i don't even know...i find it attractive

  • Cis people: yeah I just don't find trans people attractive even if I was attracted to them before they told me, I'm not "transphobic" it's "just a preference"
  • Trans people: that is transphobic tho but w/e, I don't find cis people attractive anyway, it's "just a preference"
  • Cis people: what hte fuck did you jus t say how can y ou not find me attractive??? dont u know we outnumber you?? and that we're normal and without us the human race would die out???? how dare you!! cisphobe!!!

tillthedawnbreaks  asked:

Hey there! I was wondering about how you like the TOG series. I was planning to read it so I looked up some reviews and they were so mixed? And a good number were negative. They said that the main character was cliche and shallow and didn't live up to the badass assassin premise. Others said the plot and the world wasn't interesting enough. What do you think? Cuz I really want to read it! I'm in love with the ACOWAR series but if TOG isn't good then I don't want to waste my time. TYSM!

I think that if you dislike something you are more likely to post a review about it, and I think people like sharing negative opinions. I happen to adore Throne of Glass, and I prefer it to ACOTAR actually. Celaena Sardothien, who is the main character is my favourite character of all time. Her vanity is part of her being a flawed character, but I wouldn’t even classify it as a flaw tbh. 

Woman are told not to find themselves attractive and if they do then they are shallow and vain. Celaena knows that she is pretty and isn’t shy about her confidence, and she is quite charming and cheeky about it, I think we all need role models who are comfortable in their own skin, like that’s amazing and there is too little of it. I personally am sick to death of the Plain-Jane, Clumsy, Dull™ female characters that are obviously not those things that have just saturated YA literature. Celaena is a breath of fresh air from that and her growth as a character is amazing almost a complete 180.

Also I’d say that the people writing those reviews didn’t read passed book 2. It’s the same jump in how interesting the story gets as there was between ACOTAR and ACOMAF.

anonymous asked:

Ash!! Okay so I just saw the video where Andy says he's cleaner because Michonne licks him clean and I'm just in complete shock at how naughty and dirty he was 😂😂 but I don't understand how come he ships Richonne so much, like is it really because story wise it makes sense or is it because of how good Danai looks! Same thing with Norman, he also has commented how he wants Daryl with Michonne, and I always questioned the WHY!!! Anyways I'm happy we got some Richonne love from our captain!

Someone said this press tour happening after 7x12 airing is like a belated bachelor party for Andy/Rick. And it’s so true. 😂

As far as Andy shipping Richonne, I think he does genuinely want what best serves the story and his character, and any unbiased person could see that Michonne is the absolute best partner for Rick. The writing has been heading that way for so many years, I can’t even imagine how he would be rooting for anything else. That said, I’m sure he does find Danai/Michonne attractive, as evidenced by all those (most likely unscripted) looks he’s been giving her for four years. 👀There’s palpable chemistry between them. And it also probably helps that “his mom” ships it, and they’ve been getting fan questions about Richonne since Michonne stepped into the same frame as Rick, lol. Plus, wouldn’t you want your character to be with the best character? Mama Clutterbuck didn’t raise no fool. 😄

anonymous asked:

Has anyone else ever said yes to a customer who asked them out on a date? A customer asked me out the other night and I turned him down, sort of on principle. I do find him attractive but I don't even know his name and I think it's kind of a dick move to ask someone out when they're working and required to be nice to you. I felt like I had to let him down really gently and make excuses because he's a customer and I'm not trying to get on the bad side of someone who knows where I work. /:

I have dated customers and co-workers. The customers were regulars that I knew almost personally at that point and have turned down Ladies that I’ve never seen before. Just keep it professional if you do want to either accept or decline. As for the co-workers I don’t recommend it. Its nothing but gossip fodder and if it ends badly it can take YEARS to live it down. Trust me. 


