Dear anyone who’s ever looked back at their life and said, “No. I have no regrets,” and has actually meant it.
Seriously. Fuck you.
I have regrets. Tons of regrets. I have hurt countless people through my life, sometimes on purpose, sometimes by accident, and so have you, so why wouldn’t you wanna take it back considering the amount of pain you have caused another human being? Saying “I have no regrets” shows a complete lack of remorse for every bad thing you’ve ever done, every mistake you’ve ever made.
But “Calvero, mistakes make you stronger.” As long as you learn from them, yes. And people make mistakes because people are imperfect. But what people forgot is that the person you are today, this person who has learned so much from all the mistakes they’ve made, this person they’re so proud that they’ve become and grown into… guess what?
You could have become this same strong person you are now if you had just lived your life full of love. If you had just been strong enough to not let fear and selfishness cloud your mind enough in order to hurt other people, if you didn’t let yourself take the easy way out as often as you did.
Whoever you are today, you are this person because you had to learn things the hard way. You coulda learned things the easy. But you didn’t. Which is fine. But at least have the balls and courtesy and respect to say, “I am human, I have messed up, I’m sorry for what I have done, I will try not to do it again and I will also not let my mistakes eat me alive, but, yes, I have regrets.”
This whole “I have no regrets things,” really sickens me. It’s nothing more than a cheap way out of not taking responsibilities for your actions.
If I could take back every single thing I did that hurt someone, I would.
And you’re right, I wouldn’t be the same person I am today if I had never hurt someone.
I personally think the only reason James Corden asked Grimmy if he was with Harry is because Nick had just said that he had never phoned James before and James is really good friends with Harry (and Louis), so James probably just figured that if he was calling him for the first time ever it probably was because Harry put him up to it or something.
I don’t really understand why everyone is making a big deal about this. Not to mention, the show is a comedy show, so you know…joking probably occurred. (I mean seriously, if Grimmy and Harry were going to come out as being in a relationship, which NO, then it wouldn’t be on some goofy show like that, and certainly Harry would at least have some knowledge it was happening. Good golly people.)
Surprised to see that many fans are of the vein that Kara was insensitive to the fact that Alex needs her, but I’m kind of like… of course she doesn’t know she needs her.
Alex doesn’t tell her. The closest she comes is when she brings up that she was supposed to help in finding her father. Hell, that’s a loss that, within the conversation, she blames Kara for. (Not exactly the best way to go about telling someone that you want them to stick around- telling them that they are the reason for the bad parts of your life.)
The only time that Alex conveys that Kara isn’t a burden, that she’s needed, is when she’s going to lose her to the Black Mercy. But Kara lost her planet again and then her aunt. I don’t think that that revelation, that Alex might be better off with her around, was gonna stick after all that. Of course, she reassured everyone that the only reason her perfect dream was of Krypton was because she’d been feeling down in her current life. That she would choose Earth, something that I don’t think anyone could reasonably ask her to do.
Someone on here said that they didn’t buy that Kara doesn’t think Alex is better off without her, that it was an excuse so she could fly off with Clark. But look at what Kara thought some of her last words were going to be:
“I want you to have a good life. I want you to find love and be happy. I want you to do all the things that being my sister kept you from doing.”
Kara really truly believes that she’s keeping Alex from having a good life. And Alex kinda sorta regularly reaffirms this belief.
I think the issue is that some people are reading Kara as selfish for not picking up on Alex’s needs, but Kara’s face-value nature, inability to tell when Alex is lying, and hero worship that views Alex as too strong to need anything, blinds her to Alex’s more closed-off nature. (Also, we all should know Kara has only one selfish bone in her body and that’s reserved for food hogging.)
Ultimately, I think that the search for Alex’s father is a cover for Alex, so she doesn’t have to admit that she needs Kara for emotional reasons and not practical ones. Alex is likely unaccustomed to asking for things, forced into a caretaker role, so it’s a lot easier to list off the things she’s sacrificed for Kara to guilt her into staying than to ask Kara to stay because she wants her to.
It feels kind of like a co-dependent relationship, where one person needs the other and the other needs to be needed. But Kara thinks she’s the only one who benefits, and Alex isn’t emotionally aware enough to know that she likes being needed. (Still workshopping this idea…)
In the end I don’t think either of them is the bad guy, but I also think Alex said some hurtful and not fully truthful things to avoid being fully vulnerable. For instance, as we saw in the flash backs, Alex didn’t become a DEO agent because of Kara, she became one because she was drowning in her current lifestyle. This is the path she chose. When Supergirl came on, her job entailed protecting her, but she likely performed the same job for her fellow agents. As Alex said before, “protecting you isn’t my actual job”. Also, having Kara help her find her father doesn’t feel quite accurate, because when Alex disappeared in season one to find him, she was fully prepared (and even seemed to want) to do it without Kara.
I don’t think Alex really intended to hurt Kara, but she certainly played dirty, implying that she blames her for her father’s disappearance, that she’s sacrificed everything good in her life for her, and bringing up that, conversely, Clark abandoned her. The last was something that Kara should probably know, and I’m so happy Alex said it, but I wish it wasn’t used to manipulate Kara into staying with Alex. (I don’t mean the word ‘manipulate’ in some villainous abusive way, but the way we all utilize from time to time. More like convincing someone of something by using what you know to your advantage. Not quite clean, but not innately bad.) I wish it was “He didn’t treat you right,” without the addendum, “but I did.” I don’t think the words were meant to be malicious at all, but I do think they hurt Kara.
