night, and honestly, you could…but you won’t unless that essay that’s 30% of your grade is due, you know, tomorrow.
    • you know your habits better than anyone. try to work around what you know you’re going to do. can you read about 25 pages without getting totally bored/sidetracked? well, make yourself do that. it’s only 25 pages, right?
  • try to accomplish one thing every day. don’t ever let your day slip away from you without doing anything. even if that “one accomplishment” is making a stupid text post on tumblr or revising your notes or washing your sheets…just be productive!
    • this is especially important for those of you with mental illness! having a “zero day” can really plummet your mood or set you in an unproductive rut.
    • if you really feel like you need a day to just chill out, napping can count as your accomplishment
  • don’t push studying off! you’ve probably heard this one a million times, but seriously. don’t. you’re not going to retain 10 weeks worth of information with one study session…okay, maybe you can, but do you really want to?
    • the best, low-effort way of remembering information is to, at first, review it often. right after you learn the material, review it a couple times during the week. maybe re-write your notes that weekend. then, the next week, visit one or two times, just glazing over parts you don’t really remember well. then, maybe once every two weeks, etc…by the time you get to finals, you’ll be familiar with all the information! trust me, it works.
  • organize your to-do’s. personally, i make a huge to-do list for the entire week. then, i delegate different ‘levels’ of urgency to it (see below.) you can do this however you want, but i do it this way to help me visualize how lazy i can be and not pay for it…
    • i tend to organize it by these ‘categories’ / ‘urgent levels’
      • is there a quiz on the material due soon
      • how likely is there to be a pop quiz
      • what’s my grade in the class like / how badly do i need that ‘a’
      • does the homework/assignment need to be turned in
      • etc

actually doing it:

  • studyspo helps. okay, i know this is kind of obvious considering i’m a studyblr, but… you see that notebook you just bought? isn’t it fucking adorable? don’t you want to make some sweet, sweet note-love to it? you know you do.
    • don’t spend too much time setting up your work space or browsing tumblr. seriously. you know when you’re overstepping.
  • have some nice playlists. preferably with music you already know! if you don’t know the song already, chances are it’s just going to become a distraction.
    • 8tracks is a great site for this! you can make your own mixes or take a listen to one of the many, many study / chill playlists available. again, take a listen to the track on your way to class or whatever before actually trying to study with it on.
    • instrumentals + classical + video game music are the standard
  • get organized. messy = stressy. seriously. organize your desk, organize your notes. even if it’s not really your style, at least try to keep things ‘in your personal order.’ try to pretend you have your shit together. you will be so much more productive & confident if you feel in control of your situation.
    • if you’re a perfectionist, you may want to disregard this. really. you don’t want to put ‘tidiness’ above productivity.
    • taking pictures of your awesome, super-nice work space is awesome motivation. give that illusion of productivity. become tumblr famous.
    • if you can afford it, matching stationary and cute shit like that is super awesome feeling. it makes studying aesthetically satisfying.
  • take care of yourself. brush your teeth, put on that nice-smelling lotion, drink water. eating healthy foods, getting some exercise, all that good shit people tell you to do…it really is important. it’s kind of hard to focus or remain motivated if you’re miserably bloated & haven’t showered in 3 days.
    • especially for my neurod or mentally ill followers!

i fucked up

  • repeat after me: IT’S OKAY. IT’S OKAY. we all fuck up. you’re allowed to fuck up. sometimes assignments don’t get done, sometimes we don’t do as well on tests as we’d like. it’s okay. you’re okay.
  • recovery. alright, so, now that we’ve accepted that we’re human beans who sometimes grow upside-down…
    • cuddle in a blanket, and write down what you think you did wrong. did you not study enough? do you need to go to your professors office hours? write down your ideas.
    • let your failure motivate you! you hit your lowest point, alright? now you can focus on doing better, even if it’s just a few points difference.
    • you can do some things wrong. you don’t need to get an A every single time. did you understand 50% of the material? well, that’s halfway there!
    • you’re not going to be perfect at everything. we all have growing pains.

well, that’s all i have to say. keep growing towards the sun, kids.

My dear trans daughters, 

If you are trying out make-up, “feminine” clothes etc. for the first time, i want to tell you some things: 

1. First of all… *big mommy bear hug*! I’m so proud of you! This is a big step and it’s very exciting! 

2. You are likely excited, too - but you may also be nervous or even scared. Please know that those feelings are completely normal. They’re not a sign that you’re “faking it”. Trust me when i tell you that almost all of your trans sisters felt the same way. You’re not alone, darling. 

