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hung out w my friend thel today after we met for a court action in support of merci chrissette /thel is like 8-10 years older than me I think and is from another generation and has smart takes on most things and hot takes on some things –she is from Seattle like me n I like ppl who r from where I’m from. I love hanging out w ppl who talk abt a wide variety of political and literary topics all the time and have opinions i haven’t heard before . Thel goes quiet a lot but she’s like always thinking abt what you’ve said and figuring out how to say something relevant connecting it to something else which I love

[Revised 2/17] Books for Witches, Diviners and Spellcasters

Hi, everyone. A while back (a long time ago, actually), I started an annotated bibliography on books about witchcraft and magick, and I’ve updated it once (last November). 

Since then, I’d been keeping a list of things I need to add to it, but didn’t get around to actually reworking and updating the list a second time until today. Largely because I can’t really go outside much today because of the smog. But anyways, here it is. I’ve also included divination-related books in this version, whereas previously they were separate.

I hope you find something on here that suits your fancy! Happy reading! Also, yes, I do want to do more book reviews on this blog, so if you’d like a longer review of one of the books listed below, let me know and I can write one.

For Absolute Beginners

Encyclopedia of Witchcraft, by Judika Illes. Even better than the Weiser Field Guide to Witches - this book is huge and chock-full of information. It’ll explain in easy-to-understand language how the concept has developed throughout time, why witches do what they do, and different types of witches.

The Weiser Field Guide to Witches, by Judika Illes. This gives an excellent look at the historical lore concerning witches, from the perspective of a witch herself. It’s kind of tongue-in-cheek, but it does have some information that won’t be found elsewhere.

The Modern Guide to Witchcraft, by Skye Alexander. Great book for those who’re really absolute beginners and are wondering what witchcraft is all about. Skye takes a very postmodern, utilitarian, and unfailingly honest approach, and it’s geared towards those of almost any belief system.

Grimoire for the Apprentice Wizard, by Oberon Zell-Ravenheart. Attractively packaged and readible for almost all ages, this is a great (mostly) non-denominational look at the foundations of magical practice. It’s extremely detailed. Some of it only applies to Zell’s own tradition, but it’s quite useful, anyways.

Basic Techniques

Protection and Reversal Magick, by Jason Miller. This gets a little woo-woo at times, but he gives good advice on how to avoid serious problems that can come up as you begin to practice. Take with a grain of salt, though - some of this has the potential to make you feel paranoid.

City Magick, by Christopher Penczak. If you’re at all interested in tech witchery, or just want to practice magick within an urban setting, do check this out. It is by far the best look at the subject I’ve seen, and his discussion of urban tutelary spirits is worth the price alone.

Power Spellcraft for Life, by Arin Murphy-Hiscock. Nicely done, quite secular book providing basic beginner information regarding writing original spells and workings. It does fall prey to the trap of just listing correspondences with little information at times, but also contains a great deal of detail about ritual timing, raising power, and other topics essential for the beginner.

Sorcerer’s Secrets, by Jason Miller. This is a decent volume that describes a lot of techniques you don’t usually see in books, such as gesture and gaze-based magick. Be warned that Miller writes extensively about manipulative techniques, but it’s useful theory regardless of how you put it into practice.

Witch’s Bag of Tricks, by Melanie Marquis. This is not recommended for beginners, because the whole point of this book is to help existing practitioners refine and improve their already-established techniques. It’s got some novel ideas in it, and I like the author’s approach to symbolism in spellcasting.

Direct Magick (Energy Work)

The Un-Spell Book, by Mya Om. This non-denominational guide to working with magical forces is filled with useful exercises that go beyond the author’s previous work. I recommend reading this after reading Energy Essentials.

Instant Magick, by Christopher Penczak. Excellent beginner’s guide for those who don’t have access to a lot of fancy tools or prefer to work without them. This book won’t instantly teach you magick, but it will help even a seasoned practitioner find quicker, less-complicated ways of achieving results.

Energy Essentials for Witches and Spellcasters, by Mya Om. Though I balk at the use of the term “energy” to describe magical forces, this book is worth a look. It’s a bit like a workbook, with various exercises. Expect a lot of pseudoscience, though, and there are many religious references, but the techniques are solid.

Hedgewitchery and Astral Travel

Ecstatic Witchcraft, by Gede Parma. This is actually probably my favorite book on this subject, even though hedgeriding is only a part of what the book discusses. The only bad thing I can really say about this book is that it’s really not recommended for beginners, and it’s helpful to have the basics of visualization already mastered (for example) before doing the exercises Parma recommends.

By Land, Sky and Sea, by Gede Parma. This book goes into even greater details regarding different ways of conceptualizing the cosmology of hedgeriding, and I find it a very refreshing book that appreciatively draws from a number of different perspectives while grounding itself, so to speak, with the overarching metaphor of land, sky, and sea as the three worlds.

The Temple of Shamanic Witchcraft, by Christopher Penczak. Penczak is usually a pretty mixed bag, and this book is no exception. It gives a lot of good practical information and a very in-depth exploration of the three worlds (a useful concept), but it’s primarily framed by Wicca, so it might not resonate with those of other faiths and particularly those who aren’t pagan at all.

Ascension Magick, by Christopher Penczak. There’s a chapter or two in this that address alternate ways of conceptualizing the architecture of reality, and it’s pretty helpful for a hedgerider. Beyond that, this book is mostly about ceremonial magick, but it’s a (mostly) good book. Certain parts (such as the bit about UFOs) are a little off, in my opinion.

The Shamanic Witch, by Gail Wood. This book is really best suited for someone who practices Wicca and, besides the background info and cosmological descriptions, is really only useful in the context of that tradition. If you’re Wiccan or willing to pick around a lot of Wiccan-talk, though, this is a good foundation.

Witches, Werewolves and Fairies, by Claude Lecouteux. It can be hard to find scholarly works on these phenomena that are affordable, but here’s one I personally enjoyed. It details many accounts of journeying experienced by both pagans and Christians in earlier times, and gives a good description of the concept of the astral double, the architecture of the soul, and other topics throughout history.

Betwixt and Between, by Storm Faerywolf. This book is mostly a guide to the Feri tradition of witchcraft, but while I myself don’t practice that, those who do seem to know a lot about hedgeriding! The book has several chapters on the subject and is highly recommended for this reason.

The Psychic Energy Codex, by Michelle Belanger. A lot of people have strong opinions about this author, but this is book actually provides a lot of good information about so-called “energy work” which can be a step in the right direction for those wanting to ride the hedge.

Psychic Dreamwalking, by Michelle Belanger. In this book, Belanger discusses, essentially, how to use your non-waking life as a vehicle to for journeying, and while I myself don’t usually dreamwalk, much of what she says applies to hedgeriding in other states, too.

Hedge Riding and Hedge Witchcraft, by Harmonia Saille. I only mention these two in order to say that they’re best avoided. Saille tries to give a comprehensive look at the phenomenon, but it’s poorly-written and overly New Age. The negative reviews of them on Amazon really cover the problems with these book in more detail than I ever could.

Magical Writing, Words, and Symbols

Dictionary of Ancient Magic Words and Spells, by Claude Lecouteux. Mostly a historical text, this book isn’t exactly practical or terribly useful. It is, nevertheless, incredibly interesting. It’s a bit difficult to navigate, but worth a glance.

Composing Magick, by Elizabeth Barrette. A very general, but well-done, look at writing in a magical context. Some of the ritual templates are slightly specific to religious witchcraft traditions, but most information is widely applicable.

Crafting Magick with Pen and Ink, by Susan Pesnecker. Focuses both on the physical act of writing as a magical act, and the mental state associated with it. Highly recommended

The Modern Witchcraft Grimoire, by Skye Alexander. This book is for those who want to create their own grimoire. It gives fairly good advice for doing so, as well as providing hints and tricks for spellcasting and useful correspondences.

General Concepts

Planetary Magick, by Melita Denning and Osborne Phillips. If you want to work with the planets at all, particularly in a highly ritualized context, I recommend this book. It’s large, comprehensive and gives a good foundation beyond what you find in general astrology books.

Practical Planetary Magick, by Sorita d’Este and David Rankine. Shorter than I would have liked, but a useful reference to have on your shelf, with excellent tables and appendices in the back. The meditations are also quite useful.

Practical Elemental Magick, by Sorita d’Este and David Rankine. Should be read alongside the other book by this pair. Comprehensive guide to working with the elements in a ritualized fashion. Not as accessible to newbies as Lipp’s book, but good for seasoned practitioners.

