i identify with that so much

awkwardmermaidhair  asked:

Have you ever considered making a patreon so you can get financial support while still making edits?? :0

hello my beautiful friend!! thank you for this message

thank you all for your beautiful messages there are so many and i can’t explain how much each one means to me everything from people laughing with aurora to personal stories identifying the disney movies nobody asked for you are all my light and i love each of my friends

i have gotten many messages like yours asking about patreons and donations so i must answer!! and the reason i have not created one is that i did not want to appear as if these edits are a job because they aren’t they are very important to me and to my friends!!! you are my friends and i know how much these edits can affect people and make their days better and help them 

whether its a friend laughing at aurora’s sass or an anon saying that seeing their favourite disney characters portrayed with traits that they themselves identify with made them feel so happy and comfortable and safe, its worth the difficulty and the time its so worth it you are so worth it 

if we can spend one day doing something consuming that gives everyone one week of happiness then why wouldn’t we do it

but it is hard to make as many edits as i want to because of the time restraint,  i do not run ads or do sponsorships so it is hard, but this month has been great i got to do three sets!! and the reception was so positive!! you all were so happy and that’s what i really want i know it’s scary these days i know it’s hard to ever sit and feel calm and relaxed and laugh so if i can help people feel better then i have to its all i want

i will not lie to you friend, donations or a patreon would make things a lot easier, time is necessary to do these and time is also necessary to do work and make money and survive and you have to make decisions you have to know how much time you can afford to spend on something and if you are making able to combine the thing you love with the work you do then you would have a lot more time to do the thing you love to do 

maybe i am not making sense hahaha

i have spent a lot of time this month on the edits and i love how happy everyone’s been from it there is no way to describe the feeling or the atmosphere of seeing you all so happy 

but i also do not want to make people feel obligated to donate if i had one because i know how tight money is and i know what its like to want to help someone but not having the resources to do and i would never want to make someone feel like that i would never want to hurt my friends

i will think about this, friends

i love you all so much and i say it so much maybe you think it has lost its meaning but it hasn’t to me i remember everything from the very first anon telling me to chase that high to the buzzfeed/mtv/seventeen interviews and articles to this message here it means as much as it always had and i can’t answer every message but i read each one and they are so important to me every single one i am so lucky

you all mean so much and you’re going to do amazing things and i’ll be there when you do i love you so much xx

imperviusnowdanceintherain  asked:

Hi :) so I have just finished Palo Alto which was amazing and a really different dynamic to Remus/Sirius which I loved! In one of the authors notes it said that you are ace? And I was just wondering if it isn't to personal how you knew? Cause I related to Sirius a bit in your story and have been trying to work it out for a while so just wondered if you had any advice at all? Ta x

Hi there! Thanks for the ask, and thank you so much for the kind words about Palo Alto! I’m happy to hear that you enjoyed the story and were able to relate to Sirius and his journey.

Yes, I identify as asexual, and I’m always down to chat about ace stuff. I feel your struggle! There’s not a ton of great information out there since it’s something that no one talks about. There’s also a lot of false information out there, equating libido, sexual activity, and attraction rather than allowing them to exist separately.

As for how I knew… in some ways I always knew, and in some ways I was clueless. I definitely knew I didn’t find people attractive in the same ways that my friends and people the media seemed to, but honestly, I just thought everyone else was exaggerating about how sprung they got whenever they saw someone hot. Whoops.

My main advice would be to read, read, read! Asexuality Archive and the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) are good places to start. They’re not perfect, but they have clear-cut definitions and well thought out articles.

Don’t stress about finding the perfect label. Asexuality is a spectrum, not a strict code of behavior. If a more specific label is helpful to you, then that’s great! But if you find it too overwhelming or nitpicky to quantify your sexual and romantic attraction, then don’t worry about it.

Don’t worry about changing your mind later. Maybe in a year, five years, ten years, thirty years, or tomorrow, you decide that asexual isn’t the right term for you. That’s cool. You can change your mind. At the end of the day, the only person you’ve got to answer to is yourself.

Ignore the negative discourse. Don’t engage, don’t give it any attention. Just block that shit and move on to positive, supportive content.

Don’t be afraid to start chatting with other ace-spec folks! I’ve had very positive experiences here on Tumblr. Personally, I’m always happy to answer questions or have a friendly discussion.