3. Nobody is born a makeup artist. Every girl - cis or trans - needs to practice how to put on mascara or lipstick without ending up looking like a horror clown. The only difference is that cis girls usually get taught how to at a young age. It’s not your failure that nobody taught you! So, what if you tried it and it looked awful? Don’t stress. You’ll get the hang of it eventually. It’s normal that it takes practice and time. 

4. The good thing about not being the only one? There were others before you who were in the same situation - and shared what they learned! There are tutorials on youtube, tumblr posts, websites etc. Don’t be afraid to use them. 

5. It’s okay to take baby steps. You don’t need to try it all at once. Maybe putting on nail polish, mascara and a dress today feels overwhelming - but just putting on clear nail polish sounds much less scary! There’s nothing wrong with slowly working your way up to the look you dream off. 

6. You don’t need to do anything. You tried lipstick and you don’t like it? That’s okay! You don’t need to wear lipstick to be a real woman. You don’t enjoy wearing skirts? Many girls prefer pants, don’t worry! 

7. Have i already told you how amazing you are? 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

I’ve reached a point where loneliness isn’t as sharp of a pain as it used to be. There were times when it hurt all over, times when I’d find that I didn’t know what to do with myself. And now I kinda just lie here in the numbness, feel my heart beat. I’m here. I’m alive. That counts for something.
—  🖤

okay but does anyone else check people out artistically? like instead of thinking “wow I’d tap that” you just intensely appreciate their appearance and sit there and “holy shit look at the curve of their spine and that POSTURE but then there’s the shape of their eyes and THEIR HANDS AND -” *snaps pencil in half*

Sometimes you lose people, and there’s just nothing that you can do about it. Sometimes you lose something that you love. Sometimes you’re replaced by someone else and shifted to a not-so-important place in that one confidant’s heart. Sometimes relationships change and you end up feeling a little bit lonely. Sometimes you just aren’t the right fit, you just aren’t the soul that that other person needs.
—  🖤
I don’t know, I just wrote what I felt. Like I’m always trying to do. In my most vulnerable moments nobody is really there for me. Of course that’s also part of my depression telling me that. But I just feel horrible. Especially right now. I try not to expect anything from anybody anymore. But I always have in mind what I would do if somebody send me the messages I sent to you. And I would write differently. I would write: “I understand. I want to cuddle, touch and kiss you too. I am sending you all the affection my broken heart and soul can.” But I am not you. And this is wishful thinking. And also this is having expectations. Which I try not to have. But as you told me many times: humans have needs. And I don’t want to be angry with you or sad or push you to do something just because I need it; because that is wrong. But in these moments I sometimes think: “Why didn’t you just simply answered me: I’m sending affection, my love. I love you and I know it’s hard. I know it.” But I know you have hard times too. And I understand you, I think. But you see how much I think about everything. You see how long this message is? I know I need help and I will get it soon. But right now I have to finish university. And it’s F*CKING nearly impossible sometimes to just write one f*cking sentence of my thesis. But you know all that. And I know that you know. And I understand that it’s f*cking hard for you, too. What you’re going through right now. And we’re just humans and we’re stubborn and we need our needs to be fulfilled or else we go crazy somehow. And we hurt others. Okay that’s enough from me and my f*cking sick brain. I love you. I truly do.
—  dewdropheart 

oh look, i tried to draw revali (I’m still recovering from the suicide attempt, as my body is still weak, so that’s why i don’t like the outcome of the picture)

Okay! One of my life goals has finally been accomplished! I finally drew Revali!

Okay, okay… okay… okay…. I am a horrible artist when it comes to birds, as they’ve always been my weakness, but lORDY JESUS THIS PICTURE TOOK IT’S SWEET TIME TO PISS ME OFF

The picture closed on itself without me saving more times than I can count. It doesn’t do it with ANY other picture I drew, just with this one! it’stauntingme

Anyways, have a horribly drawn Revali! 

@sonicmega tagging you because…. do I really need to explain?


(before anyone goes berserk on me, i don’t have a watermark for my tumblr so i use my deviantart watermark)

How to study like a straight A student

I did really well during my first year of college, and aside from a B+ in statistics (which was really good for me, haha! I’m not good at math), I had A’s in all of my classes. I’m certain that the reason I did so well was due to the way that I figured out how to study, so here are some tips I have based on what I did to study this past year!

1. Sit in the front row.

This isn’t high school anymore, it’s not embarrassing or nerdy to sit in the front row. By sitting in the front row, you won’t be tempted to check your phone and you won’t be distracted by looking at the people around you. I focus best in the front row. This also gives you a chance to easily ask any questions you have.

2. Show up to class a little early.

Show up to class about five minutes early every day, if possible. During the time it takes your professor to get set up, read through your previous notes. If you do this every day, you’ll begin to memorize info that you certainly wouldn’t have learned if you spent those five minutes before class just scrolling through tumblr. 

