Yesterday me and my mom were talking about if everyone viewed God as their "father." I mentioned to her that some refer to God as "She" or "They" , but she thinks that most people do that to be politically correct, and that because the Bible refers to God as the Father, it would be an offense to God to call God anything else. I personally love the idea of referring to God as "Them", but I don't think my mom would agree. Do you have any rebuttals/ways to introduce her to it?
Hi there! A lot of people respond similarly to how your mother did when they first are introduced to the notion that God might be called more than “Father,” more than “He.” Hopefully with time she’ll get it a little better.
Here’s a passage from God’s Tapestry: Reading the Bible in a World of Religious Diversity about a not-dissimilar conversation between the author, W. Eugene March, and their mother (for the entire passage, see this google-books link):
‘ Some years ago I received an unexpected phone call from my mother. She was clearly agitated and thought I would share her concern, a theological concern. She was agitated about the language that had been used in fashioning a prayer to God in a study book that she and other women in her congregation were using.
…The issue was a prayer on which feminine metaphors were employed to describe God’s love for Israel. Wombs, labor pains, and nursing at nurturing breasts were used in a prayer to God. When Mom and her Bible study friends read this prayer, the explosion was not pleasant. And not surprisingly, an unofficial ‘denominational’ publication circulating widely in her congregation fanned the fire of my mother’s zeal to denounce perceived heresy.
It took me several minutes to get her calmed down enough for us to talk reasonably. When I did, I asked her to read the offending prayer to me. As she did, I recognized the clear influence of Isaiah. I said, “Hey, Mom, that language is straight out of the Bible.” She said, “It is not!” I said, “Yes it is!” “Is not!” “Is too.”
Finally, I asked her to get her Bible and we had a long-distance Bible study of some selected verses from the book of Isaiah:
For a long time I have held my peace, I [God] have kept still and restrained myself; now I will cry out like a woman in labor; I will gasp and pant. (Isaiah 42:14)
Can a woman forget her nursing child, or show no compassion for the child of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. (Isaiah 49:15)
Rejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her, all you who love her; rejoice with her in joy, all you who mourn over her – that you may nurse and be satisfied from her consoling breast; that you may drink deeply with delight from her glorious bosom. For thus says the [Holy One]: I will extend prosperity to her like a river, and the wealth of the nations like an overflowing stream; and you shall nurse and be carried on her arm and dandled on her knees. As a mother comforts her child so I will comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem. (Isaiah 66:10-13)
After she had read those verses, there was a long pause, and then she said, “When did they put that in there?” “It’s been there all along,” I replied. “Well,” my dear mother continued in a somewhat subdued tone, “why didn’t anyone ever tell me?”
“Why didn’t anyone ever tell me?” That is one of the questions that prompted this book. There are so many misconceptions about what the Bible does and doesn’t say, so much ignorance among otherwise well-educated, capable people. In my experience, the people in the pews are often well ahead of the clergy when it comes to the matters that really count in the way we order our daily lives and structure the communities in which we live. Their attitudes are usually based on what they recognize from their own experience of life. But they need knowledge about the support the Bible can offer and encouragement and permission from their leaders. They often think that what they believe must be heretical or offbeat, since no one assures them otherwise. ’
God exists beyond human language; They will surely not be offended to be called by a variety of terms. God has been called mother and midwife and Woman Wisdom for millennia, in Hebrew scripture before Jesus was born as well as in the earliest of Christian communities.
So when it comes to the fear of causing offense over different words for God, whom are we scared about offending? God? or other humans?
Here’s a post that talks about why we might call God other things beyond “Our Father” (we can keep calling them our Father as well!)
Here’s another post with similar stuff, including links to Bible passages. Because the Bible certainly does call God father, but also mother, and midwife, and rock, and light, and so much more. Lots of gendered language, lots of abstract and non-anthropomorphic language. The more variety we use, the closer we may get to just how big God is.
Here’s a post arguing that God is a woman, God is nonbinary, God is trans. (This one might be a little bit beyond what your mother’s ready to embrace right now, so I’d save this one for her for much later or just enjoy it for yourself.)
And our whole God beyond Gender tag contains even more stuff! Good luck helping your mom explores this. God is so much vaster than our human minds can fathom, but starting to explore many ways of thinking of Them helps.
I dare you guys to let me see some haechan hate on my dash. I dare you guys to shame my duckling because I will rip you to pieces man. You are messing with my kids, my family, my loves. He doesn’t deserve these rumors to be spread. yes RUMORS. dont abide but everything you see on the internet especially if its not from any official source, and no one knows the whole story.
