i guess thats good though

6

So, a Water Tribe Betrothal Necklace is, traditionally, a hand-carved piece of jewelry given by a bride-to-be’s intended. It’s clear that a very traditional theme to have is a sense of roundness. This is shown by the first four necklaces shown.

The bottom two, Bolin’s, and Kya’s, differ highly from this, making them non-traditional. Now Bolin’s makes sense in the context we’re given from the show. Eska was shown to be slightly deranged and didn’t understand that Bolin wanted to get out of their relationship. The heavy-gothic themes help to show the dread, despair, and chain-like quality Bolin must feel. Despite this though, it still features a somewhat-round centerpiece like the traditional necklaces do.

But, Kya’s is also different. We found out via Word of God that Kya is LGBTA+. If she’s wearing a necklace, does this mean that her (assumed) wife carved it for her? Did Kya carve out one similarly for her wife? 

I like to assume that the design Kya wears also symbolizes how her relationship is non-traditional, just as her necklace is.

Also don’t picture Korra and/or Asami carving and giving the other a necklace.

Who says Rose is the only one Juleka’s crushing on? :D

(@blindswordsgirl and anon this is for you, for tricking me into shipping Aleka) (okay maybe I tricked myself into shipping it actually)

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LOL I really need to stop drawing so fast and just take my time, but my brain moves faster than my hand.

(LOL I am cracking up over baby Harry. He is absolutely darling to me.)

Different (a follow up)

On this quiet lonely night
He rests his head on the couch
In the living room
Of a house that is not ours
And I curl up like the cat
Sleeping at the end of the bed
Hoping this is just a bump in the road.
But I see goodbye
Written on the backs of my eyelids
Like the imprint of a neon sign
Long after it’s gone.
Tonight, there are no hands to reach for
Tonight, there is no difference
Tonight, I am alone.
As I always am
Locked inside this prison
Begging to go home again.
I didn’t mean for it to be like this
But there is nothing strong enough
To keep these broken parts together.
I want to tell him I am sorry
For wasting his time
For wasting his love.

Familial Southern Gothic is managing to get 13 people living comfortably in a house with four bedrooms and two bathrooms that you’re allowed to use (the third is grandpa’s and it wasn’t there when he bought the house). Southern Gothic is also getting 17 people around a table that only fits 10 for dinner every night, and then having recipes from your aunts boss, the old lady across the street, and the local restaurant exchanged between five people while three are arguing, two are sharing a secret, three are talking about whatever comes to mind, and one is quiet.

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Photo: Lake Martin; St. Martin Parish, LA

Taken by me

i really used to be such an honest person but then [redacted] happened and now i just lie whenever i feel impending conflict

On talking to people

My friend brought something up today.

It was on the topic of female comedians - and is he a bad person for just saying off the cuff that he generally doesn’t find them funny?

He said that based on his experience he didn’t find the jokes relatable or hilarious, and it just so happens to be that way, and there are male comedians who he dislikes too, so why might it be a bad thing to say something like “I don’t like female comedians” as a general statement.

Now, I don’t want to talk about that concept at all because I think everyone should think about that for themselves and decide. But what I do want to talk about is how this simple question opened up a discussion about inequality and privilege between us.

You see, my friend had never thought about how women are a minority in the collective group that is all comedians in the world. Or how there is a culture of misogyny in society that works in systematic ways to create inequalities that shape everything in our lives - from what we find funny to who is available to laugh at. He said isn’t it fair to just say that based on my experiences, I don’t enjoy female comedy? So then we talked about why are you calling it female comedy? What separates it from male comedy? What are you using as your standard model of humanity - is it a male human? Have you ever thought about why that might be? And we chatted about other examples in business and education that were analogous to the comedy thing.

And it was amazing. I literally saw the lightbulb go off. The moment where he realized he’s been making certain assumptions all his life - but more than that - he’s *never had to question them*. It was like he was hearing some of these questions for the first time, despite the fact that he supports equality.

But let me note here that he is not a villain in this story and here is why: this story isn’t about his opinions on female comedians. It isn’t about yours or mine either. It isn’t even about your opinion on his opinion, so please hold off for a bit before you quick reblog with your scathing comedian commentary.


Because what I really want to talk about is why this conversation was even possible.

I think there are two reasons.

First, we are really good friends. No subject is taboo, and we really value and respect each other as people. We might think the other person is dead wrong about something, but we will listen to and respect each other’s opinions.