Other ace-spec folks, feel free to add on with advice or resources!

anonymous asked:

Not to be a dick but I am a lesbian & Taylor is not romantically involved with Karlie and never was. This is some stupid straight girl fantasy that’s getting well out of hand between teenaged girls who for the most part identify as heterosexual and have no idea what it’s like to be gay. It’s embarrassing and it makes me cringe so much. Honestly what is wrong with het girls .

If you have to start your sentence with “not to be a dick”, you might want to rethink sending it 😂
Anyways, I think you’ll find that you are extremely mistaken in this assumption. Most of the people who believe that they are/were in a relationship are queer women who know what it’s like to be closeted. If you want to have a real conversation about why we believe what we do, come off anon and I would be more than happy to explain my reasoning. My guess is that you are a straight fan who doesn’t know anything about our reasoning or what it’s like to be in the closet.
PS- Why would it be a straight girl fantasy???? That literally makes ZERO SENSE.

anonymous asked:

Hello, you have been identified as An Awesome Writer™. Congrats, you rock! So that all of your readers can shower you with some extra love today, please tell us your favourite five (or as many as you want) stories of yours and why you like them and then send this to another five fic authors you think deserve this title! ♥

Oh gosh, thank you so much!! :D Fav 5? I’m going to stick with the Voltron ones since it’s my current fandom.

Project Zero - Sheith/Hance (Explicit) Current project full of pain, twists, and Shiro as an empathic alien with cat ears! I PROMISE this one will rip your heart out, please read it and then leave us capslock comments? I love the planning we put into this one and I can’t wait for the conclusion.

Legend of the Sun and Moon - Sheith/Hance (Explicit) One of the best things we’ve ever written. It’s this sweeping epic romance adventure, but set in a mythological Asian world and has a lot of personal meaning! I’m really proud we pulled this one off.

Bite Down - Sheith (Explicit) This one was really fun to write (and heckin’ sexy). I really enjoyed the claustrophobic take on an unhealthy relationship in crisis. We tried to do a darker story but with an undercurrent of hope!

The Guardian and the Dreamer - Sheith (Gen) Another personal piece, I know this isn’t our most popular fic, but it was so much fun to write and it wove together some of our favorite Asian myths/folktales.

The Road Not Taken - Sheith (Explicit) Our very first Sheith fic, so it has a soft spot in my heart. Also, it’s kind of messed up in a fun sort of way! We were still trying to find their voices then, but it kicked off a love of writing this pairing that’s still going strong.

Honorable mentions to Frostbite and Cockblocker that were fun, but we had no idea they’d be as popular as they are! 

i saw a picture of fluttershy but apparently i am not allowed to tag it as ‘me’ so i go to look as to why they are asking people not tag it with ‘me’ and apparently they’re anti-fictionkin, or whatever, and not only am i not fictionkin as far as i know, because i don’t really know much about kin stuff like at all, but also, i want to tag it with me just to spite them for having some strong bias against a thing people identify with that affects literally no one

anonymous asked:

Hey i'm 20! i feel like you get a lot of younger kids asking for advice so i figured id add my slightly older age at the start of my ask to balance things out. My question is: How do I write a character and describe them as attractive without it either feeling MarySueish or just plain fanservicy i always kinda get all 'wow ok unnecessary' or 'leave her alone' when a camera pans up a girls skirt in a movie it's creepy and sexist so how do i write a character attractive without entering creep zone

Well, three of those asks said they were the same person, the fourth was trying to relate to the first three, and the last was a 15 year-old telling about their own experience, so I wouldn’t say “a lot” as much as “they identified themselves and it makes them stand out”. I honestly don’t think about age at all when I respond because the age of the asker doesn’t change the answer to most questions. (Though if someone brings it up, I do think it subtly affects the way I respond since I can’t remember the last time I spoke to a child in-person.) Good writing skills are still good writing skills. Sometimes I wonder if it makes me come off as insensitive at times, as younger writers can be more insecure, but I’d rather someone of any age know when they aren’t going in the right direction rather than giving false assurance. 

So, about your question (which I love because I struggled with this at one point too). 

There’s two things that you should pay attention to in this situation: narrator perspective and word choice.

