i don't whats this but expect a lot more

adlethstillio  asked:

A week ago I thought I had my anxiety under control.... ButT today I feel like I don't deserve to be called "adult" and this morning felt like I couldn't handle any more. THEN I learned that my psychiatrist bill is $700, not the $40 copay I was expecting. I know there are ups and downs, but fuck. This down hurts. A lot. I'm back to some obsessive tendencies I haven't done in months. Any tips for the down days?

I am so sorry. That sucks.

When I have down days, I do the best I can (being gentle with myself, and forgiving, because what is my best varies from day to day) to remember that this isn’t the first time I’ve had a down day, and to give myself credit for making it through.

“Ah, but that was different, this time is THE WORST,” your brain will say. And then we have to remember that our brain says that every single time, because depression lies.

I try to remember (and so I try to help others remember) that you don’t deserve this crap. This isn’t happening because of something you did or didn’t do; it’s just the way our brains are wired.

I focus on doing cognitive behavioral therapy, which is basically identifying a negative emotion (sadness, despair, etc.) and focusing on something awesome that made me happy, to replace it. For example, I may read a news story about one of my friends getting a gig I desperately wanted, and instead of being super happy for them, I’ll feel sad for me. When that happens, I have to deliberately think about and remember the specific emotional experience I had when I did something cool that I felt good about. I do my best to relive it, sort of turning up the mental volume on it, until I can’t hear (feel) the bad stuff.

That’s oversimplifying it, and maybe I’m not explaining it well, but it’s one tool that works for me.

I notice that, in your ask, you didn’t say anything about giving up or stopping therapy, and I wanted you to know that I’m proud of you for refusing to be a victim, and for sticking with your treatment and therapy to take good care of yourself.

Check in with me and let me know how you’re doing in a few days, okay? I promise you that it will get better. You are stronger than you think.

theminism  asked:

Seeing all of your ideal casts for your characters... how do you feel about people headcanoning them as people of color? Your books were incredibly formative for me, and I was very attached as a kid to the idea of Daine and Numair both as POCs (and just as characters!), not to mention half of your other characters, and while I don't expect that to be canon, what are your feelings on the matter?

I would never object to anyone imagining things differently. That’s how you exercise your creativity. Some of the most beautiful fanart of Daine that I’ve seen has her cast as a POC. Arram is midway between dark and light skinned anyway. 

Your mind is your own. You can do whatever you want with your mind. To try and make up for my past whiteness, there are a lot more people of color in TEMPESTS AND SLAUGHTER. 

anonymous asked:

So what exactly has changed since before? What's so innovative Jeff has brought? The Sun still get exclusive and the stalkers still get ticketes. awesome

“The Sun still get exclusive and the stalkers still get tickets. awesome”

Okay, Tumblr, we need to talk.

Listen, mermaids are not usually my thing. I am pretty indifferent towards them in general, but I see a lot of you in my dash posting about mermaids, so I saw this novel and even though I have just started it and I can’t tell you if it’s going to be good or not, I feel it is my civic duty to tell you it exists. Ready?

Ice Massacre, by Tiana Warner. 

A book about a little island at war with a growing colony of mermaids living in the waters around them. So they send warriors to fight them, but historically men don’t do very good against that mermaid lure magic thing they do, so they decide to send a ship full of highly trained girl warriors, and the protagonist is the one Useless Lesbian™ of the ship (who, by the way, also happens to be a lady of color, like most people in the island).

Like I said, mermaids are not my thing and I have only read a few chapters, but so far it is fast-paced and action-y, with a touch of fantasy. The kind of entertaining book you read fast and easy.

Sounds good? Happy to hear it. The paperback is fifteen dollars, but it’s literally less than a fucking dollar for Kindle right now and until July the 31st, because a sequel is coming out in two days and they are having a special offer.

Now go grab your fantasy lesbian mermaid girl warrior novel.  

