((Disclaimer: I don’t claim my analysis as facts. It’s an analysis based on one pov. If you have something to say, please be constructive. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Thank you.))
Firstly, I’m still learning and forever will be. If you’re an expert in this area, do inform me if I mentioned a wrong fact. It helps me a lot honestly.
So, my prof told me that she believes in three things under the romantic gestures - eye contact, personal space, and grooming/preening. Skinship becomes common now that it hard to differentiate between romantic or just platonic unless there are different body languages apply. Especially in a country like SK, which skinship among men is pretty common. Even Hen ry once mentioned in Happy Together, the one thing that surprised him the most about SK is the frequent physical contact between men.
One thing I noticed about KD is how their bodies have this certain pulls between them which lead to today’s topic - gravitation (under personal space and eye contact). Some called it magnetic pull. Keep in mind that human behavioral is a big field of scope.
Anyway, according to google dictionary, gravitation means
- Movement, or a tendency to move, toward a center of attractive force, as in the falling of bodies to the earth
- Movement toward or attraction to something.
The part that bolded apply to body language.
Two person who is attracted to each other has the tendency to attract or gravitate towards each other, including the eyes, not just the body. It’s not a part of the conscious mind. It’s a part of the subconscious mind. The majority of the body languages are a part of the subconscious mind. That’s why they said our body is more honest than our mouth - actions speak louder than words indeed. There’s no lie in that. Because those actions are not filtered. It’s directly transmitted from your brain to your body then movements. It’s like responding to stimuli when the signal is not transmitted to the brain but instead to the motor neuron for fast response. It’s mostly involuntarily.
When a person got used to their partner’s presence, they tend to gravitate towards each other. Their body are familiar with him/her and it becomes a part of their implicit memory - something you do spontaneously and automatically.
If you pay attention to your parents or your friends who are in a relationship, you can see they unconsciously move closer in a room filled with people like a party or gathering or how their eyes just unconsciously find each other. It’s a normal thing you do to your crush as well. You just want to be closer or look at them. Your mind found the idea that looking or stay close to your source of interest/comfort very pleasing and joyful.
You also tend to gravitate in a sense that you want to share everything with your partner. Like when you found something interesting, the first thing you do probably let him/her know about it or just simply look at them. And you have that mutual agreement between the two of you. ’Do you get it?’ ‘I got it.’ You want to include them in your life and include yourself in their life. To have something in common. And these small things are very meaningful.
Now, time for some example~ Let’s the deluluness begin!
It’s like close is just not close enough. There was no concrete or rational reason to explain this behavior.
This one too.
When you take a picture in a group of people, your body moves inwards especially if you’re at the corner. But one thing I notice about KD, they don’t just move inwards, they stick to each other.
Another clear example is this one. My fav pic of KD. You can see how the others were just bros taking picture tghtr.
Then we have KD glued face to face.
This is really endearing to watch. Laughing tghtr! I love watching KS laughing! See how his body just gravitates towards JI.
This is definitely not something KS planned to do.
You can see how awkward JI’s body posture. He didn’t know how to react when KS suddenly hugged his sides. And how fast KS just pulled away like oh shit what I did I do.
(just my delulu side)
Look at how long JI just kneeled on the ground while staring at KS.
Next, JI sure like to travel~ His power is teleportation anyway hehehe
(nice joke there Am lol)
Skipping everyone just to stand next to KS.
Oh, KS too?
Just KD sitting next/close to each other behind the scene.
Let’s move on to one of the honest body parts which are our eyes. If you notice the gif below, PCY also moves his eyes towards OSH.
But only JI’s eyes remained. A simple reminder here, KS wasn’t even talking. Lay was talking.
JI just can’t get enough. Another reminder, KS wasn’t even talking. JM was talking. PCY, OSH and BH were also looking at JM’s direction.
JI, BH was talking. He just unconsciously mirrored KS’s action.
This is my fav staring gif of JI’s. His gazes were so soft
(just delulu me).
Flustered KS is the best.
(probably be my next analysis. still in progress of collecting evidence)
Loot at these cuties. What were u guys doing smiling like that?
Ji the lost puppy.
This is from my own experience. I’ve only gone to their concert twice and I got tix at the front for both concerts (e x oluxion2). As expected my eyes are glued to both of them. Haha. I don’t have any proof for this bcoz I don’t like to hold my phone/camera during concerts. I want to see everything that I can with my own eyes.
But I notice one thing tho. It just funny how my eyes were looking/following them while their eyes were finding each other. There was one time JI was at the other side of the stage and KS was at the other end. And I saw JI looked at the other side. I was sure he was looking at KS bcoz there was no one else at the other end. Then when they were leaving the stage for each interval, both of them always looked for each other behind their backs. Like checking if ji/ks is there.
Maybe I’m just delulu. They were looking for each other bcoz when they found them, they exited the stage. Similar to when you check that your friend/anyone behind you, you can walk ahead. You know they’re with you.
I also did talk to other fans. B4 1st April, I never ever mention about KD to anyone. Even on my sns. But I talk to other e x o l that likes JI and KS. A friend of mine went to their concert (diff place as mine). She’s a JI stan. She told me when JI was injured and he sat on the chair at the back while the members move to the front, JI always looked at KS’s direction. I heard similar stories from other JI’s stan who went to the same concert. Then a KS’s stan told me she’s jealous of the way KS look at JI. asdfghjkl I’m like how?? She said when no one else was looking like when there was a member who was talking or doing a funny thing (audience attention on that member), KS will just quietly looked at JI. I’m …. omg. hehee.
Both of them don’t even have a reason to look at each other. They just do bcoz they just want to. But I don’t have any proof for this since it’s just convos I have w other fans and things we saw. Take it as it is and leave it as it is. But I totally recommend you guys go to the concert and just look at KD. They just have this certain aura/vibe around the two of them. Idk how to put this into words. It’s like watching my friend and her crush stealing glances at each other. The feelings are mutual but they don’t know about it. Then, act very shyly and I just want them to say hi. Haha.
I just noticed that this post is so long and I’ve provided ample of example/evidence. Well that’s it from me~ For now. Keep calm and support KD! Take care ;)
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