Second, he was open to the discussion. He wanted to know. There was something about the situation that bothered him that he couldn’t put his finger on, so he wanted to suss it out with someone he trusted to give him a fair opinion and open his eyes to another viewpoint while letting him talk about his own point of view.

Both of these things are so key to discourse: respect and openness.

If you have respect but no openness, talking to someone will be like banging on a locked door.
If you have openness but no respect, that becomes a one-sided conversation really fast. Your door only opens one way.
If you have neither respect nor openness, you’re just shouting insults at each other from across the fence while congratulating yourself on your high ideals.

But if you have both qualities at the table when you start to talk about something, oh yes. That’s when things can really change - on both sides.

One thing I think is easy to forget in the world of tumblr callouts and #fakenews is that discourse isn’t about being right. It’s not about having your side *win*. It’s about understanding something you didn’t before, and working in relationship with others to reach a common understanding and work towards some better, greater, common goal.

Easier said than done, but I believe we are all called to do better.

anonymous asked:

i'm an aquarius, but i'm always the "mom" of all the groups im in(despite ALWAYS being the youngest). everyone i know thinks i'm really wise and great at advice, and many people i know call me mom. (two of my best female friends, my two guy classmates that i'm close to, etc). some call me grandpa too bc of the "wise and good advice like a grandpa" thing bc im "wise beyond my years" and tbh it makes me really happy that people consider me those things! this is random but i just wanted to share

Aww, you sound adorable tbh. An adorable grandpa, anyway. lol Aquarius is ruled by Saturn, the planet of responsibility and the kind of wisdom that comes with time - so it makes loads of sense that they see you that way. You’re probably wiser than you even realize, depending on the rest of your chart. So it’s cute. :) You probably have something else helping with that, though, because Aquarius can be too harsh with words or too awkward to properly help people (in the way that you mentioned, anyway)… So there’s definitely something else backing it up for it to work in such a motherly way. Maybe the 6th house, the 4th… Even the 11th. And, of course, any water signs you migh have going on. Leo and Libra can be motherly too, depending on their rulers, so that’s also something good to check. Not that you asked, but it might help you understand yourself better. :)

I still can’t actually acknowledge that Fairy Tail is over. What trips me up more though is the fact that Naruto and Bleach ended with canon couples, and Fairy Tail was the one left open-ended (´・_・`)

you really gotta admire z’s/super’s refusal to explain anything that happened in the previous series

anonymous asked:

Kagehinaaaa on instagram posted it. I'm sorry if I made you upset! I didn't want to cause any drama, I just wanted to let you know. ^^;

OH whew, okay that’s not a bad repost since they kept my signature and mentioned my URL sorta lol, thank you so much for linking me!!! ❤️❤️ and i’d always rather know if it happens in case there’s a chance i can communicate with the reposter and ask for them to properly give credit, so don’t worry about making me upset or starting drama! ^^ sending hugs ur way my friend!!!

“tom is a cat.png”

In which everything is fine and good and the closest thing you call a ‘problem’ is Tord not being ready for Tom laying wherever he wants when he’s feeling particularly lazy and not taking no for an answer.

archiveofourown.org
Fresh's First Hangover - Chapter 1 - glaciesdraco - Undertale [Archive of Our Own]
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
By Organization for Transformative Works

Chapters: 1/3
Fandom: Undertale, Miscellaneous??, I dunno fam, this is gon be weird
Rating: Teen And Up Audiences
Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
Characters: Underfresh - Character, A couple of randos, Fresh 2.0
Additional Tags: Fresh is getting his ass handed to him, Weird glowy people which I think are pretty cool, Inter-Dimensional Parties are waaay more complicated than they sound, Taking creative liberties with Fresh’s origin, And also his powers (because SOMEONE is taking too long to explain them), I hope I didn’t ruin Fresh’s character I’m sorryyyy
Summary:

Fresh is going to his first multiverse party that isn’t a part of Undertale. Like seriously, where are all the Sanses? He might be a little in-over-his-head though, because omnipotent beings can be pretty scary.

Yoooo so @alainaprana was talking about a suffering Fresh today, and BOY OH BOY DID THAT GIVE ME AN IDEA. I didn’t get the chance to finish, but I SWEAR I WILL BECAUSE I REALLY GOT INTO IT.

2,5 days or so later and the sketch/drawing is done (although I’ll probably end up fixing things up/changing things anyway (’: knowing me…). I do really like this though! I’m especially happy with how the hands actually look decent (I can’t draw hands at all to save my life).

Cyber punk anime dad is gonna be REAL