Edit: I finished the novel and it was great fun, I basically demolished it in two days. Mostly lots of action (and it gets way more graphic than I expected it to) with a touch of reimagined folklore-ish fantasy. It’s the kind of lovely book you can just keep reading if you want to, and devour it in one go. If you are into fantasy YA, badass lady protagonists and mermaids, give it a go, I know many people around here will enjoy this a lot!

anonymous asked:

How do you view the marriage between Robb Stark and Jeyne Westerling? I used to see it as a good one based on genuine feelings, but then this scene struck me where Jeyne told Catelyn: "Now he is sitting and looking at maps. I asked him what he was looking for, but he never answered. I don't think he ever heard me. ". Jeyne is clueless about Robb and Robb is completely ignoring her, even though he surely needs someone to talk to.

Well, they’re both very young, and the relationship is still pretty new to them. Rough patches are to be expected. I’d’ve been more surprised if these two hastily-married teenagers didn’t have conflict of some description. How they dealt with that conflict would have told us an awful lot. Unfortunately, Red Wedding.

That quote from Jeyne is in the context of her seeking advice from Catelyn about how to handle the situation.

“I want to be a good wife to him, I do, but I don’t know how to help. To cheer him, or comfort him. I don’t know what he needs.”

- Catelyn III, ASoS

She saw her husband in emotional pain and a deficit in her understanding, and sought to remedy both. Plus there’s what we see of Jeyne in AFFC. She cares.

On Robb’s part, he does enjoy Jeyne’s company.

If [Robb] was more comfortable with his young queen, she could scarcely blame him. Jeyne makes him smile, and I have nothing to share with him but grief.

- Catelyn IV, ASoS

But he shuts her out of politics hard. Not only is there the incident you mention, but there are others.

Robb’s captains and lords bannermen stood about the hall, some mailed and armed, others in various states of dishevelment and undress. Ser Raynald and his uncle Ser Rolph were among them, but Robb had seen fit to spare his queen this ugliness.

- Catelyn III, ASoS

Robb kissed his wife gently, promised to see her in their chambers, and went off with his lady mother. His steps led them towards the godswood. “Lothar seemed amiable, that’s a hopeful sign. We need the Freys.”

- Catelyn IV, ASoS

Catelyn V starts with that tension from Robb’s side of the relationship: his feelings for Jeyne do not match up well with his political expectations for Jeyne. (Jeyne…does not know much about optics. Nobody’s taught her.)

Robb was touched by [Jeyne galloping an hour to catch up with the army], but abashed as well. The day was damp and grey, a drizzle had begun to fall, and the last thing he wanted was to call a halt to his march so he could console a tearful young wife in front of half his army. He speaks to her gently, [Catelyn] thought as she watched them together, but there is anger underneath.

- Catelyn V, ASoS

This tension is left unresolved, on account of Robb’s death. We may learn more, especially if the prologue to TWoW is indeed a perspective on the Westerling party being attacked by Lady Stoneheart’s Brotherhood Without Banners. Unfortunately, any resolution is likely to be violent and tragic, if that’s the case. Will Zombie Catelyn interpret Jeyne’s political failings as a plot to bring Robb down? Seems likely to me.

anonymous asked:

no one's saying it's impossible for him to rebrand and become something more than the popular womanizer. i'm sure he will and completely shed that image. but he's not gonna be popular that way. imo i think he expects that. but a lot of his other fans and the public in general is expecting the great comeback of lothario popstar harry with a winter gf. when there is none of what makes harry Harry Styles™, i don't think anyone will be interested, and i think people will be quick to call flop.

oh wow I disagree.  I think he’s got enough substance to do well for himself without being Harry Styles™.  I DO think there will be enough interest.  I think he’s got a very unique voice and I mean both literally and figuratively as a writer, he’s someone people enjoy working with, he’s a good person (which…actually goes a long way in the industry), he’s charismatic, he’s got amazing stage presence, he’s smart, and he’s hardworking.  I think he’ll be just fine.  

anonymous asked:

Are we talking about x files shit that pissed us off? Because I've got another one regarding Scully's pregnancy. It's obvious very quickly in Per Manum that Scully is going to ask Mulder to be her sperm donor, but the way it was portrayed was so....unemotional? Like I was hoping for a lot more declarations of love and crying and stuff. I don't know why I would expect anything another than what we got, but it could've been such a beautiful scene. Ya feel?