The Way of Four, by Deborah Lipp. Though mostly geared towards Wiccans, I found this author’s in-depth treatment of the four elements highly fascinating. I will note that it’s probably best to get the print version of this book, as it contains exercises and quizzes.

Ingredients and Correspondences

The Herbal Alchemist’s Handbook, by Karen Harrison. I cannot praise this book enough for its concise and well-formulated approach to astrology, herbs, and magick as a whole.

The Weiser Concise Guide to Herbal Magick, by Judith Hawkins-Tillirson. This is excellent for anyone who’s interested in any kind of magick. Yes, the focus is generally herbs, but there’s a lot to be learned here about Kabbalah and other correspondence systems, as well.

Mixing Essential Oils for Magic, by Sandra Kynes. Fills a very difficult gap in published knowledge regarding the use of essential oils by discussing, in great detail, how scents interact with each other and how to create a formula that’s not only palatable, but evocative.

Dunwich’s Guide to Gemstone Sorcery, by Gerina Dunwich. Given the New Age fascination with all things shiny, it was quite a chore to sort through the myriad crystal books to find something with good information. While far from perfect and not exactly devoid of fluff, this book does give a level of detail about the lore surrounding gemstones not seen in many other texts.

Real Alchemy, by Robert Allen Bartlett. Excellent book, lots of history and detail. There’s a strong focus on tradition within the text, yet the author is quite accommodating of his audience and describes alternate methods that work better in a modern context.

Spagyrics, by Manfred M. Junius. With a highly-developed academic tone and attention to detail, this book is a meaty look at traditional alchemy. I recommend this more for intermediate practitioners due to the sheer density of information.


The Goodly Spellbook, by Dixie Deerman and Steve Rasmussen. The title sounds horribly fluffy, but this is a hidden gem. It explains obscure concepts like alternative alphabets and potential uses of musical notes, as well as plant lore and other bits and pieces. Definitely worth checking out. It’s way more than just “a book of spells.”

Encyclopedia of 5,000 Spells, by Judika Illes. The title sounds trite to some, but it delivers. This book has spells from almost every culture and spiritual philosophy, as well as a very detailed formulary. I read it when I’m bored sometimes, too, just because I always learn some tidbit from it.

Book of Spells, by Nicola Pulford. In most editions, this book is absolutely gorgeous and describes spellcasting traditions from a variety of perspectives and traditions. Recommended for those who already understand the basics, as this book jumps straight into spellcasting and gives only a small amount of information about how things work.

Ceremonial Magick

Modern Magick, by Donald Michael Kraig. I received this as a gift several years ago. It is essentially a workbook meant to be completed slowly, step by step, and while the format will not appeal to everyone, it’s a good easy-to-read introduction to ceremonial magick.

Familiar Spirits, by Donald Tyson. Though geared towards ceremonialists, any practitioner can likely learn a thing or two from Tyson’s interesting stroll through the whys and wherefores of spirit work and thoughtform creation. This is by far the best book I’ve seen on the topic of familiar spirits.

Secrets of High Magick, by Francis Melville. The most recent edition of this (the one I own) is lavishly-illustrated and full of rudimentary, yet useful information. He stresses the basics of ceremonial practice, and his writing style is very accessible. Highly recommended for absolute beginners.

My Life With The Spirits, by Lon Milo DuQuette. This is a memoir of a ceremonial magician, but it gives a good look at the magickal mindset in a highly developed form from someone who’s experienced quite a lot. I have major issues with DuQuette’s approach to Qabalah, but his memoirs are worth a read.

Chaos Magick

Liber Null and Psychonaut, by Peter Carroll. Classic book of chaos magick. I consider it required reading for almost anyone interested in the occult. Even if you have no love for chaos magick, do give it a read, just to understand how influential Carroll is, and why.

Hands-On Chaos Magic, by Andrieh Vitimus. Knowing some of the people involved in the creation of this book, I’m a bit biased towards it. That said, even if I didn’t know them, I would still recommend it. It’s especially interesting to read alongside Liber Null and Psychonautin order to see how the chaos “current” has developed over the years.

Pop Culture Magic 2.0 by Taylor Ellwood. There aren’t a lot of books on using pop culture symbolism in magick, but this one is nearly perfect. The author writes in a highly erudite, literate fashion, while still being accessible to newbies. Many useful resources cited, as well, so prepare to branch off a bit while reading it.


Triumph of the Moon, by Ronald Hutton. An inside no-holds-barred look at the history of Wicca and Modern paganism. Highly recommended. This is sort of the book that fluffbunnies don’t want you to read.

Book of Lies: The Disinformation Guide to Magick and the Occult, by Richard Metzger. Lots of facts and history of magick in the context of Postmodernity. This is different from the Crowley text of the same name, which I wouldn’t recommend unless you want to focus on his tradition.

The Place of Enchantment, by Alex Owen. This is a purely historical text that documents the occult revival within the context of Modernity. I remember it being very good, but please realize I haven’t really picked it up much since graduating, and it might just have served my mindset at the time.


The Book of Thoth, by Aleister Crowley. Make sure you actually own (or have access to pictures of) the Thoth deck before you dive into this. By far one of the best books on Tarot ever published. The prose is often dense and purple, but in this one book, Crowley teaches so much about Tarot and it’s connection to the Western Mystery Tradition. I can’t really say much more - it must be experienced.

The Pictorial Key to the Tarot, by Arthur Edward Waite. I recommend this book because it is a classic and was introductory for many older readers. It will teach you to read and gives insight into the methodology behind the Waite-Smith deck specifically, particularly his use of what are essentially parables and why he does this. Do not expect too much esoteric information, but read it anyways.

Seventy-Eight Degrees of Wisdom, by Rachel Pollack. This is the epitome of a good modern Tarot book and is really one of the first ones I’d recommend for someone looking for an accessible book on Tarot in a modern context. Very dense in information and history, yet altogether worth it. You’ll want highlighters nearby for this one!

Tarot for a New Generation, by Janina Renée. This is essentially a book for children and teenagers, but I do recommend it for them, specifically, because it is well-written, easy to understand, and helpful to absolute beginners.

Secrets of the Waite-Smith Tarot, by Marcus Katz and Tali Goodwin. This book focuses just on the history, symbolism, and creative process of the Waite-Smith deck. It gives you an inside line on just what Pixie Smith was thinking when painting specific scenes, and is a great look at her life’s work, as well.

The Tarot: History, Symbolism, and Divination, by Robert M. Place. This book will not teach you to read Tarot, but does give an actual, accurate portrait of the history of the phenomena, which is incredibly important and useful. Know your history.

Understanding Aleister Crowley’s Thoth Tarot, by Lon Milo DuQuette. I hesitate to recommend DuQuette due to issues I have with his approach to Qabalah, but many people ask me for a beginner book for the Thoth Tarot specifically, and this is the closest I’ve come to finding one. I recommend reading this alongside, and not instead of, Crowley’s Book of Thoth.

The Back in Time Tarot, by Janet Boyer. This is more for the intermediate reader, and the entire book details a single, extremely useful technique for familiarizing yourself with the cards, namely by framing past events in terms of how they might appear in a spread.


The Essential Lenormand, by Rana George. This was not the first Lenormand book I picked up, but it was the most influential and intense. Ms. George writes in a personable, touching fashion and brings the concepts of the system home by relating them to life experiences in a way rarely seen. She is one of those authors I literally go all “fangirl” over.

Learning Lenormand, by Marcus Katz and Tali Goodwin. This is one of the better beginner books on Lenormand. I’m not going to lie - it isn’t as good as Rana George’s, but it definitely is worth reading if you’re completely new to the system. It’s very accessible, where some of the books I’ll be listing later in this can seem intimidating, or so I’ve been told.

Lenormand: Thirty-Six Cards, by Andy Boroveshengra. This book is intense, but in a different way than Ms. George’s. Expect to be inundated with information and techniques. Another one of those where you really need to take notes or highlight while reading, and read it multiple times.

Secrets of the Lenormand Oracle, by Sylvie Steinbach. This book is organized in a novel and useful fashion by topic, and gives specific techniques for readings on love, money, spirituality, and other topics. Highly recommended, and I tend to use it as a reference book nowadays, looking things up as needed.

The Complete Lenormand Oracle Handbook, by Caitlyn Matthews. Not for the beginner, nor the faint at heart, this one details a lot of what, to me, seem to be more advanced approaches and techniques. I use this book a lot, and I think anyone else will enjoy it, too. Good information on the connection between Lenormand and traditional playing cards, too.