The focus of the narrator is like a movie camera, showing the audience what to look at, but also showing what the character is looking at. In writing, you have the added layer of a character being able to use the exact word to describe how they feel. You start running into “Mary-sue” territory when the narrator starts gushing about the attractiveness (though attractiveness alone is not the only criteria for a Mary-sue, so there isn’t a defined line I can draw for you not to cross.) 

Another thing to look out for is use of generic words like “beautiful”, “gorgeous”, etc. because they’re a form of telling instead of showing. Part of the reason it can come off as “mary sue-ish” is because the reader is now picturing what they personally think is “beautiful”, but it doesn’t actually give a visual of the character.

So, my advice? Get specific, be subtle, and avoid info-dumping the visual. Part of the “creep factor” involves the feeling that the character is being leered at, which is most commonly shown through extended description and long-running narrative attention. By spreading out the “attraction moments”, you let it not take precedence over the scene. (You can also lessen the “creep factor” by avoiding focusing all the attractive narration on that one character. By this, I mean throughout the story point out small attractive things about other characters, since it’s possible for anyone to have an attractive feature that can be commented on.)

An attractive character still deserves narrative respect. 

I can understand if the narrator is a little distracted at first, but past an introduction, if there’s a serious conversation going on then you should be careful not to let the attractiveness get in the way. Avoid highlighting the attractive one as a distraction.

This also means that you need to let that character get “ugly”. Hot people still sweat if they work out, make funny faces when they sneeze, etc., and don’t shy away from describing those moments in fear of the character being labeled “unattractive”. Instead, you can use some of the moments to still realistically highlight their hotness with word choice.

A few strands of sweat-soaked hair stuck to her glowing bronze face, her dark green eyes still adrenaline-bright.

Word choice can show a form of respect (and narrator maturity) too. Are they “breasts” or “bazongas”? It’s perfectly understandable to admire any part of a body, and “creepiness” only becomes a problem with extended staring or description (like a full, detailed sentence dedicated to a female character’s breasts.) It’s okay to talk about them and for the character to be honest, just don’t linger.

Even in her relaxed state, he could see the strength in her arms and torso thanks to the well-fitted shirt— almost too fitted around her full chest.

Subtlety lets you weave the “attractiveness” though a scene.

It’s not the best form of writing to have an entire long paragraph dedicated to how hot someone is, though for some narrators it might be appropriate. I might expect to see it from a teenage narrator who’s gushing about their favorite celebrity crush. (It also may work in a romance novel, but I’m here to give general writing advice.)

Much like any form of exposition, character description should be sprinkled through a scene and possibly woven into action. 

He stood up and brushed the snow off his shoulders, wearing that sinister smile she had always enjoyed a little too much.

That’s “woven into action” and also perspective. You know those two characters have a history with that simple sentence. Blatant description would be “his smile was sinister”. 

Show that the narrator finds the character attractive, but don’t try and force the reader to think the same.

Sometimes an attractive character isn’t going to be attractive to a reader, and accepting that is part of moving away from accidental “Mary-sue” writing. Still, narrative perspective affects reader perception so at the very least they’re unlikely to be repulsed.

This is part of “be specific”. You want to write about individual features or actions that are attractive to the narrator. 

He remembered the first morning he woke up to see her getting ready, fully dressed only from the waist up, the curves of her bare legs enhanced by the backlit mirror as she wrapped her dark braid into an immaculate bun.

Not once in any of the examples did I use a word that blatantly meant “beautiful”, but I put those sentences in a “showing” context and allowed the reader to come to their own conclusion about each (admittedly limited) moment. 

Basically, treat it like any other character description but with some feeling from the narrator. It can help to practice writing a moment from three different perspectives: someone who thinks the character is unattractive, someone who thinks neutrally, and someone who is attracted to the character. Start with the “neutral” POV to have a middle ground to compare the others to (plus it’ll show you how you write “average characters”).