It’s one of the most monumental things I wish we had gotten to see. Not giving David and Gillian the opportunity to slay some of these heavy, emotional scenes is a huge travesty. Also, we never got to see Scully tell Mulder that her cancer was in remission. Imagine his face. Hell, literally the only times we got to see and hear them say the words “I love you” or some approximation of that was Triangle and IWTB.

We were robbed as a fandom, I tell you. Robbed.

Your Zodiac Sign: No Sugar Coating | TheZodiacCity
  • Aries: You're always on the hunt for some new thrill, most of the time to cover up the fact that you actually live a boring, unfulfilled life; you love being the over-protective one but don't really know your limits; you're fun to be around, I'll give you that but that's only if your constant need to nitpick at something doesn't get in the way
  • Taurus: Oh Taurus, you have so much potential but that's usually sidetracked by your half-assed attempts at most things; you have a problem with every little freakin' thing that doesn't go your way (boo hoo); and you'd be a breeze to talk to if you didn't have constant diarrhea of the mouth (tell you my secrets? hell no)
  • Gemini: Talking a lot isn't your problem, talking about 5 topics in 2 minutes is your problem...you lose people with your maze of discussions; most people like you, they do, but you can be so judgmental and very difficult to understand; and for goodness sake, please stop acting like you're so "unbothered" by every damn thing...you are human right?
  • Cancer: We know you get sick of hearing how emotional you are...truth is, you hold your emotions down very well but when you want to become the poster child for "hissy fits", there's no stopping you; Cancer, can you hear me? Listen (or look rather), you don't have to know every muthaf*ckin' thing. I mean damn, you act like it's a sin to not INCLUDE you in something
  • Leo: You're a good person Leo, but you have a messed up attitude and it radiates to others more than you know. Between your weird facial expressions, dramatic-ness (I made that up) and your touchy moments, you're like a pile of stink garbage sometimes that no one wants to be around; your heart is big and people love you for that -- focus more on self-gratification though because you wear yourself out trying to be "Saint Leo who really doesn't want to do something but does it so you don't hear someone's mouth"
  • Virgo: Virgo, you try to care but most of the time you're making it look good. Are you compassionate? Are you sensitive to the needs of others? Yes, but far and few between do moments happen where you're deeply affected by it; You're a smart one Virgo, serious brain power you have there -- if only you could turn down those annoying thoughts that drive you bat shit crazy on the inside
  • Libra: You're probably doing something for someone right this minutes. Are you? If not, it won't be long. There's nothing wrong with "looking out" for people but sh*t, who's looking out for you?; and speak up dammit, why focus so much of your lovely energy on keeping things bottled up? Oh I see, you don't want to be disliked...well guess what, somebody out there hates your guts (just being honest) so you obviously can't please everybody
  • Scorpio: My dear Scorpio, you're a lot my friend. A whole lot to deal with -- and that's why many people back away. Don't tell me you haven't noticed; If you had a penny for all those crazy thoughts that run through your head, you'd definitely be able to pay someone's rent, at the least; You're another one with a good heart though, can't deny that but you need to work on being more of the genuine person you expect everyone else to be
  • Sagittarius: I like you Sagittarius, you're fun, you're bold, you're adventuruous but you can be such a big pain in the ass. You have such an irrational way of thinking. You expect everybody to be on your team and if they're not, c'est la vie. Why can't someone disagree with you? Are you the almighty, righteous one? I think not.
  • Capricorn: Having you around is some people's dream and some people's nightmare. I think it's safe to say you have an equal number of close friends and enemies. Well not enemies per se, but definitely people who can't stand your guts. You have a spunk about you but you can be extremely self-absorbed and even more demanding. You slobber on your pillow, just like the rest of us. Get a grip.
  • Aquarius: There's a lot I could say about you Aquarius, but I'll make this short and sweet. Focus more on relating to people and less on being so wrapped up in yourself. Are you a nice person, yes. But those who know you or are around you enough see the vindictive person you can be; if someone even looks at you funny, you're ready to write them off. You can't systematically cut ties with everyone and then wonder why you're a lonesome dud, I mean dove.
  • Pisces: You have a lot to say about other people, man oh man. What this person should be doing, what that person should stop doing but what about you? You're 85% of the time a walking contradiction; and stop feeling like everyone should do what you think in your mind they should do, last time I checked nobody was able to think for you. If you have certain expectations, that's on you. But if you don't SAY what you feel, who can you really be mad at?