Cartomancy with Lenormand and the Tarot, by Patrick Dunn. This is more of a special topic book, and best read after you’ve got some familiarity with both Tarot and Lenormand. It’s all about using them in tandem and the synergy between them.


The Luminaries, by Liz Greene. I could really recommend anything by this author, but she’s written so much, and this book is a particularly important one. It focuses entirely on the Sun and Moon in astrology, and gives a good look at why the luminaries need to have a special place in your understanding.

The Weiser Concise Guide to Practical Astrology, by Priscilla Costello. This is focused, as you might expect, on actual interpretation of charts and less on theory, but it gives a good background on that, too. Was quite helpful in my attempts to interpret @xepsurah‘s unusual natal chart.

The Complete Book of Astrology, by Kris Brandt Riske. Very beginner, and very light on intellect, heavy on intuition. A great introduction, but I would not suggest it as the only book you read if you’re really interested in the subject.


Tea Leaf Reading for Beginners, by Caroline Dow. There are only a few books within Llewellyn’s immensely popular “For Beginners” series that I would recommend, and this is one of them. The symbol glossary (which makes up the bulk of the book) is the most useful part.

Tea Cup Reading, by Sasha Fenton. This book goes into some detail (quite a bit, actually) about the history of tea and coffee, and, better yet, how to prepare them in the traditional fashion! A lot of traditional lore is described, as well.

Scrying, etc.

Scrying for Beginners, by Donald Tyson. This is really a surprise find, as I don’t usually expect much from this series, by Tyson knows his history and goes far beyond simple exercises for scrying. He is a bit biased towards mirror and crystal-gazing techniques, but does discuss other methods.

Psychic Development for Beginners, by William Hewitt. Readable, and offers some very practical developmental exercises for those wishing to hone extrasensory abilities. Be prepared to sort through a lot of woo, though.

My interpretation of the MOON signs

(You could probs relate your sun if you want maybe even your rising)

Aries: they take up your life: being loud, leaving mess on the stairs, creating arguments out of thin air and always filling the void with their drama. Very self-centred but oblivious to it so I’ll let it be. Problems they hav always someone else’s fault. Very loving and cuddly and express passion easily. Never stick to hobbies after announcing that its there biggest passion n cant survive without it. Though, they don’t wait around for things to be handed to them - they are always up to something interesting. Independent.

Taurus: they are great to spill your words upon and never flinch when u say something deep or shocking so it makes u chill af cause they are…Most of the time…they can get angered when things aren’t as it should as they are very stubborn. don’t like people who aren’t committed to friendship or plans/dreams and dont like people who dont give their stuff back. Seemed to hav cows eyes: very deep n dreamy and long eyelashes -often brown eyes that i know of or watery blue eyes. lov food or other luxuries.

Gemini: childlike, like everything light hearted and humorous. there has to always be words to fill up the quiet spaces otherwise they start to get agitated. Dont like boring people and will blatantly walk off or something. Nervouusss people. Tapping all the time. When they’re in a goood mood they’re goofy but can become detached and cold and become a bit of a smart arse. Like knowing their shit.

Cancer: homely people. Warm and loving to fault as they are always let down by others who do not give the same warmth and pure emotions back. I think they could probably guilt trip u many times. emotions are not hidden which is good and bad because shots are firedddd and their words filled venom when there really cheesed off. Like lots of nice things. also love cute fluffy animals. Love their family to be always near - protective can become smothering. Talk about the ‘good old days’ 24/7.

Leo: why are you so posey and dramatic? They like to tell a tall tale - love to add bits to the truth to make it more exciting - which is actually interesting to hear tbh so good job :) they love to be centre of attention obvs. Also hold their heads high and always seem taller than actually are. Full of exuberance. & they often believe in their abilities so they achieve good grades and r smarttt!

Virgo: lovs when people do little silly things for them because they like when people are as detail orientated as them. expect too much of people becaus they do too much for others. Nervous but lowkey cause their earthiness sort of makes it hum in the background. Has potential to be shady. I love their organisation, chills me the f out. Some reason i feel they be really good at ASMR videos because of their voice & movements. and they r actually quite talkative but its usually nothing too intellectual or snobbish just good natter. Bites their nails!

Libra: i dont get them. They dont make an imposing impression on me as they’re delicate and not too in ya face. Loves knitted jumpers and wearing light colours Ive noticed. Sweet n gentle. Probs could get away with murder. Gets really into things like a celeb or tv series for a while. Has fan blogs probably. like to talk about things such as kpop, clothes, items in their neat pencil case and make up. Idkkk

Scorpio: protectivveee. Intense. Passionate about theirs hobbies and interests. Can become lost in their own intellectual, abstract world forgetting what is truly important until they realise and become regretful and then hold many unresolved grudges. They are e m o t i o n a l but try to hide it - constantly simmering and on the verge of erupting. Though they are quite interested in their own passion - they’ll hype u up about yours and talk for hours about theirs and your own dreams. Abstract knowledge that seems to appear out of no where when they speak -unconventionally smart.

Sagittarius: want to escape reality. Someone i used to know would read a lot of books - probs erotic - she also used her work as escapism? her husband wouldn’t take her on holiday:( another i know comes across very cool and full of knowledge and like to says corny things like ‘you might as well live your life to the fullest because you’ve only got one’. acts like a philosopher. Has gooood taste in music. knows everyone and can keep good relationships with all of them.

Capricorn: thinks they’re are funny af but peeps often laugh at their jokes cause they’re just a bit shit. Tries to come across cool 😎looking for a for job but isn’t working out lol. Wants fame n fortune. they love to talk deep and intellectual without getting too personal. probably quite lovey dovey but it is buried deep inside them. likes to keep it light by listening to music or watching the telly otherwise there thoughts overwhelm them. ( i hav cap moon so might look like a different viewpoint to the others moon signs)

Aquarius: loves to make a point that they are different lol. Intellectual af cause they really smart. Can talk for hours on end but still likes down time. they are the world’s friend but they only let a few know the real them (if thats is actually the real them ). Quirky sense of humour. Hav big dreams and most likely succeed in pursuing them. they are very open about weird stories and experiences they hav had which is fun to hear. will hav something to say about every topic on earth - love to share an opinion.

Pisces: too kind for their own good. They know your weaknesses/insecurities from first time you meet. i think they have melancholy spells which they find themselves in a trance - i catch them staring blankly quite a lot. Love to ask if you’re okay. Mooody. Let down by humanity. Very chatty and has of cool things to say. Music may rule their life - musically talented in one case ik (probs used as escapism). Can be burdened with very unsettling thoughts of not being good enough; making sure they keep there reputation for being the nice guy which means getting pushed about

so you’re taking a philosophy class... now what?

Philosophy is intimidating. You probably think of Pluto and Socrates, and while they are a part of philosophy, there is so much more to it. The subject is foreign and hard for many, but once you get the hang of it, it can easily become one of your favorite classes. Here’s some tips to make these classes a bit easier:

What the flippidy-doo-da even is philosophy???

Philosophy is the study of why. Ethics, morality, reasoning, all fall under philosophy. There’s a bunch of sub-topics in philosophy, like hedonism (what determines what is good for us?), relativism (why do we have different morals from someone else?), morality (what is the difference between right and wrong?), and more!

What makes a philosophy class different from any other class?

In philosophy there is no right or wrong answer. Everything is relative, subjective, and opinionated. The answer is never “yes” or “no”. Philosophy is essentially a lot of questions, but not many answers.

What can I expect in a philosophy class?

Socratic. Seminars. They are everywhere in philosophy classes. These are very similar to debates in the sense that its a group/the whole class talking about a subject, but you’re not trying to persuade anyone or change anyone’s mind, you’re simply talking about it. In college, philosophy classes tend to be smaller (under 40 people) for this reason. But don’t let the idea of a Socratic seminar scare you away from taking a philosophy class. They aren’t that bad. Why? Because there is no right or wrong answer. You don’t have to worry about saying something wrong or sounding stupid because literally you can’t say anything wrong. And if the idea of talking to other stresses you out, just remember that your fellow class mates are in the same exact position as you are. 

What can I do to *succeed* in a philosophy class?

Know your argument. Typically in philosophy there are three “arguments” (similar to a debate…ish). The for, the against, and the somewhere in the middle. On all of my philosophy tests, all of the questions are the same. exact. thing. Here’s an example from my last philosophy exam:

What is Hedonism?