Undertale - Starter Sentences
  • SPOILER WARNINGS AHEAD! Please proceed with caution. As always, feel free to change any pronouns/words to your liking.
  • "You're new here, aren'tcha?"
  • "Golly, you must be so confused."
  • "Hey buddy, you missed some."
  • "Is this a joke? Are you braindead?"
  • "You just wanted to see me suffer."
  • "Ah, do not be afraid, my child."
  • "Welcome to your new home."
  • "Here, take my hand for a moment."
  • "I should not have left you alone for so long."
  • "Surprise! It is a butterscotch-cinnamon pie."
  • "I want you to have a nice time living here."
  • "I have seen it time and time again. They come. They leave. They die."
  • "I am only protecting you, do you understand?"
  • "Hmph. You are just like the others."
  • "Attack or run away!"
  • "I know you want to go home, but..."
  • "I promise I will take good care of you here. I know we do not have much, but... We can have a good life here."
  • "My expectations... My loneliness... My fear... For you, I will put them aside."
  • "Do not worry about me. Someone has to take care of these flowers."
  • "Quick, behind that conveniently-shaped lamp."
  • "I will bathe in a shower of kisses every morning."
  • "Hmm... Maybe this lamp will help you."
  • "He's playing poker by himself. He appears to be losing."
  • "I can't be your friend!"
  • "I guess this means I have to go out on a date with you?"
  • "All that pressure to succeed... Really got to her..."
  • "You know what would be more valuable to everyone? If you were dead."
  • "You think I'm gonna be friends with you, huh?"
  • "We're gonna be best friends!!"
  • "Envision these vegetables as your greatest enemy! Now!! Pound them to dust with your fists!!"
  • "Uh, you know, like a robotic TV star or something."
  • "Now he's an unstoppable killing machine with a thirst for human blood?"
  • "Yes, she scrawls her name in the margins of the notes. She names programming variables after her. She even writes stories of them together, sharing a domestic life. Probability of crush -- 101%."
  • "Yeah, you gotta save your money for college and spiders."
  • "D-Dude... I can't... I can't take this anymore! Not like this!! Like, [NAME]! I like... I like, LIKE you, bro!"
  • "I found a gun in the dumpster!"
  • "He's like, my robot husband. He just doesn't know it yet."
  • "You've still got time. Don't live like me. I'm 19-years old, and I've already wasted my entire life."
  • "Never interact with attractive people."
  • "Why do people find him so attractive? He's literally just a freaking rectangle."
  • "Future? What future? I'll probably be trapped at this stupid job forever."
  • "This was all just a big show. An act. [NAME] has been playing you for the fool the whole time."
  • "All so you would think she's the great person that she's not."
  • "Nice day today, huh? Birds are singing, flowers are blooming..."
  • "We could be like... Like a family..."
  • "You really are an idiot."
  • "Killing me is the only way to end this."
  • "If you let me live... I'll come back. I'll kill you. I'll kill everyone you love."
  • "Don't you realize that being nice... just makes you get hurt?"
  • "Let's go to the garbage dump!!"
  • "She's so confident... And strong... And funny..."
  • "I'm just a nobody. A fraud. All I've ever done is hurt people. I've told her so many lies, she thinks I'm... She thinks I'm a lot cooler than I actually am."
  • "If she gets close to me, she'll... She'll find out the truth about me. ... What should I do?"
  • "Let's roleplay it."
  • "I kiss her back... S...softly... I... l-look gently into her eyes... I START HOLLERING!! [NAME]!!! I LOVE YOU!!! [NAME]!!! KISS ME AGAIN, [NAME]!!!"
  • "...WHAT did you just say?"
  • "You don't have to lie to me. I don't want you to have to lie to anyone anymore."
  • "[NAME]... I want to help you become happy with who you are."
  • "Anime is real, RIGHT?!"
  • "[NAME] and I finished our training early. Very early. So I sent her home. Very home."
  • "Is that your ex? Gee, that's rough, buddy."
  • "OH MY GOD. Will you two just smooch already?!"
  • "It's all your fault. It's all because you made them love you."
  • "Your life will end here, where no one remembers you..."
  • "No! I don't need anyone!"
  • "[NAME]... Do you know why I keep doing this? Why I keep fighting to have you around?"
  • "I'm doing this... because you're special. You're the only one that understands me."
  • "I care about you, [NAME]. I care about you more than anyone else in the world."
  • "I'm not ready for this to end. I'm not ready to say goodbye to someone like you again."
  • "I'm so alone... I'm so afraid... [NAME], I... I... I'm so sorry."
  • "I always was a crybaby, wasn't I?"
  • "I wish I could tell you how everyone feels about you."
  • "I understand if you can't forgive me. I understand if you hate me. I acted so horrible. I hurt you. I hurt so many people. There's no excuse for what I've done."
  • "Maybe... The truth is... [NAME] wasn't really the greatest person."
  • "You're the type of friend I wish I always had."
  • "Take a deep breath. There's nothing left to worry about."

