i feel sorry for some people

Literally every time I hear someone say that bullying is a form of abuse I feel this sense of relief wash over me. Like, validation. This person won’t think I’m being silly or it wasn’t that bad or I need to toughen up. It was actually a tumblr post that helped me admit I’ve been abused. Like, I’ve had a mental health professional confirm to me that it counts as abuse. The NSPCC lists it as a form of child abuse. The things I’ve been through fit with descriptions of abuse. But when you say that word, bullying, you never know what people will think it means. Because it’s used to mean such a wide range of things.

I wish we used the term peer abuse more. Because bullying is like, taken seriously one minute and made into a joke the next. And you’re not expected to still be profoundly affected by childhood bullying as an adult. School isn’t supposed to be traumatic. I feel ashamed because there’s this air around the topic like, it’s just kids playing games. It wasn’t even always just the kids, but it’s like I’ve internalised that attitude that I am the joke. I am a living joke and if I expect to be treated as a person, that’s even funnier.

And I see that on this website a lot too and it puts me on guard, because with some people it won’t matter if I’m sincere and reasonable and polite, they’ll figure out a way to make that a joke because all they want to do is laugh at others. And I mean some people I know rationally wouldn’t do that, but it still feels like there’s always a chance. That’s what it’s like constantly in my head. Say and do all the right things, say please and thank you and did you apologise enough times for existing? One wrong move and you could become a living joke again!

anonymous asked:

I don't want to sound aggressive but I think it's creepy you're playing out real world racism and oppression using cutesy pastel colors. Like why you're describing actually happens in the world?

I’m sorry that you think it’s creepy… but I don’t always play my berry universe’s like this. But I’ve always wondered, especially with rainbowcies, why some families are all the same color while others aren’t, since in most you always marry the heir to a purely one color sim. 

And I do think it’s a little different since there’s no racism between colors, they just want to avoid colors going extinct by not allowing colors to mix. I know that there are some people in real life who don’t like interracial couples, so it is still a sensitive subject. I’m really sorry if it makes you uncomfortable, I don’t mean any offense by it, and it is not at all my intention to hurt anyone’s feelings with my story. 

But I feel like stories really lose a lot when you’re afraid to talk about real life issues. I get that it’s just the sims, and my story is just a tiny thing on the internet… but still I don’t think that I should shy away from certain topics in my stories just because I’m using the sims to tell them.

As always, if you don’t like my story you don’t have to read it, and I won’t be hurt if you choose to stop following. I understand that it may not be for everyone, and again, I’m really sorry if I hurt anyone’s feelings with my story. 

it’s perfectly fine to criticize alec. he’s young, he’s inexperiences and he grew up in a fucked up society - we all know he’s not perfect, that he made mistakes and that he’s going to make mistakes in the future. nobody denies that. but some people are so blinded by hatred and let me tell you one thing: wanting a characters’ death or pretending like he’s literally the devil himself is not critique anymore, that’s character bashing and if you feel like you need to do that at least be a decent person and don’t put it in the fucking tag i’m sorry but i’m really, really tired of this

anonymous asked:

Thank you for tirelessly standing up to those vegans. I have tried being vegan, but it is just not possible. We're not poor, but really, there's days where I'm not sure we could pay our house off if we'd get pricey food. And my brother and mom are ill and all of us have allergies. At least two people in my household would be malnourished as vegans. But then those people come and spout lies and half-truths and I feel so bad... So thanks for staying so calm and factual in the face of their anger.

I’m so sorry about that. A vegan diet can be great for some people, but it’s just not always an option for others, particularly low-income people or those who live in food deserts or people with specific health needs. You don’t deserve to be shamed for your nutritional needs or your inability to access certain foods. 

