discourse that I would like your opinion on: Kinning out of your gender is bad
when we’re talking about like, cis & binary genders? thats dumb as hell. fictional men are written with more thought than fictional women so of course women are going to identify with them; men being willing to heavily identify with women is Uhhhhhhh, a good thing. i also dont think having any/a lot of kins that are your designated gender invalidates one’s transness either.
i do think when it comes to something like, canon trans characters outside your experience, or ‘your canon’ being a type of trans outside your experience, it makes sense to have concern? but it depends heavily on how someone goes about it. again, you have zero way of knowing at a glance what someone means by ‘kin’ or in what way theyre relating. i have a couple of kins who are transfem in ‘my canon’ but im not ever claiming to experience transmisogyny myself, it’s more of a weird halfway point between an odd unconscious feeling (potentially ‘objective’, in a sense, like for example im far from the only person who views tim as some degree of gnc/transfem despite there not necessarily being much canon ‘evidence’ for it, so like, why does it still come to mind?) and my own conscious processing of personal gender feelings through that character.
so like seeing someone who is like ‘LITERALLY ME DONT FOLLOW UR FAKE’ about something like that is definitely uncomfortable and weird.. but i dont know if there can be a steadfast rule that no one should ever kin out of their gender/experience at all. since like the point of representation is for people to learn to identify with other types of people.. and learn about their experiences… ive directly learned a lot about stuff i’m not by having kin feelings about characters who are, which is a good thing. so like idk i think it comes down to just… dont like… lie about what you are… dont talk out your ass about stuff you dont know… take the opportunity to learn as much as possible… thats all