I’m sorry but can people just… stop making posts about how stimboards are bad because “the Neurotypicals have taken stimming and made it a Trendy Aesthetic! they all just like slime and paint and don’t care about people who REALLY stim!” I just saw another one of these and I’m so annoyed over it.
To be clear,I’m not talking about posts where people say things like “Allistics/NTs people who enjoy stimboards should be aware that autistic people are often made fun of for their body stims and that glitter and paint isn’t all stimming is!”Those are good and fine. I’m talking about the posts I’ve seen where people…. somehow don’t seem to realize that the majority of stim blogs are run by autistic people, people with ADHD, people with severe anxiety… you know, the exact kinds of people who need to stim. (And yes there are NT people who make stimming into an aesthetic, I’m not denying that, it’s just that they’re the minority in terms of people who run stim blogs.)
If you don’t wanna take me at face value on that previous statement, I just went through all of the stim blogs I’m following and here are some numbers– Blogs run by at least one autistic person: 35 Blogs run at least one allistic but otherwise neurodivergent person (and no autistic people): 29 Blogs run completely by neurotypical people: 2 Blogs that didn’t seem to specify: 14 Let me reiterate: I went through eighty (80) different stim blogs and the amount of those with at least one autistic or otherwise ND mod was sixty-four (64). The amount of those with only NT mods was two (2) and the amount that could go either way was fourteen (14). I think it’s safe to say that tumblr’s visual stim community is largely made by and for neurodivergent people who are genuinely helped by stimming.
But some people don’t seem to be aware of this and they make posts that say things like we shouldn’t be referring to videos & gifs that we literally use to help us audio & visual stim as “stimmy”? That we should just call stimboards “gif moodboards” instead? And that we think stimming is a Trendy Aesthetic when really we’re literally using these things to stim? And then act as if none of us know what it feels like to be made fun of for our body stims? And generally just act like we’re all neurotypical people?
Personally I unlearned so many of my stimming behaviors as a kid, including rocking, flapping, and hair twirling, because I kept getting picked on at school for doing them. Every time I go out I’m afraid I’ll accidentally start doing a “weird” stim in public and embarrass myself. Tons of people who run stim blogs also have body stims; we do know what it feels like be stigmatized for them.
Look, I just… I understand if stimboards don’t do anything for you personally. I understand if you’re bothered that neurotypical people enjoy and share them. I get that. And, like I said, I understand that there are neurotypical people who treat stimboards like they’re just a cool new aesthetic–it’s okay to complain about that. But they’re the ones who should be blamed for it, not us. People getting mad about the concept of stimboards existing without realizing that the majority of those who make them are the kinds of people who actually need them is what bothers me.
Sorry for ranting so much, I didn’t expect this post to end up this long… I guess basically what I’m saying is that we should continue making posts explaining that things like flapping and chewing are also stims and making fun of people for them is wrong, because those are genuinely helpful. But we should stop making posts acting like all stimboards are made by Neurotypicals who want to Steal Stimming, because that’s literally not true and makes me feel bad as an autistic person who runs a stim blog.
i don’t think anything makes me angrier than the feeling of being talked down to. like if i even vaguely feel like someone thinks i’m stupid i get really really defensive and i can’t control myself (it SUCKS)
Those stickers are so cute!! Please tell me you made some seijou ones... I will buy them! Your art in chibi style is so good ;u;
ahaha well I do have some seijou sketches but I am unsure who (except for iwaoi) i should actually do and I do have an iwaoi fighting-fish mermaid-ish sticker. Just because I’m a big lover of fighting fish >_>.. but i don’t know if i will print a lot of those?
Soooooooo.. story time(ish?)
I was helping some family friends babysit. We were watching four Sweet little kids. (They where very nice and fun to play with!^-^) Our family friend took us all to what I think is the best store ever. You go in and it’s this small shop COVERED in lego boxes and bead examples. You could choose a bead-art example to do or choose any lego box and they will give you the pieces so you could build/make it, and when you where done with the legos you give back the set and you could choose another box. I don’t know about anyone but I love me some legos(when they don’t get under your feet>~<) Anyway! I was given the choice of building legos or making a beed-art thing while I helped watch the kids. Me wanting to keep what I make, asked for beads and grabbed a gingerbread example. I even remember telling myself as I grabbed the stencil “this is a nice break. Relax a bit. Take a break form your comic and your crazy fandom stuff” … I have a Bendy keychain now. I have been infected with Bendy… It was actually pretty fun to make x3.
Hey sorry if this sounds offensive im not trying to be, but im really curious. I see you use male gender pronouns but you wear makeup and dress somewhat girly are you gender fluid, gender neutral, or trans? Im just curious i dont want to offend you in any way. Btw the way you dress is really cute i love how you can rock that style
yeah i’ve spent the last year ish questioning my gender n i’ve gone through several labels and pronouns n now i’m pretty solidly sure I Am A Boy And Not A Girl which is why i use he/him pronouns now but yeah i. still like to wear makeup and pink and sometimes dresses….. sometimes i wear a bra instead of my binder bc i feel like it….. sometimes i shave my legs + underarms n sometimes i don’t bother………….. i wear boxers n i feel great about it…… i’m only 5 feet tall so it’s hard for other people 2 see i’m a boy but i Am and eventually i’ll go on T and get top surgery but . yeah . cool huh
and thank u lmao i chucked most of my wardrobe out in january n have been slowly collecting mostly second hand clothes from various places n now all my clothes r nice and soft and pretty and yellow and pink and i love them!!!!!!
one of the things I don’t understand is why people keep writing things like “gratzee, capeesh, benne ecc” when they write Italian characters. Like… Even using Google Translator is better than that. At least the spelling is correct LMAO also guys… The hand gestures we use actually mean something!! We don’t move our hands just because. It’s hilarious when foreigners think they’re funny while doing an impression of Italians but they’re basically telling you to fuck off :’) also if you really want to write an Italian character let ‘em say “staminchia or sti cazzi”. I assure you that it makes way more sense sjsbjdsk