i don't understand how you are real

*SHELVES THE POKEMON DRAWING MOMENTARILY BC I HAD TO DOODLE SOMETHING REAL QUICK IMMEDIATELY

GUYS

GU YS

G U Y S

i thought i couldn’t fall deeper in loVE BUT I FUCKING HAVE

I’M SO DEEPLY IN LOVE

Umm..?? People are actually dissing the other nct units like ??? Are you for real?? And are actually arguing about the ‘best’ nct unit?? Are you seriously calling nct dream a mess?? Are you sure you are a fan?? Because real nct stans can’t relate to you

how is matthew daddario real? i don’t understand how someone can be so good and kind and funny and humble and smart (honor roll you guys) and supportive and talented? like he cooks a mean steak and he’s acting is amazing and his photography is mind-blowing and he mind play this piano? 

BTS' Complaints
  • Jin: "I just feel like no one truly appreciates my natural beauty. Like look at me. Do you understand how much work I don't do to look like this? Ultimate face goals, right?" *is talking to a statue* "You get me bruh. I appreciate that." *kisses statue*
  • Suga: *is crying his eyes out* "I JUST WANTED TO BE FRIENDS WITH KUMAMON BUT THAT FUCKING BROWN PIANO WOULDN'T LEAVE ME TF ALONE!!!"
  • J-Hope: "I love being ARMY's hope. I do. BUT WHO'S MY HOPE?! I HAVE NO HOPE." *single tear slides down cheek*
  • Rap Monster: "I'm the LEADER of this group. THE LEADER. So why don't any of those shits ever listen to me? I deserve more than this considering my status" *hair flip*
  • Jimin: "HOW DARE HE SAY THAT?! WHAT RIGHT DID HE HAVE TO SAY THAT?! NONE." *shakes fist at sky* "I'LL SHOW YOU, KIM NAMJOON. I DO HAVE JAMS!!"
  • V: "But why was I called 'V'? Does it really mean victory? There are so many other things it could be instead. Vacuum, vegemite, va-" *gasps* "baNG PD-NIM, YOU SATAN."
  • Jungkook: "Dear Noonas. STOP CALLING ME OPPA. I'M NOT YOUR OPPA. I NEVER WAS YOUR OPPA. I NEVER WILL BE YOUR OPPA. I'M SORRY. Lots of love, Jungkook-ah. (<-- did you see the 'ah'? That's what you use... bye)"

one thing i keep seeing is people, like, bringing up how yuri on ice is only letting the gay stuff happen because it’s ‘for straight people’ and a means of commodifying, like it’s not done for the sake of representation, but for the sake of pulling in that audience and making money 

WHICH I GET. and i understand that but also i think it’s a real shame that people are like, seemingly for no reason, trying to disregard what is honestly one of the most genuine and meaningful relationships between two men I’ve ever had the pleasure of seeing develop on screen. not only that, but the fact that they went that extra step and made it canon. they didn’t have to, but they did. 

i also understand people being grumpy over the fact that it’s two guys and not girls IN THAT there’s not enough happy wlw content out there in any case. BUT. i think that’s a whole other can of worms. and for people complaining specifically bc the title is ‘yuri on ice’, like… shut up, tbh. the title wasn’t misleading, you made an assumption and then turned it into a grudge that’s not warranted in any way. 

like, anyone who actually goes into the show and watches it will understand that their relationship isn’t made just for the sake of selling the anime. that may be a part of it, but it’s RADICALLY different from other anime that queerbait or have canon but clearly fetishized queer romances for the sake of appealing to a straight audience who are into it for.. whatever weird uncomfortable reason straight people froth at the mouth over that stuff. there’s real thought and care put into their relationship and it’s development - they aren’t a quick buck to be made, they’re meaningful characters and would be whether or not the romance was there at all, btw, thanks. 

i just think it’s sad and a little disappointing that in the face of something that’s made a lot of people really excited and happy to see, there are those who only want to shame people for being glad it happened, or try to undermine it. i’m all for critisizing shitty tropes and practices, but i think in this case it’d be safe enough to let people have at LEAST a day of being giddy over these two wonderful characters getting together before they feel the need to rain on our parade.

