i don't even know if the timeline matches up but i do not care

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Headcanon: When T'pol learns about Sarek’s and Amanda’s relationship, she reaches out to them- Amanda in particular. When Amanda is struggling adjusting to a new planet with new people, T'pol sits her down with tea and tells stories about her time on the Enterprise (as well as some failed attempts to retell some of Trip’s dumb jokes- which still manages to comfort the young human woman). When people talk against the union of the vulcan and the human, T'pol defends them- T'pol does everything in her power to protect these two. 

When baby Spock is born, T'pol is the first to congratulate them despite congratulations being somewhat illogical

anonymous asked:

Hi ya! I have a VLD question: you've alluded a couple of times to Alfor's paladin color, and you seem to take it as a given that he was the Yellow Paladin. Do you have a post that explains why? (Beyond the yellow armor, which, duh, but is there more evidence?) I don't mean to sound rude, I just didn't pick up on it. Thx, and your meta is so amazing!

Besides yellow being a really strong color for Alfor, there are a couple of noteworthy things here.

Allura describes all of the Lions except Blue. She talks about Black in more detail than Red and Green, which makes sense as it’s the leader of the pack- but she also talks rather a lot about the Yellow Lion, in what seems like a particularly warm way.

I’m just going to type out that exact spiel here:

“The Yellow Lion is caring and kind. Its pilot is someone who puts the needs of others above his own. His heart must be mighty. As the leg of Voltron, you will lift the team up and hold them together.”

So what’s interesting about this is that, again, Allura is very neutral talking about the Black, Green, and Red Lions, the latter immediately after talking about Yellow, but she sounds genuinely happy talking about the Yellow Lion. Again, she doesn’t really have this warmth talking about the Red Lion.

Considering how much Allura adores and seems to have admired her father, it would make sense she would reserve particular fondness for Alfor’s Lion- after all, she just got done saying the Lions are a mirror of their pilots. 

(I’d just like to take a moment to waggle my eyebrows at everyone who has suggested Allura would enjoy interacting with Hunk, and the canon corroboration that Hunk taught Allura road trip games, suggesting they do in fact hang out- and also s2e9 where Hunk is able to effortlessly and with pinpoint precision put his finger on exactly how Allura feels about this whole thing and why)

But let’s look for a moment beyond the tone of Allura’s description of the Yellow Paladin and just at content.

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The Avengers didn’t know what to expect from Bucky Barnes, aka The Winter Soldier, but it certainly wasn’t that he could still dance.

Steve hadn’t known how to prepare them for Bucky’s appearance in the tower. Though, to be fair, they hadn’t had to deal with much so far, since Bucky had been quiet and reserved, and had only really spoken to Natasha and Sam. He and Bruce had shared a small smile, Clint had nodded to him once, and he’d listened politely to Thor during a long, rambling conversation on the Asgardian’s part.. And with Tony, they’d avoided each other like a plague, for obvious reasons.

They’d been living in the tower long enough that Bucky filled in the background. He trailed Steve like a shadow wherever he went, so he was a constant, lurking presence that they had all grown accustomed to. Bucky had even gotten better at being less intimidating about it, but he still didn’t say much. 

Steve didn’t try to force it, as Bucky had a lot to process, least of which were his memories that flooded back more and more each day. Sometimes, out of the blue, he would burst out laughing or choke on a sob. That didn’t do much to reduce his frightening image, but to Steve, it meant that he was becoming a person again. Even if the memories were bad, Steve couldn’t feel anything but joy that after all Hydra had done, Bucky Barnes - or at least this version of him - was coming back to life. 

He was the strongest person Steve had ever known, and sometimes he was so proud of Bucky that he felt like his heart would burst. 

One of those times was tonight. 

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formerlycomealongpixie  asked:

Hi! Do you have any advice for trying to write two stories at once, past and present? Not like flashbacks, but you sort of start at one point and then throughout the story you reveal what has happened up to that point as well as what happens next. I've done a lot of searching but all that comes up is advice on past vs. present tense, which is not what I'm looking for.

I’m doing the exact same thing for my July NaNoWriMo project (because I can’t do anything easy, ever), and I’ve been hammering away at how to do this for a few weeks. That doesn’t make me an expert, but here’s my advice.

  • Timeline EVERYTHING. You’re going to need timelines galore, more than one, so that you can compare past and present to each other. Make at least one total time, split your two stories into separate timelines, and finally it might be a good idea to create a timeline where you mix the events together in how you want to write them (post-it notes might be best for this, you’re going to be moving things around a lot).
  • Look for matching highs and lows. I am definitely going to do more work on this, but you need to make sure your cuts back and forth in time match up in terms of tone, intent, and events. You don’t want to cut off a cliffhanger and spend the next fifty pages relating a rather calm hang-out with friends. Matching the events together keeps the action flowing.
  • Colored pens are your friend. Keep track of events, characters, past and present action by using designated colors. Be consistent, or you’ll confuse yourself!
  • Consider limiting your viewpoints. Multiple points of view combined with going back and forth in time is going to be confusing for you; your readers will have even more of a tough time with it. Consider choosing a few narrators (I have two main ones, two minor ones). They’ll be an anchor for your readers to easily understand who is conveying what and when.
  • Break it down to scenes, not chapters. I guarantee you’ll have to shift about how the story is told in your later drafts. Split things up by scenes to easily shift them around. You’ll thank yourself later.
  • Flashcards are also your friends. Shuffling scenes, characters, tone, and setting are super easy to do with flashcards. If you’re working with time, believe me, you will need them.