3. Type your notes and print them out.

If you prefer to spend a lot of time on hand written notes, then go crazy. However, I don’t really have time to make aesthetic notes, so I prefer to just write my notes by hand during class, then copy them into microsoft word so I can organize and print them out. This makes the notes much easier to read, and it’s much easier on the eyes. 

4. Do every assignment. Yes, EVERY assignment.

I don’t know why there’s advice floating around on tumblr telling people that it’s okay to skip a ton of homework assignments, because I definitely wouldn’t recommend it at all. Of course some assignments might be stupid or seem too small to matter, but if you’re being graded on them, you need all the points you can get. Trust me, just because homework assignments only account for 10-15% of your final grade, that doesn’t mean that they won’t be the difference between a B+ and an A-. Think about it: if your homework is 10% of your grade and you didn’t do it, you would literally have to get NOTHING wrong on your exams just to get the lowest A- possible. 

5. Don’t skip. Don’t skip. Don’t skip. 

Don’t skip if you can help it. If there is a serious emergency and you really can’t make it, try your hardest to get the best notes you can from someone who was in class. There’s nothing worse than sitting down for a test and realizing that a ton of the questions are about content you missed when you were absent. 

6. Go over material in your head when you’re not busy. 

If you’re in the shower or waiting in line at the cafe, go over class material in your head. Think about what you learned that day. If you do this often, this will help significantly with retention. 

7. Make flashcards throughout the semester, not the night before the final.

Don’t be one of those students who has to relearn an entire textbook the week before finals. If you’re studying right, studying for finals should be relatively painless. Throughout the semester, make flashcards of class content and regularly go over them. The easiest way to do this is to use quizlet.com and fill in definitions and other things you need to know, and use their helpful games and quizzes to memorize the info. It even keeps track of the definitions you rarely get wrong, so you know what you don’t need to study as much. 

8. Makes specific agendas for what you need to study and get done. 

When I study, I need to have a very specific to-do list detailing exactly what I want to get done. This will motivate you to keep going because you’re able to check off what you’ve already done. 

9. Don’t get discouraged by a bad grade- take it as motivation.

This is much easier said than done, but I had to do this in my western civilization class when I very nearly failed the first set of exams. If this happens to you, you should definitely take time to be upset about the grade, but don’t let yourself think it’s the end of the world. If you do badly, at least you know what to expect on the next assignment/exam so you know how to alter your studying to prepare for the next one. You can do it! I started western civ with a high D+ after my first exams, but I pulled out with an A- at the end of the semester! 

Okay.

Tumblr gardening people. Sit down we need to talk.

I have had so many people message me or go in the notes in that post and be like “But dandelions choked out my garden plants!!!”

Like

I grew up gardening and have pulled probably hundreds of thousands of dandelions I know they can be a pain but, like, just pull them???

Did

Did none of you people ever learn that you actually have to weed your gardens occasionally??

There is a specialized tool made for removing weeds from vegetable patches here is a picture

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I know it’s pretty cutting edge tech you might not have heard of it. We’ve only had it since the actual stone age.

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anonymous asked:

okay but I just realised it has been two years since we got impossibly tiny foldable Louis being CUTE AS FUCK while texting with someone (...) on the phone in a corner of a club and I JUST NEED YOU TO SCREAM WITH ME so can you do that PLEASE ???????!!!!

I can! I CAN!!!!! Has it been two years already?? Two years sine these grainy and terribly low quality pics hit tumblr and completely took my breath away?! Pictures of Louis in a club somewhere in Bangkok, half sitting half lying down in some corner of the club, or even on a table or on top of the bar for all we know. The pictures sure didn’t give away too much but WHO CARES?? I mean LOOK AT HIM!!! 

He couldn’t care less about ‘club etiquette’, about how he should probably dance and be on his feet, mingling with the people around him, nope. This gorgeous boy just decided he wanted some time to himself to share the moment with whoever (*cough*) was on the receiving end of his messages so he simply sat down in a corner, sank down comfortably with his high tops slung over his knee, bopping to the music and smiling happily while texting on his phone, just really enjoying some time to himself in the midst of the madness surrounding him :) 

And it really doesn’t get much cuter than this does it?? Two years have passed and these pictures still knock the breath out of me because this is SUCH A LOUIS THING TO DO ISNT’T IT??! Being the most adorable and yes, foldable person out there, just enjoying his time like only he can. No wonder I’m whipped, right?