Good luck with your description!

anonymous asked:

Although I no longer identify as ace, I just want to say thank you to you and all of the other wonderful people in the ace community for helping me feel comfortable and welcome. Even though it turned out not the be the right label for me, I will cherish the time in which I was part of this community. Keep on rocking!:)

Hello, thank you so much. I appreciate hearing that. There are so many great people in the community that helped me find my way to doing this. I’m happy for you too by the way, to find the right label for you. You’re still an ace friend though, even if you don’t claim the ace label anymore. Best of luck to you. 😄

My best friend and i share our main id and tbh it makes kin drama even funnier to me because we didnt become friends due to kin, we became friends because of how much we had in common, and people who are absolutely No Fakes are amusing to me because sometimes you realize theres both reasons you identify as that character and you’re both valid and you can see each other in the character as well as yourself not to mention kin twins are so fun and theres always usually some underlining common interests

anonymous asked:

I wanted to send a mini msg to all of the anons who’ve ever msged you and were given or they gave themselves names to be identified. “Hello, I hope you’re well and are staying healthy.”

AWWW THIS IS SO CUTE!! 💖💖

There’s always so much love on my blog, it makes me super happy! ;_;

anonymous asked:

Rayati. Thank you for responding to my question. It actually now seems to me more fit to call the holy daughter "zoe" on the grounds that she rekindles the light of our true selves and shows us the love of our divine and eternal mother, who truly is our beloved mama in the end. Anyways, i've just been researching the history of Ishtar/Inanna. There is to many connotations to war and lust for my liking... p.s, i'm very sorry for coming off a bit rude.

Rayati. 

Don’t worry, you didn’t come off as rude. Zoe isn’t that well known outside of Gnostic circles, and not even all Gnostics acknowledge Her much, so I probably needed to explain my decision to still identify Her with the Holy Daughter in my own personal practice. 

I don’t know too much about Inanna/Ishtar myself, but She seems to be very much pan-cultural, having been adapted into many different pantheons across the Middle East, linking to Isis, Asherah, Astarte, Aphrodite and more. War and lust seem to be only a couple of Her aspects but She seemed to represent a variety of powers for the many different cultures that worshipped Her. I can understand if some of that may put you off.

However, it is important to remember that the ‘Inanna’ of Orthodox Filianism refers primarily to the Holy Daughter - who, as you said in your first ask, is all loving. She has several different aspects to her personality, represented primarily in the Seven Janati, and these reflect the different forms people throughout history have known Her. Her identity as a warrior, for example, would be linked to Sai Vikhi (Kyria Nike). Maidkind’s relationship and understanding of Dea can be warped by fear and ignorance, turning virtues into vices, and manipulating aspects of Deity to suit a political agenda. 

At the end of the day, all are free to call Our Lady what they wish. She did not exist in one place at one time. Her identity spans multiple worlds. Her story occurs outside of time. What She does for us, Her sacrifice, is an event that has happened at the beginning and continuing throughout eternity, until all souls are reunited back into the Great Mother of Mystery. 

anonymous asked:

Um hi? I really love this blog and I just wanted to ask something ;v;. So basically I identify as agender right now but I'm starting to think I might be FtM?? I'm not always dysphoric when presenting myself in feminine ways but get really uncomfortable when not binding. Is there anything I can do to help me find whats right? I've never really experimented much and am not sure of what to do//

Yes! Try on pronouns and, if you’re able to, different clothes. Experimentation is one of the healthiest things in the world. Take time and figure yourself out, it’s not a competition or a race.

anonymous asked:

So, if a woman with PCOS or a woman of color with too much body hair for your delicate, white sensibilities, you're going grope her genitals to make sure she's not a man? Or you support people that do? And you expect she'll still be into you afterwards?

Okay, let’s take this in steps:

1) I’m not white, so you can take your racist assumptions and stuff them.

2) Women with PCOS, women with a lot of body hair, etc. are still identifiably female. You can still tell looking at them that they are female. I - and virtually everybody else - can tell the difference between a naturally hairy female and a literal male person who is attempting to appear the way he thinks women should look.

3) I never said that I personally would grope someone, and I stated that I feel it is inappropriate and rude to do so, but that I don’t blame homosexuals who feel the need to do so when unsure because there are so many trans-identified people who have made it clear that they intend to try to “trick” homosexual people into getting alone with them / having sex with them so that they can rape them. Male and female heterosexual trans-identified people have stated their direct intention to engage in sex under false pretenses with actual homosexuals (which is rape) and have encouraged others to do so. To be perfectly frank, I don’t really blame homosexual people for doing whatever it takes to keep themselves safe from these heterosexual rapists.