Find something better to do that to harass and try to ruin a minor’s career. More rant under the tags.
hey anna, i hope you don't mind me asking this question, but have you ever dealt with the fear of the end? the end of a friendship, a relationship or even just life in itself? how do you deal with such moments? sending you loads of love, Anna!
All the time. It’s scary to feel like you’re nearing the end of anything, but for me personally it also is a blessing. Because it makes me put everything into perspective and is a positive lesson for me. Like, if my relationship was ending, why and how did it get to that point? What can i do to better myself and what have I learned? As for life, I’ve realized that it’s the best thing anyone could ever ask for, and I know whenever it’s over, I’ve lived a pretty damn good one ha!
Hey Colton! What's up? I kinda wanted to ask you a serious question, I guess? Uhm, as an openly gay actor, do you have some advice for younger, queer kids? I am one myself, and there are times I don't know how to deal with my sexuality... Lots of love! ~G
I can honestly say that it takes time to be comfortable enough to come out…it has to be on your own time but when i did…it changed my life for the better! It opened up so many doors for me and i dont have to feel like the elephant in the room anymore. Theres so much support i never knew was available for me and i am so proud to say that i am gay and it hasnt done anything to hurt what i love to do in life. Times are thankfully changing
Hi Frosty :) can I call you that? Anyway I just wanted to ask you if maybe you could draw me something? Anything really, I've been very down lately and I don't really know how to tell my parents because they think I'm getting better so this would really cheer me up. Thank you!
hi anon! it’s perfectly fine to call me frosty and i’m sorry you’re having a hard time lately :c
i cant do much because of this storm blowing through, but i hope tikki is enough!!
Do you control anything? Like you said you don't control casting or title and cover reveals, but is there anything you do control. Not to sound rude, but it seems it hits control nothing despite being the creators of such amazing work.
Depends. Authors very rarely have high levels of control unless your work was so gigantic before signing a contract that you’re able to seriously negotiate.
Regarding the publishing side, I’m not a marketing professional. That’s not my strength. It’s much easier to let the Harper team coordinate publicity and marketing because it frees up my time and they’re a lot better at it than I am! :)
I have a bunch of one-shot requests, feel free to request any of them. Multiples are allowed as well. I write for Descendants 1&2, 5SOS, Teen Wolf, Dan Howell, Phil Lester, (but not Phan I'm sorry if that pains you), Shawn Mendes, 1D, Spider-Man, and others. I'll let you know privately if there is something I will not write, but I'm pretty open!
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how did you and your sister get into photography? i wanna get into it and eventually freelance in my spare time when i get enough experience but don't how to begin and 2) have you both done wedding photography and if not is that something you'd be interested in doing? also do you think it's better to be self taught or is it okay to take a photography class at my local community college? like i feel like almost everyone is self taught and idk if taking a class is a waste
We have always been into anything art related. Our parents bought us small digital cameras for our birthday when we were in 5th or 6th grade I believe. We were always taking photos of nature, vacations, and various events. When we got to high school (right around the time dslr cameras were becoming available to everyday consumers not just professionals) my dad bought one for himself. At first our dad wouldn’t let us use it without him there but eventually when we got the hang of using it and he let us take it places without him there. Natasha started taking photos of school events and posting them on Facebook. I started doing the same but a little bit after her. Eventually she bought her own entry level dslr and I bought my dads old dslr when he upgraded his. By sophomore year we were both posting lots of photos on Facebook. We also started asking our friends if we could photograph them. We would style our friends and have mini photoshoots. This was all just for fun for us. We have always been into editorial makeup/photography and styling our own shoots was our way of getting into that. Then during the summer after sophomore year a student asked Natasha to take his senior pictures which she ended up doing did. And later more and more people asked both of us to take their senior pictures. We had no idea how to price anything or what to include in packages initially. After 2-3 years we both were honing in our photography style and were getting better at pricing and guaranteeing a certain level of quality to our clients. When we got to college we would go home and take senior pictures during the summers. In college we took peoples headshots. So it was overtime that we started our photography businesses. We didn’t start photography with the intention of making a business out of it/going into it professionally. We still ask our friends to photograph them and have mini photo shoots that we style. Its important to us to constantly create personal work as well as client work. During all of this we both tried our hand at surreal/photo manipulation photography but it wasn’t for us. By the end of high school and throughout college we also shot a few wedding but both didn’t like photographing weddings. By the time we finished college both of us realized that our favorite genre of photography is portraits. So now we mainly shoot headshots, portraits, and senior pictures professionally and create editorial shoots for our personal work.
