i have no other words to describe this woman

The other thing about the word “queer” is that almost everyone I’ve seen opposed to it have been cis, binary gays and lesbians. Not wanting it applied to yourself is fine, but I think people underestimate the appeal of vague, inclusive terminology when they already have language to easily and non-invasively describe themselves.

Saying “I’m gay/lesbian/bi” is pretty simple. Just about everyone knows what you mean, and you quickly establish yourself as a member of a community. Saying “I’m a trans nonbinary bi woman who’s celibate due to dysphoria and possibly on the ace spectrum”… not so much. You’re lucky to find anyone who understands even half of that, and explaining it requires revealing a ton of personal information. The appeal of “queer” is being able to identify yourself without profiling yourself. It’s welcoming and functional terminology to those who do not have the luxury of simplified language and occupy complicated identities. *That’s* why people use it - there are currently not alternatives to express the same sentiment.

It’s not people “oppressing themselves” or naively and irresponsibly using a word with loaded history. It’s easy to dismiss it as bad or unnecessary if you already have the luxury of language to comfortably describe yourself.


Otherwise known as; Poems written by William Poindexter and then performed by him at Annie’s on Slam Poetry Night, Number One.

         The clearing of a throat.

         “This poem is called Unexplainable.

Poetry is the topic I didn’t understand in English class

I mean, poetry is one of the many topics I didn’t understand in English class

It is how Shakespeare felt about the woman in the poem

(Who you tell me was really a man but that leads to a whole other thing I won’t get into now)

It’s the words people use to describe emotions I had never felt

Poetry is unnecessarily complicated and never outright and most of the time I feel like we’d all have an easier time if people just spoke plainly

But you tell me that poetry isn’t about easy

You tell me that poetry is about the unexplainable

It is finding a comparison as close as you can get

Because the thing you are writing about is yours

No one else would understand

You say, “I could write you as plainly as I see you

“But people would only understand how I feel if I compared your touch to fire, your laugh to melodies, your hands to a home where all I need to do is be.”

I still don’t understand your poetry

I still like things plainly said

But sometimes I think I understand

Poetry must be the light in your eyes when you’re passionate

The ink of your tattoo dripping across your skin

The words you use, the way your mouth moves around them like they’re building something great, something people will come to stare at in awe, something that people will remember until their dying day and leave afterwards for their children to speak like a prayer

Poetry must be how I feel when you read me yours

Because that is truly unexplainable.”



If I have to think at just one word to describe those two scenes, this is betrayal. Yes, because, this is just what Jane and Lisbon must have felt in those moments. First when you see the woman you trust with your life, revealing your most important secret, exposing herself to a deathly danger. Then, thinking that you’re just a mark for the man you care about more than anything, who treats you just like others, making you fear for him with all your heart.

This is the reason why I find those scenes among the most meaningful to me: their feels are so exposed, so true; but most of all because through their rage, their resentment you can clearly see their love for eachother.

anonymous asked:

don’t think we have any right to it. As far as transfeminine goes… I don’t know. I’ve never come across someone using that word like you described, but I feel that you’re very valid in saying that as a trans woman, you feel that that is an identity that is yours, and other dmab people to use. But I just want to say that I’m glad you’re trying to extend your activism, and there’s nothing wrong with being critical of historical terms being used in ways that make you uncomfortable.

And yeah I was wondering whether I should comment on this further but yeah I’m just like “wheres the ‘trans’ in your transfeminine, honey?” When it comes to afab people who claim that identity. Idk that’s probably wrong in some way I don’t know I just want to help people I don’t want to fight anymore I’m tired and sad

anonymous asked:

(1) Feedee anon from earlier. I'm sure my personal situation isn't your focus and I wasn't making it either. But I am a feede AND a fat woman and as such subject of this blog. You may not have wanted to say anything about the topic, though still his blog has talked about it at great length. And in those discussions there have been instances where you have very much described feedees in the way I have stated. Not in those exact words, no, but the sentiment was pretty clear to me.

(2) I can’t imagine that if seval feedees were to read those posts that they wouldn’t feel the same. Since you’re expexting this from others, maybe just accept that you have said things in the discussions about this topic that while not intentional, weren’t ok and above that were untrue.

Any criticism I ever stated was towards feeders, and through that debate, I stated it is specifically towards skinny feeders. I’m always on the fat person side when coming to their fatness. I think two fat people can do what they want with their fatness in their intimacy and privacy where a dehumanizing fetish can’t affect or trigger other fat people. It is their business.

But I am never going to be a friend of skinny feeders. That is known. And I’ve never denied it or back pedaled from it. 
The reasons for that? You can find them better explained in the replies to our posts and anons that we get. And I am going to post a couple we just got as I write this. 

