Is rejection sensitive dysphoria only a symptom in people with ADHD who dealt with emotional abuse growing up or is it a common symptom of ADHD in general? Because I feel like it matches some of my experiences but I don't recall having a particularly emotionally abusive upbringing.
It’s a pretty common thing for ADHD in general. I have RSD but I was raised in a very loving, supportive home and I did well academically so I didn’t have bad experiences with teachers. I wasn’t great socially, but I did have a few friends.
I think that when you’re different and know it (because let’s face it, even if you aren’t diagnosed you can tell you’re different from your peers), you start to feel like everything that makes you different is bad, and that means you are bad. So every criticism starts to feel like abuse even if it’s offered from a good place, with good intentions and gentle words and so on. We respond to criticism as if it’s a threat because that’s what it feels like to us: if this criticism is true, does that mean that I am a bad person? does it mean that I should give up? does it negate everything I know about myself? does it mean that people should hate me? am I going to lose all of my friends? We may not think these exact things, but that’s the sort of feeling we’re dealing with in RSD.