I thought CW was very ship friendly too! I was very excited at the end and eagerly awaiting the fan content that would be churned out in the Stony fandom. Of course the reality turned out to be very different with so much hate turned on one half of the pair. It was kind of obvious it would happen since the Stony fandom has been mostly Tony-centric always. But I wasn't expecting it. I'm glad people who actually love both characters in their ship exist or I would have left the Stony fandom long
I’m glad you stayed with it, and yes, I was a little disappointed that we didn’t get as many fix-it fics as I anticipated after initially seeing it. I guess I thought after all the comic book CW fix-its, that’s what we would have, but it didn’t seem to be the case, though there are a number of notable exceptions, don’t get me wrong!
I do think that the Stony fandom tends towards a Tony-centric take, if only because in so many ‘verses, Tony seems to care so deeply for Steve, so that tends to be the ship if you are a Tony fan. I loved Iron Man 1, but then in IM2, they went with Pepper and Tony and I HATED that whole relationship, so just sort of wrote off shipping Tony, I guess? There weren’t really many options at the time, so I just kind of shrugged and went on with life.
I came at the Stony ship by way of CA: TWS, which I know is sort of weird, but so did @sineala, I believe, so I’m in good company! I don’t know, I loved that movie, and went looking for fic with Steve (initially Nat/Steve and Stucky), but couldn’t find anything that really worked for me until I hit on the Say When video by @stark-spangled-lovers and was like, damn! That’s the chemistry I’m looking for! And the rest, as they say, is history.
I think maybe because while I liked both Steve and Tony (and RDJ and CE), I wasn’t a huge fan of either of them in the beginning, so my fandom really grew from the ship itself. It wasn’t one or the other where I liked one and then found someone to ship them with. It was more like, BAM! Those two dorks. Yes, them. Thank you. I’m good now. I don’t know if that makes sense, but that’s my fandom origin story!