And finally, if Kara knew that Alex would wanted her to stick around, she wouldn’t have even brought the idea up. This is evidenced by the simple fact that as soon as Alex conveyed that she didn’t want her to leave, she didn’t leave.
tl;dr Kara does think that Alex would be better off without her, but Alex can’t properly express when she needs things, so she won’t really tell Kara that she’s wrong. She, instead, pretty much guilted her into staying by saying that Kara owes her for everything that she has sacrificed. It did the trick for now, but I think their relationship has some major things to work out (and I have full faith that these things will be explored).
there is nothing about this video that warrants 56,000 views
the fact that I am the one that made Tatum upload this will haunt me for the rest of my life IT WAS JUST A SUPPOSED TO BE A PICKMEUP FOR WHEN I WAS FEELING DOWN DAMNIT! just something to make me laugh and remember good times with friends. not. not this. now 56,000 people have seen me dancing badly and why. why this.
Ehi! I hope you don't mind if i tell my opinion on Bella. Don't want to be rude, i just found your post interesting and i feel like sharing my point of view. So first of all, I don't think bella found herself at all: she disliked herself at the beginning of the books, she thought she was not enough for edward for the majority of the time, and then she found /her place/ only after being physically transformed - as in: another creature. Se she didn't succeed in finding herself imo [...]
and i think this is something that bothers lots of people. It’s like at
first she presented herself to be “like us” but then she clearly showed
that she could not be happy if not through being someone else.
Secondly, ppl think she is being manipulated all the time and tbh i
agree: everything she does/thinks is in function of E., she becomes
catatonic when he leaves (and for fuck’s sake, you are 17. Everybody
experiences a break up gurl cmon). And she accepts E’s behavior which
it’s not acceptable: i clearly remember when he breaks her car??? Like
dude. You try to do something like that to me and I break your knees.
And she FORGIVES HIM. Because she feels inferior (this is my opinion
oc). This being said, it’s not like I don’t like her. I actually despise
how Stephanie treated her. She IS weak. She had a lot of potential, she
could have had a great character development, but in the end she didn’t
have it. This is what i think! Sorry for the rambling lol.
Okay, honestly. This really grinds my gears. So if I sound sort of bitchy, I apologize, I’m not directing it toward you. I just think this is very very inaccurate.
Bella made the choice HERSELF to become a vampire, because
she KNEW that is who she was. It wasn’t “physically transforming” that made her
find her place, it was just being a part of Edward’s world that made her find
her place.. and it WASN’T because of Edward. She even told him that. She made
that choice because she finally felt like she belonged somewhere. Edward was a
perk, but she knew for HERSELF that being in the world of vampires was right
for HER. She didn’t need to “become someone else” to be happy, she FOUND herself. There’s a difference there. She found herself in that world, and to be a part of it, she changed. I really don’t think that’s a problem if you know that’s who you are.
Yes, she disliked herself, but she learned to trust herself
and make her own choices. That is definitely finding herself. She figured out
what was important to her, who she was, and what she felt like she needed to
do. She didn’t think she was enough for Edward most of the time because they
did have their issues in their relationship, but she later learned after New
Moon that she WAS enough.
I feel like you haven’t read the books in a really really long time or just think about the movies, because Bella was CONSTANTLY fighting back with Edward whenever he tried to manipulate her and protect her. She would get pissed off. Of course she would later forgive him because he would also apologize, but she was not going to do what she didn’t want to do. Period.
And I don’t think it’s fair to judge someone how they deal with their emotions or a break up. Everyone has different levels of emotions, and Bella had never lost someone before. It was like he died to her in a sense because he said he was never coming back, and because she felt so right in that world, that was like losing a part of herself. It wasn’t just because she lost Edward, it was because she lost the world she identified with so strongly.
And she doesn’t forgive Edward for things right away like I said above, they eventually make up, but Bella is pissed there for awhile. At first, it might have been an inferiority thing, but she definitely grew past that once she started having her own voice. You usually forgive the people you love for the stupid shit they do. If you say you wouldn’t, you’re lying. If Bella didn’t have her own voice and was clearly letting herself be manipulated, that’s different. She always spoke up against anything Edward attempted to do. Bella was her own person first and foremost.
I do not think Bella is weak at all, either. Bella is very strong. She was constantly expected to mother her mother as a kid, and she thought that was her identity. She later learned that that was not who she was and what SHE personally wanted aside from the people in her life. She was a good mother to her kid.. hell, she went COMPLETELY against Edward for her kid, and she did what she thought was right for her KID and HERSELF over her lover. Edward turned completely against her, and she held on strong. Edward could not manipulate her ever, and he certainly could not control her. She always stuck up for herself when it came to Edward or Jacob, and she would do just about anything for those she loved as long as that didn’t infringe on who she defined herself as. She also had the courage to make her own decision for her OWN life even if it meant that she would have to hurt Jacob or even Charlie, because she knew for herself personally, that was the right thing to do.
Everyone likes to think she makes all her decisions for Edward, but Bella EVEN STATES in the books that is not why she makes any of her decisions at all. Edward was a perk for that world, but she made that decision for herself because that’s who she was.
You can all depict Bella as “weak” or “inferior” all you want, but in my opinion, you clearly didn’t read the same books I did or didn’t read them closely.