What is an argument for Hedonism?

What is an argument against Hedonism?

What is your opinion on Hedonism?

You need to know of both sides of an argument, but other than that, there’s no memorization. It’s all explaining and why. You’ll learn very quickly how do BS a paragraph.

Also, Crash Course - Philosophy will become your best friend in the world.

Types of people who would especially love philosophy classes:

- Like writing, debates, and is opinionated


- Aquarius, Leo, Gemini, Sagittarius, Pisces

@samsstudygram , The So You’re Taking Series - Philosophy

So I had this Ethics class today, with a Professor of Philosophy. I thought I liked him, he seemed to be sharing a lot of my ideas, he makes you think and talk and his classes are dynamic, until today. He introduced the topic of moral consciousness, and then he started saying mentally ill people don’t have moral consciousness, and his example was schizophrenics that “kill people” without regreting it afterwards. Then I couldn’t stay silent and I had to voice my opinion. I said schizophrenics do have a moral consciousness, that they might be blinded by their symptoms, but that they can be also aware of their symptoms and that they’re not inherently violent, and when medicated they can have a normal life.Then he said he never meant to say that they were violent, although he tried to give a bullshit kind of explanation about what schizophrenia was, that it meant having different selves (which that’s more like dissociative identity disorder). A classmate said “How about John Nash?” He was schizophrenic and he won the Nobel Prize, and although the professor had seen the movie, he didn’t realize he had schizophrenia. Then I shut up because I didn’t want everyone in that class to know I’m actually schizophrenic.

What irritates me the most is that these ableist people think mentally ill people are so far from their reach, like there’s no way a mentally ill person could be studying at higher education, that mentally ill people are isolated and can’t be in such a common place like a classroom or at work, or that we can be your friend or neighbor, that neurotypicals think the only place they can find mentally ill people is either at hospitals or in jail. But no, whether you like it or not, we are everywhere and we look just like you…

Tips for debating

I’ve debated in high school and have been seeing a lot of arguments stem from discussions about sensitive topics recently. So, I figured why not help others by giving tips so they can have an informative discussion. 

  • Be respectful - your opponent’s opinion may seem ridiculous even wrong to you but they also could believe that about your opinion. So try not to make your opponent seem dumb or inconsiderate because their views are different.
  • Try to use legitimate sources as much as possible when using facts.
  • Listen to your opponent - their side of the debate is just as important as yours, no matter how idiotic or frustrating it may seem to you.
  • Stay calm - try as much as possible to not get angry, no matter how ignorant the other person’s view may be.
  • Ask questions - if you don’t understand certain aspects of your opponent’s argument then ask.
  • Admit when you make a mistake - this is the hardest part of a debate, admitting when you were in the wrong. 

hopefully, this will help those of you who wish to change someone’s opinion.

reginacordium13  asked:

Hello, Cherry. Could you please shed some light on signs and gemstones? I've read so much on this topic and I only get more and more confused. I would love to know your opinion! ^.^

hey, i used to study crystals a lot, i found it hard bc i am not a visual person. but they are forms of energy and some can resonate with certain signs and accelerate or relieve energy, there are some i have found over the years that help certain signs

Aries: Aragonite - promotes patience and acceptance, calms the the mind and body, dispels self contempt. Ruby -  refills depleted energy supplies, heals overexertion and exhaustion, lights a steady and warm inner flame. Blue Obsidian - provides a sense of peace. Aventurine - dispels anger and hostility, restores health to head region 

Taurus: Citrine - fortune, income, stability. Garnet -  helps exchange materialism for spiritual peace, promotes abundance from within. Goshenite helps to dispel tired, destructive habits 

Cancer: Emerald - helps articulate thoughts, encourages domestic pleasure. Green Dioptase - Releases past-life and current-life emotional traumas, heals one’s inner child. Halite - protects from negative and poisonous energies 

Gemini: Fluorite - intellect and concentration. Amber accelerates everything and Gem needs everything cos they are everyone. Red Jasper - balances yin and yang. Yellow fluorite - Heals sub-personalities and negative inner voices

Leo: Kunzite - heals self - negativity and self-depreceating voices, reduces negativity caused by fear and insecurity. Coral blue - heals the relationship with inner child, disintegrates trauma from an early age. Suglitle - helps to identify what gives will be given to the world. Tiger’s Eye: energises pride, power, and courage

Virgo: Rhodonite (relieves anxiety), accelerates generosity, Carnelian -  promotes logic, clarity, and perception. Sodalite - helps infuse analysis with intuition. White Mother of Pearl -  aids in knowing that everything is okay, also helps immune system

Libra: Herkimer Diamond -  promotes mental clarity, positivity, aids living peacefully, connects to other dimensions and stars. Coral - supports intuition and intellect for creativity. Jade - harmonises chaotic relationships. Septarian - Takes in energy and psychic information from and about other people when they are focused upon 

Sagittarius: Apophylite-  illuminates truth and accelerates intuition, generates light. Magnetite - hip and leg relief, grounding stone. Orange Sapphire - stimulates one’s desire for soul growth and experiences that lead to soul growth. Labradorite - connects spiritual and physical worlds

Scorpio: Botswana eye Agate allows for exploration into the unknown, Red Coral balances physical and spiritual worlds, Malachite - transformation and embracing of new challenges. Pink Sapphire - heals heart scars 

Capricorn: Onyx - durability and endurance, Citrine - income, stability, fortune, Sodalite encourages self esteem. Jasper, brings back to present time, regenerates and repairs the grounding system. Orpiment (orange)- Helps manifest their life purpose and path, highlights success pathways

Aquarius: Blue Goldstone (galaxy, astrologers stone), Atlantisite - enhances intuitive and cerebral functions, expands the mind, Giarsol Quartz - facilitates powers of the mind for goodness. Rosalite - educes stress and burnout, overstimulation, sensory overload and being overwhelmed

Pisces: White Phenacite - fills the aura with white light of protection. Kornerupine - grounds the overuse of psychic energy, heals the emotional heart, clears heart scars. Smoky Quartz - helps ground into this dimension and incarnation and planetary consciousness


Nct as Youtubers

Request: Do you think that maybe you could do short headcannons of the members as youtubers please?? Like, you said in the makeup voiceovers that they were also on YouTube but didn’t really describe in depth what they’re like so maybe that could be a thing(??) sorry if it doesn’t make sense

A/N: i hope this is what you were looking for!! i’m sorry if it’s short or repetitive, this was so fun to write, i hope you enjoy reading!



  • started out his channel for fun
  • mostly makes song covers & also tag videos
  • didn’t thought his videos would blow up
  • when he realised he was shookt??
  • because he’s such an awkward bun, his videos usually consists of his friends
  • and they help him out a lot because when he’s on his own filming most of the time he doesn’t know what to do or say
  • tries his best to reply to comments
  • when people recognizes him irl he gets all blushy and shy
  • “i’m not that popular!! you’re all so sweet”
  • we all know you are taeil


  • that one youtuber who posts random videos at the weirdest timings
  • his videos range from dance covers, to vlogs, to gaming then to even unboxing videos
  • despite all that he still gains much attention?
  • hardly ever talks in his videos but when he does all his subscribers get heart palpitations because wow
  • dance covers gets the most views and likes because they’re always on point?
  • promotes his channel on his instagram
  • random posts with captions
  • “new video”
  • “✌✌ video?”
  • see what i did there hansol he needs to stop with his peace signs
  • another one who’s awkward when fans recognize him in real life
  • but if they ask for pictures he wouldn’t mind so!!