Even though we both went to art school neither of us has taken a photography class. The photo department at U of M mainly focused on documentary photography which we were not interested in. Plus the photo professors were known to be sexist and/or racist. We are about 95% percent self taught. One of our digital media professors did help us learn some stuff in photoshop but that’s about it. When either Natasha or I start a hobby we go into it full force lol. So right when we got into photography we followed a TON of photographers online and were constantly trying to figure out how they edited there photos so we could improve our editing. Over the course of 8 years we have really developed our photography styles and editing skills. Early on we would sometimes try and copy other photographers which helped us figure out what we liked and disliked for our own photography. I don’t encourage people to copy other artists especially if they are going to sell their work. But it can be helpful when figuring out your own style but it’s important to make sure you are not ripping someone off and give credit where credit is due. When I would use another artists idea I always explained in the description who the artist was and linked to their work. A photographer I know was notorious for copying another well known photographer but her audience thought she was super original because they didn’t know about the well known photographer. Plus you will never be as good as the original photographer/artist and will end up constantly comparing yourself which is no fun lol.
Even though both of us are self taught I don’t think taking photography classes is a bad idea if you think it will help you learn. One of my favorite illustrators, Sam Spratt, took many illustration classes when he was at SCAD but that doesn’t mean he is any better or worse than other illustrators that are completely self-taught. I always wanted to take commercial/fashion lighting classes but they were never offered at my university. I also would love to take some photography workshops but they the ones I want to take (Lara Jade’s in particular) are too expensive for me. Also as an artist I’ve generally been self-taught. I had a few great drawing teachers and professors in high school (I took a college drawing class in high school) who helped me a lot. But when it comes down to being an artist you really have to push yourself to make stuff outside of class. This was a challenge for a lot of my classmates once we graduated. A lot of them didn’t know how to create work outside of class. (I’m simplifying a lot here bc i could go on and on about how much i disliked or liked u of m’s art school lol) My whole life I’ve been making stuff outside of class so creating a photography business wasn’t super difficult for me.
This brings me to the business/freelance part. Turning something you are passionate about into a business can be great and horrible. A lot of my friends don’t freelance because the business side of it destroys their interest in the art. Some of my clients are very particular and they don’t always like the photos I take. But this is something I have to get past. Also over time you start to get better clients because they come to you knowing what they will get. Early on people would hire me because they knew I took photos not because they liked my style of photography (I hope that makes sense). Now people know what they are getting and it’s less likely that a client will be unsatisfied with their photos. As a freelancer keep in mind that it’s a lot of emails and advertising yourself. Yes it’s great that I can make money off of something I love doing but I have to keep in mind that it’s still a business. When I first started out clients would ask for lower prices and I would lower them because I didn’t want to lose a client and I didn’t know if I was too expensive or not. This was fine at first but now I don’t budge on my prices because now I know my worth and it’s not fair to my other clients to change prices. Also photography gear can get expensive and when you freelance/do photography professionally there is a point when you’ll probably to invest in professional gear. Part of this is to put you among other photographers in the industry but the physical quality of your photos will also improve. This way you can better guarantee what a client will get. Ex. my dad’s old dslr that I used had a cropped sensor so if the lighting wasn’t the best i couldn’t edit the photos as much in photoshop as I can with a full frame camera. Basically I just want to make it clear that once you start freelancing it’s a business so just like other business you have to know when and where to invest and how much.
I’m sure you were not expecting this long of answer but I hope it helped!
Hey, I just wanted to say that I love your art, it's so beautiful! Especially your portrait of Amren is so spot-on, I'm at loss for words here! And may I ask why you do your sketches already in grey-scale "colouring" (like shades & lightning) before colouring it? I've seen that a few times now, but I never got why it's done like this. And as an aspiring artist myself I'd love to learn more... Thanks so much in advance (you don't have to answer all this if you don't have the time or anything btw)
Thank you so much! Amren was a lot of fun to paint.
I got in the habit of planning out my pieces a bit before I move on to the final painting. I like blocking in the big shapes to get a better feel for what is working and not working within a particular composition, and I do the shading to get a better feel for the lighting. This greyscale shading is just a quick way for me to plan everything out, but I’ve also done line-work sketches with some quick hatching, as well as some quick sketches in color.