That’s the prep side of things. Now let’s consider the actual story side of things:

  • Figure out how the past and present connect. In my story, it revolves around the fate of one person who connects both narrations together. Tying these stories together ahead of time will help you figure out how to reveal that to the reader.
  • Your main character(s) are essential. This is true for any story, but if the reader is going to be time-jumping, they need reasons to care equally for both past and present stories. Your characters are the key to that. Time jumping is, on the surface, a gimmick; the story that goes with it will be the true seller.
  • Tell time via setting. How has the present changed from the past? What do the characters now have or don’t have that’s different? It’s amazing how things change in just ten years. Don’t neglect that part of the story!
  • Figure out why the story has to be told this way. I mentioned that time jumping is a gimmick, and that’s because it is. If there’s no reason the story has to be told this way, you risk irritating the reader with this trick rather than fascinating them. With my story, it’s essential to explaining a present problem that was created by the past, and to show how the connecting figure plays a part in both. There are numerous reasons why you’d use this to tell a story, but make sure it’s an important element of the story.

anonymous asked:

I know in my head for the most part that my parents were/are abusive. It was mostly emotional though which is so hard to see as abuse a lot of the time. They have gotten physically abusive, but only on a handful of occasions (like 7 total that I remember), and it wasn't like I was beaten or anything, just scratched up and pinned against a wall and dragged by my scarf once. I just don't know how to convince myself that it really was abuse, even though I know to others it definitely is.

This is always a difficult question to answer, and that is because it’s not one of those questions you can answer once and be done.  In many cases, you will need to answer it for yourself many times as you decide the direction of your life.  The reason it is so hard is that gaslighting has a tendency to distort memories.  It can make you question whether what you experienced was real at all, or whether what happened was as bad as you remember.  If you have friends who have seen the abuse or who have helped you through it, it can be really helpful to ask them to write down what they remember, or to listen to your account and tell you if it sounds like what happened.  This way, you can get validation that what you remembered actually happened.  Another thing that happens is that trauma responses often block memories from forming (particularly if you dissociate).  Your friends might remember things that you don’t.  I know that my friends have told me about instances that sound familiar, but that I don’t have a memory of.

So, because trauma can make you forget, and gaslighting makes you think that you forget or misremember things, writing things down can be incredibly helpful.  But if you still live with your abusers BE CAREFUL ABOUT IT.  If you have no safe place at home to keep it, ask a friend to hold onto it.  Having it written down can also help by giving you a visual cue of how much happened.

Once you have accounts collected, there are plenty of definitions of emotional abuse online.  Compare your accounts with the definitions.  Figure out where they match up.

Another way that you can think about it is in terms of what it was not:  healthy.  Healthy parent-child relationships involve unconditional love (not fear), discipline (more on that later), allow for expression of feelings and hopes, allow for the pursuit of independence, and involve listening.  This list is paraphrased from the concept of authoritative parenting in the field of developmental psychology.  A big red flag that what you are experiencing is likely abuse is when you are scared of your parent.  Unconditional love means that you know that you are considered worthy of love regardless of your accomplishments, failures, and/or mistakes.  A parent should never withhold love or tell you that you are undeserving of it, regardless of the perceived offense.

In abusive relationships, discipline is often misunderstood by all parties.  A child should never be “disciplined” with a parent’s rage.  That is, screaming at a child that they are worthless (for example) is not acceptable discipline.  Discipline is setting up consequences for poor behavior.  They are expected to be rational, not involve harm to the child (or to the child’s self worth), and not be carried out in anger.  Discipline should also only be in response to the breaking of clear rules and expectations.  Abusive parents often falsely believe that their rage is an appropriate punishment for whatever has enraged them, and that their anger is a sign that the child has done something wrong.  If your parent is punishing you with their anger, and you don’t know what you did wrong that you are being punished for, that is another big red flag.

Your parent should support your growth as a person, listen to your hopes, dreams, goals, wants, and needs, and support you in their pursuit, rather than pushing you in a particular direction, controlling your self-expression, and stifling your independence.  It’s difficult to explain stifling independence without examples.  One example would be refusing to teach you basic life skills (like laundry and cleaning) with the end result that you need to depend on them and can’t move out.  Your parents should be able to distinguish between your goals and theirs.  They should also be able to understand your bodily autonomy.  A good example of a breach of this is the statement, “I brought you into this world;  I’ll take you out of it.”  This statement disregards that the life that the parent brought into the world is autonomous and that it isn’t a possession.

