I was talking with a friend about relationships because she’s having some doubts about her love life… and that talk just made me think about it a lot.
What do we want for ourselves is what we really have?
Sometimes we want to be with someone that makes us feel safe and warm, but all we have is someone that makes us cry or makes us insecure.
Why does it happen?
Because we let it happen!
So, she asked me: what I have to do then? What I’m doing wrong?
And I answered:
You’re forgetting what you want. You’re forgetting your value. You’re forgetting what you deserve.
Then I asked her: What the fuck you want?
She answered me: I wanna marry! I wanna me happy! I don’t wanna be with a girl that don’t want to introduce me to her family.
And then I said: That’s it! Make your wish list. Put on the paper all the things you want in a relationship and how you want to feel about it. You have to read that list EVERY fucking day and remind yourself of all the things YOU REALLY WANT! And when some girl shows up, no matter how needy you are, you will remember all the things you want. If that girl is not what you want, you gonna say bye and move on and you will not accept ANYTHING less than what you want and deserve. No matter if she’s beautiful, cute, funny… if she don’t want to introduce you to her family, is not her! If she makes you insecure, is not her!
People use to lie to themselves and making excuses to be with the wrong people. If your life is full of “but,” something is wrong …
“She makes me insecure BUT she’s funny…”
“Sometimes she’s rude with me BUT I know is her way to love…”
No! No! No!
You don’t deserve BUT in your life!
Don’t be with someone just for needy.
Be with someone that fills your soul, that makes you dream, keeps you warm and safe.
Yeah, I know…no one is perfect though… but when you are having less than you deserve, something is not right!!!
Make your relationship wish list and be loyal to it! Be loyal with what you really wants for you!
what she means:
did Zuko ever meet that little boy from "Zuko Alone" again? that little gap-toothed troublemaker who treated Zuko like a brother? i know they parted on such bad terms when Zuko revealed his identity, and i really don't blame him because at that time Zuko was still kind of an asshole, but did they ever see each other after the war? did the little boy hear about how Zuko disowned his father and joined the Avatar? did he learn that Zuko was the one to fight Azula in that fateful battle? did Zuko visit an earth kingdom town one one of his royal trips and recognize him years later? did the little boy apologize for rejecting him? or did maybe he go to the fire nation to see if Zuko remembered him? did Zuko beg forgiveness for the crimes of the fire nation? did they make up? did they hug it out? did the little boy's brother survive the war? did he introduce him to Zuko? did Zuko insist on giving him the pearl dagger he tried to give him before he left? did the little boy accept it this time? did
Last night episode was personally the best episode arrow has ever produced. This was a very deep character study of oliver queen. It tied perfectly to his time in the island, his state of mind when he came back to starling as the hood, and present day oliver. After all, they are the same man just in very different states of mind.
To understand this episode properly I think we must remember that for five years Oliver Queen was a slave of circumstances and others. For five years his entire existence was out of his control. He had no control over his circumstances, over his body, over how his body was shaped into a weapon and how his body was used as a means to an end. For five years Oliver Queen wasn’t treated as a human being but shaped into a weapon that you could use as you pleased to achieve whatever purpose you had.
That matters because all that contributed to how and why Oliver slowly but surely stopped seeing himself as a person as a human being. Instead for five years the darkest side of human nature were fostered and used and abused. He was constantly pushed into dark headspaces were he still had no control. Slowly he began to think of himself as a monster who carried great darkness with him. He began thinking he was irredeemable.
Talia confirmed that for him. She saw that monster and that darkness. And she provided him with a mask to channel that into action. Oliver bought into that. I think for him that was who he really was…he wasn’t someone he was something. something else. He was the weapon that was in the making for five years.
When Oliver came back to Starling city he really didn’t think himself as a person he thought of himself as something. Oliver Queen was just a vessel for the monster. He needed him because it gave him a form but really all he cared about was The Hood.