alphaofallcats  asked:

hiii! I've read most of the fics in your youtube/gamer tags, and I've read that one fic about x-kit guy Eren. I was wondering if there were other internet fics, that weren't dating site centered? maybe tumblr users or instagram famous/etc.? I don't know if these even exist but I'm having trouble finding any... if you know about some I'd really appreciate it!! ❤️😊✨

Hey! We do have an [online relationship] tag. I know a lot of them are crossposted as gamer & youtube, however I knew we had more fics like this on the blog so I’ve gone back and re-tagged some asks - you might find something new there now! It’s there for everyone else, at least.

Anything Goes
Summary: Eren and Levi were porn bloggers. Tumblr famous porn bloggers, at that. They weren’t behind the blogs that followed just anyone and attracted viruses. They didn’t reblog any gifs they came across or any professional videos from popular websites. Their blog was much more personal. It was all their own content. And man, was there a lot of it.

Summary: Upcoming Internet celebrity Levi Ackerman unintentionally starts a twitter war with the famous lifestyle vlogger Eren Jaeger at one in the morning.


anonymous asked:

As an asexual, is it wrong for me to still enjoy the idea of being seen as sexually attractive by a loved one or partner? I know that sexual attraction isn't necessary, but at the same time I find the idea of my partner being attracted to me enticing, even if I don't have sexual attraction myself and wouldn't be able to reciprocate (which just makes me feel like a horrible person in the end)

As much as I dislike it, sexual attractiveness is valued in society so no it’s not weird to enjoy the thought of being valuable even if that value is based on an extremely shit system(s). 

anonymous asked:

Hey, I had a question and wondered if you could help me. I've identified as bi for a while but I've been wondering if my attraction to guys/male-aligned people is just compulsory heterosexuality. Because I can relate to a lot of the comphet posts, especially the ones that say things like "you'd hypothetically date a guy who meets Specific Standards". I have such high standards for guys even looks wise and I don't find 99% of guys attractive but I do find 99% of girls attractive. Any advice?

It really is such a hard thing to figure out! My biggest advice at this point would be to just focus on the attraction that you know is real and you know is wanted–the way you feel about other women. Not only is there something really healing about the way it feels to love another woman, to be loved by another woman, but it also gives you a chance to work through your feelings without worrying about it hurting this person you care about. Which is something that happens super often, people beginning to realize they might be lesbians whild dating a man, but deciding on one level or another not to think about it too hard because they’re already with this guy and they don’t want to hurt them.

Another thing that I think really helps is to think about how you feel about how you feel (I know that sounds so confusing omg!) Like, sometimes it’s not possible to meaningfully sort out ‘real’ authentic attraction from attraction that you feel simply because it’s what has been taught to you. And honestly, how meaningful is it in the end? For a lot of us, not very. What difference is there between a lesbian who is pretty certain that their attraction to men is just because of comp het versus a lesbian who’s not sure at all but knows they don’t -want- to be with men?

A good baby step starting place for this is to think about how y ou feel about being with a woman vs being with a man. Like, long term day to day. For example, when I imagined waking up next to a woman, being annoyed that she forgot to do some random chore, waiting for her to be done in the bathroom so I could brush my teeth, talking about what we should do for dinner… boring mundane every day stuff! it felt perfectly fine. When I thought about the same kinda situation with a man, there was like, this low level dread, almost a feeling of being trapped or imprisoned by this future (and its seeming inevibility at the time!)

(And it still took me like. Four years after I realized that to realize I didn’t just hate the idea of long term relationships or getting married! That I just hated the idea of being with a man like that! Clueless lesbian who?)Of course, your individual feelings and experiences might be really different and that’s fine too, this is only meant for a 'how to dip your toe in’ kind of idea!

