Honestly? I love trans girls. Absolutely all of you.
Non-passing trans girls? Beautiful. ❤️
Trans girls of color? Amazing. ❤️
Trans girls that still like masculine things? Wonderful. ❤️
Trans girls that don’t want to start hormones or get any kind of surgery? Absolutely perfect. ❤️
Trans girls that aren’t out, whether because they can’t come out or because they aren’t ready? So, so amazingly wonderful. ❤️
Nonbinary trans girls? So great, you have no idea. ❤️
Any trans girls I didn’t mention specifically with this post? Absolutely wonderful, so great, so amazingly perfect. ❤️
All of you are so wonderful and absolutely valid, and I love all of you. You’re all so great and so beautiful and so pretty and you deserve the absolute best. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
//Mun Fox: Please stop…I don’t wanna resort to being assertive at all but I’m really getting tired of you trying to fucking guilt trip me. If you continue to do that I’m gonna end up closing my ask box….i don’t want to do that, but you keep trying to guilt trip me…god please just leave me alone…
Are you a don’t stop belivin person or an any way you want it person? Bohemian rhapsody or don’t stop me now? I wanna hold your hand or let it be? Kpop or europop? Should phantom of the opera be considered an actual opera?
It looks like Yuuri and Victor are crashing some wedding and Yuuri’s like at the point where he’s tipsy enough to tell really good stories about drunk Phichit but like, not tipsy enough to start going into stripper banquet mode
Ok that last post got me fired up so we’re gonna have a quick chat about queer history and respecting your elders.
Nothing makes me more angry then when I see some 14 or 15 year old kids try to talk over queer elders and tell them what they can and cannot say about themselves and about their community.
The queer community has a long, painful, and constantly evolving history. From things like early lesbian couples and Boston Marriages to Stonewall to the AIDS crisis, a lot of shit has happened, a lot of identities have existed and a lot of words have been used.
Remember that if you’re young right now, you grew up in a time completely different than that of queer elders. You didn’t live through this stuff but you’re coming into it and you’re expecting to bend it to your own thoughts and needs. And that’s ok, you’re allowed to want to better your community and you’re allowed to change things where you see problems.
The problem arises when you haven’t done your research. When you come into the community with no background in it and try to change things. When you don’t know what happened in the past, but you think it should change or you think you know how to change it.
So story time.
I live in a very liberal dorm. A very queer liberal dorm. And each semester we have guests come speak to us about whatever they do. A couple semesters ago we had Kate Bornstein come speak to us. For anyone who doesn’t know, ze is a trans author. A much older trans author. And the entire trans club at my school decided to attend hir talk. An email was sent out by the LGBTQ resource center beforehand explaining that if people chose to attend the event, they should be aware that ze was older and probably had differing views and to take it with a grain of salt.
So I attended the talk and first of all Kate is the loveliest human. Just very sweet and ze really wants to help queer youth. But, yes, ze is a little different than say a trans 15 year old. Ze explained how ze likes to use the word tr*nny. Why? Because when ze was figuring hirself out ze found a group of other trans people who referred to themselves that way and it felt like a family. Tr*nny became a family word. However, people in the audience immediately started questioning her on this. And being rude about it.
So my takeaways from this are essentially that this was carried out horribly. First of all, I find it cringe worthy that the trans club felt the need to tell us to “take it with a grain of salt” and I found it cringe worthy that these kids fought a trans elder on zir own life story.
Why? because this wasn’t a lesson in being queer now. This was a lesson in queer history. This was a person talking about what it meant to be queer in the past and educating us on where our community came from. And that’s important.
You don’t get to tell queer elders who they are. They know who they are and what they’ve been through far more than you do. You need to sit down and learn your history before you try to tell a queer elder what it means to be queer and what words they can and cannot use. Because you know damn well that if anyone tried to take your words away from you it would hurt.
TL;DR: the queer community has a history, please learn it before you try to shit on it
If you need educating, please read And the Band Played On by Randy Shilts and Odd Girls and Twlight Lovers by Lillian Faderman. They’re a good start, but there’s always more to learn, please don’t stop.
Can people not get upset about the dad dating sim the Grumps helped make when it’s not even out yet
Like, it’s probably gonna be a little silly because the Grumps and their friends were involved, but it’s an entirely gay male dating sim that doesn’t appear to cater to yaoi fangirls. Which is unprecedented afaik. And anyway, it’s not out yet! Maybe it’s awesome, we don’t know yet
Like i know we all wanted to either have a Grump dating sim like that one Normal Boots did, or like a sidescrolling beat-em-up or an RPG where we play as the Grumps. But these guys endeavor to do things differently, and never do what we expect.
Lots of people worked really hard on this for over a year, the least we could do is give it a fair chance. Just sayin.