S1 Oliver probably did find pay off in killing and to an extent it did probably bring him a sort of enjoyment. Not in the sense that he wanted to kill just to kill but in the sense that he believed he was helping but also he was finally in control again. Killing gave him control. This is a man who for five years was used and abused and forced into a weapon. So yes, finally having control over your body and skills was probably exhilarating to him. S1 Oliver was darkness. He was a man who believed he was a monster and irredeemable but if he had to live he was going to be in control and try to do something good. That’s why he did. But at first he had no motivation to try to find another way because he had no concerns over his humanity simply because he didn’t believe he had one.
This is why s1 Oliver struggled so much with reconnecting with his family and friends. This is why s1 Oliver couldn’t trust his best friend, mother, and sister would love present day him because in his mind there was nothing left of that person. Now he was a weapon. He was darkness and a monster. He still loved them though. Oliver has always loved them. It doesn’t matter how people used him or how they destroyed his perception of himself the one thing he never lost was his ability to love his family and friends with everything he’s got. But even then he loved them in the best way he could and for him that was loving them by keeping them away from the monster he saw when he looked in the mirror. He wanted to let them believe he was still the man they loved and lost because that would help them. And he could give them that mask.
I think that changed slowly through Diggle & Felicity because Diggle & Felicity met Oliver at his lowest and darkest time. When he had given up on his humanity and his ability to be someone other than a weapon. Earning their trust and love changed him because they saw goodness in him. This was later extended to Tommy, Moira and Thea. Tommy finding out his secret and before he died telling him he wasn’t all those awful things. Moira telling him she knew and she was proud of him. Thea reacting with love, support, and pride when she found out about his secret. All these things scraped the rust that had formed over his perception of himself. So yes, he started to believe he is a hero and that made all the difference in his life. Oliver found a purpose in his mission of helping people.
Its a beautiful story because when Oliver told Prometheus his friends are his strength he wasn’t lying.
Oliver’s entire journey has been shaped by love. The love he has for his family and friends and the love they have for him. The love he has because at the end of the day he guarded this in the deepest part of his heart and never let anyone take that from him. He never stopped loving them. Their love for him because in a way it slowly began to rescue him. Their love prove to him that he was worth loving that he must have some light in him- even when he didn’t know what that was. He knew it was there.
Now the hardest part is that unfortunately that is all not enough. It is not enough if he can’t love himself. And at the end of the day that has always been Oliver’s biggest and hardest battle. The one within. Learning to love himself again. Learning to believe in himself again. Learning to see himself as someone who is human, flawed, but at the end of the day still good and worth it. This is all something Oliver has to do for himself. Felicity can’t do it for him. Thea can’t do it for him. Diggle can’t do it for him. It is something only Oliver Queen can do for himself.
I love Arrow and Oliver Queen because Oliver’s journey is one grounded on the resilience of the human soul and our ability to come back from the darkest of places and find goodness within ourselves. It is a journey about learning to love oneself despite our flaws and our darkest parts. It is about learning to harness the goodness and light without ignoring that most of us carry darkness within. It is about choosing to be good despite our losses, circumstances and flaws.
Oliver’s most courageous battle has always been the one to save himself.
He made me feel every bit of desperation he was feeling. How you can’t remember something so simple, so yours, something that in any normal situation you could say it like you can sing your favorite song. But there’s any of that and he just makes you feel it, he doesn’t even has to say it, it’s there in his eyes; how lost he feels.
And all I have to say is: Jensen, you’re definitely one of the best actors I’ve seen and it’s amazingly beautiful the way in which you can get to people’s feelings with your expressions.
That said, now Jared. (I cry a lot with SPN because of this bitch, too)
I’ve been all emotional because of Sam in countless times, Jared gives such expression to Sam that you can’t help yourself.
I was as worried as Sam at this moment and even though I saw Dean’s words as a joke I was totally lost and trying to keep calm but no can do, this is Supernatural we’re talking about. Sam’s expressions here say so much, him shaking his head, him looking away, the little smile he makes, the sigh of relief, the way his eyes look watery. He was going to loose it if the counterspell didn’t work. It’s seen that he can’t lose Dean, not like that, not again. He goes with “not funny” but you gotta see it in his face, you gotta hear it in his voice. Is such a strong feeling kinda like he was making me feel it.