Good luck, and please know we love you and value you  no matter what, and no matter how you feel about men, it doens’t change how you feel about women or make you any less welcome in the gay girl community! There’s a lot of this idea that there’s one right way to love women, and that having feelings for men in addition to women is somehow lesser, but there isn’t and it isn’t! You belong here just as much as anyone else :)

knightenchanterenjolras-deactiv  asked:

I'm watching Sailor Moon for the first time and at this point (sailor moon s) the only one of the inner senshi I can really see as straight is Minako, but even then, I don't know. They seem like a bunch of bi girls, but maybe that's just wishful thinking. How do you see them?

They’re all queer. Minako may come off as straight in the anime, but in the manga she is queer as fuck. Here’s how I see them.

Usagi- bi (I was gonna say pan, but actually I do think she finds different things attractive in men, women and inbetween) and potentially eventually polyamorous

Rei- open homoromantic asexual in the manga and PGSM and probably Crystal, closeted (but will eventually come out) lesbian in the 90s anime

Ami- biromantic ace (or maybe just bi- hard to say without more evidence)

Mako- bi- tends to favor boys, but when she crushes on a girl, she crushes hard (see: Ami and Haruka)

Minako- pansexual

Haruka and Michiru- lesbian space princesses

Setsuna- bi- equal level crush on Serenity and Endymion

Hotaru- lesbian

Chibiusa- bi like mama

anonymous asked:

Was the scene w the two in Peters room? Not trying to argue just curious because I rewatched the scene and can't find that part (do u know what tony said? Like did he ever say "if u don't go I will tell aunt may") because to me it just seemed like peter was the one that said "don't tell aunt may" but implied he was good w goin to Germany. I wish they would've made the scene more clear tbh cause now I'm just confused

tony: who else knows? anybody? nobody?
peter: no one.
tony: not even your unusually attractive aunt?
peter: no. no. no! if she knew, she would freak out. and when she freaks out, i freak out.
tony: […] you got a passport?
peter: no. i don’t even have a driver’s license.
tony: you ever been to germany?
peter: no.
tony: oh, you’ll love it.
peter: i can’t go to germany. […] i got homework.
tony: im gonna pretend you didn’t say that.
peter: no, im being serious, i can’t just drop out of school.
tony: might be a little dangerous. better tell aunt hottie i’m taking you on a field trip.
peter: [slings webs at tony’s hand, tying him to the door knob] don’t tell aunt may.
tony: alright, spiderman.
[later at the end of the fight scene]
peter: that was scary.
tony: you’re done, alright?
peter: im good, im fine.
tony: [pushes peter down on the chest] stay down or i’m calling aunt may.

whatever you believe, tony threatened and used aunt may as a bargaining chip in order to manipulate peter to do what he wanted, regardless of peter’s wishes.

anonymous asked:

Hello! I like your blog ^_^ I just had a couple of questions about being on the asexual spectrum. I am a Christian so does that mean I can't be on the ace spectrum? My mom says I'm not "old enough" to know if I will like sex in the future or not but i mean even Christians can see themselves getting married and having kids one day. I just don't and I don't really think I have even had any attraction (other than romantic or friendly) to a person I've met. I've been confused about this for a while

I’m agnostic, so I’m not too educated on the subject of how asexuality interacts with the Bible.

About the age thing: there isn’t any age to be “old enough” to start questioning your sexuality. being a pubescent teenager is all about trying new things & finding yourself. and, it’s no big deal if in a few years you find out you’re another sexuality– changing labels isn’t something you should be afraid of. just remember though, that there isn’t a rush to find a label for yourself. you can be happy just being you, without one.

