My stepdad who doesn't know I'm Pan, says being anything but straight is a choice. I didn't believe him at first but now I don't know. Am I just making a choice that my family will hate me for? Is there a way to turn off my feelings? I honestly feel like that would be the best thing I could do right now
My dear pan child,
No, being pan is not a choice. Being lgbt+ is not something you can “turn off”. Just as importantly, you don’t have to turn it off, even if that was possible - there’s nothing wrong with being pan!
If you need some arguments for it not being a choice, consider this: It’s scientifically proven that attempts to “turn people straight” do not work. In fact, all major health organizations (such as the WHO) advice against such attempts because they only have negative impact on emotional and mental health.
Another argument: Lgbt+ living beings are a normal part of nature - just like lgbt+ animals.
Please don’t let your stepdad make you hate yourself.
You’re pan, and that’s natural and beautiful! <3
With all my love,
Your Tumblr Mom