  • Harry: WE WOULD LIKE TO BUY ONE CHILD PLEASE.
  • Mrs. Cole: Wha-what?
  • Tom: YEAH, YA KNOW, TOO KEEP THIS ONE COMPANY.
  • (Delphini continues peacefully eating bread)
  • Mrs. Cole: I don't think you two understand how an orphanage works. You cant' just buy a child.
  • Harry: WHY STOP THERE? WHY NOT GRAB TWO?
  • Tom: YOU'RE RIGHT, HONEY. I MEAN, WHILE WE'RE OUT. HECK, THEY MIGHT EVEN GIVE US A DISCOUNT IF WE BUY 'EM IN BULK.
  • Mrs. Cole: I mean, this isn't even a real orphanage. All these kids have parents in the real world.
  • Harry: WE'LL TAKE A TWELVE PACK IF YOU HAVE IT.
  • Tom: WHY ONLY TWELVE? WHY NOT SHARE 'EM WITH ALL THE CHILDREN?
  • Mrs. Cole: ...you're not listening to me, I see that now.
  • Harry: MA'AM, WE WOULD LIKE TO BUY YOUR ORPHANAGE.

Double Ponytails.

Just days ago, before everything changed, an anon asked me to draw Lirry, because it was a rarely drawn ship. Here’s my current take on Liam and Harry, after all that’s happened - I like to think they had a private moment leaning on each other, connecting to Zayn. So I guess the drawing actually turned out Zirry/Zarriam…but can you blame me?

You know what one of my favourite things about Band of Brothers is? So many those Reddit fuckbois list BoB (and even The Pacific) as their favourite show, because it’s a show about “real men” or “how men should really be” and so many of these fuckbois vehemently support Pres. Agent Orange, defend fascists and insist on calling women “feminazis”. My favourite thing is, and listen closely, the cast of this show is everything they hate.

A good number of the actors i.e. James Madio, FJH, Rick Gomez, Ross McCall, Michael Cudlitz, Rick Warden, Robin Laing and Kirk Acevedo (he’s the most outspoken tbh) have be been very loud in their obvious hatred of Trump, their sincere criticism of the shit he’s dealt to world so far and more importantly, they love women for all the right reasons. Some of them even went to the Woman’s March this year with their significant others.

The cast of a “real man’s man show” are self proclaimed feminists.

How do I manage to dissociate from my writing? Like, I’m staring at the new title and just… it doesn’t feel like mine lmao, what do you do when the fic you’re writing feels out of your own league?

BLM and Bucky Barnes

You know that whole “then why did you run” exchange between Black Panther and Bucky Barnes in CA:CW, that has practically become a meme:

I love it, its humorous. But at the same time, what I find so interesting, is how so many white people can so obviously understand why Bucky would run from an hostile authority condemning him upon sight for a crime he didn’t commit, but they fail to provide that same empathy to REAL INNOCENT BLACK MEN LIKE FREDIE GRAY who are killed by police on the daily.

Because when the police fail to provide evidence of criminal intent to justify the police’s excessive force, what’s the catch phrase those same white people fall to in order to condemn those black men as guilty?

“Well, if they weren’t up to something, why did they run?”

I think that boundaries have been the single steepest learning curve for me as I have been learning polyamory and growing my own self-confidence and identity. There is a lot of very important talk about boundaries in the poly community and in pretty much every book I’ve read, but it took a while to really understand how boundaries function in real-life relationships. 

A boundary is something I identify, a bottom line, a limit. It sounds something like ‘I will not listen to racist jokes. If you feel the need to continue to tell them, I will not stay to hear them.” I have learned that while a boundary tells someone else what behaviour I am or am not comfortable with, it recognizes that I can only change myself, I can only act for myself. 

I have learned that it does not matter if someone who is crossing my boundaries even understands that they are doing so. Yes, I certainly try to explain, try my best to communicate with patience and compassion, but sometimes I have had to leave a situation without the person ever understanding how they were violating my boundaries. I can still only change myself, I can still only act for myself. 

Realising this has been so empowering. I have been learning that I am not responsible for the actions or words of anyone but myself, and that it’s not my job to fix those things, that truly I cannot and to try is to heap unnecessary burdens on myself. I have learned that my only task is to work on becoming the best I can be.