And having to choose between feeders and fat people who are very negatively affected by them, I’ll always choose to side with the second ones. 

Sorry if I don’t cater 100% to your specific interests but there are bigger priorities. 
However as a fat person you always have a space here as long as you are intersectional. And same goes for ex fat-fetishizers who want to help against it now. And skinny intersectional allies. 
Skinny fat fetishizers? No. And I think all mods and most of our followers agree with that. Though they can post their own opinion on the matter if they feel like it.  

- Mod Guillermo

I was tagged by @gothlumberjack <333

🌟Sign: Aries
🎈Height: 180cm and too lazy to look up what that is in feet… I’m tall, ok?
✨Last thing i googled: the trump protest in antarctica
🎶Favorite music artist: this is always too difficult but I’m just gonna say Florence and the Machine
📺 last tv show: Black Sails :)
👗What am i wearing right now: black skirt, brown sweater
🌸when did i make my blog: might have been back in 2011 I think?
🐻Do i have any other blog: not really, I never had the energy to run side blogs either
❤Why did i choose my url: it’s a pretty word that describes my state of mind 90% of the time
🎀gender: nasty woman
🍙pokemon team: none
🍕Favorite colors: black and green and brown
💤 average hrs of sleep: 8-9
🐶Favorite character: so many! but I’m gonna go with Octavia Blake rn
🐨Dream job: tbh I am very fond of my current job (working in academia)

I’m tagging @arinsuniverse @celesteandchang @viridieanfey @aqueousmartinis andanyone else who wants to do this:)


Romanogers Appreciation Month: Week 3 Alternate Universe [Day 2/5]

February 24th: In the 40’s
Hollywood Power Couple/America Sweethearts AU

“Steve, how does it feel like dating the sexiest actress on earth?”
“I can’t find the word to describe. The closest one is heavenly.” Steve said, “I’m a very lucky man, that she ever considers me and we got a chance to work together this much. I’m indeed a very lucky man to have this smart and wonderful woman in my life.”

They knew each other for 10 years, stared together in a leading role for 6 films and counting.  There was no surprise when they announced their relationship to the world. Everyone saw this coming and they quickly dubbed the young couple, ’America Sweethearts

It was rough for them at first. With all the conflicted schedule and jealousy, they fought, blamed, accused, made up, and moved on. After every fight, it only brought them closer and made them understand each other better because in the end, all they want was to have each other forever.

It shocks me that non lesbians feel the need to claim the word lesbian and honestly think it doesn’t hurt anybody as if that isn’t a literally direct contributor to lesbophobic violence, abuse and sexual assault by men because “I met this other lesbian and she totally had sex with me”

It gives people license to pressure actual lesbians because so many people claim this identity and don’t actually live it

And it’s already so hard to find other lesbians so now you’re telling me I can’t even be sure a woman who claims the label lesbian is actually safe and sharing my experience because words don’t mean shit anymore

It makes me so sad for myself and for the planet honestly

You have so many labels to pick from. So many words to describe your experience of multiple gender attraction, so many in between umbrella terms to describe maybe and sometimes and preferences, you could even insist on not choosing a label! but you feel the need to take lesbian from me instead, the one word I have to describe my experiences to the common person, that’s the one you demand you have

You take an identity I wear all the time off and on whenever you feel like it because you can, everybody wants to be a lesbian until it’s actually time to be a lesbian

Okay, cool


Michelle Obama = my public speaking goals. I mean, maybe someone helps her write them, but the way she enunciates with passion and rhythm it sounds like poetry, and you can tell by the way she’s looking around that she’s not relying on a teleprompter or even notes. 

Also this is a damn good speech about her experience as the first black First Lady and the rampant racism in the US

“as potentially the first African American First Lady, I was also the focus of another set of questions and speculations; conversations sometimes rooted in the fears and misperceptions of others.  Was I too loud, or too angry, or too emasculating?  (Applause.) Or was I too soft, too much of a mom, not enough of a career woman? 

Or you might remember the on-stage celebratory fist bump between me and my husband after a primary win that was referred to as a “terrorist fist jab.”  And over the years, folks have used plenty of interesting words to describe me.  One said I exhibited “a little bit of uppity-ism.“  Another noted that I was one of my husband’s “cronies of color.”  Cable news once charmingly referred to me as “Obama’s Baby Mama.”

We’ve both felt the sting of those daily slights throughout our entire lives – the folks who crossed the street in fear of their safety; the clerks who kept a close eye on us in all those department stores; the people at formal events who assumed we were the “help” – and those who have questioned our intelligence, our honesty, even our love of this country.”