How far will you go to defend your beliefs? I mean, do you tend to argue with people, or avoid conflict?
I don’t like conflict but something in me likes conflict – provided I have to do with someone who’s witty, eloquent and not square-minded; there’s no way I am going to try & talk sense or subtlety to someone who’s not likely to get it in a million years.
(They don’t even have to agree with me, I just have to feel that they get it.) Or to someone who just lives under a completely different sky from which I am living. Then intuition comes into play & ofc…I wouldn’t drag an argument merely to support my opinion based on some belief system or because I have a problem with backing off. I can be defensive (a lot) but what’s being said has to strike my heart. And that’s where it gets complicated because no one really chooses what strikes one’s heart. It doesn’t have to feel true to me for it to affect me; often “truth” is very irrelevant when it comes to it and falls short because of many, many reasons. All in all I’m not very interested in beliefs/ideology? If a reason for an argument feels personally valid to me, then it feels personally valid to me…key word being “personally”. Idk. It’s very idiosyncratic, all of it – has to do with not only with what one says, communicates etc but also with what one overall is. In the long run, I have a hard time overlooking “the whole”, whatever the whole is. Only rarely do I feel that what’s “objective” (what. even. is. that. word) is more close to being it than what’s accurate in a more psychosynthetic sense. So. For an argument to feel valid…there’s just a lot to it but it’s the who that counts more than the what. If I value the one I’m having an argument with, then I usually pace myself and come to value the conflict as per se. I let it unfold. I occasionally freak out over it. All of that. Aka I do have a soft spot for heated conversations if and if. Can’t stand the awful, unnecessary stream of bullshit coming from strangers though. Or people who downright oversimplify // overcomplicate & are generally obvious, way too obvious even when trying to be indirect. Low bullshit tolerance. I could ramble until 2020 so I’m dropping this.