anonymous asked:

I can see a lot of Yuuri's obliviousness re: flirtatious behavior directed towards him simply being a language barrier issue. A lot of things said to him don't translate very well in Japanese, but do you think he'd be the same with Japanese equivalents?

i don’t think it’s really a language barrier thing because Yuuri lived in America for eight years so he’s very fluent in slang as well as what you would be taught internationally, much better than Viktor is. It’s more that he doesn’t expect people to be flirting with him so he doesn’t notice when they do 

anonymous asked:

i'm schizoid but i am really good at reading people and understanding their pov on the world. but i don't feel it's in the feelingsy sort of way really. like, i don't feel what they're feeling but i notice a lot of little details and patterns about someone's behavior and can deduce their emotions based on that. it's more like a behavioral scan than empathy. i have no idea how to put this into words but i wanted to see if any other schizoid knows what i'm trying to convey here.

Potentially correct link to the related post… it might be wrong one though, but it’s the best I could find.

Yeah, I think that’s about how it happens for most schizoids. You get to learn what kind of behavior to expect from people when they feel this or that emotion. Eventually you get to “read” what’s going on from their POV, but I don’t think it happens same way for most other people. 

But some schizoids are, indeed, exceptionally good at it — I’ve mentioned before that schizoids often make a really good psychoanalytics if they have enough motivation for it and not enough despise towards people to work with them. 

anonymous asked:

I got some whiplash today. I feel like a lot of people did a 180. I was quite confused. Remember when we said that we weren't happy about Sony/Columbia's continued involvement and predicted things would be shitty and we were getting attacked? Oh, don't be so negative, he's got more control now, his team is great, they said. And now, it's like, what did you expect? This was to be expected. You have no right to be sad. Get a grip. It's seriously frustrating at this point.

mhmmm. and that’s my main issue. i’m not thrilled about the het promo and i’m still really wtf over harry being signed with sony period but those two concerns pale in comparison to how frustrated i am with the FANDOM and the nastiness and the manipulation/hypocrisy coming from a ton of the blogs here.

sony’s got nothing on the vitriol and the condescension i’ve seen here lately.

Ok I’m still thinking about Josephine and her “irrational fears” and I’m pretty sure this was said before, but the more I think about them, the less irrational they seem? I mean, most of them are related with fire

also, some of them are very specific

one would expect that the reason behind being afraid of traveling in automobiles would be something like car accidents or something? Not “being trapped inside” one? It’s almost as if something like this has happened to her before? But what really got me what this sentence:

… what if they never had children because they were afraid of losing them to VFD’s apprenticeship system?

itcomesbetweenus  asked:

When a lot of people myself included talk about racism in the OMGCP fandom we aren't upset that Bitty has more fics and we don't expect Lardo to take a huge chunk of the cake. We point out that Dex is more well represented than Nursey or Chowder despite occupying the same amount of importance in the comic. That's what we mean when we point out the racism in fic writing.

Hm, interesting point of view, but I didn’t feel it that way? I don’t really read Chowder fic, since he reminds me a little bit too much of my little brother and reading romance - or sex!- weirds me out, but I’ve read a lot of Nursey and Dex, and I didn’t feel there was one that got more attention than the other.

Thinking about it more, there may be a reason Dex is a more insteresting character to some: His main characteristic is being grumpy (as opposed to Nursey’s chill), so you have, from the get go, a conflict, and stories are based on conflict. There’s also the canon detail (from the twitter, I think?) that Dex had a republican sticker on his laptop, so you have deeper conflict with the tone of the story (which is acceptance, love, overcoming homophobia). If you take that republican sticker and cross it with maybe the character like boys (hey, it’s fandom and the crew is 99% boys), that makes DRAMA and CONFLICT. 