-Kyoung

Some dumbass things I do:

• hum
• fidget a lot
• “Wait, what?”
• dancing when nobody is looking
• playing my ukelele cause it feels good for some reason
• “Can you repeat that??”
• replay the same damn song for 34 hours
• “wHAT THE HELL DID YOU SAY”
• putting up makeup but I screw up on my nails
• talk about my passions for 128:15:90:37
• drawing the same fucking characters until I get inspiration
•hardest thing about being a writer/songwriter/poet: the writing
• “CAN YOU SAY IT AGAIN IM SORRY”
•insomnia is my new friend
• never thinks before speaking
• I got social anxiety yet I’m very chill with meeting new people
• “what.,.,.,.did you say.,.,.,”
• boy isn’t daydreaming instead of doing your responsibilities incredible
• wears all types of clothes
• “so u like boys? girls?” “i like people”
• can be both quiet and VERY VERY LOUD
•i just love animals okay i will pet anYTHING
• I DIDN’T HEAR WHAT YOU SAY CAUSE IM A HORRIBLE LISTENER I’M SO FUCKING SORRY
•"I think I’ll walk to my friend’s house today…oh look a smoothie store!“
• "Key, did you hear me?” “…..huh?”
•invites friends over to the backyard. We got pizza, sodas, and a speaker. The hottest hits, rock, alternative, they blast. We’re sitting in the back of my sister’s truck and staring up at the skies. We play water balloons, truth or dare, sing along contest. Bean comes over and things are awesome.
• wHEN WILL MY DUMBASS LISTEN TO THINGS

I slept for about 2 hours? Due to emotional issues and jaw pain that was not gained because I had a cock stuck in my mouth, sadly. Grinding my teeth roughly caused a lot of issues.

I’m sorry I’m still feeling depressed I know I’m not enjoyable like this that I’m not fun or good to be around. I am sorry.

I am going to try to take another nap then out this emotional trauma to something more productive. Some writing that maybe someone might enjoy.

Sorry if I don’t chat much today I feel like I’m not up to par to help people today with writing or any other random thing I try to help people with. Some days I need the help okay?

chocolate-yogurt  asked:

hey ! so i've been thinking about it and i need some tips on how to /do what you're doing/ without people noticing. i'm really overweight and it feels gross so i need some help but my parents are hyper-aware of everything i do :/ so, any tips for subtlety? thanks 🖤

hm I think the best way to hide being underweight is loose clothes, and layering clothes on, I’m so sorry I’m not much help but I think that’s basically the only thing you can really do, please stay safe! xoxo elle 💕

anonymous asked:

Adorable 404 ? I followed your tips but I didnt take any pill T_T so after 3 hours I started to feel a little bit sick and I started to tremble because Im afraid of .... you know Now im better but i still feel a little dizzy Do you think Ill get sick again on my way back home ?

Aw, I’m sorry to hear that you still felt sick! 

It’s quite possible you’ll feel the same way on the way back… but hopefully you’ll tire yourself out and fall asleep? Like I said before, sleeping is usually a huge help for me (and a few others I know get car sick) 

Do you get to choose where you sit? Because for some reason a lot of the time sitting up front and being able to /see/ where you’re going helps some people?

I’m so sorry I’m not much of a help here ^^;; But I do hope your travel back is better than the travel there!!! ~Admin 404

ahri726  asked:

The funniest thing that I've seen to the anti nalus they are stuck in their denial hole cuz they can't accept the truth

I mean, it’s fine that people are disappointed that their ship didn’t become canon- I mean, some people have shipped na//li as hard as I’ve shipped nalu all these years.  I feel for them, really, but it’s the ones that are blatantly ignoring the fact that nalu is canon and then going on to attack the nalu shippers/making fun of the nalu fandom.  Like, I’m sorry your ship isn’t canon and is a crack ship, but don’t try to water down nalu’s interaction to something as shallow as friend zoning lmao so I do agree with you- they can’t accept the truth.  I feel for the decent na//li shippers.

anonymous asked:

How do you feel comfortable in gay spaces as someone who isn't strictly gay? I've been struggling for a while to feel welcome (I'm bisexual) and thought you might have some tips, perhaps. Sorry if this is a weird question.

not a weird question!! i don’t really know, though, honestly. i guess it probably helps that i’m in a same-sex relationship so from an outside perspective i’m “just gay” but that doesn’t mean it’s any easier to tell people in gay spaces that i’m not a lesbian.

it’s difficult but we need to remember that we DO belong in lgbt+ spaces, and whoever is trying to make us feel unwelcome doesn’t fully understand who we are, and they’ll never know our hearts the same way that we do. if you’re bi/pansexual, you’re lgbt and you’re allowed in lgbt+ spaces.

anonymous asked:

Remind me again why you are worth anything? People like you disgust me. People like you remind me that I hate little bitches on this sight. You all are probably the same little fat white rich kids who jack off to stupid fucking fake heroes that you wouldn't ever have a chance anyway.

