Hello! Thank you for answering my other ask (the one about only having one friendship) I have sensory issues and I'm plus size, so it's a nightmare to find clothes. Do you have any tips or help on shopping please?
Os Here, since I’ve got no idea, I asked my friend Kar and this is what they had to say:
Depending on what sensory issues you have, and if dysphoria ever comes into play, my best advice is go to the “Men’s” section. Seriously. My favourite shirts (which happen to be the softest and Nicest), are men’s shirts. Men’s clothes tend to run a bit longer and larger than women’s. There’s also none of that vanity sizing nonsense that there is with women’s.
Start out by making two lists: things that are Sensory No’s and Sensory Yes’s. If there is a maybe, probably put it in the No category. Decide what you are needing to find, and keep your Sensory Yes’s in mind. I know I have done the thing where I decide “I’ll get used to this small irritation” and then give the item to one of my friends two months later.
Also: resale shops, thrift stores, things like goodwill, are absolutely PERFECT for us. It’s less pricey, and someone has already worn away the uncomfy of the fabrics. I love thrifting things like business attire because it feels disgusting on my skin. Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshall’s are all good places as well.
For shirts: I always feel the fabric. I love soft things, and if it’s not soft, I will probably hate it. I decide if I want buttons. I decide if I want zippers. If there is lace, I see where it is located, how it is attached. I feel at the seams. I look for the tag if there is one. If it passes my basic evaluation, I’ll go ahead and try it on. Unfortunately, there is no way to really know if something is going to be a Yes or No until you get it on. Be sure to like lift your arms, twist, turn, things like that.
- Recommended Places: Old Navy, GAP, Rue 21
For Trousers: Feel it. See how you feel about the pockets and the pocket texture. If you are going to do skinny jeans, I really recommend men’s. Or boyfriend style. Once again, move around in them.
- Recommended Places: Target, Old Navy, Rue 21
For Undergarments: Good luck. Just good luck, mate. For binders, I’ve heard @gc2b-apparel is good, as well as @shapeshiftersinc. From experience, Underworks is good as well, but the mesh and way the 997 is designed, it is sometimes a sensory no. AdoreMe.com has cute bra and undies sets, I have a few 40D and 42DD bras because of sizing. Target’s athletic bras are soft, and I wear them when I am so done with bras. Alternatively, going without is something most people don’t notice.
Underwear is a different monster. All I can say is don’t go to Pink or Victoria’s Secret. This is trial and error honestly. I’ve had luck at places like Macy’s. Trust me, it is worth it to get Good Undies if you can.
- No Recommended Places
Also, go to Walmart or Target or places like that. It can run larger in the women’s sizes. If you need any help, or if I missed your question entirely, please don’t hesitate to message me on @kcomplexes.