Even with the planning, I tend to tweak things quite a bit as I work so I don’t always spend as much time on my sketches as I probably should. The better I plan, the smoother the final illustration goes.
Here are a few examples of a sketch compared to the final illustration:
I'm moving out of my parent's house. I've already covered anything, packed my stuff, got a plane ticket, changed my number and the only thing i have to do is actually leave. The thing is i've never had a good relationship not with them non my younger sister. Thr older i got the more they started yelling at me and telling me that 'im a parasite in their house' and that 'i know whede the doors are and im free to leave if i don't like it there'. My sister wasn't much better either... 1/2
“2/2 she calls me ‘stupid’ all the time, she sometimes even gets physical if she’s not in the mood and I’m sick of everyone pushing me around. I want to cut all ties to them as soon as possible but I’m afraid how will they react. I’m afraid that they will try to stop me. The only thing that comes to my mind is to sneak off but i don’t want them to worry. So my question is: is there any way that i can tell them im leaving without actaully talking to them? And what is the vast way to let them know?”
I am so sorry that you’ve had to deal with this, it sounds like you’ve been living in a toxic situation for a long time. Moving out is a big change for you, and I wish you all the best. The most important part of this process is your sanity, making changes in a way that cause you the least amount of stress.
In your case, it sounds like your family may not react well to a one-on-one conversation. You can always leave them a note explaining that it’s time for you to move out. Or, if you feel you need to have a conversation, move out and call them after you’re settled. I know it can be hard to stay positive, but try to stay strong when talking to them, despite what they say.
It’s impossible to know how toxic family members will react to someone sticking up for themselves and moving out. They may lash out with anger, try to physically prevent you from leaving, or decide to ignore you for the foreseeable future. Friends of mine have had parents threaten to throw them out of the house, and then when they actually move their parents do a 360 and beg them to move back. So painful. These are manipulation tactics used to lull you back in to their home, to regain control over you. If your parents are referring to you as a “parasite” then please remember that you owe them NOTHING. Also remember that moving out doesn’t mean that you have to block your family out of your life forever, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t try to stay in contact with them, even if they don’t reciprocate.
However, I would recommend that you don’t tell them the specifics of where you will be living. They don’t need to know the address, apartment number, or even the general location. You do not want them showing up at your new home and causing a scene. This is your time now.
Please keep us updated! I’m so proud of you for moving on with your life. xx
Hey- absolutely zero pressure if this is too personal of a question but like... So I def identify as Genderfluid/NB, and as of late I've been feeling hella dysphoric. Like I stare down at my squishy lady bod and listen to my voice and I just DO NOT feel good about them with greater frequency. I don't know a lot of NB or Trans* people, so I wonder how you may deal with that same dysphoria? Should I maybe just bring up the idea of HRT with my therapist to achieve a more masculine balance?
I don’t have much advice when it comes to dysphoria. I do experience dysphoria but I haven’t found much that makes it easier other than time. Time, having a supportive datemate, and experimenting with hair, makeup and clothing have helped me the most. I think you should talk to your therapist about hormones and anything else that could make you feel better. No matter what you choose you are still valid and I wish you luck in finding comfort in your body. ❤
Hey Tana, I'm sorry if this is kind of personal but how were you and your parents relationship when you lived at home? I remember you saying that you and your parents didn't get along well and my parents and I don't either. I'm 16 and my dad literally yells at me everyday and gets aggravated over the stupidest and smallest things. My mom and I fight a lot too but not as much. I just wanna know how you dealt with it because I want to leave home so bad and I don't know what to do?
truthfully it wasn’t good. we fought all the time. things are somewhat better now due to space, but I’ve kind of accepted that my home life will never be perfect. I just remember that I’m not perfect, neither are they. I do my best to accept them for who they are, and have lots of patience. remember that fighting doesn’t solve anything. if they yell, just remain calm. remember that before you know it you’ll be on your own babe.
I love your art style so much. It inspires me. But I'm so critical of my own art that I barely can bring myself to even start a piece. What do you do when you feel like that?
FIRST OF ALL.. ur sweet and i’m really glad my art inspires you SECOND OF ALL, i feel that way all the time and so far i don’t Do anything? a lot of good art i see makes me feel shitty about mine, and i definitely feel like the weak link in the circles of artists i’m friends with.
at this point i try to just draw anyways? and employ the “better finished than perfect” rule as often as i’m able