kara cares more about romantic love than sexual love and honestly??? sex isn’t a massive thing for her. it makes her uncomfortable and every time she has slept with anyone in the past, it’s been with humans and therefore she spent the whole time worrying that she was hurting them. (especially because the amount of self-control she’d need not to accidentally get overwhelmed makes her kinda nervous.) therefore, it’s actually associated with a lot of anxiety for her and a lot of are you okay? am i hurting you? should i stop?s.
she was so happy about kissing m/n el because it’s so nice to be able to do that without breaking someone’s nose, let alone actually having sex with someone human
sex is kinda gross… it’s sticky and sweaty and not the nicest when ur down to the nitty gritty. kara’s senses are hypersensitive as it is, due to the yellow sun and the powers that come with it which makes sex a very weird experience, and one she could take or leave. she doesn’t think it has to be a necessity in a relationship and believes there are many other ways to be intimate without it. orgasms r cool, sure, but it’s a [vague hand gestures] [vague noises] kind of thing for her. lots of trust, lots of build up, very soft
tldr im voiding kara/mel canon lol