I want to precise that this is not an analysis on race, and not a way to excuse anyone from writing anything. It is merely a deconstruction of narrative tropes and storywriting meta. Does the fandom need more color? Yes, of course! But people can’t make magic, and making something out of almost nothing is hard. As a seasoned writer, I find it difficult to come with interesting ideas if the characters don’t have conflict, or depth in the first place. Young fans are only beginning their artistic journey, and cannot resolve all the problems of the world at the same time. 

  • Bruce: I've prepped some questions in case the reporters ask you tonight at the gala.
  • Stephanie: Shoot, Mr. Boss-Man.
  • Bruce: ...Right. What is your name?
  • Stephanie: They call me Lil Skeeze.
  • Bruce: *rolls eyes* What is your relation to the Wayne family?
  • Stephanie: Sometimes I eat their leftover fries.
  • Bruce: *sighs heavily* Have you any interests in the family's company?
  • Stephanie: Lots, mostly related to gossip.
  • Bruce: *begins to get up and leave*
  • Stephanie: *grabs his sleeve* Stop, don't. Keep asking, I'll do it right!
  • Bruce: *sternly* I expect you to take this seriously, Stephanie.
  • Stephanie: I will! Okay, I'm done. Ask me more questions, I'll be serious.
  • Bruce: *gazes at her*
  • Stephanie: *very serious*
  • Bruce: Very well. What is, in your opinion, America's greatest artistic achievement? Now, take your time to think abou--
  • Stephanie: High School Musical. Without a doubt.
  • Bruce:
  • Bruce:
  • Bruce:
  • Bruce: Just...just try to avoid the reporters.
Oh Canada...regarding their latest motion...
  • 2016: "If Trump gets elected I'm moving to Canada."
  • 2017: "If Canada passes an Anti-Islamophobia bill I'm moving to America."
  • Liberals: "condemn racism and Islamophobia!"
  • Conservatives: "can we at least get a definition of Islamophobia? Or maybe change it to 'discrimination of Muslims, Jews, Sikhs, etc'?"
  • Liberals: "NO! NO! It has to be 'Islamophobia'!"
  • NDP: (jerking off to Karl Marx in a corner)
  • Rational people: This motion will create more hate against muslims and will in turn cause the muslims to hate us back. How to civil war 101.
  • Europeans: (under the radar so they're not arrested) Islamaphobia means not wanting to die or have your wife, daughter, and son raped by filthy swine
  • Random person 1: Muslims don't want to hear any criticism in the same way that alcoholics don't want to hear about cirrhosis of the liver. You don't even need to go as far as to say it's analogous to criticising the individual. That's Canadian thinking. In Islam simply criticising the ideology, or not adhering to their strict draconian laws can and will get you killed. No one wants their precious ideology questioned. It drives me nuts that to even raise issue with the religion of Islam equals attacking its individual adherents. Bullshit. I call to task any ideology that issues the "convert or die" philosophy.
  • Random Person 2: Canada's Islamophobia Problem? At this point Canada has a Islamophilia problem.
  • Random Person 3: I am against this law. Islam is not a race
  • Random Person 4: Canada didn't have an Islamophobia, but they will now. That's how these things always turns out when you make a fundamental human right like speech taboo. Canada has been punishing people for wrong think for years. Justin's "father" Pierre was a communist and was BFF's with Castro. When Reagan became President of the USA, Pierre resigned as PM and fled to the Soviet Union with his family which included Justin. Justin and his people are only ramping things up because they see the rise of nationalism, people are walking up now.
  • Random Person 4: Wow Trudeau, you really want to lose the next election badly don't you?
  • Random Person 5: Those of us who have looked into the Muslim religion, and have a good idea how toxic the teachings of the Quran are, have all the right the be concerned about Islam.
  • Wise Person: If you want to know who controls you, find out who you are not allowed to criticize.
  • A Canadian: The second somebody gets nailed by this "law" that person is going to become a Martyr for the surging Right Wing movement thats steadily building in Canada. I don't understand what they are trying to accomplish here, they don't seem to understand that by banning people from being able to criticize Islam it's just going to make more people hate it (and rightfully so). It will literally just make the push back against Islam/Globalism all the more stronger. Canada is not Sweden, and as much as that dickhead Trudeau likes to claim that "we don't have a strong national identity" he couldn't BE more disconnected (but what do you expect from a treasonous globalist/islamist shit head?). There are still a lot of Canadians who are willing (and can't wait) to fight for this country, Either we vote Trudeau out of office, or we tear him out by force. Either way he's done for. As a Canadian, I a DEEPLY embarrassed by the social justice/feminist poison of this government.