As long as you don’t feel sexual attraction, you’re ace. that’s all there is to it. aces can have sex and that does not invalidate their identity. 

anonymous asked:

Do people really see people and literally think "I would have sex with them"? I've never thought that before, and the idea of having sex with someone is scary. Not because I don't want to have sex necessarily, but because it's really intimate and I'm insecure. Anyway, I think people are hot all the time, but is that just aesthetic attraction? How do I know the difference? Ami I somewhere on the ace spectrum? Also some days I feel more ace than others? Does that even make sense? Sorry to bother

Hotness could definitely be aesthetic attraction—but if you don’t feel like you’d want to have sex with them, it’s probably not sexual attraction. If you generally don’t find people sexually attractive, then it’s likely you’re on the ace spectrum, so keep reading and exploring. And yes, you can feel more ace on some days than others, it can be fluid like that.

anonymous asked:

PART 1: I actually can't stand Lucy, she is just so boring and dull. Someone I follow called her a "kindness marionette" and I've been doing my longest yea boi since. I've never seen people in this fandom take a serious critical look at Lucy. She is such a boring MC, and her power level (the joke that it is) was never properly or convincingly established to even respect her as a fighter. Really can't stand the character but she's fucking.every.where.

PART TWO: I know this isn’t a question per say but I had to get it out there. What are your thoughts on Lucy???

I’ve never found Lucy particularly inspiring. She started out as the reader’s POV character and then just spent most of the time being shunted to the side while Natsu hogged the glory. Her fights are pretty lacklustre because Mashima never seems to want to put much effort into them, and it’s hard to root for someone that you know is more likely to get stripped or degraded than really do anything cool. 

Lucy suffers from the same issues most Fairy Tail characters do - she’s stagnant and doesn’t have a goal, so her character can never progress in any interesting ways and the most development she’s going to get is as a combatant. But since Mashima’s determined to keep her as “the rookie”, any progress she makes as a wizard is immediately going to be overshadowed by one of her comrades, which makes it hard to get invested in her progress as a fighter. 

Plus, yeah - her role in any given arc is to play the tearjerker and just make you feel bad for any given antagonist at any given time, and any attempts to propel her into greater relevance tend to just come off as forced, i.e. the Eclipse Arc, which wasn’t even about her so much as it was that she happened to be a Celestial Spirit Mage.

And does she even know about Anna?

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dislike Lucy at /all/. She can be pretty funny (in the Funimation dub, mostly), and I do generally want to see her succeed. Just, like… as soon as she finds something she wants to succeed at. 

anonymous asked:

am I still ace if I'm *intimidated* by conventionally attractive people? Like, say I walk by someone who by many peoples' standards would be considered "hot." I suddenly care how I look to them (because I feel inferior or because I like attention even if I don't find them attractive). I'm not attracted to them, yet I want them to find ME attractive (maybe I'm just full of myself?) I don't know...

That’s happened to me before. For me being intimidated by looks is super rare but I once I walked into a con panel and I was like a little late so everyone else was sitting down and Karl Urban was sitting on stage lighted like a god and I just stared for a second. Does it feel weird? Totally! Does it mean you aren’t ace? Nope. It could happen every day and it still would disqualify you. Looks in society has a source of power and pride for better or worse so it makes sense to me. And sometimes it doesn’t even have to make that much sense.

dreadfulhighways  asked:

this is for an oc im in the process of creating, can i get some hcs of todoroki, bakugou and izuku's (seperate) reactions to finding out their fem crush/ there's unspoken mutual attraction between them - with a very powerful quirk is actually the daughter of two infamous villains from another country - but they don't know that said crush's mother actually sent her to her aunt where she was raised and wanted to become a hero since childhood, and this can be as angsty as you like! thank you!

you’re welcome!! ahh, I hope I did these okay?


  • at first, he’s totally in shock! depending on where he figured it out from, he might not even believe it for a while, instead thinking that it must be some kind of mistake or something
  • if he is totally certain that it’s true though, he’ll ask s/o about it. outwardly he’s very calm and collected, but even though he’s trying his best to be understanding, he honestly feels a bit betrayed.
  • if she explains the situation to him, including how she was sent to her aunt specifically because she wanted to be a hero instead of a villain, Todoroki will still feel a bit conflicted, but he won’t press any further and quickly excuse himself to sort out his thoughts! he’s still upset that she didn’t tell him earlier, but he gets over who her parents are fairly quickly. If anyone understands that people aren’t the same as their parents, it’s Todoroki.