  • mostly reaction videos
  • and probably many vlogs too
  • gaming occasionally, but only when he’s with his friends
  • has the funniest and most dramatic reactions to videos ever
  • tries to make his subscribers by making puns and jokes
  • “i guess you could say… that video was pun-believable”
  • daily updates on social medias
  • “how are all of you doing today? the weather’s great so i hope you all are well!”
  • doesn’t reply to every comment but he likes them
  • treats his fans like family and tries to chat with them he can
  • which is why when one meets him in real life he’s super friendly and tries to start conversations
  • an angel tbh


  • cooking tutorial videos
  • alongside with song covers too
  • sometimes he writes his own songs and lyrics too
  • often goes live so that he’s able to chat with his fans
  • one of the most genuine and sweetest youtubers!!
  • would reply to every one of the comments, and he never forgets to thank them for their support
  • “I’m stressed & tired” captions on his social media websites always scare fans but turns out it’s only because of the other boys
  • gets all shy when people recognize him
  • even when he’s rushing for time he wouldn’t hesitate to take photos or chat with his fans
  • the youtuber you just want to protect with everything tbh


  • gamer
  • also makes prank videos occasionally
  • and probably also videos on current issues/problems
  • and he shows so many different sides his fans love it,
  • especially when he talks about current issues he gets all smart & serious and is so good with his words he leaves everyone shookt
  • but on prank videos he’s all giggly and immature laughing at his successful pranks
  • while his gamer side can sometimes can aggressive and competitive
  • but despite all that he’s super sweet to his fans
  • holds meetups often and treats each of them like angels
  • smile and laughter can brighten up anyone’s day


  • mainly vlogs
  • travelling & visiting ones to be exact, together with his friends
  • takes really good videography and editing is on point too
  • another one who’s smile could make anyone’s heart burst
  • always recommending new places for people to go to, be it cafes or countries to visit
  • kun’s recommendations are trustable™
  • loves hyping his friends up in videos
  • doesn’t hesitate in promoting their channels too
  • deserves so much more subscribers & views


  • versatile videos too
  • song covers, reaction videos, vlogs, challenges & tag videos
  • is really well known for his talking skills and his intelligence
  • and also his sweet voice who puts people to sleep
  • cherishes friendships and often shows it in videos where he vlogs about outings with them
  • updates daily for fans too and tells them how much he’s grateful for them
  • also asks them for suggestion for new videos
  • probably nags at and gets upset with his fans when they do something that isn’t too his liking
  • “you all waited in the rain for an hour because of me??? what if you all fell sick omg please don’t do that again”
  • but it’s because he cares and loves them so


  • king of dance covers
  • makes dance tutorials too
  • when people want to learn a dance, ten’s videos would always help because they’re so on point?
  • random videos of him in stores and supermarkets
  • with him being amazed by new things he sees or learns about
  • attempts to make cooking videos too but fails
  • almost burnt himself and was caught on tape, uploaded on youtube & viewed by morw than hundreds of people
  • his fans’ words give him energy and he’s always thanking them
  • a little shy when gets recognized but he doesn’t show it, only that cheeky smile on his face


  • hypebeast who makes videos of new clothes he got and hauls too
  • random late night videos where he answers fans’ questions and it’s just him chilling
  • food reviews too!!
  • his favourite videos because you can tell he gets all excited when he sees food
  • makes sure to update every week so his subscribers will be well fed
  • loves having live videos too because he’s able to interact with fans
  • holds giveaways for subscribers every time he reaches a milestone
  • acts all calm when people recognize him
  • but inside he’s super happy and excited because he feels extremely loved?
  • likes photos that fans uploaded together with him,
  • making them go even crazier


  • that one youtuber who’s always being complimented and praised by other youtubers
  • because he’s super sweet and soft?
  • pretty boy who shows off his face routines and tag videos
  • because he’s so shy he finds it hard filming videos alone too
  • which is why he calls his friends to join his videos
  • aka kun
  • they often go shopping together and you can tell he looks super happy and excited
  • vlogs about his daily life and has the cutest edits ever
  • even more shy in real life, he’d get super embarrassed and shy, cheeks flushed red if he notices people recognizing him
  • but he’d feel bad for rejecting them so he takes photos with them anyways
  • super cute


  • endless talents and seems to be able to do everything?
  • playing the guitar, song/rap covers, reaction videos, dance covers, gaming
  • he’s able to film quality videos
  • and at the same time he’s super humble and sweet it makes others love him more
  • has many collabs with other youtubers
  • his fans are blessed because they’ll always be a video related to him
  • a super shy ball in actual fact
  • when he does live videos he already gets all blushy and red when people compliment him
  • irl you can actually see him wanting to hide and run away because he’s super shy when it comes to compliments
  • but also tries to be friendly and talk to his fans when he can


  • mostly posts videos at night
  • so his subscribers can fall asleep soundly after watching his videos
  • mostly reviews
  • on clothes, food and other things
  • smile is the sweetest thing you’ll ever see
  • is also the softest when it comes to his fans
  • sometimes would also post short korean classes too
  • and his drawing videos
  • just really calm and satisfying videos honestly
  • super happy when he receives positive comments
  • still your no.1 moomin fan who has a big moomin plushie in his background of videos all the time


  • videos that are guaranteed to make you smile
  • like him playing with puppies and small fuffly animals
  • or even interacting with children at playgrounds in his vlogs
  • they’re guaranteed to make you s o f t
  • an angel who smiles and laughs at everything
  • super positive!!!
  • tries his best to reply to every comment and prove to fans that they’re noticed
  • mainly just vlogs of his daily life
  • but he’s always super cute in videos so!!
  • still the same angel irl because he’d be the one suggesting to take photos
  • and probably give you autographs too
  • sweetest little thing ever


  • games often
  • and always wins in games for some reason
  • also many prank videos too
  • and they’re always super creative and new
  • and you can see the look of satisfaction on his face whenever he succeeds in pranking his friends
  • really strong bond with his fans
  • they’d probably have inside jokes too
  • “thank you for always supporting your handsome donghyuck”
  • never runs out of ideas for videos
  • and loves it most when people leave positive comments
  • it makes him all happy and excited like a small child
  • and he’s ten times cuter irl like that because he’d have the biggest smile ever with his pink cheeks??


  • does weird challenges
  • and probably being a meme in every video
  • with thousands of different expressions ready for his fans to screenshot and use
  • also does tutorial videos
  • and tag videos
  • he loves talking and discussing about popular topics and sharing his opinions
  • loves spreading positive vibes too
  • super flirty & sweet with his subscribers
  • calls them his babies??
  • would occasionally film vlogs so as to show his fans his life
  • which is usually just him being that same meme and having fun
  • i miss him dkdndn


  • super energetic and fun
  • when you watch his videos, they’d immediately cheer you up because he’s always so happy?
  • makes reaction videos a lot
  • which ends up in his fans mentioning how their ear drums ache everytime they watch them because his dolphin laughs and screams
  • loves taking videos of sceneries and views during vlogs
  • but other times vlogs would just consist of his face
  • “my handsome is enough for you all”
  • knows he’s popular but still gets shy when he’s noticed
  • he’d always give that same cheerful laughter and thank his fans for their support


  • dance covers
  • ten is his role model
  • would film freestyle dances and also dances he’d choreographed and ask fans for their opinions
  • occasionally, he’d also film tag and challenge videos so his fans are able to know him better
  • super shy at first but as time goes by he opens up and he’d joke around a lot
  • still a child who gets fascinated and amazed by new things
  • still learning and is trying his best for his channel
  • which is why he’s super happy when he sees the amount of support and love he gets
  • making him blush like mad all the time

bowlerhatwearer  asked:

In hope my ask makes sense so..Bendy and Boris, before you came to live you well where part of some old Cartoons. Do you remember these times when you both came to live. Like do you both remember how you "acted" in this Cartoons, being part of it?

“What’s crap? It’s the truth.”

“Well I don’t know about you Boris, but I got a show to do. Fans to please. If I lose those memories I’m gonna lose that charming character who stole the hearts of viewers everywhere so many years ago! The little devil darlin’ that the audience wants, deserves to see! I can’t just go changin’ who I am!”

“But… This is the real world, ya know? Those memories don’t have any use here anymore. So why not just let yourself change? What’s the harm?”

“Why should I?! Ain’t I lovable the way I am?”

“Of course you are. But that doesn’t mean-”

“Well then you can see why I wanna stick by those old cartoons! I mean, I wanna go places, you know I do. But I don’t wanna change. If the people want Bendy the Dancing Demon, they’re gonna get him! We can’t let them down, Boris. Maybe you should start thinkin’ about that yourself! I can’t lose my foil any more than I can forget my dance steps.”

“I’ll think about it, Bendy.”

“Those memories slip away easy. So think fast.”

Listen Up Rika Haters

I don’t understand why people hate Rika. Oh wait a second, I Do.

People are just blinded by their loyalty to a character or simply don’t understand how mental illnesses work. Don’t fight me on this, you know this is true. Here are the arguments I hear about why people hate Rika:

“She blinded V” okay, and then they forget about that fact that (AND EVEN CHERITZ SAID THEMSLEVES) that V’s hands are just as dirty has Rika’s. But oh wait, “he’s super hot and I’m a horny fuck” your blinded by your loyalty to him. So, if you ever said that’s why you hated Rika, I just assume you are a V Fanboy/girl.