I think the real question is why you are worth anything? The fact that you come onto my blog and say such things shows me that you really need some help in your life. I feel sorry for you, and I hope you can find some joy in your life that doesn’t include insulting people. 

One thing about chronic illnesses that people really don’t seem to understand is that rest doesn’t make it better, at best it can slow down how bad you feel at that time or help it feel a bit more bearable but it’ll get worse if it wants to whether you’re resting or not

Sometimes you’ll be forced to rest because you can’t do anything else, but that doesn’t mean resting makes it better. When you’re chronically ill, you don’t get better, and rest definitely doesn’t leave you feeling refreshed and full of energy

If your whole body hurts and it’s painful to move then you have to rest but it’s horrible doing that the whole time, I know you’re supposed to rest when you’re sick but actually a lot of spoonies I’ve talked to hate it and would love to be able to be more active but we can’t - the last thing we want to do is spend more time at home in bed on our own

Resting doesn’t make anything better for me, it just helps to stop it being worse - everything can still hurt if I don’t do anything and I’d be happier if I could go out, even if that would hurt much more

Some very bad things have happened to me. So bad that if I ever tell you about it, you’ll feel sorry. But then I’ve done bad things to people, too. So I guess everyone has their demons. There’s no such thing as a ‘completely good person’. We just have flawed people who try to be good. Sometimes they succeed. Sometimes they don’t.

“Haise had feelings for Touka but Kaneki doesn’t”

But, hey!!!

Look!!

The title of the chapter where Haise first met Touka (and the one he instantly fell for her) is called:

The feelings Haise felt for Touka were inherited from Kaneki. It just happens that, since Haise didn’t have any memories of his past, he also didn’t have any issues that would make him lock is feelings deep down on his heart.

While Kaneki had a lot to deal, Haise was just Haise, which made his feelings for her more obvious and transparent.

Kaneki and Haise may be “““diferent”””, but the heart is the same.

there comes a time in every fan’s life where you just decide “fuck it, I’m not going to pretend to defend why I’m allowed to like A Thing even though everyone thinks it is Bad Art. I’m just going to like it and anyone who wants to judge me for liking A Thing without a detailed mea culpa Explanation should try this instead: I like A Thing because it makes me happy or brings me silly joy and that is all the Explanation I care to give. liking A Thing does not have to equal an endorsement of A Thing as Good Art or Model Writing. maybe it’s even garbage, but it’s My Happy Garbage, so peace out sailor.”

ayo hitman bang introduces hit it the second audition

sjadnfgdfhjkj ok i’m joking here’s your annoying jin stan with the second follow forever!!! its my blog’s first anniversary and for the last year i’ve met here so many beautiful people, i know i haven’t talked to all of you but i really apreciate you!! thank you for making this year so amazing!!! and i’m sorry for excluding some of my mutuals, feel free to deck me in the face 

special shout out to my homies:

@leejinks get your ass here faster pls we have 3 months to waste, ily n i miss u 💞 💞 💞

@jimissi my savior, you kno i love u the most im sorry you have to hear all abt those groups you’re not even into i’m not sorry for dragging you into some of them  💞 💞 💞

@yoonjisungsgf thanks for everything, quality memes and notes and shit, i wouldn’t survive this year without u  💞 💞 💞

bolded - faves

💞 - angels whom i don’t deserve 

side note: i know some of you follow my svt sideblog, i just remade it into a separate blog so now you can find me at @wongyuhan​ this is a shameless promo i’m sorry i’m like this