anonymous asked:

Remember who you are... you are Virus. The one true illness of heartaches from fan girls in love with you. Remember... remember... remember...

Virus doesn’t give a shit.

(I would have drawn more of this, but sadly it’s finals time for me.)


ahaha wait, what the heck…? how does UNDYNE know anything about all that…?

i think alphys more than anyone would be very understanding of when someone makes a mistake or keeps a secret. but just what kind of mistakes were happening when they were all underground…?

this is another page that was originally 2 pages of 3 and 4 panels respectively, then combined into 1. so it’s technically like getting two pages! i guess. sorry if it’s one-page updates for awhile. it’s a busy time of year!

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anonymous asked:

I'm a trans boy and I'm really worried about passing, I was wondering if you had any tips? I understand if you don't feel comfortable answering this question though.

Man, this is a difficult question. I don’t have a whole lot of advice - it really varies from person to person. Some thoughts:

As far as behaviors go, just do what is natural to you. Most people can spot affectations a mile away, and it can be a lot more disconcerting than instinctive feminine traits (unless you are a brilliant actor). I don’t expect you to listen to me on this, but I think you will likely come to the same realization eventually. As you become more comfortable with your presentation, certain things will fall into place and you will hardly notice.

Appearance-wise? In short: vests. Finding clothing that is flattering on you will always be a challenge, but you can almost never go wrong with flannels and puffer vests. They’re comfortable, mainstream, and disguise any hang-ups you may have about your body. And they have surprisingly deep pockets!

Layers in general are your friend. Trousers can be frustrating - I almost never wear jeans. Instead, my wardrobe is full of gray cargo pants, which are as practical as they are masculine-coded. I suppose you can wear other colors besides gray, if you’re into that whole “variety” thing and like wearing different outfits from one day to the next. I think Gap still sells “boyfriend jeans”, which are in the women’s section and artificially worn, but if you don’t mind shallow pockets, they work pretty well.

Uhhh. As for hair? I dunno, depends on your face shape. I look much better with shaggy hair than with a professional style. I don’t recommend filling in your eyebrows if they’re thin… it’s usually pretty obvious what you’ve done (if you have hair that covers your forehead, it might hide them).

Hats can help. Baseball and trucker hats are masculine-coded; girls look way better in them, but they’re seen as “tomboy” accessories rather than traditionally feminine ones, so your chances of being read as male are better with a billed cap. If your face is thinner, go for a baseball cap - the broad, flat brim of trucker hats can make your head look ridiculously tiny. Learned this the hard way.

Finding shoes in your size can be hard. Unisex skate shoes are the most obvious solution - I wear a pair of dilapidated Vans that have served me well. Army surplus often carries very small sizes, if you need boots.

And that’s my two cents. Don’t expect to win any fashion contests.

I’m such a proud Jennifer Lawrence fan

Originally posted by drunkbroadway

I called you on Friday because I had gotten myself into trouble and needed some help, but you were on meds for the pain in your arm and couldn’t do much for me.
I was thinking about your voice when I called. We were laughing because I suck at whispering and you couldn’t understand a word I was saying. It was late and I was shocked you were even up but I’m so glad you were. I was thinking about how happy I was that we were friends.
But now I’m thinking about marching to your house, pulling your shirt towards me, and kissing your lips until all of the pain that comes with missing you is gone. There’s still so much love here and I’m not quite sure what you expect me to do with it.
—  Seven months later