“Because of what she did to Saeran/707” so I’m just gonna assume you’re a Saeran fanboy or 707 fanboy. Because Saeran killed people, he threatened people, and nobody cared. Heres something people need to get straight. SAERAN MADE HIS BROTHER FEEL LIKE SHIT, NOT RIKA.

“She brainwashed people” and who encouraged it? Who thought of it? The oh-so “innocent” V.

“Yoosung talked too much about her”…jealousy. That’s all I have to say.

“She just wanted to be someone’s savior! Selfish” and “don’t use her mental illness as an excuse” “I’m mentally ill too, so this can’t…” well, news flash, there are many types of mental illnesses. Yours may be different from Rikas, and with personal experience with a family member who has the SAME MENTAL ILLNESS as Rika, she thinks she’s god too. She tried killing me because she thought I needed to be saved. She thought she could be a SAVIOR. Sometimes, I feel like when people say “I have a mental illness and stuff like that won’t make me go insane like that” is that they’re only saying that because they want people to believe them. But for those who are honestly being truthful about their illnesses, I hope it gets better :3

“She Flirted with Jumin Han”…I swear…people these days can’t tell a joke from seriousness. She just wanted to make Jumin confused :3 either that, or flustered. But she wasn’t hitting on him. So I’m going to assume you’re a Jumin Fanboy/girl if you get offended because of a joke. Also, Jumin literally locks you up in his home and sexually…I wouldn’t say abuse but somewhere there to you in the bad endings. HE ENDS UP LIKE V!! HE THINKS HIS LOVE IS ENOUGH!! HES OVERDRIVEN BY LOVE!! But oh yah, “Jumins a hot daddy, so he’s cool. He also likes cats and I love cats.” I swear…

Also, guaranteed that if Rika was a hot male, they’d treat Rika like V and Saeran and I can just tell that of that was the case, there would be a Rika x Saeran ship. Don’t lie to me.

By the way, I’m not a Rika fanboy/girl at all. I like Rika as a character. It’s just tired and ridiculous on how people react. Also, please don’t send me 5 pages worth of ridiculous reasons why you hate Rika. I won’t care.

Cherits themselves said that Rika and Yoosung have the exact same personality. However, her mental illness hides her true personality in making her unable to control herself. But nobody hates Yoosung. Smh. Cheritz also said that Rika is a very good character, who can’t understand why her actions were wrong. If she had a good mindset after she’s treated again, she’d probably apologize to everyone about the actions she did, when she had good intentions yet doing it wrong. Cheritz also said that people should stop obsessing about V. They said it makes them a bit..uncomfortable, because to them, V is seen as a bad character. That’s why V WAS NEVER YOURS. So please…just stop with the Rika hate.

Actually, no, I won’t be able to force someone to stop hating Rika, but I want the hate to one down and for people to keep it for themselves. That’s all.

Fore more information, please go to a video called “Let’s Talk About Rika Hate” by MeliZBeauty(/Beats? I forgot the name) and watch that.

Good Day.

Edit: I know both Rika and V are in the wrong. There’s no excuse for their actions, so I do know that. I just wanted to get something off my chest since not a lot of people get to see this, and think V is super innocent. But please don’t send me hate for speaking my opinion. That’s why people like me are scared of talking about defending Rika cause of the hate we get. Just understand that it’s okay to hate her, just know why you are and have a reasonable enough explanation for it. For more information, visit @melizbeauty. She can say it better than I could about the Rika topic. Good day!

Do you know why I’m loving so much this development in the show?

Because, in the books, I never liked the storyline of giving children to Magnus and Alec.

It’s not about the children themselves. Having kids it’s a common part  of life, even more when you have a permanent partner. There are a lot of aditional things to consider about that storyline, though… Starting with the immortality topic, because CC never gave a suitable resolution for that, and adding two kids was not the smartest move, in my opinion. We were left with not only Magnus having to suffer for Alec’s death in the future, but now also for his son Raphael’s death. And with their other son, Max, who will have to suffer for both his brother’s and one of his parents’ (Alec) death.

But even without going through the immortality topic, do you know which is the first reason why I never liked the storyline of the children in the books?

Because, unlike Book!Alec, Book!Magnus never showed interest in having kids.

Alec’s been always a protector (both Book!Alec and Show!Alec, for the record). Always protecting people around him and deeply caring for his siblings, it was pretty easy to accept that yes, probably Alec would like to have his own children at some point (not necessarily, but probably). What I mean is, it didn’t sound wrong to me the idea of Alec having kids. The idea of Alec wanting to have kids, as an important part of his life.

But, what about Magnus? Correct me if I’m wrong, but Magnus (and I’m talking about Book!Magnus, please keep that in mind) never showed a real interest in having kids. Magnus wanted someone (Alec) to love, Magnus wanted to completely commit himself to a lover… Magnus even wanted to get married, but children? No. And I’m not saying that Book!Magnus hate kids or anything like that, just that he never showed interest in children as an important part of his life. Because having children is not necessarily the natural consequence of getting married, it depends on the couple.

The way I see it, giving children to Magnus and Alec was just a plot twist created by CC to, mainly, having more to write about Malec. Suddenly wanting kids was an OOC development for Magnus’ character. I couldn’t stop myself from thinking like that.

But then… Here’s the show. The show which is developing things so well for Malec.

Here’s Show!Magnus, talking about the children he can’t have. Talking about wanting to take care of people who are giving their first steps in (Downworld’s) life; about wanting to have children, a family (because that was the foreshadowed idea behind Magnus’ words to Camille). And now here’s Show!Alec too, kindly and naturally talking with a little girl, smiling to her and asking about her toys, honestly complimenting her warlock mark.

I don’t know if this will lead to the storyline of giving children (maybe a little girl?) to Magnus and Alec at some point. And the immortality topic is still there to consider, too. But, at least considering the characters’ wishes and personality… The show is perfectly building an scenario where, if they decide to give children to Malec, it will be the most natural and logical development. And I’m absolutely loving that. I, who never liked the storyline of the children in the books, am absolutely loving that.

C: Even though I’m Nigerian and I don’t live in /have never been to America (I live in the U.K) I’ve always felt like Black/African Americans have been a small part of my life? Idk if that sounds weird but literally growing up I’d only want to watch black tv shows and listen to black-dominated genres like R&B, funk, hip-hop etc because I felt like I could relate to them especially the black family-based tv shows. I feel like I’ve personally learned a lot from black people in America on topics like racism, mysogynoir, feminism (when it was mostly ran by black women & other poc).

It kinda irritates me to think that there are people out there that believe AA’s don’t have culture because, American culture, especially right now = AA culture. It’s honestly so evident. It’s just constantly being exploited, in my opinion. Tbh, if I were to go America it would really only to expand on what i know about AA culture.

I have a genuine appreciation and respect for black Americans and their culture. I feel like some of us ( Africans & the rest of the diaspora) are so tribalistic and so prideful that we won’t let ourselves appreciate each other for anything.

so I got this anon for my terrible sideblog and I was at first confused because the video was only released like eight hours ago so I went to check it. The first thing I noticed was the insane difference between the like and dislike bar on the Youtube Pride video. 59,000 Likes, 98,000 Dislikes. The video wasn’t even bad it was just two minutes of people saying “I want to be myself” and that is a wonderful message.

The comments were all talking about stupid shit like straight pride and white pride (as if there were ever systematic and societal discrimination for being white and straight) and how the lgbtq+ community should be wiped out, how disgusting we are. And that no one actually cares that people are gay now (more ignorance because let me tell you all, people care a lot for the wrong reasons). All these comments had hundreds of approval by several others.

But you have to realize that the people spreading hate are all pathetic. Every single one of them. I’m not saying that to soften their bigotry, but to maybe have anyone reading this understand that these people have opinionated mouths with absolutely no credibility or understanding behind their words.

LGBTQ+ people deserve to be happy. I know that there’s still problems that still need to be worked on within the community, but everyone a part of this community deserves the support pride month gives us.

Youtube comments are also a cesspool full of right winged assholes who grew up not even experiencing on topics they so love to voice their thoughts about. It’s a huge circle jerk from those who feel entitled to complain about and hate things that aren’t about them.

I know a lot of the responses are hateful, but if you go to the newer comment sections you can see there are also those who support the community and allies are important! I’ll be honest, I think the world is pretty shitty but there are definitely some good people that exist. Those are the important ones who would help us have a firmer place in western society. 

Try your best not to feel shitty about this, I know it’s hard because I definitely felt bad after going through the comment sections. Confide to those who support you and if you can’t I think it’s best to avoid such toxicity and have faith that things are getting better for the lgbt community even with a bunch of bumps along the road.

