Hi Azra, I've always enjoyed your writing and the powerful relationship advice you give people, amongst other things. However, I am deeply disturbed by your recent prose piece. The fact that it was based on a movie is irrelevant to me. When you say things like "I don't think I saw/felt anything before you" you are planting ideas in young girls heads that they were nothing before they met someone else. I don't understand how "It's so fucking empty without you" is empowering or healthy at all.
I am honestly getting really sick of having to defend my writing. You can’t say the fact that it’s based on a movie is irrelevant to you because it’s written like that because of the movie it’s based on. Because that is how they loved. That’s what it looked like to them. I’m not here as some mouthpiece for young girls to aspire to. I’m here and I have a blog and I write things on it. That’s it. Please stop ascribing these roles onto me, I certainly didn’t ask for them.
And another thing, women are loads of different qualities. Strong women who don’t love, strong women who do, weak women who don’t love, weak women who do, intelligent women, smart women, scared women, cowardly women, brave women, it all looks different for everybody. You could find the strongest, most empowered woman who is brought to her knees because of love. Sometimes love is all consuming. Sometimes it does feel like nobody else existed before them. It’s not necessarily healthy or right, but that’s what it is. And that’s what I was writing about. Thanks