A lot of us also have trouble understanding that we were abused because things weren’t always bad.  There is a terrible misconception that to be abused means that things were always terrible.  The fact of the matter is that they are not.  Recognize that having good memories of your parents does not mean that you were not abused.  Promises to “work on it” also do not mean that you were not abused.  Abuse is cyclical.  There are periods where abusers make amends, make promises, tell you that things will be different, and then tension builds, then they explode in anger again.  Then the cycle starts all over again.  There is no set timeline.  Before I understood what was going on in high school, I couldn’t understand why my mother and I had a huge argument every single month.  Now, looking back, it was just the length of her cycle of abuse.

Also recognize that you are never responsible for the emotions of your parents.  Abusers often guilt their victims by claiming equal responsibility in the relationship (that you are just as responsible for their well-being as they are for yours), but that is not the case.  Abusers make things about themselves rather than listening.  If you tell them that you have a problem with the way that you are communicating, they will take it as a personal attack and ask you why you are trying to punish them.  They use emotions as a smokescreen to stop conversation about real issues.

I also see in your question that you focus on the distinction between physical and emotional abuse.  Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.  And the severity of injuries doesn’t really change anything.  The fact is that they hurt you.

The reason that this is such a long response is that I have noticed that we childhood survivors often lack understanding of what a healthy parent-child relationship is, and that’s because this is all we have ever known.  Be kind to yourself.  Recognize that you will not just read one article one day and understand the truth of what happened to you.  Recovery is a process.

We hope that this helps you on your journey to understanding and recovery.  Please feel free to ask more questions.

Love and hugs.

anonymous asked:

Louis doesn't know about ALL of the theories because we think he doesn't look for them. He just knows enough to be aware of the situation and be careful around Harry but if he doesn't like these rumors why would he search for it? There is no contradiction there. He saw on twitter some theories and it already bothered him so i really don't think he would go on the internet to learn more about it. And even if he knows some of them, we can't be sure that he knew this one.

I will give you that Harry and Louis may not be aware of ALL the rambling head cannons this fandom has. The ones I speak of are the ones that come without much proof, and are of no threat…like the one I thought of the other day about Louis possibly owning a bakery. I’ll I’ve got to go on is that Liam answered “you bought a bakery” when Louis was answering, and pointed at him—bakeries being a place we heavily associate with Harry; I digress.

With that being said I will disagree and say that Harry and Louis would be very much familiar with a fandom wide head cannon involving how the, once very close, best friends first met.

I am going to be using the very talented Kati, at bulletprooflarryTattoo Timeline and also tracedust Oops/Hi Post to address this next part.

The first time that we have the “Hi” tattoo was June 23rd of 2012. Around this time Eleanor was heavily present with Louis. Right after this tattoo the head cannon started, because someone matched Louis’ handwriting to the actual tattoo, and I am no expert, but they seem to match. 

Also on the TMH Yearbook Edition, Louis listed some of the inside jokes he has with Harry, one of them being “Hi!”.

So in your theory, Louis started distancing himself from Harry, blindly because of rumors that he hadn’t seen, so as not to appear as if he was gay.  In my opinion, that is a huge dick move and not at all congruent to who we’ve seen Louis to be—sorry can’t be friends with you because people will think I am in a gay relationship with you.

I’ll continue…

On October 15th, 2012 Louis gets his first set of tattoos, one of which is the Stick Man skateboarder. However, it isn’t until nearly a month later, Nov. 9th, that he adds on “Oops”. When asked, Louis said that he got it because his tattoo artist messed up a line in the stick figure, so he had him add “Oops” above it…. I wonder if this sounds like bullshit to you, it definitely does to me. He waited a whole month to point out a mistake!

And then we get this on the same TMH Yearbook Edition:

So in closing we complete this head cannon.

So I would at least think that if not directly aware of this head cannon (i.e them searching for it, or really at about this time just being present on the internet, because it was all over)  then their management company would’ve advised them, in regards as to the dangerous thought that the fandom arrived to over their tattoos, to step away from one another so that unwanted perception would stop. So they would still know as to why, wouldn’t they?

Or are we still going with Harry and Louis dissolving their friendship blindly?

So if he knows enough, what is enough? (This is one of the first head cannons to be presented, especially since they talked about it openly about them meeting in a bathroom)

He apparently knew a good amount, if you believe he personally sent out the bullshit tweet on September 16th (Oops hadn’t even come into existence yet) over conspiracy theories, but I won’t get into that today.

So where is the line drawn? Why wear a sweater that is heavily associated with a tattoo that we mach back up to Harry, to first meeting his best friend…is it so wrong?

And if you were to discount this, how do you discount everything else?