Pre-Wedding || An Interview!

Authors Note: This picture gave me a mini idea, it is short, but I thought it worked. :) xx 
Shawn Master List found HERE

Of all things to do on his wedding day, he had an early morning radio interview scheduled to keep him occupied while his nerves hum through his veins. 

He has been on edge since the minute he left you yesterday morning, you both decided on the whole, ‘Not seeing each other twenty-four hours’, before the wedding. 

He left his parents’ house this morning, wearing his tux, excited to finally wear it on his big day. Shawn knew there was no way he would be able to contain himself, so, he scheduled an early interview to keep him occupied since the ceremony wasn’t until the afternoon. 

He smiles as he enters the studio, his eyes full of love and pleasure, content radiating off of him thoroughly. 

“Shawn, welcome! We are loving the wedding attire,” the host beams, Shawn smirking as he stares down for a split second, 

“Thank you! Yeah, my wedding is in four hours, pretty fucking ready, had to keep occupied so here I am,” Shawn chuckles, trying to contain his enthusiasm. He was advised not to give away too many details about the wedding so that the media and fans would not show up and force their way into getting exclusive pictures.

“Are you ready? I feel like you are ready to jump out of your skin.”

“I am more than ready. I haven’t spoken to my bride, she is busy getting ready. I can’t wait to see her walk down the aisle.” Shawn grins, giggling nervously as he imagines you wandering down the aisle to him, dressed in the gown he has still not managed to even get a glimpse at. 

You kept everything very traditional and refused to even show him a snippet of the dress, his Mum kept the dress hidden away at her house because there was no way you could keep it in the house you and Shawn share, no. Shawn snoops far too much at times. 

“So sweet. So, you have your album coming out soon? tell us about the details.” Shawn is asked, reminding him that he, indeed, has other priorities on his list that do not revolve around the wedding. 

His fourth album is due to release in a months time, but he has done his best to keep it very hush-hush, doing last minute touches and tweaks until he approves everything. This album has proven to be a bit of a push for him, he extended himself further than ever and has put in more hours than ever, making sure each detail of each song is flawless. 

Shawn nods, “Yes… I uh, I actually have a single dropping on my honeymoon, the missus said I could steal the thunder for one day and work one day on our honeymoon. The album remarkably challenged me lyrically and vocally. There are a few acoustic melodies that I wanted to test the waters with.” .. “I think the album is a little step further outside my usual comfort zone. It is something that strips me down further to my rawest form and I like that. Yeah… does that answer?”

“Can you give us any inside scoops? Anyone, the songs are about?” Shawn is asked the question he has been asked since he first started his career. 

Every song has some sort of personal meaning to him, whether it is family related or relationship related, old or new. There is always speculation on which song is written about you specifically. 

Shawn grins for the hundredth time, his finger beginning to twist the ring on his finger. “There is one song about someone specific, I can’t name names.” … “All I can say is that the single is what I am singing tonight. I hope my wife isn’t listening… Anyway, yeah, the single comes out next Thursday,” Shawn continues on discussing his single, doing his best not to stray away from the topic of conversation and discuss the wedding. 

“Ah, a little mystery,” The interviewer chuckles, “I quite like the subtleness, love it, man.” “I have to ask, what inspires you the most to write?" 

"Uh, good question, my answer is going to sound very typical, but I promise I am not trying to be cliche. Y/N, she inspires and pushes me a lot. The other week, I played her a song that I was not happy with… She looked at me and gave me her opinion, so I sat and pondered for a little bit on the couch, watching as she was writing out thank you cards.. I kinda stared at her for a minute, just managing to make out her handwriting and her small grin, and I just… I somehow managed to change lyrics to something I was satisfied with.”

“Has she ever been brutally honest with you?”

“Yes, she has” Shawn chuckles, “When I was sick on tour, I was really pushing my limits and she pulled me to the side and brutally told me that I needed to sit my ass down and relax because I sounded terrible. Straight out told me I sounded atrocious. She was right though, I could barely speak. She doesn’t sugar coat things when it comes to the cut.” … “I love it though, I need the ruthlessly honest words sometimes,” Shawn admits over the radio, drawing back to the question and adding how his family also inspire him and other artists.

Well, that wraps up our interview, we do not want you late for your wedding, we wish you the best of luck with the album and we hope to see all the pictures from today. Best of luck, man.“ The interviewer ends the conference, turning the mics off before saying his own personal congratulations and watching Shawn glow and smile with every mention of you and the wedding.

I recently had an experience from hell with a group project, which means I also learnt quite a lot about the dos and don'ts.

**I apologize if I come across as salty. I am in fact very salty**

  • If you can choose from a given list of topics, as soon as that list is up, read through the topics and pick one with your group. Leftovers are always the worst most complicated topics.
  • Take no shit - first and foremost, your opinion is important and valid. If your group partners are doing/have written something you don’t agree with, say it. You don’t have to pick a fight, remember that there’s always a subtle workaround to criticism. The best way to go about it is to reason your statements. ‘What you wrote here sucks’ can be turned into ‘I think this would be easier to understand if we were to rephrase it’.
  • Take action - assume that if you don’t do It, no one will. This doesn’t mean do all the work by yourself. It means break up the work and assign it to people, suggest times to meet up, offer to email your professor, which brings me to…
  • Don’t let your group partners email your professor every. single. time. -Your group partners may be a mess but still be strangely willing to email your professor From my experience, professors assume that the one emailing them is doing the most work.
  • Use Google Drive - being on the same page (literally) prevents a lot of drama and generally just makes everything a lot faster.
  • If one of your group partners isn’t doing their part, tell the professor  - doesn’t matter what the professor says about this (if they say it will be reflected on their grade, awesome, but 8/10 times that’s not the case). Then tell said person you informed the professor they weren’t being as cooperative as they should. Bonus points if you can actually convince them the professor said they will lower their grade (yes, if It gets them to do their work, lie through your teeth).
  • Find an ally within your group - you can usually tell who’s on the same boat as you. Talk to them and share your concerns. It’ll be easier to expresa your opinion and get the others to do their work if you know you’re not alone.
  • One last tip on being a team player (aka some general advice), share your references - create a shared folder on Google Drive and upload whatever papers you’re reading because chances are everyone else will also find them useful.

Anyway, I hope this can help you through the hell of group projects. And if all else fails and you end up having to take care of everything, just grit your teeth and remember that this too shall pass.

I need advices...

Alright so…. My PC laptop is good for trash. So, I’m going to buy myself a new laptop but here’s the thing: I’m bad when it comes to choose. 

My mom really wants me to buy a Mac and I’m not against it, but BOY are they expensive! :\ Plus, I’m used to work with PC, but they get virus very easy and that’s one of the reasons why I’m getting rid of mine in the first place. So my choices are really in the apple’s laptop. But now is the complicated thing… WHICH ONE SHOULD I TAKE? 

The MacBook? The MacBook Air? Or the MacBook Pro? The MacBook seems great but the screen is so small! I know that the MacBook air is cheaper, but it seems like there’s a lot of flaws with it. And the MacBook Pro, so expensive…

I really want to make the good decision, and some of you might have advices to give me on this topic. I just want a good laptop so I can draw again with my tablet.

Help me ;w;

anonymous asked:

Why dont you support self dx? What about people who cannot get a diagnosis?

PTSD has a lot of symptoms that overlap with other mental illnesses (and I am planning to make a post on this sometime soon). Symptoms of PTSD particularly overlap with depression, anxiety disorders, and BPD. It can be really hard to differentiate between these diagnoses. Even professionals sometimes need to get a second opinion or get you to fill out extra questionnaires to help them clarify what you are experiencing.

For example - you could diagnose yourself with having a cold, or even the flu. But you can’t diagnose yourself with, say, glandular fever. You can pretty much self-medicate a cold and (usually) the flu at home without a doctor’s help. But when it gets more serious you’ll need more serious treatment. And only doctors can provide you with this help, whether it be prescription medication, or even a hospital admission.