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There is a thing about fandom mentality that baffles me.
Yes, fandoms change over time and the first big boom slows down. And for haikyuu the first boom definitely has cooled down.
And as I totally get how you can be sad over passed times and be nostalgic about how things were I feel it’s unfair to sit around and mope and complain that the fandom is dead.
I know some of the first big artists and writers have moved on and as said I understand if you miss the exciting times of a new fandom. But if you only look back and look sadly behind you and at the empty spot the artists who have left the fandom have left there you will never see what is happening all around you.
There are still new people coming and creating. There are still new fics and stories and new fanart with a new style.
Some people who have been around for 1 or even 2 years are still around and providing and keeping their stories going and alive.
There are still totally new and very fresh people entering the fandom who haven’t heard or seen any of the stories yet and are excited to get to know all.
But if you only look back and hold on to the old things you won’t be able to see all the new things. You won’t be able to enjoy all the things. And this is sad. And this is what discourage other artists and writers…and in the end I feel this is what makes a fandom dead.

Some of the early haikyuu art and fics are great and they have been important and I value them and I would never talk them down.
But it’s sad to see that they are still held up to such a praise that new things often can’t find their room. Even people who joined the fandom more recently still hold up to the old things.

Go look into the fresh tags. Don’t always look for most notes but for what is new or sounds good.
There are some great artists and writers among us who have been fighting and creating for over a year now but still haven’t found their ground cause you still rather be sad about someone who isn’t in this fandom anymore.

So if you are still motivated and interested in the fandom go out there and have an open mind and search for new blogs to follow and look into newer things! People still creating and posting new stuff every day!! With this a fandom can’t be dead!
Enjoy!

Fandom as a whole is not “minor-friendly”

Nor should it be.

If you want to live in a “Children of the Corn”-style bubble of innocence and purity, well, to me, that’s a startling approach to adolescence, but every generation’s got to find its own way to reject the one before, so: do as you will.  But you can’t bring the bubble to the party, kids.  Fandom, established media-style fandom, was by and for adults before some of your parents were born now.  You don’t get to show up and demand that everyone suddenly change their ways because you’re a minor and you want to enjoy the benefits of adult creative activity without the bits that make you uncomfortable.  If you think you’re old enough to be roaming the Internet unsupervised, then you also think you’re old enough to be working out your limits by experience, like everybody else, like I did when I was underage and lying about it online.  If you’re not old enough to be roaming the Internet unsupervised and you’re doing it anyway, then that’s on your parents, not on fandom.

If you were only reading fic rated G on AO3, if you had the various safe modes on other media enabled, you would be encountering very little disturbing material, anyway (at least in the crude way people tend to define “disturbing” these days; some of the most frankly horrifying art I have ever engaged with would have been rated PG at most under present systems, but none of that kind of work ever seems to draw your protests).  In the end, what you really want is to be able to seek out the edges of your little world, but be able to blame other people when you don’t like what you find.  Sorry.  Adolescence is when you get to stop expecting others to pad your world for you and start experiencing the actual consequences of the risks you take, including feeling appalled and revolted at what other people think and feel.

Now, ironically, fandom’s actually a fairly good place for such risk-taking, as, for the most part, you control whether you engage and you can choose the level of your engagement.   You can leave a site, blacklist something, stop reading an author, walk away from your computer.  Are there actual people (as opposed to works of art, which cannot engage with you unless you engage with them) who will take advantage of you in fandom?  Of course there are.  Unfortunately, such people are everywhere.  They will be there however “innocent” and “wholesome” the environment appears to be, superficially.  That’s evil for you.  There are abusers in elementary school.  There are abusers in scout troops.  There are abusers in houses of worship.  Shutting down adult creative activity because you happen to be in the vicinity isn’t going to change any of that.  It may help you avoid some of those icky feelings that you get when you think about sex (and you live in a rape culture, those feelings are actually understandable, even if your coping techniques are terrible), but no one, except maybe your parents, has a moral imperative to help you avoid those.  

In the end, you’re not my kid and you’re not my intended audience.  I’m under no obligation to imagine only healthy, wholesome relationships between people for your benefit.  Until you’re old enough to understand that the world is not exclusively made up of people whose responsibility it is to protect you from your own decisions, yes, you’re too young for established media fandom.  Fandom shouldn’t be “friendly” to you.