Want some insights into book Asha Greyjoy. In the show I get the impression she loves Theon, but sees emotion as a weakness. What's the deal with book Asha? Is her love for Theon more obvious in the books, non existent in the books? I'm kind of curious about the relationship between those two, and if you've done an analysis.
well, in the books Asha is quite clever, though I don’t think she understands her little brother very well (neither does she in the show) in the second book when he comes home and acts like an arrogant douche, she bullies him. which does quite a bit of damage that she doesn’t realise. when she tries to convince him to come home after he’s taken Winterfell, she insults him a lot and as a result Theon refuses to listen to anything she has to say and focusses his conviction that she’s just jealous and is out to steal his throne and wants to get him to give up winterfell to shame him. So he stays, without even considering anything she says at all. until she’s leaving and he’s looking at her leaving and he kinda realises that she’s right then and that he should have left too. But it’s already too late. (this is one of the reasons that I, unlike most other Greyjoy fans, don’t think that Asha’s behavior towards Theon in the brothel scene in season 6 was out of character for her)
I think that if she’d taken a different approach with him, been nice and showed him how much she cares about him, he would have probably listened to her and abandoned winterfell. the problem was that at that point he was holding on to Winterfell/ his stark identity (wish) for support because he’d concluded that his real family didn’t want him anymore and that was partially due to Asha being unskilled in understanding what her little brother was going through. I don’t think she thought he was damanged, she probably thought he was just arrogant.
Asha does love her brother fiercly though, despite all his faults. she cares for him. I mean look at this:
“ He had hated the look on Asha’s face when she realized who he was; the shock in her eyes, the pity in her voice, the way her mouth twisted in disgust. Instead of rushing forward to embrace him, she had taken half a step backwards. “Did the Bastard do this to you?” she had asked.
“Don’t you call him that.” Then the words came spilling out of Theon in a rush. He tried to tell her all of it, about Reek and the Dreadfort and Kyra and the keys, how Lord Ramsay never took anything but skin unless you begged for it. He told her how he’d saved the girl, leaping from the castle wall into the snow. “We flew. Let Abel make a song of that, we flew.” Then he had to say who Abel was, and talk about the washerwomen who weren’t truly washerwomen. By then Theon knew how strange and incoherent all this sounded, yet somehow the words would not stop. He was cold and sick and tired… and weak, so weak, so very weak.
She has to understand. She is my sister. He never wanted to do any harm to Bran or Rickon. Reek made him kill those boys, not him Reek but the other one. “I am no kinslayer,” he insisted. He told her how he bedded down with Ramsay’s bitches, warned her that Winterfell was full of ghosts. “The swords were gone. Four, I think, or five. I don’t recall. The stone kings are angry.” He was shaking by then, trembling like an autumn leaf. “The heart tree knew my name. The old gods. Theon, I heard them whisper. There was no wind but the leaves were moving. Theon, they said. My name is Theon.” It was good to say the name. The more he said it, the less like he was to forget. “You have to know your name,” he’d told his sister. “You… you told me you were Esgred, but that was a lie. Your name is Asha.”
“It is,” his sister had said, so softly that he was afraid that she might cry. Theon hated that.”
I think that says enough ;)