In my mind, mental illness works similar to this. Self diagnosis is only useful up to a point. Like…everybody feels depressed or anxious at some points. We all know what it feels like so it is more-okay to diagnose yourself with depression, for example. But self-diagnosing yourself with more serious mental illnesses is where the problems get bigger. I have experienced problems with psychosis since I was 12 years old. But psychosis doesn’t just translate to, say, schizophrenia. There are a multitude of schizophrenic diagnoses, as well as diagnoses like depression with psychotic features. And it is really hard to examine your own symptoms. This is why I have never self-diagnosed myself with a psychotic disorder. There is no way that I can be unbiased when looking at my own psychotic symptoms. Even if you don’t think you are being biased, subconsciously you are. When I need to, I look up tips for coping with aspects of my psychosis, but I don’t, lets say, join group chats or forums for people with schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder (for example). Even therapists or psychiatrists can’t diagnose themselves with a mental illness. Even though they have all the experience needed to diagnose other people, they cannot diagnose themselves because there is just way too much bias.

If you diagnose yourself with something you don’t actually have, searching for help for the diagnosis and (to some degree) centering your identity around your self-diagnosis (not saying everyone does this but you do see it a lot on tumblr) can be really harmful. It can exacerbate the ‘symptoms’ and completely change how you see yourself and how you interact with the world around you.

I do, however, think that it is okay to look up your symptoms and say “hmm maybe I have ____” and then go and see someone about it. That’s just normal looking up information online and then seeking support for it or clarification of what you are experiencing. And I think you can easily search up “help for depression” or “help for flashbacks” or “help for aggression”  without having a diagnosis. Not having an official diagnosis shouldn’t limit your recovery. If you are feeling bad about something it is, of course, important for you to seek help and support for that. It is even okay (in my opinion) to say to yourself “oh I’ve been through trauma, I know PTSD comes from trauma, I’m going to google help for coping with PTSD”. It is okay to seek help for the traumatic event(s) you have been through, whether or not you have a diagnosis of PTSD.

Like I said, self diagnosis is only useful for a bit before it becomes pointless. And I say this as someone who wasn’t able to be diagnosed with PTSD until five years after my second trauma happened. My therapist at the time of and for the few years after my trauma was rubbish so I was pretty much on my own dealing with the aftermath of my trauma. And it’s like…I knew (well..95% sure) I had PTSD, so I started this blog and started learning how to cope with what I’d been through, but I never claimed to actually have a PTSD diagnosis (even on this blog).

Self help realistically only gets you so far. Self help is great, it really is. Workbooks, for example, can be really useful. But relying solely on self help to cope with your serious mental illness can be really dangerous because you’re not giving yourself the appropriate support system you need. And when dealing with trauma this is especially important. Trauma is called trauma because it impacts our lives so adversely that our coping mechanisms basically go out the window. Coping with trauma on your own is really damn difficult. Going through your trauma in therapy is hard enough, but on your own…it becomes almost impossible to function (and take this from someone who was coping with trauma on their own for years).

Like, with my psychosis, I can easily look up tips for coping with auditory hallucinations (for example). But I’m not going to be able to manage my psychosis symptoms without the medication I’m on or the counselling I’m doing. I didn’t even know I was dealing with psychosis until my old psychiatrist pointed it out to me. There are just some things where you just need a trained professional (or prescription medication) to help you through them. This is especially important when it comes to PTSD or trauma. Trying to deal with your trauma by yourself is really hard. And it comes with so so many risks. Without a therapist’s support you risk not knowing what to do in times of great need and making yourself even more unstable as time goes on.

I know how hard it is to not have an official diagnosis. And I know how affirming it can feel when you finally are diagnosed with something you’ve been experiencing. It’s like there’s a reason for all your symptoms, and a weight gets lifted off your chest. But diagnosing yourself isn’t necessarily going to be accurate.  I know that not everyone can see a doctor or therapist straight away to get help or a diagnosis. That doesn’t mean those people shouldn’t look for help for their symptoms online, it just means they shouldn’t absolutely claim 100% to have a diagnosis which they may not really have.

At the end of the day, I will never set rules for who can or cannot follow this blog or ask questions or get help. Everyone is entitled to get the help and support they need for coping with trauma, no matter whether they have a diagnosis of PTSD or not.

This answer got long pretty quickly. I am totally open to more questions or opinions on this topic if anyone would like to add anything. There may be points I missed covering or things I didn’t think about saying.

(Also anon, thank you for asking this question so politely <3)

-Winter xx

I’m sorry if this was a little incoherently worded there was a lot I wanted to say.

anonymous asked:

i havent actually seen any aces act like people who have sex are disgusting? like some are uncomfortable with it or pda but thats just "hey this topic personally makes me uncomfortable can you maybe tag it so i can avoid it" rather then "ew dirty gross allogays" a lot of people seem to try and paint it as

unfortunately, the most radical of opinions are the ones most likely to reach people outside of a group. 

i can only speak for what i’ve seen come across my dash, and from my own viewpoint as a lesbian.

A lil rant here

Hmm… Truth time~ it’s like, 6 AM and I haven’t gone to bed, so let’s have a little bit of honesty here. Vanoss.. I’m pretty sure we all know him by now. Number 1 in the group, right? Why? I mean, there is nothing wrong with that, but I really don’t understand how subscribers aren't​ really.. spread out.
Like I’m glad Vanoss is so popular! But I guess don’t understand how the group isn’t big as a whole. Delirious is obviously runner up with 9 million, then there is Mini with 4 million, Wildcat with 5 million, and so one and so forth. That’s great! I’m glad my babes have so many people liking them! But Vanoss has 20 million. A pretty big difference, if you ask me. I’m glad they’re so great together, and I love them all, regardless. But honestly… What makes Vanoss so different? Yeah he spends a lot of time editing videos, but so does Delirious and a bunch of other people in the group. Nogla hardly ever edits videos, and he’s doing aight. I guess never really seen the difference. I just can’t see why Vanoss has so many subscribers and his best friends (who he plays with all the time) aren’t up there with him. I mean, Vanoss probably wouldn’t be where he was without the guys.. without having fun with them. They helped him just as much, if not more, as he helped them. Yeah, they joke about Vanoss practically carrying them through. But it shouldn’t be like that. They want to be up there with him on their own accord, and still have fun with each other. I mean, because of the whole ‘Vanoss carrying the crew thing’ MiniLadd​ stopped playing with him (even tho he was in. Video to him not to long ago. Maybe things have changed.) Sorry if this makes a lot of people angry, since I know a lot of people practically worship Vanoss, but I just can’t see a difference on their content. If you know, tell me? I just don’t understand it… Yeah they’re doing fine.. but I just wish they got appreciated like Vanoss does. Like some of VanossGaming’s friends haven’t even hit 1 million. Like Bryce, for an example. Jiggly is another one. Yeah, Vanoss supports his friends, boosting their content (like one time he put Basically’s video on his channel to boost it). That’s super sweet of him to do that, so props to him! Of course this topic is reoccurring. I’m pretty sure a lot of people was aware of this situation, and even the gang is, too. So it’s not foreign, just, no one talks about it anymore. Now, by no means am I hating on Vanoss. I love the guy. I just don’t really see why he’s number 1. It should be the group is number 1 as a whole, and have fun with each other. Sorry for the rant @-@ Just know I dont intend to make people angry with this, it’s just my own personal opinion. 💖

anonymous asked:

How do you feel about true crime fans that like dahmer, knowing that he molested two kids. Or Ted bundy fangirls that know he brutally raped and murdered women including a victim that was underage.

You are aware that Dahmer did a lot more than molest two children? He murdered 17 people. 

I have opinions about behaviour, about how I should approach or present topics in order to acknowledge the gravity of crimes and maintain a respect for the victims. For example, I try my best not to use terms such as ‘fan’ or ‘fan girl’ in relation to true crime because I feel it trivialises a very serious topic. I also would never purchase a letter or artwork by a serial killer as some form of ‘souvenir’ because I think it can glamorise and glorify the crimes - this is also one (of many) reasons why I have never written to a serial killer myself. 

However, those are my preferences for my own behaviour, for making sure I can explore subject matter in as sensitive a way as I can - and it’s an approach I’ve developed over the 12 years I’ve been interested in true crime, and an approach I could probably still improve. My own moral judgements apply to myself and my own situation, and I’m not going to sit here and condemn someone for doing things differently to me - especially because context can have so much influence on what is and isn’t appropriate. Just because someone posts something that appears insensitive on here doesn’t mean they would do the same on a different forum. It’s also worth noting that crimes such as these can be very far outside of a person’s point of reference, and I think it’s very easy to make mistakes in terms of approaching subjects sensitively and responsibly. 

I also am not about to place a moral judgement on who someone else finds attractive or who someone else feels compassion for, which I feel is part of your question. ’Liking’ someone is not a description of behaviour, it’s a description of a subjective experience that I have no right to judge.