when you are dating or in a relationship as a person diagnosed with bpd, it’s important to have safe words. im not talking about when in sexual situations (though that might be a neat idea too) but just for everyday-use. use a certain word when you are splitting or dissociating so your partner will be aware.
also when you are being triggered, either by your partner or something/someone else, a safe word is a great tool. especially when you are in a crowded place, so your partner can help you get somewhere quiet.
a safe word can also be needed when you are in a fight with your partner and one of you crosses a line. then you’ll be able to either apologize, stop the fight or take a “time out” - a few minutes apart to cool your heads.
you might also not need it at all, but i think it’s a good idea to have one, just for safety measures? idk, it has just saved me a lot of crying and maybe even a broken heart.
Undiagnosed is not a synonym for “faking your symptoms.”
Granted, the presence of those symptoms doesn’t necessarily mean that you have the condition associated with them. But it’s important to remember that everyone who had both the symptoms and the diagnosis started with just the former. The lack of a diagnosis doesn’t make your symptoms less real.
ok but literally jackson did lowkey aegyo and asked for more time to carve his frankenstein squash thing when they said time was up and the rest of got7 all froze and then complied and gave him time to finish like this boy got his whole group wrapped around his finger they are all so weak for jackson i’m wow
yknow those friends/ppl who are always like “you’re not too much to handle!!! you’re not a burden at all!!!” and you want to believe them you really do
but how can i when i cant even handle myself, when my literal existence is a burden to myself. when eventually everyone just ignores most of the things i say and tbh it’d be better for everyone if they just forgot about me