  • he’s COMPLETELY in denial when he first finds out, regardless of how he came across the information. he won’t believe it in the slightest, but he’ll still confront s/o and ask her about what he heard
  • if she denies it… well, that’ll be that! Katsuki will accept in immediately, and likely try and fight anyone who says otherwise. If she admits though, he’ll blow up. he’ll be angry and honestly hurt, and probably leave the area as quickly as possible, not letting s/o finish her story in an attempt to leave before he says or does anything stupid. he may feel betrayed, but he still cares about her, and he’d rather leave before his anger gets out of hand
  • eventually he does cool off though, approaching s/o again to let her finish her story. Once she explains that she moved to her aunt because she DIDN’T want to be a villain, he’ll be relieved— but that isn’t to say the relationship would be immediately mended! He’s still slightly distrusting of s/o for a while afterwards, but after enough time he’ll eventually go back to their old relationship!


  • though he’s surprised, he won’t hesitate to approach s/o about it! as much as he’d like to not believe it, it DOES make sense. Still, he’d want s/o’s input more than anything!
  • he’ll sit and listen quietly if s/o chooses to explain everything, but it’s clear he’s a bit shaken. His feelings on this new information is largely still a jumble, but he does understand that everybody deserves a chance, and even though he apparently didn’t know s/o as well as he thought he did, he still knows she’s a good person who wants to become a hero!
  • he isn’t as fast to forgive and forget as Todoroki, but he isn’t as upset as Bakugou either. It’ll take a little while for him to fully adjust, but not absurdly long!

anonymous asked:

I'm wondering how do people even find out they're ace as teenagers (ace specifically btw, not aromantic). Because I'm 17 and naturally, I don't care about sex at all right now, so I don't know if I even am able to experience sexual attraction or not. I am 100% sure I experience romantic attraction though and I've never been in a relationship. So would this be a valid enough situation for me to question whether or not I'm ace? Or does this happen to most people?

I knew I was asexual when I was about twelve, though I didn’t necessarily have sophisticated language for it. I’ve talked about that a bit here, where I identified myself in what I would consider to be an age appropriate manner. Some believe it’s inappropriate for young people to identify as asexual. I don’t think that’s true.

All human beings go through sexual development, but what we are realizing now is that sexual development is not uniform. We expect certain things to happen at every stage in a person’s sexual development, but for aromantic and asexual people they may not go through the same stages.

In addition, aromantic and asexual may appear to go through the same stages as their peers but how they internalize everything might be very different. They might feel pressured to feel or act a certain way because of how sexuality is discussed in media and/or in education, but it feels wrong or foreign to them.

For me, I compared my experiences with sexuality to that of my peers and I felt different. Sometimes I would act like my peers, but it felt like a performance. It didn’t feel like a genuine part of myself. I felt the most authentic when I was identifying as asexual and aromantic, and I think that’s how I “knew.”

Now, there are definitely people – especially young people – who do not care about sex and/or who don’t want to think about sex. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re asexual. It could mean that they are not ready, and it’s perfectly acceptable to not be ready.  

Still, an interest in sex and emerging sexual attraction isn’t unnatural or uncommon in teenagers. It’s actually pretty normal for one’s sexual identity to emerge in teenage years, and for an interest in sex, sexual content, and a desire to participate in sex with a particular gender to increase during this time. 

I also want to stress that it’s normal and natural for people to be uninterested and unable to experience attraction, and that being asexual and/or aromantic should be accepted as normal and natural too. Otherwise, we treat asexuality and aromanticism as conditions of childhood and not valid orientations. 

By treating asexuality and aromanticism as transient identities that change once one reaches adulthood, we act as if sexuality is a sign of maturity and shame young people for their emerging sexualities. We punish young people for developing in ways that are actually quite normal and natural. 

Being asexual and/or aromantic doesn’t mean lacking in identity, and it’s fairer to say that a young person’s identity is unknown rather than asexual and/or aromantic until they mature. It’s also fair to say that the only one capable of determining the identities of young people are young people themselves.

And, it’s important for adults to provide support and ensure a young person’s healthy sexual development through inclusive education, establishing boundaries, and teaching young people about safe practices, rather than determining for them what is and is not natural for them to feel. 