Jared, you’re freaking gold and you never fail to amaze me, you never fail to make me feel every single thing Sam feels.
Honestly, I’ve gotta thank the world for having such great actors as Jared and Jensen to play the characters I love the most because clearly without them I wouldn’t have fallen in love with the Winchesters. Thanks for, and to, Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles.
IM MEGA SHOOKETH LIKE? I DONT WANNA BE THAT THEATRE KID™ (which is kind of rhetorical bc i dont even do theatre) BUT MICHAEL IN THE BATHROOM IS SUCH? A FANTASTIC SONG? THE COMPOSURE OF PIANO AND THE WAY IT RISES AND FALLS LIKE AN ACTUAL PANIC ATTACK (finally feeling like you’re ready to go back out and getting another wave of emotion and crying harder) AND THE PERFORMANCE OF GEORGE SALAZAR IS PHENOMENAL? THE EMOTION IN HIS VOICE AND THE WAY HE PORTRAYS HIS CHARACTER IS JUST. OOOOOOOOOOOOO DAMN
**warning: this was supposed to a cute quick post about Nalu but I ended up getting too deep on Natsu’s side of things woops ¯\_(ツ)_/¯**
If you ever have doubts that Natsu and Lucy love eachother in the more than a friend type of way just remember drunk Lucy gets all blushy and excited & has hearts all around her because she thought there were 2 Natsus
call me crazy but I’m pretty sure you don’t react like this to people that are just your “friends”
you don’t just get heart eyes for anyone aight like she’s so in love
remember wayyy back when Levy and Juvia tease Lucy about liking Natsu and Lucy responds with:
then fast forward to now
like she’s not even denying that she’s head over heels for him hello I really feel like at this point for her she realizes that she does indeed love him
As for Natsu, for someone that is super expressive and speaks his mind, he doesn’t really show the same signs Lucy does. He hardly gets embarrassed or flustered, has no problem getting super close to Lucy’s face, or even seeing her naked except in the chapter 438 when Lucy’s towel fell off lmao he was hella caught off guard It’s obvious that he does have a soft spot for her but is it the “more than a friend” type of way? Of course I could dig up anytime he’s been super overprotective of her, when future Lucy died and he cried, when he tried to kiss her bc Asuka was wanted them too, or even the time that him and Lucy fought Kain which people like to think is when Natsu realized he “loved her.” but I’m only going to talk about 3 moments (realistically 1 which you’ll see but I thought the other 2 moments were kinda significant) in particular that make me believe that Natsu does see Lucy as much more than a friend:
When Natsu dug up a rainbow sakura tree for Lucy when she was sick
Ok so this moment isn’t necessarily me trying to prove Natsu was/is in love with Lucy especially since this was still in the early episodes and I’m one of the few that believes they barely even acknowledged their “feelings” once Natsu returns from his one year training mission after Tartaros but can we just talk about how ROMANTIC this was?? and they both didn’t even realize it? Natsu straight up dug up a huge ass tree, put it on a boat, and sent it Lucy’s way because she was too sick to see them herself. when will your otp that’s actually canon ever
Natsu letting Lucy wear his scarf
OkAYY also with this one I knowww it’s just a cover and not even in the actual story BUT I still think it’s important because Mashima put it there for a reason!! Natus’s scarf, the thing his deceased father made him, the thing he treasures so much that he neverrr has it off even when he’s swimming, the thing both Lucy and Gray made sure to get back to him because they know how much it means to him, THE THING HAPPY CALLED LUCY A MEANIE FOR BECAUSE SHE ACCIDENTALLY TOOK IT OFF WHEN SHE WAS TRYING TO KICK HIM OUT OF HER BED and now she’s wearing it idk I feel like Mashima putting this is his way of showing us just how much their bond together has grown
When Natsu thought Lucy died
Alright so out of all the Nalu moments in the entire series I feel like this is the one where we truly see just how important Lucy is in Natsu’s life. Remember Zeref revealed that they were brothers and that if he were to die, then so would Natsu. Natsu was going to attack anyway until a crying Happy stopped him saying that he didn’t want him to die and Natsu basically agreed to temporarily retreat. Fast forward to the moment Natsu thought Lucy was dead, he cries and then END is awakened. And the first thing he wants to do is finish off Zeref. Natsu KNOWS that if he kills Zeref, he will die as well but at this point he doesn’t care because he thinks Lucy is dead. But really think about this. Natsu, the person that is always telling people to not give up and more importantly to LIVE, too not DIE for your friends but to LIVE for them, was basically heading into a suicide mission. way to be a hypocrite natsu lol “You can’t stop me anymore! No one can!”that line really got to me because I feel like it just shows how hurt he was. He really didn’t care about what would happen to him anymore, where not even Gray could reach him. He didn’t want to live in a world where Lucy didn’t exist.