4) I’m happily taken and have been for a very long time, so I’m not looking for anyone to be “into me” in the first place.

Hey fun fact the people 28 and over on this website actually do KNOW that the average age skews much lower so like, reminding us is pretty pointless?

More to the point, as much as you guys are way better at identifying and calling out misogyny than I was at your age, a lot of people are really terrible at picking up on one particular kind of misogyny, and that is the creepy upper age limit for space and existence you’re setting for women in your communities.

This may not be easy to instantly identify because it’s not really ageism across the board, for example, this idea that fandom has an upper age limit is not something that effects a lot of men in fandom. Women, on the other hand, are apparently expected to re-direct their fan obsession, fixation, or hobby to things like crafting, child-rearing, and housekeeping just as soon as they become a mom or reach that “typical mom” age. Adult fangirls are “immature” and “need to grow up,” while adult fanboys are literally just a fact of life, as if we both haven’t always been there.

Whenever you question a woman’s right to this space because of her age or parental status, you are reinforcing a stereotype that has effects that reach beyond that one situation. The expectation, for example, that 40 year old men be catered to when writing comics, but that characters of interest to 40 year old women are obsolete or unprofitable.

When actresses over 30 are written out of their franchises or written exclusively in villain/mother/crone roles, this not only furthers the impression that women over 30 have no interest in these franchises, but actually causes women over 30 to disengage with these franchises as a self fulfilling prophecy. A sudden loss of representation can be a real buzzkill, as many of you already know too well.

Women over 30 are often sexual and a lot of us get fan crushes or thirst at the exact same rate as younger people do, but you’re not going to hear about it because every one of us has been shamed at one point or another for expressing desire for age-appropriate fictional characters that was totally acceptable when we were five years younger. Add to that dissonance the fact that A LOT of you are fixated on and thirsting after characters that are actually closer to OUR age if not our age exactly.

Hell, we transfer directly from EVERYONE wanting to hear about our desires and attractions to people being equally disgusted. This is pretty dissonant on a website stuffed full of explicitly sexual material, and it’s especially difficult and heartbreaking for the 30+ year olds who JUST CAME OUT and get an extra level of taboo on top of what is most likely a heaping dose of internalized homophobia.

And I know it’s coming so I’m just going to head it off at the pass, this OBVIOUSLY does not mean that you need to engage in any overtly sexual topic with an older person if that discomfits you, and it doesn’t even mean you need to INTERACT with us, because well, you don’t HAVE to interact with anyone on this website if you don’t want to.

But realize what you’re doing when your reaction to the desire of a 30 year old woman to a 30 year old fictional character is revulsion or a suggestion that she is over-sharing. Notice your shock when you realize that older women inhabit the fandom and recognize that that shock has nothing to do with those women.

Pay attention to the double standard that allows you to embrace rude bigoted 50 year old male comic creators/collectors and equally feel like there’s something wrong or stunted about a woman into the same things. Think about it because that stuff will sneak up on you, and you are probably pretty sure that you’re not going to turn 28 and magically drop all your interests, because no one should expect you to.

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My neighbor is one of those annoying wannabe YouTube personalities. Over the years, I’ve seen him cough out cinnamon, lay flat on the hood of his car as it slowly creeps down the driveway, and douse himself in lukewarm water, all the while screaming epic win, epic fail, or, fuck, epic maintenance of the status quo, for all I know. It can get tiring to watch him go about his shenanigans in the pursuit of viral fame. So, when he knocked on my door the other day, told me he was going away for a few weeks, and asked that I get his mail, honestly, it was a relief. I can’t explain the peace of mind I had knowing I didn’t have to brace myself for any of his stupidity for a while. I was always afraid his stunts would wind up bleeding over into my life.

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Honestly the scene in “The Stork Job” where Parker’s first instinct is to shield the bus full of orphans from machine gun fire with her body, as in full on turns her body TOWARDS the gunfire and extends her arms and legs to take as many bullets as possible just….it gets me every time. And it comes on the heels of her telling Harrison she doesn’t want the kids to turn out like her? Because she thinks there’s something wrong with her?? And I just?? She was good long before Nate turned turned them into the ‘good guys’.