I cannot give you a set-in-stone criteria for knowing you’re asexual, because our identities can emerge in a number of ways. What I can say is that comparing your experiences to peers can help. Thinking about what attraction means to you can help as well, because asexuality isn’t all about sex itself.

It’s also completely normal and natural to cycle through different identities as a young person or even as a full grown adult. If you don’t feel the need to label your experiences right now, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you don’t feel certain about your identity right now, it’s okay to wait.  

anonymous asked:

I'm highkey embarrassed to be asking this but I honestly don't know?? Is it possible to be considered aro and still find romance appealing, just not when you're involved? Like I'm able to get behind, even fangirl about relationships or cutesy romantic gestures, but I can never put myself in that situation without getting really uncomfortable. I don't know if this is just a weird thing I have to get over or if this is some type of aromanticism ¿?

Why yes, anon, it certainly is possible! The only qualifier for being aromantic is if you don’t experience romantic attraction (or only experience it rarely/under specific circumstances). That’s it. It doesn’t have anything to do with your attitude toward romance. And no, it’s not something you have to “get over”, though it’s perfectly okay if your feelings change in the future. To me it sounds like you might be romance averse and romance positive, but that’s entirely for you to decide! (and don’t be embarrassed! We’re here to help you:)) 


anonymous asked:

Hello, I'm confused. I consider myself asexual because I just don't have sexual feelings/desire for people. Yet, I still find people attractive & want to date them. Is that still asexual? Sorry if this sounds dumb. But, other asexuals that I know seem to not even be attracted to other people / not even want to date other people. I just don't know if I'm in the wrong group (?) in the community.

Not dumb at all. Many times aces who don’t want to date and aren’t (romantically) attracted to people are aromantic. It sounds like you might find people attractive either physically and/or romantically and would like a relationship. If you don’t feel sexual attraction you are in the right community.

anonymous asked:

Guys I feel like I'm broken. And not sad broken but like… I don't find people attractive and it's frustrating because I can see how people think they are bc of the science behind it and everything but I don't feel it and even when I have a crush I don't see it because I'm demiromantic and graysexual so I just feel kinda broken. Because what's the point of relationships if the people are just going to break up. Ya know? Idk I'm sorry for clogging the ask. I'm just insecure right now… what do I do

Pidge: Hey, I feel you, and you are not broken at all. You are built differently, like everyone else is, and that is something to be proud of. Differences, whether you think they’re good or bad, are just part of being a human and they should be celebrated. Science is constantly changing and evolving every single day, what’s true today might not be true tomorrow, so if you don’t fit any current molds it’s not because you’re wrong or broken it’s because we just haven’t discovered everything yet. 

Shiro: We’re all raised to fit certain expectations no matter where we come from, some people meet those expectations, and that’s okay, but some people don’t and that’s just as okay. The expectations you were raised to fill might not be what you are or will become, but that doesn’t matter because the only expectations you need to fill are the ones you set for yourself to make yourself happy. Who you love or not, who you’re attracted to or not, those don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, what matters is that you love yourself and love being yourself every day that you can. It may take a really long time to get there, and it may even seem impossible to even hold it for a day, but it’s not. 

Lance: This life is yours, and whatever you make of it, so instead of thinking you’re off and need repair, try your hardest to think that this is the way you are and that you’re proud of it. Because this is the way you were meant to be and this is who you are right here, and right now, and that’s what matters. 

Keith: Relationships are to make you happy and develop you as a person, even if it ends, in a good way or bad way, you still learned from those experiences and know what to do to going forward. Everything you go through develops you and makes you stronger and more capable of handling what’s next to come. 

Hunk: Whatever comes your way you can handle it, because you’re already infinitely strong and brave for just being able to say that, yes, you are demiromantic and graysexual, and you may feel broken now but it’s not always going to be that way, because nothing lasts forever. 

Allura: We are all here to support you and help you in anyway you need it. It’s okay to need to lean on someone when things get tough, and you’re not weak because of it at all. No one is broken for being who they are and no one deserves to feel that way either. We all deserve love and compassion and to be happy. Especially you.