And as if that wasn’t enough, we got this equally grainy pic of Louis leaving the club looking impossibly soft and curvy and tiny and I just can’t understand how the person holding the camera didn’t pass out on the spot because LOOK: 

So to answer your question anon: AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!
Thanks for the friendly reminder. You have officially killed me. Again… 

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Not everyone wants to come out to every single person in their life and that’s okay! You don’t owe anyone a coming out. 

You want to come out to your friends but decide it’s not your coworker’s business? That’s fully okay! Only you get to decide who to tell. 

You know your mom would react unsupportive and don’t want to hear her say something hurtful? You don’t need to come out to her if you prefer not to! It’s your choice and just because someone is related to you doesn’t mean you have to come out to them. 

You don’t want to have the whole “big talk” kind of coming out? That’s okay! Being lgbt+ is not something you need to dramatically “confess” to anyone. You may choose to not hide it but not explicitly come out either or just bring it up if necessary - there’s nothing wrong with never having the cliche “I need to tell you something..” conversation. 

It’s your life and you get to make up the rules. There’s no golden guideline who to tell, how to tell or if to tell at all. 

People who don’t come out are just valid as people who are “out & loud”. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

Me: *snuggled in bed about to go to sleep* man I’m almost done with my work week, thank the gods and-

*SITS BOLT UPRIGHT*

JAQEN H'GHAR IS ARDYN IZUNIA

Okay but I’m so angry at everyone who spread and continues to spread that “the ace community is super extra white” shit.

Like at first I was like “okay I’m just pissed at white people doing it, PoC need to be able to talk about the racism they experience in pretty much whatever way feels right to them”. But people have not just vented about racism and called it out in this way, they have over and over used this “aces/aros are so white” argument to try and discredit “ace tumblr”, they have erased me and others like me from my own community, they have erased the work that many PoC have put into the community.

White people in “the discourse” have over and over acted like their own white privilege pales compared to that of “the ace community” and they have largely gotten away with it. People have used a god damn AVEN survey and acted like a census from a racist site many PoC left early on accurately represents us, while ignoring more inconvenient data from that same survey (like only 22% respondents having been heteroromantic). People have told me curtly to shut up, that I’m tokenizing myself by having opinions they don’t like, and they have literally tried to remove my PoC card despite me making it very easy for people to find it on my blog and in my posts that I’m not white.

“Discoursers” have sexualized aces and dehumanized aros and don’t see that it’s racist. “Discoursers” have said people on the other side of the debate have never experienced “real oppression”, often coupling it with the “most aces are white+cis+het” claim, and don’t understand that it’s among other things racist. White “discoursers” talk about how super extra white and racist “the ace community” is and don’t understand that they have left their lane far behind and that it’s racist, and an expression of them distancing themselves from their own white privilege.

“The discourse” thrives on this, on painting “the ace community” as the most white, the most privileged, because it means our opinions are ignorant and worthless essentially by default. Saying “ace tumblr is the most white and racist” as an “argument” in “the discourse” is convenient, and is one thing that makes it so much easier to dismiss anything we say out of hand and mock us relentlessly, and if the price is making PoC who are part of “ace tumblr” feel like shit or even exposing us to more racism, oh well, we’re just tokens, we’re barely even there, we don’t matter.

Every time I see this “the ace community is so white (and that’s why ‘the discourse’ is right)” bullshit I get furious and I have not felt this erased as a PoC in the ace community since I left AVEN.

Drown Me In Your Love (Grayson Smut)

Summary: Requested by anon: “Gorgeous human, could you write a storyline where Grayson (please with G) and his girlfriend have an argument, not an angry one but a teary filled one and Grayson approaches her as she’s crying and there’s heavy SMUT involved as they make up, it’s not aggressive but very passionate and intense? I just heard the song ‘Too Deep’ by Ritual and Delilah and its got me feeling all kind of things and just need to read something you write based on this song, maybe along the lines of my suggestion? xx”
Word Count: 4,008 (longest imagine I’ve written omg)
Warnings: Cunnilingus, daddy kink.
A/N: So, this is the work that I had gotten halfway through when tumblr crashed. I had to rewrite it so it didn’t come out as good as I expected it to. But I hope I did this justice and I hope you like it. Also, I’m still not very good at smut but I’m gonna practice and get better hopefully. Listen to Too Deep for the full effect!


“Are you sure you’re gonna be okay?” Your friend’s voice sounded through the phone and you stopped yourself from scowling.

How were you supposed to answer that after the large bomb she had dropped on you?

“Yeah.” You answered, voice coming out breathy and quiet. You knew that you weren’t gonna be okay, though, and judging by the small indignant noise that your friend let out on the other end of the receiver, she didn’t buy it either.

“Look, maybe it isn’t what it looks like,” Your friend brought you back from your dark thoughts. “Just don’t do anything stupid.”

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