“It’s going to be okay.” “You don’t need someone/something that toxic in your life.” “Trust me, I’ve been there.” “You can rise above this.” “I’m here for you.” “You deserve better.” “I can’t stand to see you this upset.” “Think of it this way: it could have been a lot worse.” “I’m just glad you’re okay.” “You can rise above this!” “Do you need a hug? You look like you need a hug.” “What can I do to make you feel better?” “It’s not the end of the world, remember that.” “You don’t need them.” “I will always be on your side.” “We don’t have to talk about it, but when you’re ready…I’m here.” “Do you need to vent?” “You did the right thing.” “You’re so much better off without them.” "Someone like you shouldn’t cry over someone like them.” “Smile for me, please?”
You had always been close to the guys…well at least six of them. You had worked as an intern at BigHit when the guys were trainees and eventually debuted. However, you moved onto a bigger and better job, but still managed to stay good friends with the group. You somehow ended up at JYP in hopes of being a manager one day. But you were still one of their treasured friends, and they valued your input towards the group.
You don’t know when the feelings started. Well to be completely honest, you didn’t even realize you had these feelings for Namjoon. But what Hoseok said was true. You were always shy around him, but somehow making him happy became important to you. You noticed all the subtle things about him and studied him like a book unconsciously. Before you knew it, you knew all the things he loved and all the things he resented.
But he became increasingly cold towards you. He never really treated you like the other boys, who were always open and friendly with you. And maybe that’s why you fell for him. Because you had to figure him out and he was always on your mind. He became your favorite puzzle to solve and once it was solved, it became your hobby making sure the puzzle stayed whole and beautiful.
You started something terrible and gorgeous and I would like to thank you for making me cry.
BOY LET ME TELL YOU I’M IN THE SAME BOAT WITH YOU I JUST
i was just gonna shoot this into the void i wasn’t even. expecting it to go anywhere but it… not only went but just..??? SO MUCH?? i am thrust into the stratosphere with how much i’m just… emotionally shook by the response
Obi-Wan Kenobi is not someone who wears his emotions on his sleeve, he is very much about subtle gestures and understated words, but he whole-heartedly means them and he was entirely devoted to Anakin and did his best to make sure Anakin knew he was available for emotional support whenever he was ready for it and I’m not crying about it noBODY TOUCH ME I’M CRYING ABOUT IT.
In Michael In the Bathroom, Michael sings “It sucks he left me here alone, here in this teenage battle zone” and i honestly think that it’s such a haunting parallel because in Two-Player Game, the entire song is about them in a digital battleground as well as discussing a social battleground, and how they’re never going to leave each other alone in these battlezonesand that’s exactly what jeremy does. by the time Michael In the Bathroom rolls around, the digital battlezone represents the SQUIP and the social one is high school popularity. Jeremy leaves Michael out of both of them, therefore stranding Michael in his own battlezone where he’s forced to fight alone. The dynamic between the two that’s described in Two-Player Game is what their friendship is based on. Jeremy ruins the very foundation of trust and camaraderie that their relationship consists of.
thank god they made up i couldnt stand it if they didnt my boys need to be happy
that first time u read Night Watch and get to the sentence “there was no universe, anywhere, where a Sam Vimes would give in on this, because if he did then he wouldn’t be Sam Vimes any more" and you put the book down so you can cry
Something really bad happened. Today at 5:00 A.M. a group of 4 men forced the entrance to our house. They beat up my mom and older sister (they were trying to protect me and to protect my 1-year-old niece). They had guns and, for a moment, I thought they were going to kill us. They stole everything from us. They stole my laptop, our cellphones, food, money. They even stole my little niece’s clothes :(
We went to the hospital to check if my mom and sister were ok. I paid for the hospital bill and bought a little bit of food but I don’t have any money left. I don’t know what to do. I still need to buy more food and to buy clothes for my little niece. I’m the only one with a job right now but, sadly, my salary isn’t enough to pay for everything.
