Okay, beans. I’ve been debating this for a couple of days, but I think it’s time I addressed it. I’m really sorry, normally I don’t do this, but I think it’s important to talk about.
An anon has been sending me messages for the last couple of days and they haven’t been very nice. It’s in regards to something in the fandom, but I don’t want to talk about that because I don’t want to be a part of any discourse. I’ve been steadily deleting their messages, but they did accidentally send me one off-anon. I have messaged that person to please stop, and they didn’t respond back, but today I received this:
Now, the ONLY REASON I am bringing this up at all is because this line of thinking is not okay. Anon hate is never okay, but bringing in my deafness to get me to respond to your previous angry messages is especially cruel.
You’re not bothering me by disliking something I wrote about. If I was mad or upset, I would have published your un-anon ask, but I didn’t want to do that to you and drag you into a comment battle with other people, as your message was really mean.
However, my concern is that if this person encounters someone else like me, they’ll say something like this and it will be really hurtful. In this message, this anon is treating my deafness as a joke, an “insert eye-roll here” and that ISN’T okay. I literally do not give one single fuck about what you think of my fics, but this bothers me. It shows the inherent thinking of “deafness is a joke.”
Don’t use something like this to insult someone. It’s not fair, it’s not okay, and to the wrong person, this could be really hurtful. Have I heard worse? Of course. But I do hope the person(s?) who have been messaging me see this and realize this is not the way to go about getting someone to engage in hostility. I won’t argue with you or publish your asks.
Dislike my fandom preferences all you want, but please don’t bring my deafness into your argument.