Please, if you can, and are willing to help me, you could send a few dollars trough paypal. E-Mail: firstname.lastname@example.org (My best friend e-mail. She’s the one helping me right now).
I’m desperate. EVEN A DOLLAR IS A LOT TO ME. Or you could help me just by reblogging this post.
I’m crying so hard. I feel angry and sad. How can a person do this to another person? I feel embarrassed too, and I’m so sorry that I’m asking for your help but I don’t really know what to do. I need to help my family. I’m really sorry guys…
It’s down to me and you In this cold and empty room Forgotten what we’re dieing for Just tell me what to change Just tell me what to say ‘Cause I can’t feel it anymore But why are we so incomplete? It’s down to you and me In this cold and empty street Forgotten what we’re living for Just tell me what is right 'Cause it’s more than what’s inside Cause I can’t see it anymore All I see are kings and thieves
When all I own is just dust and gold Oooh… Don’t let go yet Don’t settle for this And everything you are… Why are we so incomplete? All I own is just dust Just dust and gold When all I see are kings and thieves When all I own is just dust and gold So rescue me Rescue me So rescue me
Arrows to Athens - Dust and Gold
A fast Marco before the Ouji-Characters will going on ^^ With a LOT of glow and glitter and gold, cause for me, everything looks better with glow/glitter/bling bling :D (I want to have a bit of glitter on me, too :X maybe I would feel me beautiful, too?)
I feel like crying all day since saturday and my body-feeling is like 0. I often catch me that I think about skipping meals to feel better (or less guilty). That sucks. I am really anxious to get in my old bad habbits again… so I try to distract my mind while I doodle like crazy ^^; haha. The last few days I started … 10 or more sketches, after every on of them, I thought “oh no, there is another idea!” and started another one without finishing on of the 9 before @_@. I hope it will only be a short phase of confuse ;) ~
Fanon Langst is so…………. like, I understand that everyone experiences low self-esteem and struggles with their worth in different ways, but fanon Langst is really bad lmao. It’s so one note to me? And a lot of the time it feels like just an excuse to beat on Lance.
If you want your blog to be filled with pics of Lance crying, go ahead. But it is disturbing how Big this trend of ‘Lance being hurt, Lance crying, Lance dying’ is in this fandom. It’s…. weird that I can go into the tag, either here or on ao3, and know with 100% certainty that I’ll see something about Lance getting hurt/killed.
Many people have been quick to point out that all this excessive Langst content ties into racism. And I won’t lie, I agree with them. Lance is a confirmed brown, Cuban, character of color. And there is a history of brown lives being less valued than white lives- a history that is in fact still happening now. It’s important to remember and acknowledge that fact, and therefore reexamine Langst content with a more critical eye.
HOWEVER, I also understand that Langst is a popular thing because Lance is relatable to the audience. And because Lance is so relatable, it’s easy to project on him. But I gotta………. look, I’m not a psychologist or a therapist, but to every person reading this post- if you treat Lance as a sort of vehicle for every negative thought or fantasy you’ve ever had for yourself, you need to take a step back and just…. look at what you’re doing. Because I did this sort of thing when I was younger, too. I took my favorite characters, the ones I related to most, and I beat them to all hell and made them wish they were dead. And looking back on it now, I’m alarmed by how many Warning Signs there were.
Making angsty content of your faves is fun, but not to the extent that you use them as punching bag stand ins for your own issues. I’ve realized now that I wailed on my favorite characters because I wanted to hurt myself. It wasn’t a healthy way to cope then, and it’s taken me a long time to recover from that mindset.
So yeah. Maybe it’s time we start shifting away from hurting Lance.